The violence dynamics of by proxy uses in the male-female relations is something that isn't discussed a lot, yet these dynamics are key on how we view the sexes. We often dismiss the idea that people act in proxy of someone else, as everyone is responsible for their own behavior. Of course it is true that we bare responsibility for our own behavior but that shouldn't mean that a person who incentivizes or pressures someone into this behavior should not be reprimanded equally. After all, when someone hires a hitman and the hitman gets caught and spills the beans, the person hiring the hitman deserves equal if not more punishment as the hitman that did this by proxy.

This sentiment of personal responsibility falls short when we look at male female relationships. Often i see women use a man's violence by proxy while they fail to burden the repercussions of this incited violence. It is not uncommon for a new boyfriend to be convinced by his new love that her ex-boyfriend should get "punished", rape accusations are flung like confetti and if that not sticks there always is physical violence accusations. Another common example is the so called "white knights", men who get told that they should fight this fight for her and the honor of women everywhere. In essence, getting someone else to do your dirty work while washing your hands clean under the guise of personal responsibility.

Why is this not called out more often?