Overt vs. Covert communication

savagedealer · 2017-02-08T15:41:19+00:00

Once I adopted the mentality that they are mine already I lost almost all approach anxiety .. does that get me laid every time no def not but it gets me noticed when I otherwise would of never been . Understanding women bridges the gap between you and them and opens up the fucking flood gates between their legs . Once it clicked in my mind how women perceive shit and process information and how easy it is to twist every word around and say something offensive then to be able to turn it around or spin it to your hearts desires I suddenly became social and a great conversationalist I spend all day talking of nothing and it never ends I can talk about nothing for days or weeks and they always eat it up because their lives too are filled with nothing ..

TLDR :

you need to lose the damn I wanna fuck mentality and obtain the damn I'm gonna fuck mentality .

blackedoutfast · 2017-02-08T17:06:02+00:00

you are correct. the actual words you say barely matter, and they matter less and less as you get further in the interaction. you use kino, eye contact, and verbal communication to send the covert message, which is basically "i'm a high smv male and i want to fuck you." the escalation part of seduction is how you shift from sending this message completely covertly (which is socially acceptable) to completely overtly (by actually fucking her).

eye contact is pretty straightforward. you just look her in the eyes like you want to fuck her, occasionally breaking eye contact so you don't seem weird and for push/pull. kino and verbal communication are where it is more complex.

early in the interaction, you won't be using a lot of intense kino, so your verbal communication matters more. this is when your overt verbal communication will include a lot of sexual language, double entendres, teasing, etc to send the covert message.

as you escalate the amount and intensity of kino, you are able to use that channel to express more and more of the covert message. in turn, the overt verbal language becomes less and less important. as you get closer to making out with a girl, you will feel the sexual tension building. the actual words you are saying are meaningless at this point.

you really can say nonsense jibber jabber and it won't matter but it's usually better to not say anything and use kino and eye contact to communicate. and go for a kiss asap. talking can make you seem nervous and there's a chance you might accidentally say something that does trigger something negative and pull her out of the zone.

a lot of guys have a tendency to focus too much on the words and end up talking too much instead of escalating kino. you don't need to use clever lines, and it can hurt you because girls won't get it if you get too clever. focus more on using words to provoke the right emotions in her.

grlahmb · 2017-02-08T15:27:16+00:00

You are over thinking. Take the focus off of her and onto you. See yourself as "the prize".

Methods:

SPIN PLATES

Realise that beauty is common and that YOU require much more than a pretty face to WIN YOU.

Get busy and value YOUR time

When you do these you automatically covertly communicate that YOU are screening her. This is a very attractive and goes hand in hand with abundance mentality.

Title	Overt vs. Covert communication
Author	JonMan219
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	February 8, 2017 2:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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