Self Image and leaving the Red Pill

PriestessUntoNoone · 2018-07-24T16:55:27+00:00

I'm going to make the assumption that you're a woman, so forgive me if I'm wrong here.

I scoured the Women's Red Pill board and other RP websites for the longest time and tried to cement into my mind how a woman should look and behave.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I've been in a similar situation; I grew up Mormon, which is a very conservative religion, and I went through a lot of anxiety and angst because I wasn't what the church expected me to be; I was smart, competitive, a tomboy, and a very angry teenager when I was expected to be quiet, demure, sweet, and compliant. Eventually I left, and it's taken time to shake off the conditioning (Mormonism is a soft-cult).

All I can really tell you is that there's no one way for how women should look and behave, and you don't have to be like anybody else. You don't have to fit someone else's idea of "True Womanhood" or whatever in order to have worth and value. You don't have to be feminine to be a woman, or badass, or polite, or rude, or anything; you just get to be you. And it's probably a scary thought right now, but it will eventually be freeing; YOU get to come up with what it means to be yourself. No one else gets to decide that for you.

Now I'm scared to delve back into those things I've made myself believe aren't acceptable.

I would ask yourself why you believe those things aren't acceptable, and then challenge those thoughts.

I would also recommend you find others, especially women, who have those hobbies and ask yourself if you think those people are really unacceptable.

Example: Mormonism maintains that sleeveless shirts on women are immodest, and for a good while I would judge women wearing sleeveless shirts. I found that I was getting really judgey and was starting to feel disgusted with myself, and I asked what the big deal was with showing shoulders. The answer is nothing; shoulders are not erotic, and showing shoulders in 90 degree weather isn't slutty, it's practical.

I still wear sleeved shirts most of the time, but every once and while I'll wear sleeveless. It was kind of exciting, the first time I wore a sleeveless shirt to work-- and lo and behold, it wasn't a big deal to anybody. But it was really nice.

At some point, you're just gonna have to dive in and do the things you've been holding yourself back from.

Title	Self Image and leaving the Red Pill
Author	DeadEndInTokyo
Upvotes	9
Comments	1
Date	July 19, 2018 5:33 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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