Please help me break up!

DangZagnut · 2020-03-14T22:49:09+00:00

Let me give you advice women give women. So we know it'll be really useful. Except I'll remove the stupid parts.

You do not have to be in a relationship
You do not have to give a reason to leave a relationship you've already established.

If you lived together, you could suddenly have movers show up, pack your shit, and leave and not say a word to her the entire time no matter how much she screams.

And never see her again.

You never, never have to give a reason of justify why you don't want to be around someone. You can just say, if anything, "it's not you it's me", and never say a word again.

You don't need an excuse. If you feel you'll be happier without her, then leave. If her lack of presence is making you have happy thoughts, then leave.

The worst thing a man can do is be in a relationship you don't want to be in.

You're not married, you don't have kids, just never fuck her again, make sure she has a period before you break up, like time it, and make a video about it, and then hit the silk and leave.

Giving reasons is worse than giving no reasons.

DeakinFrost · 2020-03-14T23:01:32+00:00

uhm, no you didn't "try that", and being honest and breaking up with someone does work, what you said (sorry to say) makes zero sense. What is occurring is that you're not following through with your intentions, you're not doing it righteously, you have no conviction.

This should help then since you eliminated having courage as a methodology: women can cry on cue. What she is doing is emotionally black-mailing you. You are a hostage, and a hostage for one reason, you are allowing it.

In the practice of watching what she does, not what she says, every-time you try and prioritize yourself as a young man she puts in a position of potentially life-altering trauma. If your welfare was part of the equation then wouldn't there be a shred of understanding from her? That she wants the best for you? To try and understand? Nope, what she does is break down because it effect her. Why does it effect her? She hasn't lined up her Monkey Branch! You surprised her! Now guess what, she's looking for her monkey branch. You aren't safe anymore. So, while you're being a "good guy" afraid of her "feelings and emotions" postponing and jeopardizing your goals she is planning her escape. When it's ready and she does it, and you object, she'll say "you wanted to leave anyway....". You have handed her the plausible deniability she needs.

You are being extremely careless. You are in a real bad spot now, worse than before you mentioned it.

You think you have little gold coin donations in the piggy bank of doing good things for her, that every-time you put her first you get more equity in this account of favors that she will appreciate. Wrong. So wrong. It doesn't mean shit. Ive seen men (including myself) move overseas for women and then get thrown in the trash.

Add insult to injury, how many of her female friends are now whispering in her ear?

Her behavior signifies her priority, herself. me me me me me. This will be applied to all her decision making process moving forward.

Her entire strategy is predicated on you being a good guy. On trusting her. On your morals.

Also, its extremely cowardly, all it takes for you to fold on a choice is crying? Look forward to being conned, stolen from, back stabbed, shelved, sidelined.

I can guess your dad was probably absent or more like furniture or a giant pussy,

I'd even go as far to say that you have low testosterone, which means you should get screened to check your levels.

Please note non of this was to belittle or shame, you'll need to learn that the harshest critics are the ones who want the best for you and push for excellence. If we were sat down at a table talking I'd berate the fuck out of you.

30203forever · 2020-03-14T22:51:17+00:00

I've tried to break up a couple of times in the past but it becomes IMPOSSIBLE for me to go through with that decision because she ends up breaking down.

I highly doubt that it will be her problem when she decides to break up with you. Seriously though, just become needy, insecure, express "your feelings" etc. In short, become effeminate and she will break up with you. My advice: make it appear to be her decision because we're living in the age of $MeToo so you can't be too careful, IMHO. Cry when she does and you'll never see her again, it's that simple...

Jake4523 · 2020-03-14T23:13:59+00:00

Listen to Tom Leykis. Seriously, tell her straight up you are done and leave. If you don't what would happen if "accidentally" the condom broke, or she magically got pregnant?

That's something that you'd never be able to escape from.

Erwinblackthorn · 2020-03-14T23:58:04+00:00

Her tears are fake. You let her fake tears get to you because you put her stupid emotions before your own life. Your happiness is paramount. You have to care about your future and your own goals. All she's crying about is that she will have to go back to the drawing board and lasso up another sucker.

Never ever let a woman's emotions make your decisions, especially your life decisions. All you have to think about when she starts fake crying is "man... She's good at acting. She's trying out for an Oscar and there isn't even a camera to film it. This bitch is wasting all this time when she could be home by now."

Not anywhere there should it be "oh, I feel sorry for her."

She wants you to feel sorry so she can continue using you. Don't get used and don't think she's your ally or friend. She's your enemy that you get to fuck so she can continue controlling you by making you think you're in charge. Give her what she needs: the trip out of your life.

