And I’ve been crying ever since. He was so good in so many ways—respectful, supportive, never talked down to me, appreciative of my ambition...but he couldn’t commit to me. He kept it vague at “family situation”. It had been a two months, we never had sex. Situation wasn’t resolving anytime soon. The stupid thing is he was waiting for it to resolve before asking me out but I asked him out first (I know... pre-fds me).

He was really understanding and accepted it because he knew it was a him problem. I stopped it because I didn’t want to be doing cute girlfriend-y stuff for a someone whose family and friends did not know I existed. I couldn’t start thinking long term because I was just stuck waiting. I know this is the best thing for me to do, but it’s so hard, because he really was great otherwise. And of course, I really liked him 🤡

I’m just looking for some support to help me stick to my resolve. I can’t even tell if this makes sense.