Ive posted here a few times. Basically with someone and helped raised her kids. However we always lived with my MIL and she didnt want to progress so over time I started pushing her away I went to therapy and got better by but by then it was too late. She divorced me and I tried everything to make it work. Well fast forward months later she has gotten more tattoos trips and even split her tongue told me she so free and happy. I have gone in waves of no contact feeling good then she will contact me about the kids and usually its just cordial. However we talked a little on sunday and she told me has been dating and I told her I have too. However she likes to brag about a roster and I am very picky. So it was a lot for me heal and actually go on a date. However after her telling me this it hit me like a ton of bricks. Sunday night and yesterday I was crying non stop realizing its truly over and that there is nothing I can do. I cant control her I cant make her miss me there is nothing to do except to just accept it. So I finally box all our stuff up I kept after moving out and put it away and threw away some other things and let go. I feel so much better. It hurts and sucks but I cant live my life wondering if she misses me or if I do a certain thing or go no contact will she miss me. I finally have to live for me, no revenge no nothing. and the boys I helped her raise only know me as their father and thankfully I get to see them quite often. She has even mentioned they would choose me over her in a heartbeat.