Equivalent-Craft · 2020-03-15T01:22:30+00:00

Stop.backing out be honest. You wanna put your career first...break up n push thru it. I used to be like you. Their psychological manipultion showscno mercy. Tears, threats of suicide, ive heard it all. Think of yourself like shes doing. Itll only get worse. Dont marry dont cohabitate dont have kids= a free man. It is a huge weight off ya shoulders.

Sid_Insidious · 2020-03-14T22:58:18+00:00

NOT breaking up because of guilt or worse - because you want to SPARE HER FEELINGS - that's a terrible reason to dangle yourself over the divorce meat grinder.

If you do not have superfeelings of love for this young woman, trust me, this will show up in your marriage and speed up it's demise.

If you care for her, and out is what you want, care for BOTH of you and break it off.

transcis · 2020-03-15T11:39:07+00:00

Just stop making yourself available. Your time is too valuable. Reduce together time, reduce messaging, reduce phone conversations, preferably all the way to zero. She is your cigarettes and you want to quit smoking. Do it cold turkey or with a patch, just don't negotiate with your habit.

Tuxeyboy1 · 2020-03-15T11:43:47+00:00

Listen to 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover by Paul Simon.

excess_inquisitivity · 2020-03-15T14:51:50+00:00

There must be 50 ways to leave your lover

Trapperr_AO · 2020-03-16T10:07:12+00:00

I think you're codependent. Man, I say that a lot to people.

You have a right to have or not have what you want.

Your codependency is denying you what you WANT and NEED.

You do not NEED this woman even if she NEEDS you. You have ZERO obligation to her.

Dont you deserve someone YOU WANT and not have to be with someone because she will feel bad if you dump her? How long will she feel bad? Three days?

Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr Glover. Your exact situation is one I have read in his book. This book FIXED MY SHIT in three chapters. I have a copy if you need.

You also need to look around for a better place to work, sounds like the job is killing you. Not good.

Trapperr_AO · 2020-03-16T10:09:09+00:00

Also...if George Castanza couldnt make himself look repulsive,,,pretty sure nobody can.

daniellederek · 2020-03-16T14:14:33+00:00

Is it possible to bang her mom or sister (brother if you swing that way)

If not fade out. It's like ghosting but more gradual. Cancel a date night last minute, forget wallet on next one. She will move along soon enough

Of course this hinges on not cohabitating , she still has an address of her own.... right?

TomahawkSuppository · 2020-03-23T12:44:38+00:00

This is the only time I will use this fucking phrase because I absolutely loath it. Man up and break up with her. Talk to her face to face, tell her that you simply do not have time in your life for a relationship let along being married. You have hopes and dreams and the last thing you need is marriage. I’d also suggest once you break up to cut off communication. Take on a part time job to keep you busy and focused on something else. Your bank account will grow and you won’t be tempted to go crawling back when you get horny. Own yourself kid and take control of your life. It’s a wide fucking world out there with limitless possibilities. Who you are today isn’t the person you are going to be tomorrow.

shmegtow · 2020-03-27T22:05:51+00:00

Yea man. I've been there before. You're kicking the can down the road and the end is going to be much worse if you keep doing this. It will lead to resentment and a lot of backstabbing granted she has access to your friends and acquaintances. Best bet is to keep it short and say not happy and walk out, have all your ducks in a row. Don't give her more discussion than you need to or talk about feelings. She's playing you with those tears.

deadhunter252 · 2020-03-27T22:39:19+00:00

Do you have an update on this post, I'm curious to what you have decided especially with the pandemic going on ATM?

Hope your safe.

SunRunner82 · 2020-03-14T22:52:53+00:00

You just need to sack up and go. Sorry to be blunt, but it’s better for you in the long run. She breaks down when you try to leave? Of course. They all do. Still need to go and get on with your life.

corytrevor710 · 2020-03-15T00:07:49+00:00

Be supportive and loving, they hate that shit.

unmasteredman · 2020-03-15T02:16:03+00:00

say you lost your job

2020-03-15T02:17:28+00:00

Based on what you said you are not living with her. So if that is true then just be blunt and ghost her. Women will use every tactic in the book to get what they want, from crying to playing the fake pregnancy card ( had that one pulled on me), to even using the law to keep you from doing what you want. Women are petty and spiteful so like a week old blood-soaked bandage. It is best to do it cleanly and quickly or else it will get a lot worse really quickly.

Motanfoutune · 2020-03-15T11:58:34+00:00

Make less cash then her and after propose her she will have a good reason to say no.

Equivalent-Craft · 2020-03-21T19:28:53+00:00

Youve posted this before

Title	Please help me break up!
Author	yusukeurameshi91939
Upvotes	1
Comments	37
Date	March 14, 2020 10:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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