How do you tell your best friend and mother of your child, who is also your best friend and person closest to you. That you are no longer IN love with them, tactfully

vedanapatchayatanha · 2016-10-03T12:41:23+00:00

You don't. Because love eventually fades. That's biology. The ancestral pattern for human sexuality is serial monogamy every 4-5 years switching partners.

That's the whole point of marriage. It's an institution to curb this biological tendency in order to establish paternity and maintain society.

Just because you're no longer in love with them doesn't mean the marriage is over. In fact that's when marriage begins. Because it forces you to stay together and so avails the other men and women to form their own marriages.

Marriage isn't for you to be happy. Marriage is for the functioning of society. You have to make yourself happy. Respect the vows you made to your best friend and mother of you children. Accept your circumstances. And find happiness with her where you are.

Don't take the easy way out. So much pressure to do so because there's money to be made in divorce. If you do not heed and do leave her. You will find a younger woman to be in love with. You might be happy with her for some time, you might have children with her, then the same thing will happen and the cycle continues.

Theedon · 2016-08-01T06:11:04+00:00

I received this news from my best friend and mother of my children by text message. Do not do it that way. I would like to ask a personal question, how do you know you are no longer in love? Is there someone else or hasomething the love just faded away?

Mapmyfun · 2016-08-01T10:49:30+00:00

No I have always been faithful and continue to do so. It just seems that we have become best friends instead of a married couple

HelloImAndrea · 2016-07-20T02:43:38+00:00

In the nicest way possible? So unhelpful, I'm sorry. When I find a perfect way to do that I'll be sure to let you know.

Momanatrix · 2016-09-12T01:18:15+00:00

You aren't always going to be IN love with your spouse.. it's that deeper love that carries you that matters. Stop and think about what feeling you are trying to re-capture.

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