I compiled a list of Bare Minimum traits/treatment here, https://reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/plua71/bare_minimum_the_least_you_should_accept/, but while I’m working on a High Value list, I thought it might be useful to point out the difference between Bare Minimum and High Value. Here are a few examples:

Bare Minimum: Puts a teddy bear on you when you’re sick because he can’t be there to care for you. (Yeah, I saw that thread and had to point out that’s it’s B.M.)

Versus

High Value: Puts a teddy bear on you when you’re sick and takes the day off to care for you or find a way to work from home to care for you.

Bare Minimum: When a flood destroys your parents’ house, your man puts them in a hotel for two weeks and gives them the name of some guys that can help clean up their house for $15,000.

Versus

High Value: When a flood destroys your parents house, your man puts them in a hotel for two weeks, rolls up his sleeves and spends 10 days straight slaving, pumping water, wading in raw sewage, scrubbing, cleaning and saving your parents’ house— everything paid for by him and he never boasts or expect anything in return. (Yeah, I saw that thread and had to point out that’s it’s a HV act of devotion, love and kindness.)

Bare Minimum: Buys you gas station flowers every two weeks. (Yeah, I saw that thread and have to call it what it was.)

Versus

High Value: With your permission, tears up your yard, plants a garden— even an herb garden— so you can enjoy freshly cut flowers and herbs year round; all done or paid for by himself and he never boasts or expects anything in return.

Bare Minimum: After an date, (if you don’t have cars) hails you a cab or waits with you until your Uber arrives.

Versus

High Value: After a date, (if you don’t have cars) hails you a cab and PAYS FOR IT or waits with you until your Uber arrives AND PAYS FOR IT.

Bare Minimum: After a date, calls 1-2 days later to set up another date.

Versus

High Value: Near the end of a date, sets up solid plans for the next date.

Bare Minimum: On a date, sincerely compliments you, tells you you looks amazing even though you jokingly told him it takes about $100 of makeup to look this good.

Versus

High Value: On a date, sincerely compliments you, tells you you look amazing even though you jokingly told him it takes $100 of makeup to look this good. Then send you a gift card to Sephora/Ulta/etc because he understands what women do/go through to look nice on dates.

Bare Minimum: You tell him your back hurts, he gets you pain medicine.

Versus

High Value: You tell him your back hurts, he gets you pain meds, runs a hot scented bubble bath then gives you an nice back massage.

These are just examples but I hope you are seeing the difference between Bare Minimum and a High Value man that goes above and beyond. High Value doesn’t always involves money, no, but it ALWAYS involves genuine THOUGHTFULNESS, care and kindness! So expect the minimum but shoot for HV!

Note: Having a few HV traits does NOT make a man HV! He has to consistently display a multitude of HV traits before he can be even considered HV, sisters. A lot of men with ape HV traits just to let the mask slip X months/weeks/years later to show his true LV self; which is why FDS tells us that we should “never stop vetting”.

Anyway, I’m working on a full HV list but please feel free to refer to my “Bare Minimum” thread posted above, to comment, ask questions and/or add your own Bare Minimum vs High Value comparisons.

Cheers, Queens! 👑❤️