Idiom: Let your hair down

Meaning: To behave more freely than usual and enjoy yourself without worrying what other people might think.

Origin: This idiom originated in the 17th century, when women were expected to wear their hair up in public, either in a bun, pinned on their head or in elaborate styles. The only time they could let their hair down was for washing or brushing, or when they were alone at home and could relax. Nowadays, if someone tells you to ‘let your hair down’, they don’t mean that you should take the pins out of your hair, they mean that you should relax and enjoy yourself! https://www.bloomsbury-international.com/en/student-ezone/idiom-of-the-week/list-of-idioms/1198-let-your-hair-down.html

We can see that there's a good reason for the idiom historically. I've been thinking about it recently and why it is only used to describe women in modern society.

I believe the use of the idiom is an acknowledgement by women especially but everyone in society in reality that women are fake. The opposite of letting their hair down is doing what they almost always do: pretending and faking everything.

I think there's an even deeper meaning here than many would suspect. Women's beauty is wrapped up in their hair to a great extent. In order to be considered an attractive woman in Western societies, they have to keep facial hair off their face, and they have to keep their legs and armpits shaven.

Additionally, unless women are extraordinarily attractive, they have to work extremely hard to match their hairstyle to the size and shape of their head and body to look great. For example, when Katy Perry went from long hair to short hair not too long ago, even a lot of her hardcore fans thought she went from looking gorgeous to looking ugly. That's how much hair means to a woman. I see women sometimes who look like an 8 or a 9 from two feet away but then when I see they have a little mustache, they fall to a 5 to a 7.

My point is that women may be thinking subconsciously about all they do to keep their hair in the right proportion and amount on their body when they use the idiom "let your hair down." They may be subconsciously thinking about how they'd like to let all their hair grow out. And that may be part of becoming who they really are but society won't let them be (like No Doubt's song "Just a Girl").

My conclusion is that the use of the idiom "let your hair down" is an admission that occasionally women let themselves be real but the rest of the time they're pretending and faking. That's the essence of endless hours of MGTOW videos and discussions in a nutshell. The key thing here is that it's women saying it themselves...again, and again, and again for centuries...

Does anyone have the courage to ask a woman about this?