When I'm with this guy friend, he's always got some immediate purpose. IE, when eating at a restaurant by a mall, he wants to stroll through it, then heads into a store to try out some jackets, buys one, same with shoes. The guy always knows what to do for the next 5min but doesn't have an action plan for the big things like career.

Me, on the other hand, I'm just the opposite. I noticed I just followed him around in the mall. I probably needed to refresh some of the wardrobe but I wasn't thinking about it.

That's probably why my dates suck. I have no plan and I'm easily thrown off. But it seems natural for him to know exactly where to go next while for me, it's a thought process for every decision.

Any of you went through the same and did you consciously work on changing it?