This might just be my own media consumption habits but I think I have noticed an odd pattern with the broader society and incels (defined broadly). Simply put, I call it a push and pull. One one hand, there is the obvious push. Non select young men are essentially pushed out of dating, pushed out of a sex life, pushed out of traditional family building altogether. But also pushed out of speaking about their experiences. Pushed out of looking for answers that make sense.

But then there is the pull. Society tries to mollify these young men through, “positive advice.” Says things like “be yourself” or “it’s your grooming and attitude” or “most people get married and have kids so your time is coming” and so on. Maybe it’s just me, but I think I have increasingly detected a low level fear of incel movement by broader. Not so much in terms of violence, though that seems to be a concern. But as far as I can tell, there is a fear of organizing and apathy.

Maybe this is just in my head or there are better ways to discuss it. But I do wonder if anyone else notices this and why it occurs.