Long story short, BPDPsychopath that was living a 2nd life as a degenerate whore, committing felony assaults etc. Very well hidden life, criminals coming out of the woodwork after discovery etc. Basically don't want the MAP talk. Way way way way way beyond that.

Not married, but 3 kids. Third kid was before I pieced a lot of this together, more or less, I amwas a "beard" in terms of her having and living a "normal life."

Dealt with the police for a bit, totally worthless. But that seems to be a drug facilitated from problem in general, impossible to prosecute. I am unable to get a strong enough angle to fight for sole custody and placement. This is something that guys that have gone through this will understand, others, don't bother pontificating about it.

Got a stipulation in place for shared custody and placement with a substantial support amount to me. Since then, the kid she was telling Chad was his (she never mentioned this to me, but pieced it together), turned out to be mine and he bolted and broke up another family.

This has given me some time to get things in order as her 2nd life fell apart, it has been the fight of my life. It has cost me my business, some health and almost my sanity. One can't understand the depth of being in someone else's neurosis until it has happened to them. Before I managed to bust up her 2nd life, she was covertly laying waste to my life, something I've learned is a BPD favorite. Basically, I am a failed discard attempt as I discovered it while she was planning on executing me behind the scenes play by play with the help of her degenerate 2nd life crew. I should have god damn known there is no such thing as an attractive woman with no friends.

So now that we can focus on a couple important elements.

The real question I have for you guys is here.

  • I am all the way through the stages of denial. I get awalt, I'm not salty, but it has me questioning deeper elements of life. Namely, should I start another family? Guys that have done it, did what you learn set you up right the 2nd time?
  • Guys that didn't start another family, and had at least 3 kids, was equal placement something that worked for you? If you could do it again, would you be a weekend a month dad?
  • Guys that did weekend dad, hows that?
  • Guys that abandoned your kids, did you change your mind?
  • Significant concerns of accusing me of assaulting or molesting kids. This person has done literally everything they could get away with to try and fuck things up. This is really the logical next step if I do equal placement.

I am personally leaning towards the weekend a month dad setup. I don't think knowing what I know now I'll ever have more kids, and certainly will never get married. This way I can minimize any impact of an accusation, spend time with them, and focus on rebuilding my life. Otherwise I think I would have trouble managing 3 kids and ever dating or doing anything really on the shared placement time.

I have total leverage at this point, so there would not be a financial implication of doing this. Lots of guys fight for the equal placement setup, I did as well. But as we worked on hashing things out (before I realized how unsalvageable it was) more and more I felt that this was blue pill conditioning.

I feel beyond duped, our family was essentially a fraud. And shared placement to me, is an extension of milking me dry of another resource, me being a father. If I'm going to fully swallow AWALT, then I can't really accept a future with another family, because well, AWALT.

But I want to hear all sides of the post family split talk. To be honest, when I look into the eyes of a guy telling me that he "lives for his girls" or whatever, the single dad, its all to me, a big fucking lie. Those guys to me are the 2nd biggest victims behind the kids. In those guys eyes I see their desperation. Their statements, blue pill, betray that they are baby sitters for their failed wive's play time.

A thing that stuck with me, is my guys RP truth when I was trying to salvage our family. "If she ever really cared about the family, this would have never happened." So true my friend. Shared placement, beyond the obvious serious impact to my life, would just be a way to create a socially acceptable nanny for half of the year to spend that time getting gang banged.

And hold any of your moral bullshit. I know these kids are going to get wrecked. They'll probably even get sexually assaulted when I'm gone. I'm powerless and the police are worthless. I understand the plight of the guy that "out of nowhere" kills himself now. And I made a decision to not be that guy, I got up from the fight of my life and I don't have an ounce left to give. It's time to set boundaries and live the rest of my life the way I want to live it.

If I'm lucky she'll be too brazen with her next mark and I'll be there to save those kids by getting sole custody. Until then, I have to plan my life after, what I thought was my life.

This is ongoing, so no details.