if people are lost outside of redpill because you lack clear instructions and structure try researching the concept of living by your values. its the idea that every single person has core values and connecting with those can lead to living a more fulfilling life, and just generally feeling more connected to yourself. this doesnt seem to be fully related but i promise it will end up making more sense. feeling a stronger sense of identity will help attract like-minded people and make you feel more confident. this will help with all aspects of life.

also try to dig deeper than what redpill told you to value, masculinity and everything else, those wont be your core values, your core values will be more basic, you value honesty, family, thinking outside the box, being respectful, ETC.

this is harder work and it wont work for anyone but maybe it will for you.

one of my values is thoughfullness - i always try and be considerate of other people. if i fulfil that i feel better about myself, if i dont i can be really hard on myself, but i keep trying and thats what matters.