Crosspost "im a heightist bitch" from /r/TrueOffMyChest:

I feel empathetic to incels, sometimes. It is a very horrible feeling when you feel unloved and undesired. However, I believe that the vast majority of them are simply defeatist. Most of them probably lack the confidence and social skills to operate in the real world, let alone find partners. They also have veryyy idealistic views of relationships, assuming that they must be perfect, and that a cute woman owes them their life and have consistent sex forever...

No.

That's not how life works, and they need to get out of their echo chamber.

I also find it hilarious how they rely solely on dating sites to measure how they fit into the dating world. Nearly almost all men fail on that platform, inlcuding above-average men (as demonstrated in some videos), Why? Because men have a habit of swiping favourably on all women to increase their odds. Women, at least from the ones I know, tend to evaluate each profile. They check his looks, his bio, etc. And it also depends on if they're seriously using the app, are feeling horny, or are using it for fun/validation.

What I'll say is this:

- Looks do matter, for both genders. BUT so-called ugly guys can get laid too, and some get laid manyyy times too. Why?

- Attitude, confidence, status, wealth, humour, etc... all the good social skills and more can boost his chances

- And how? I don't know, personally, guys all look normal to me. Truly ugly guys are a massive outlier. But whenever I start to form a liking to a guy, he slowly and surely becomes to look like perfection to me visually

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Now, I probably am a little bitch. But I don't want to ever date, or live in a future society where I'm forced to date, someone I am not attracted to. Also, incel ideas of a "looksmatch" are silly to some extent. I think looksmatch would depend on their facial features, which most couples have similar of. Height is not something that counts as a looksmatch. Women and men on average have a gap in height. In the UK, women are 5'3 on average and men are 5'9 on average. A 5'3 man would be below average, so how on earth would his looksmatch be a 5'3 woman? He should date shorter women, like 4'11-5'0, or find taller women who don't care about height. Personally, I'm 5'2 and my ideal range for height in men is 5'6-5'10. But even so, a guy simply fitting a height range doesn't mean I'd fuck him for just that. I'm very picky in the sense that whilst I don't have a list of standards to go by (other than height), I just let my feelings dictate. I usually tend to just fall for someone I've talked to plenty of times as I form an emotional connection.

edit: I find east asian guys really cute though, so id be fine lowering the height to 5'4-5'10

What are you guys' opinion on this?

Posted by Maybelowsmv | 13 May 2019 | Link