Resources that segregates assistance to women at the expense of women, exclusive of men, or providing extra resources just to exclusively help women (like modifying the print run for those pamphlets) needless creates a gendered problem where there is none, and misses the problem of male victims - it trivialises real gendered issues that do exist both for men and for women. The hostility between our movements prevents collaboration - and if I've been turned down from collegial discourse with feminist organizers just because of the assumptions they make.

Even if IPV and sexual assault does occur to women more than men that scale of the problem is only one part of the picture. When we talk about doing good, it's about the scale of the problem, and the neglected ness of the solution. If there's a problem that takes 300 mass campaigns to solve, and we're at campaign 299 with loads of submovements organising another 20 in the next few years, yet there's a problem that only takes 100 mass campaigns to solve and we're only at campaign 2 with lots of stigma in campaigning from that issue, and hostility from the first campaign (and vice versa), it's a smarter use of resources to prioritise campaign 2 if you want to the most good. Campaign two is like men's rights issues, disproportionately neglected.