AN OPEN LETTER TO WOMEN 2020
Ladies,
We love you. We really, really do.
We love seeing your cute little feet sticking out of the blanket you’re tangled in and lying on the bed with messy morning hair. We love all the little quirky and silly things you do to gain our attention. We love the snuggles as much as you. We love your company and being your protector. We love your soft touch of admiration. We love the scent of you when we pull you close at night.
We love so many things about you, but……. We need to be frank with you.
Everything that we love about you is very superficial and ingenuine because, well, that is who you are. We have increasingly vapid conversations that revolve around whatever juicy piece of gossip that you recently heard about a friend or constant complaining about how everyone has done you wrong. Ladies, we’re sure you’ve had some bad relationships and that someone has treated you poorly but, we also understand that if every relationship you’ve been a part of has ended poorly that you must have had (at minimum) a small part to play. You no longer offer anything more than a pretty face and a sexy body. While those things give us attraction, they aren’t enough to keep us.
Over the past century we’ve changed our ways to create a society that is more accommodating for you. We’ve stopped looking at you as if you’re incapable of accomplishing just as much as us. We’ve propped you up and have given you benefits to promote your success. We’ve been told what you want in a partner and have changed our actions and thoughts to be the men you desired. However, it seems as if we’ve been ill informed. The more we close in on that sensitive, caring and sharing guy that you declare you want, the further you stray away and despise us.
We continue to support your rights and endeavors but, increasingly we are becoming a displaced and belittled part of your world in which we are blamed for every problem that you may face. Our voices are being ignored at home and in society. We are continually mistreated and abused with nowhere to turn. It occurs to us that you are becoming excessively narcissistic and lack any empathy for our struggles in life. We have been beaten and abused; divorced and stripped of our parental rights; cheated and bullied, all the while our progressively poor state of mental health has been ignored. You tell us that to hold in our feelings is toxic yet tell us we’re whiny betas when we express our emotions. You claim the patriarchy is responsible for our behavior and then you tell us to “man up”. And the most contemptable action of false accusation is becoming evermore common as the years go by. You have been using your privilege to rain down hell from the courts, the police and social media in some sort a vengeful act of retribution for your own personal disdain of us when we have done no wrong.
The call for equality in society, the workplace and in the home has been heeded by us yet you refuse to discontinue your need for chivalry. On our first date, a coffee or cocktail doesn’t suffice. In a world of equality, you still expect a financial investment yet do not reciprocate. We are slowly being outcast, abused with sexist ideology and demonized (even for your own choices).
Look.
We now regret all of those sacrifices we’ve made for you. You were never truly there for us; we now know. We were only of interest to serve a purpose for you because, unfortunately that seems to be your nature. We wish we’d been informed of how this would end but, for some reason our predecessors wanted to continue to see this relationship through rose colored glasses and maybe, that’s the nature of men. Though through all of this, we have always loved you and still do but, we must regretfully inform you that we no longer enjoy or need this relationship.
We wish you well on your journey and wish to discontinue all relations.
Sincerely,
Men
P.s. We understand that not every woman has been a part of what has caused us to feel worthless however, the amount of you that perpetrate these behaviors is increasing and seems to be a high majority.
