If You Want Us To Stop Saying "Not All Men", Then Stop Generalizing Men

When men say "not all men" it is usually because they feel the need to defend themselves from guilt.

But why do they feel the need to do so? The answer is because they are being held accountable for things they did not do.

I will be the first to say that some men are trash. There are many men who are rapists and assholes. Women and feminists are, somewhat understandably, angered by this, but a few of them of then go completely overboard by unreasonably responding to this with things like "all men are rapists" and "kill all men."

This results in men feeling like they are under attack, as they are being unfairly held responsible for things that are of no fault of their own. Therefore, it makes sense that they would respond to this with "not all men."

Men too sometimes go overboard and feel the need to say this where context does not permit (i.e. when a women is describing a specific bad experience) but this is only a fraction of the contexts where this is said.

It is entirely possible for women who have had bad experiences with men to discuss them without saying absolutely horrible things about all men. And there is no reason whatsoever why they should say those things, as they do not help at all, but only increase the tension between men and women.

If they didn't say these things in the first place, men would not feel the need to say "not all men."