I am learning a bit late but now after lots of red pills, finally woke up to the fact I need to put my self first.
So long story short, I was married, 14 years, 4 kids, broke up... after 2 years of divorce, got a new girlfriend. AND, ended up living with her.
So my exGF was awesome as you may guess, lots of great sex, and lots of understanding and what not. One day, she had to leave the country to visit her family overseas, and to help her save some money I brought her TEMPORARILY to my apartment...
Well, one day showing her some jiu jitsu... I did a really small take down, she fell wrong and broke her ankle... so she couldnt keep on working... ok, just a little thing, no worries I will take care of you... THEN the covid, and now she has been with out work since last year on christmas, till today...
I cannot take it any more, she doesnt have any where to go, no family, just this stupid guy supporting her.
She is a real nightmare to deal with, looking for fights, using all the information she has gained in confidence moments, to diminish me and insult me. So having enough, I told her she has to move out, we are no longer together, no more sex, not even a nice time.
One time we had a very heated fight, yelling and just blowing things out of context, so I told her I had enough, to please leave as I couldn’t stand it any longer. She was threathening with calling the police, I said: perfect call them, I will explain you are trespassing and I need you removed.
Then... she threathen with ruinning my life, calling my job and letting them know what kind of person I am (asking them to do THC tests etc) and basically because I was throwing her to the street, she would do the same...
Now, Im happy when im out of the house, working, and doing things, but when I get home, boom there she is, eating my food, not cleaning, not contributing to ANYTHING, just watching movies and going to the beach...
So, what can I do to get her to move out with the minimum amount of drama?
I cannot stand living with an enemy when im on my home.
I can go on but I just want her to move out.
I do not talk to her, but share the bed at night, as I dont want her to think is her room.
Sometimes she starts touching me and getting me excited, and asking “do you love me?” As im horny I dont say anything but if I want to proceed with the action, she would want me to say I love her, I dont do it, so she stops bothering me. This is annoying as she will wake me up at night to do her little temptation game.
Reason doesnt work, being mean is not good as im not a hateful person, I really feel sorry for her and the situation that she doesnt find a job, but she cannot process that I cannot do this any more.
What to do my dear friends?
Thanks!
Sorry if my English is not clear, hope you guys understand the general idea.
