Background: NJ, married 7.5 years, drifted apart, had online sex, including an online emotional affair, got discovered last week ( last in about 3-4 occasions over the duration of marriage), make about twice her salary, don’t own a house, or have kids.

  1. How do I prepare?
  2. What do I need to read to find out about the different scenarios?
  3. What are the biggest risks?
  4. I see lots of advice about not moving out. Is there a post that lays out the legal implications of doing that?
  5. Alimony - is this decided by the judge or do you have to negotiate this with the other party?
  6. Current assets and stuff like cars with outstanding loans- how does this typically get handled?
  7. Trying to do this amicably as possible, while recognizing there’s going to be a lot of bad blood. I don’t want to take advantage of her, but I don’t want to get fucked over either. What are the key principles to make that happen?