Ten Lies About Sadomasochism by Melissa Farley

Great article by Melissa Farley when women have the right to "kink-shame". Today sadism of men labeled as "BDSM" (Most men are doms and virtually all women are subs in BDSM communities) promoted by other women including who describe themselves feminists. (Bring my anti-BDSM feminism back!) In the end men are entitled to torture women without getting shamed. They can beat the shit out of women and be considered as "nice guys" too in this brave postmodern "freedom is slavery" world.

1. Pain is pleasure; humiliation is enjoyable; bondage is liberation.

2. Sadomasochism is love and trust, not domination and annihilation.

3. Sadomasochism is not racist and anti Semitic even though we “act” like slave owners and enslaved Africans, Nazis and persecuted Jews.

4. Sadomasochism is consensual; no one gets hurt if they don’t want to get hurt. No one has died from sadomasochistic “scenes.”

5. Sadomasochism is only about sex. It doesn’t extend into the rest of the relationship.

6. Sadomasochistic pornography has no relationship to the sadomasochistic society we live in. “If it feels good, go with it.” “We create our own sexuality.”

7. Lesbians “into sadomasochism” are feminists, devoted to women, and a women-only lesbian community. Lesbian pornography is “by women, for women.”

8. Since lesbians are superior to men, we can “play” with sadomasochism in a liberating way that heterosexuals can not.

9. Reenacting abuse heals abuse. Sadomasochism heals emotional wounds from childhood sexual assault.

10. Sadomasochism is political dissent. It is progressive and even “transgressive” in that it breaks the rules of the dominant sexual ideology.