How long before you filed did the Divorce word enter your thoughts process before you actually started filing? This last month it has been on my mind several times per day every day.

Edit: I'm 46, she's 48.We have two children together (under 12 years.) We invaded California. She been abusive for years. Financially, Emotional and psychologically. Extreme narcissistic behavior. I also have hours worth of audio recordings of her engaging in her abusive behavior.