So I was poking around he internet looking for actual survey questions and found a couple.

http://www.unece.org/fileadmin/DAM/stats/gender/vaw/surveys/Australia/AIC-International_Violence_Agains_Women_Survey-instrument.pdf from Australia in 2003

I would like to begin by asking you to think carefully about ALL MEN, including men you have known, such as friends and relatives, men you have met casually, your husband or partner, previous husbands or partners, as well as male strangers.

E1a. (Since the age of 16 or older,) has any man Threatened to hurt you physically in a way that frightened you? Please keep in mind that we are focusing here only on threats.

Was the person who threatened you...?

  • 1 Current Husband Or Partner
  • 2 Previous Husband Or Partner
  • 3 Current Boyfriend
  • 4 Previous Boyfriend
  • 95 Other Relative (Specify)
  • 96 Any Other Man You Know Such As An Acquaintance, Friend Or Work Colleague
  • 97 Stranger

http://www.unece.org/fileadmin/DAM/stats/gender/vaw/surveys/Canada/1993_VAW_instrument.pdf Canada 1993

B1 More and more we hear about women being harassed or receiving unwanted attention from men...

C19 ... has a MAN YOU KNOW ever forced you or attempted to force you into any SEXUAL activity ...

So not only are they only focusing on violence against women, they are only asking about male perpetrators. No questions about woman on woman violence.

Hopefully things have gotten better since these surveys.

EDIT: This 2012 european survey is better.

http://fra.europa.eu/sites/default/files/fra-violence-against-women-survey-questionnaire-1_en.pdf