I've never posted like this on here before. I am at a point where I don't know what to do. I apologize for the poor grammar, I'm very upset. It's Easter and I was hoping I would get to see my son.

My wife and I have been separated about a year. We have an 11-year old son. Over the last year I have only seen him a handful of times and have only seen him for about 30 minutes since Christmas 2025. I give her roughly $2000 per month which is about half my take home income.

The reason for our split was complicated. I thought it might have something to do with menopause (she is 47), because she had a sudden personality shift. She began by insisting her phone was being hacked. Then it turned into people scamming her, people stealing from her, and people following her. She doesn't have a job and hast worked in 10 years. She doesn't have a bank account and the money she has is loaded on a cash app card in my name that I gave her. I'm saying this because I see every transaction and I know for a fact nobody is stealing from her. She gets into her phone and sees settings she doesn't understand, changes them, and it causes her phone not to work properly. This is what she thinks is "people hacking her". She is paranoid and thinks every person who walks by her house on their phone is secretly hacking her. The fights come up when I don't agree with her that these things are happening. If I am not just as paranoid she say sit's ME HACKING her phone and ME having her followed.

Her doctor prescribed her Adderall and ever since then she has gone downhill. She will stay up all night or sleep only a few hours for a few days strait. Then she will sleep for 18 hours strait. When she passes out like that she has even accused me of drugging her because she says "it's not normal to sleep that long!" not realizing she has only slept 5 hours in two days.

Her parents have called me concerned. They think she is mentally unwell and are wanting some action to be taken. They are concerned about the well being of my son. I have been hoping things would get better but they haven't. She calls and asks for money on Wednesday, and I'll say "Ok, I'll give you money but I need to see our kid this weekend.: She will say "ok". Then when the weekend comes she won't answer her phone or call me. She says her phone is "hacked". It works when she needs to call me for money, but when I want to arrange a visit with my son it seems to never work. I have shown up over at her house before and I am NEVER wanting to do that again. Showing up there without her saying "ok come over now" leads to a HUGE fight. She gets very upset. I should have already emphasized, I try very hard to not fight with her anymore in front of my son. That's the main reason I'm not there now. He has already seen more ugly fights between his mom and dad than he ever should. If I show up at her house, he's going to see another ugly fight.

My question is, what rights do I have, and what rights does she have at this point? What do I need to do in order to see my son? She will say she wants me to see him, but when it comes down to it, I never get to see him. I've threatened to not pay any more money until I see him, but she called my bluff. She knows I'm going to pay regardless because not giving her money makes my kid suffer and I don't want that. She doesn't work and I work full time. I can't see him much during the week so all I ask is for a few hours on the weekend. She won't even do that. What do I need to do from here? I have not wanted to divorce to this point. I do love my wife and I have hoped this would pass an she would go back to being normal. However, I am open to anything I need to do now because I desperately want time with my son.