We often hear the words consensual sex. Here is a reminder that dating is also a consensual activity that requires the acknowledgment of two individuals.

I've been told too often that 'Oh, we just hung around and it became a date.' or 'We're really good friends and I guess we became more.'

Either way, it doesn't make sense and there aren't any lines or boundaries. It sounds creepy as well and very LV and 'convenient'. Also, we now all know that women and men can't be friends.

Back then, I used to hang out with guys, sometimes I initiate the hang outs. What I didn't know was that they thought they stood a chance and it was a date! Or they would ask me to go out for drinks or food, and they think it's a date! I'd have all these rumors flying around me and I wouldn't know why until I came across some trouble and needed help. The friends I had around me weren't there for support and were also part of the rumor mill- so they wanted to see me fall.

I used to think that everyone is different, but when you're a predator, you will exhibit very similar behaviors in a similar manner or order. Human behavior is just like animal behavior- it's predictable! There is no magic! The only magic lies when two individuals fully trust one another and cherishes each moment they share.

How I define a date: if you're interested in me, you can ask me specifically on a date in person and if I want to go on a date with you, okay I confirm, then you make the plan and confirm again via text or something before the actual date, and I'll confirm as well. It's not hard! The reason I'd expect to be asked in person is because we would have met a number of times in social situations and know each other on a familiar level and I haven't blacklisted you. Also, I have my own friends and you have your friends and I've checked that they're not on my blacklist either. That's a proper date. Also, before all this, I've vetted that you're emotionally mature enough to handle criticism, rejection and disappointment.

Just like sex, modern dating is so casual and unrefined because people treat it with lack of sincerity, they treat people like garbage and they don't know what they want and so miserable they depend on others to make them feel better. If you're wanting something else other than courting and getting to know me, find a hole and bury yourself in it.

I'm not going to settle for less anymore and I'm not going to 'teach' people how to ask people out, even if it's for a friendly 'hangout'. Oh wait, women and men can't have friendly hangouts because we can't be friends! They know what they're doing and 100% responsible for their actions. Leave

What are your dating guidelines?