My 5 year old daughter is telling me and my spouse very graphic sexual abuse that I am supposed to be the predator of, and I don’t know how to handle it. I am in chock, and all the national help lines are closed for the day so please hear me out.

I am in no way a perfect father, and I can have a short temper sometimes- especially in the evenings when it is bed time and I no longer have any patience left - but the accusations of me touching and sexually abusing my daughter is straight up false.

My spouse thinks I’ve done it and I don’t have the mental capability to defend myself is any coherent way. How does one prove oneself innocent of the accusations? I am at my wits end, I am as I said in chock over the accusations and head not working.

Daughter changes the story from time to time that it is her being the victim and that someone in her child care group is the victim (sort of know about the family, supposedly living hidden from the father). But it all sounds like excuses. If I try to come up with a possible reason it is taken as a poor excuse. It is possible that daughter have opened phone apps where porn being displayed as I sometimes let her watch kids programs on my phone and I could very well have forgotten to close PH. But the accusations are painful to handle, and I am not in a good place right now (no suicidal thoughts or anything, just sick to the bone). I have a medical condition that would make half the accusations impossible for me, and the accusations of having s*x with my little kid?!?! Excuse me, I like my sexual partners fully developed and somewhere in my age range to begin with - and that is if I was looking. I am in a dead bedroom relationship but everything except that is fine, and I will occasionally satisfy my needs with Ms. Palmer and her five sisters but again with the medical situation it isn’t often or fully rewarding (ED, wanking a sloppy sausage so to speak).

Sorry for the rambling, please let me know if this is the correct place and how I can proceed. I have told my partner that I am willing to do anything and everything to prove my innocence but now I need outside thoughts on how to handle this.

More personal details: I have autistics behavior but never diagnosed as such but it makes me very non-emotional and methodical in most situations which can be interpreted as “cold”, “calm” or “guilty”.

If this is not the correct subreddit please let me known and preferably point me to a more appropriate place to post this.