Before we all had the awareness about the female which we call the 'red pill awakening' - there was an idea of how/what life will be as you pursue/propose/marry and bring a woman into your home; a companionship, family and growing old together.

Now that rosy dream is all gone. Amplification of available partners (whether for real or an illusion through the internet dating) had given too much of an abundance mentality in modern women that had resulted in

  1. Women's brain working like that of a hard drug addict - needing a higher and higher stimulation to even cause a mild excitement. We usually call the 80-20 rule but this is only going to skew further if they aren't settling down with one man.

  2. Men in their thirst continuing the wealth transfer - not just the divorce but stuff like onlyfans. Recently a beta paid 10k just to meet a content maker. These men are undesirable to her in any ordinary day but this arrangement had created a system through which she can capitalize the thirst without rendering any of the services she ought to do as per the 'classic' arrangement.

Thus the attitude of a 'i can have it all' in every modern women - fuck Chad at will, endless supply of betas orbiting in real world and online and a society that is too politically correct to call it out and instead the 'you go gurl' validations at a gender that till now had no inherent morality or ethics resulting in the degenerate behavior only getting worse with time; men and society instead adjust and accommodate to it resulting in an absurdity when the individual in you wakes up and asks 'what's the point of it all'.

Make no mistake, going your own way is no perfect solution to the above problem (for those who see it as a problem, in the first case. Simps in their feel good pursuit of earning good boy points would still keep excusing on behalf of womenkind), but we got no other alternative either. You are either fighting the system, alone or you are walking away, alone. It's a rational decision made for the well being of the self from a future perspective; to desist from activities that rewards you in the short term but that which is detrimental in the long term. Ironically women are doing the exact opposite of this: to go on the CC and perpetually postpone settling down with a man and later rationalize the decision (see r/childfree).

Yet another illustration of this is the modern women who can't seem to put the fork down - plethora of feel good sugary over-the-counter foods aided with the 'you are missing this' from the sisterhood results in the epidemic of obesity. Again, no calling it out either and instead the body positivity movements.

Sometimes I wonder, whether me GMOW is even a free will decision; is it even a choice in these days? You either arrive at the red pill through individual observations and sharing it like in this sub or remain in a cloud of mystery of trying to make sense of what you are told as you were raised and what you see with women's behavior in actual. Some maybe out of boredom or apprehensions about leading a lonely life, still go ahead and still want to deal with women. Stardusk often says, 'mgtow is not for everyone'

To lament about the state of affairs and the undoing of the programming you are subjected to goes hand in hand. That is why this sub is called as the red pill hospital and all the talk about women is seen as the healing. Ideally this should then make you embrace the red pill journey beginning with the rage - you had wasted years trying to be the nice guy only to realize that it is all gone down the drain for women aren't the sweet and cherubic things that we are told they are by society and literature and post that rage, there's a choice; armed with this new found knowledge, you go back into the same world and manipulate it to get what you want(r/trp) or you want to give up and want to do something else (r/mgtow).

Would like to mention how I detested the idea of prostitution in my blue pill days and after the realization of NAWALT, the staunch hate for them and the obsessive quest for finding the NAWALT is both gone, a stoic state wrt women.

We keep sharing news, articles, theories and opinions about how unfair this world is to a man. Governments, judiciary, society at large all try not to offend the snowflakes while unfairly blaming men for all their perceived victimhood. Women are replacing men in many jobs, buying homes and whining that they can't find an 'economically attractive man' while also doing feminist marches holding the wage gap placard. Maybe the MRAs can keep fighting them for the spirit of not giving up; in actual you are engaging in a war with someone who will attempt to make you feel bad either through victimhood or through guilt even if you win.

Even if there is a victory, say the courts give fair judgements wrt custody, visitation rights etc, would you want to still deal with women? So much have been discussed and we could predict exactly how some situations would turn out - for eg, the husband who works an additional job to put his wife through college is later seen as below her status after she gets a job in a corporate office, the clinching proof of female hypergamy and Briffault's law.

I was a lot different back in 2015 when I discovered this sub and now. This is no echo chamber either to me; I have debated N/AWALT several times, gone back to blue pill world only to come back with that 'damn, mgtow was right'. You just need to give time and then see that happen, no need for verbose arguments. The charms associated with woman is all gone. It's too risky to keep doing it again and again for women don't take rejections easily and being invested in them would mean you would be too deep in the trap before you know it. It is very difficult to get out of the relationship when the woman either through her skill or your weakness is aware of what buttons to push to make you dance to her will. The only safe way is not to play this game at all. An analogy I would often bring is the male praying mantis becoming self-aware that he will be killed by the female post copulation and thus desisting himself from what the nature in him is asking him to do. Over the years, the loneliness (that the blue pill me would have dreaded) cultivated the true individual in me.

My job, certain hobbies and interests, discovering new passions and DIYs. Frugal living would mean ample savings in the bank as well as real estate assets. Lost a substantial $$$ in the divorce, it irks and is very difficult till now to make peace with that fact. With the acquisition of more skills, I find I am more keen in repairing and extending the life of cars, gadgets, my home rather than replacing and buying new. I am in my mid 30s and plan to work for a decade and not 1 day more. Keen about the geography of the world from childhood as I scrolled through the atlas. That, and the internal world of the quiet introvert should keep me going.

Thanks for reading.