I'm a beta, feeling depressed and need advice

amazingwolfboy · 2014-01-13T06:28:23+00:00

A small one, but significant I think. Get single friends. I don't care how. Join a sports team, do martial arts, just start socializing with people who when you meet up with them can more fully interact if you're looking to hook up. I only realised lately how much of a cockblock it can be if you're out with people who aren't trying to get laid, because they know that they will get laid regardless. And it helps to have some guys that you can talk to in the male way, appreciating what a girl looks like without worrying about a wife or gf smacking him for saying so.

whiskey_bearfist · 2014-01-13T06:32:32+00:00

dont feel sorry for yourself. its pathetic and doesnt accomplish anything. own your shit. even the bad.
read through the material. fix your diet. get in the gym. this will give you confidence, testosterone boost, and a more attractive physique. get an expensive haircut if youve never had that.
stop paying for people that arent you or your immediate family. dont put up with shit from drunk girls. note: you will lose many female "friends" probably. maybe all of them. (ps. theyre just using you because youre gullible)
focus on your career
realize your friends with their gfs and wives arent all sunshine and happiness. statiscally half of them will be divorced in less than 5 years. and probably a few others are miserable but too scared to divorce.
stop calling yourself a beta for fucks sake. beta and alpha just describe individual behaviors.
drop whatever self imposed rules and ideas you have about how women are or should be. chances are its either incorrect and/or actively holding yourself back.
read http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/ this is the cliff notes of how to treat women. you may think it sounds manipulative and fucked up. well, it is. and they love it. so whos really fucked up here.

Alphadestrious · 2014-01-13T09:38:41+00:00

Hit the gym, start dieting right, become more active. I've been working out for a little over 3 years with amazing progress and trust me the chicks love it, especially ass.
Join toastmasters to enchance your public speaking and communication skills. Conquer fears and you will build momentum to become even more successful. I must emphasize getting out of your comfort zone no matter how awkward it is, just learn to basket in awkwardness because it will happen. Travel the world too while you're at it and learn about different cultures and the beautiful women our planet has to offer.
Join organizations to network and meet people that more align to your beliefs and stuff. www.meetup.com
Try new things, become well rounded, understand schools of thought and concepts of philosophy, and humble yourself with astronomy as there are far bigger things than our tiny planet. /r/space /r/spaceengine
Read Robert Greene books and other books which can help you in life.
Having a soldiers menality, we are all here to help each other and become ballers. /r/getmotived
Read seduction and pickup books, grab certain ideas and things to use (although I must admit some of it is bullshit) from Mark Manson, Dr. Love, The Game (outdated though) Love Systems, and various schools of thought within the pick-up community. I'm no professional pick up artist but some of this shit really works. /r/seduction
Work on your fashion /r/malefashionadvice
Try to read into finance and investments, I love doing that on my spare time and feel empowered knowing certain things the average Joe probably doesn't know like true APR rate, securities, etc. I even have some investments myself and have some Vanguard ETFs, even Monster since I love their energy drinks.
Do all of this for your better future self; think in that mindset. Learn to be a cool-ass guy that gets it when it comes to social interactions.
Being a bad-ass, baller, alpha is a mindset which must be practiced and remember that will-power is also a muscle, albeit a mental one. Work on yourself phyiscally, career-wise, mentally, and spiritually.
Read into different religions and understand different view points. I'm not a Christian or anything but I do believe there is a higher power which permeates the universe and is FAR greater than ourselves.
Start listening to music which promotes being bad ass at life like some rap music (Gucci Mane, Waka Flocka, Rick Ross, Lil Wayne, Sky Lexington, etc.) /r/hiphopheads I must say this music is very superficial but it gets me in that mindset to grind. I'm a musician so I love all types of music I respect artists who have come before us like Herbie Hancock (HeadHunters), Cortex (amazing jazz band that is sampled a lot by rappers) but trap music brings out an edge to me.
As you start building your circle surround yourself with positive, successful people who will motivate you by actions and words.
Start reading into world news, politics, and economics to see how the world is doing. Yes some parts of the world and some things are horrible but there are good people who live with a purpose and desire to help those and give back to the community. However, be careful with politics though it can get you sucked in. Personally I'm a political atheist that doesn't believe in political parties (although they do have influence) and believe corporate money is destroying our political system along with first past the post voting, and I tend to align towards the independent route which encourges voting on well informed decisions. /r/economics /r/politics /r/worldnews http://www.politifact.com/
Learn a new language or try to expand your vocabulary spending 10 minutes a day or something. Just become a better person and well-rounded as well as focusing on your career as a backbone. We are here for you bro, improve yourself and the women will come.
Just have a roadmap or plan that you want to achieve and just do it. I'm graduating this semester from college and my roadmap is to continue working on myself and go for my MBA, all thanks to motivating people around me and all the organizations and fraternities I'm in.
Don't compare yourself to anyone and just focus on yourself, ain't nothing gonna be accomplished by comparing yourself. Just be the best you can and sometimes being the best you can isn't enough and that's okay. Just be mentally strong and plow through shit life throw's at you like a baws. Think of basketball, the best shooters shoot between 40 and 50 percent so if you become good you can get that percentage and maybe even higher with hours of interactions and noticing patterns. However, we can never shoot 100 percent and there isn't enough time to be the best at everything, so just pound the rock.
Remember, take a step at a time and constantly improve little by little. It is not the last strike which shatters the rock but the thousands that came before it. Good luck bro. Hope this helped.

FortunateBum · 2014-01-13T18:42:20+00:00

I would say you need to learn to socialize with women. So don't try to get laid, simply take every opportunity you can to simply talk to them. It could be in a bar, a party, etc. I wouldn't socialize with women at work because you will make mistakes. Just try to be yourself at first and then slowly you will learn how to talk to them.

Again, I will repeat, DO NOT try to fuck them, date them, friend them, anything. Just talk. That's it. Do not have any other motive. Do this for awhile. That's what I'd recommend.

2014-01-14T04:41:01+00:00

I saw this linked in a few threads. The Book of Pook. great starting point and reads well. http://bookofpook.neocities.org/

I'm a beta, feeling depressed and need advice

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13. Trap music, best shit ever.

Title	I'm a beta, feeling depressed and need advice
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Date	January 13, 2014 6:09 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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