30yrs old 12 yr marriage three kids 12 8 4 Me and my wife made love on June 29th. On the the 30th we were cuddling in bed when someone called off work. She said I have to go in. I was like why. She then said I’m moving out and getting an apartment. Two week latter she said she wanted to work on it. She then spent Every night away smoking and drinking. This just hurts so bad. With the pandemic we don’t have child care for the kids so she is staying with me still. She talks to me like everything is normal for her. She sleeps on the couch and I don’t sleep very much anymore. I did realize that I don’t even know who I am without being a husband and father. Should I just move out and let her deal with the consequences of her decision? Should I stick it out to spend more time with the kids? I don’t want them to see me like this. Sucks bad man