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Help us forgive each other?

guidofaux · 2018-11-23T09:45:21+00:00

my girlfriend thought she broke up with me over text, but never did, she then thought I'd abandoned her and "cheated" three times is as many...

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November 23, 2018

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Title	Help us forgive each other?
Author	guidofaux
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	November 23, 2018 9:45 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/9zmzp8/help_us_forgive_each_other/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/ExRedPill/help-us-forgive-each-other.299952 https://theredarchive.com/post/299952

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[–]DaveyOneBite1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]guidofaux 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]DaveyOneBite0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]guidofaux 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

she's quite special and I'm quite ill too. I was stabbed 14 times and left for dead in a park 15 years ago and she's the first person to last more than a year as even a friend so I want to be fair to her but I also need to protect myself. I don't want to keep going through the same patterns but I don't really have other options anymore, not in the same way an average guy does. I had to learn how to walk and talk again and find someone (a stranger) who would put up with my PTSD and moods etc. she's done so well it was just that in her last few weeks of work before uni started again she worked late with a male colleague and there was a messy patch for a minute but the moment she explained it all I sort of understood better than just getting mad and throwing the baby out with the water?

maybe I'm just so far gone I don't know what healthy is but you're right I have told her about the red flags in the past but she seems intent yo try work on things as long as possible. I've only known her 2 years and most of that time was just as friends so I think maybe trying to label and define it has caused a rift but am at a loss at where to go to speak on it because my next therapy isn't until Thursday and as you can tell its playing on my mind.

[–]DaveyOneBite0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Conventional wisdom says this is the type of girl that will continue to do this anytime the relationship is at a tough point. Which will happen in any relationship.

I don’t know the girl though so maybe it was a onetime/threetime* thing. Surely you couldn’t have done the same thing had the tables been reversed. And even if the 3x thing is true you’ll have to live with it and be looking over your shoulder and afraid to rock the boat, paranoid of any new guy in her life, any period where she becomes distant.

The first scenario surely you agree with me. The second...if you’re truly ex red pill you should understand they get some of the basic stuff right and this is not worth it.

You don’t deserve either scenario. She has nothing to do with the stabbing and it sounds like there’s stuff you need to resolve internally w/ your therapist before taking on a healthy committed relationship.

I’d personally rather be alone but you’re your own person.