My wife and I separated last August and she moved to Arizona. I sent her $1000 a month until December and then $2600 of her share when I had refinanced the house. Last week she asked for $500 in spousal support which I don’t understand why she needs since I sent her more than enough. She lives free at her grandmother’s house and has a boyfriend so obviously her life is supposedly good. Well, two days ago I saw my Navy Fed account. There was an ACH payment of 67 on her target credit card account. I forgot that my account was connected to it so I closed that account and got new account numbers.. then yesterday on my Capital account I saw she somehow access to my checking which she never had access to nor my permission and Zelle herself $1500, and then again this morning for $400. I pay for our car insurance because her car is still in my name. I was hoping to use as leverage during divorce. She has health insurance through my job because we’re still married and I can’t cancel it. Even refinanced the loan to put it on my name that we consolidated because of the debt she accrued from ordering out so much. She literally has no expenses. I took on the burden and she’s trying to take more. I’m screwed. I deactivated Zelle from both banks change the password again. Called the cops. They said they couldn’t do anything because we’re still married so they referred me to the economics department. I’m not even sure what my options are, man. I’m in Virginia it’s been hell with her since the moment we got married in 2019 she talks about wanting to move on, but then she harasses me for money. I already moved on made so many friends I do stand-up comedy. I lost so much weight and gain muscle, but this is getting stressful because last time her boyfriend was driving the car I accidentally put my name on the police report which was fixed, of course, but I don’t know how I’m gonna pay for these fucking lawyers if she’s gonna be siphoning money like this without my permission. Anyone have gone through something similar to this does it get better? Is there a resolution? I’m trying to find a punchline for this when I see it in my stand-up comedy but it’s so recent and so sore. I know there’s a joke in there, but I myself cannot find a humor in this, especially when I’m always the fucking punchline in this life.