How do I date “normally”?

Elatea · 2021-04-01T13:40:16+00:00

Why were you a kissless virgin? I imagine you had a mix of prejudices against women that made you see them as the 'other', and you didn't regularly socialise with them as genuine friends. I also imagine insecurity and not feeling confident enough to interact genuinely was a part of it.

Imagine you're a dish. Some people will hate that dish, some people will like it, some people will love it. Nobody owes you any enjoyment of that dish, and people are entitled to take or leave you. But you can't be any dish other than the one you are, and trying to add spices and random ingredients to please people is going to fail.

But if you can be a higher quality dish with better ingredients and more care put into the preparation, you're more likely to connect with people receptive to your flavour. Just because only a minority of people will like you, doesn't mean something is wrong - that's life and we have to deal with it. You're not trying to find a relationship with everyone, are you? You only need to connect with one person, so success rate doesn't really matter as long as you keep trying and make yourself a good candidate.

I just get rejected or put in the friend zone unless I put on the fake redpill-prescribed persona

This line is the howling red flag in your logic.

Why are you getting rejected? Are you trying to move too fast, or are you asking women who aren't interested? If so, why are you doing that? Are you seeing women as an acquisition, or are you developing connections out of genuine human interest?

What makes you think you're in the friend zone? Why do you see being friends with women as negative and precluding romantic success? Why are platonic relations with women implied to be a failure in your eyes?

What is the fake redpill persona? Why do you think this works? Is it because it superficially makes you seem confident and interested, but ultimately is based on misogynistic lies? Have you thought that it's the confidence and friendliness women like, without the manipulative, sexist macho baggage?

Processing these questions fully and honestly might help you work the incel logic out of you.

Danny0061 · 2021-04-01T06:35:08+00:00

You don’t have to reject the parts that are associated with making yourself confident and increasing your self esteem as well as working on yourself to becoming the best version of yourself. You don’t need trp to know that however you need to reject the toxic part and if you don’t you’ll just keep ending up in toxic relationships with toxic people who play games due to their inherent low self esteem.

Title	How do I date “normally”?
Author	zxcvb42
Upvotes	8
Comments	3
Date	April 1, 2021 4:31 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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