Crosspost "CMV: Women's choices do not make sense to men because most men do not understand women's sexuality." from /r/PurplePillDebate:
I see a lot of men here chastising women for ignoring "good guys" and participating in modern-day "harems" just so they can sleep with top 20% of men.
I understand how this can be difficult to understand for many men, but as a woman, it makes perfect sense. Women really aren't attracted to most men. Sex with a man you are not aroused by can be physically painful. Read that again. Physically painful. Yet, women are still human beings and crave sex. You can see where I'm going with this.
Very few men can ignite instant passion in women. I'd say maybe 1/100 can make a girl horny upon a first meeting. Then there's a second category that may need to spin some game and have a few conversations/dates until she's ready. Then there's a third category in which no matter what they try, these men can just never arouse a woman at all unless there's something else going on (i.e. unusual circumstances).
Now obviously every woman is different, but I'm speaking in general terms.
I want to also talk about FWBs. A lot of women will agree to a FWB-type set-up because there's no other way to access sex with an attractive male. It's a cruel trick of nature that men tend to have a more flexible sexuality when it comes to women than vice versa. That means men will happily have sex with women "below" them in attractiveness or status, while women cannot easily do this.
Imagine a woman goes on 5 dates. 4 guys seem like nice people and commitment-minded, but she is not attracted to them, meaning she would run the risk of not feeling sexually fulfilled with these men. Now the fifth guy is actually attractive - attractive enough to sleep with on the first few dates and maybe even give her a few orgasms. However, he is not offering commitment.
It comes down to what a woman values. If a woman values security and commitment over good sex, she'll choose an average man who can provide her that. If a woman values sexual satisfaction over all else, she will try seeking that out through FWBs or only dating those types of guys (her success will obviously depend on her own attractiveness at that point).
It sucks for both genders, but that's what's happening, and that's why so many women seem "dumb" for their actions. But it's actually a cruel trick of nature.
Posted by MyDarlingGirl | 7 September 2021 |
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