Instead of teaching girls of ways not to get raped, we need to teach our boys not to rape.

Crosspost "Instead of teaching girls of ways not to get raped, we need to teach our boys not to rape." from /r/Feminism:

Seriously, telling girls ways of not getting raped is basically implying it’s their fault for not being prepared when they do get raped. Like telling them how to dress and not to go get drunk isn’t gonna work all the time and is also saying that if they ever do such things, they should expect themselves to be raped, causing to believe they only have themselves to blame when it does happen. What this does is that it leads to is a culture of victim-blaming and lack of reporting of sexual violence that needs to stop. People often say this is only a problem in Muslim countries, but it's an issue we need to combat regardless of what country we live in. Even in "developed" places like Japan and the US people are often kicked out of the house and take the blame for being raped and ending up with an unwanted child. Again, it should never be a girl’s fault if she does get raped , instead we should be teaching our boys not to rape. Rape is only the fault of the rapist. Period.

A common argument to this is to just not go out with random strangers you meet at a party or bar. The problem with this is that nobody is deliberately going to clubs so they can get raped and some aren't going there for the sake of having sex or meeting someone. That's like saying if you go to a sporting event, don't be surprised if someone tries to attack you because of a Jersey you're wearing, and that would never be socially acceptable behaviour. Often times the rapist could even be some random guy who found a random girl on the street and not even bother trying to talk to the victim. Rape is about power, not attraction. Hell, there are cases where refusing to go with a man can trigger a man to want to rape. Rape isn't about attraction, it's about asserting power. The Junko Furuta case is a good example of this. Even when you're not at a bar, you can even be at school or on your commute home and some guys are still gonna try to find a way to rape you no matter what preparation you made. If anything, the culture of victim blaming needs to stop because that's the kind of mentality often taught in the media and sometimes reinforced by parents. That's why it's important to teach our kids especially that they shouldn't rape.