I think it's ok to have body count preference whether your a man or women but I want to share my perspective. I care more about my partners value and relationship with sex rather than numbers alone. I want a women who only sees sex as romantic and intimate gesture. So I don't want to date women who has one night stands, friends with benefits, or cheated. I don't see women or men who sleep around as inferior I just want to preserver and reproduce the values I have grown up with. I think the problem is that men like me are lonely and isolated from communities who share our value and expect people outside of our communities to follow our values. That is what is cause tension. It's not between men and women but between contradicting values. I think the solution is community building with similar values and beliefs. Before you say go to church, I am not religious and it isn't fair for those like me. We actually need to be a part of community where we belong. The belief sex is coupled with romance shouldn't be exclusive to Christianity.