Hello fellow members!
I am lurking in this community for a long time and got some interesting situation. I am not totally against women, but just I am extra careful with it. It is like fire, uncontrolled it might do damage or if done the right way it can generate heat.
There is a girl we are together for 4 years and now she wants marriage and children. In most cases, I would run away fast as I am not into marriage generally and can not stand the possible risk it takes for a man. Also, I want some exploration in life and time to build up a business which might sabotage.
However, the life together with this girl is really good as I feel we are really compatible to each other, all the time we lived we never had big fights as we agree on most things in life, there is a strong foundation as we are also best friends and it feels just right. There are no red flags at all as I feel that she is honestly really loving and caring by its nature, generally life is great together. We both started as I was poor without career and money and now we have everything. In terms of financial stability, the situation is very well improved, so to say this is safe as we both started with nothing.
I am 30 years old and the idea of marriage and kids now just feels wrong to me. Regarding statistics there is about 50% divorce rate and the risk to take with marriage is too big I think. There are plenty of beautiful women out there, but as I see all these women are terrible as people. The decision now stays marry or be alone with an idea of never finding anything good at all. Then the way I see out there will never be such good wife material as I now have.
On one roadside there is being married with children and I might lose needed time for exploring myself and it would require all the time to take care of the child so my business might fall off. It requires an enormous amount of time.
Another side of the road is the decision to split and live alone. This is more tempting at the moment, but the risk I feel that will never get such a good, honest, caring and loving girl. The way I see around myself and colleagues women are the worst for relations. Potentially feels I would lose good woman without the ability to get anything worthy later on. However, I would try to find one this time that don't need marriage as I mentioned this seems a too big risk to take and only favours women security.
