Background:
I'm a high SMV guy, 30, usually energetic in social situations. This welcomes women to aproach me and flirt. I usually have no problem keeping things casual and friendly. I've been in series of LTR relationships for last 10 years, it's been good to me while it lasted.

Recently I've re-entered the dating scene, started salsa dancing. The floor is usually on fire, girls dig it and they escalate even more.

What I'm worried about is the player reputation that might stick if I engage in any sexual activity with any girl there. Salsa social circles are usually very closed - people know each other.

Problems:

  1. I worry if I give good dicking to a girl, she'll catch feelings, start expecting more, and then get jealous and start some drama. I know my way around the woman's body, sometimes I'm the first guy to give the girl "orgasms like they never experienced before". Should I take my sex game down a notch?
  2. I'm not an asshole, I want a girl to feel special, I'd feel bad if she felt used afterwards. How can I frame the interaction in a way that takes care of this issue? (Note that I have LTR background, so casual sex is new to me).
  3. When You're high SMV, how do You manage women approaching You that You're not interested in sexually? I'm a friendly guy, so I get on good terms with everybody, but women start probing for more. Sometimes I'm a afraid that if I reject a women, she'll get vengeful "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".
  4. How do You manage all this in a closed social circle? Does the 'don't shit where You eat' principle apply here?
  5. I'm empathic, I feel the emotional tornado of a woman.
    Should I maybe not take it too seriously? Or rather tune down my input sensitivity?

Thank You for Your time.