So, the entire break up made me anxious and I lost so much weight. Was really upset, then started clearing my closet, going through all my beautiful dresses I ordered and never wore. I put one on and I felt so great, I did my make up and went out.

Talked to a guy that had been interested in me and then right before I left to come home I found what I think is a potential HVM. He knows my friends and invited me to dinner right after I was leaving. We have really similar interests (careers), he knew just what I was talking about.

Back to dinner, food was gross and he asked me not to feel obligated to eat it. Profusely apologized for the negative experience. As the pick me, I had been, I offered to at least cover the tip. He told me it was a pleasure to be with me and that I didn’t need to worry about that. Ever.

I was like, this is what my girls have been preparing me for. I am not gonna settle down or anything but knowing there are good men out there like that. I thought it was something unheard of. He didn’t ask for anything weird or wasn’t creepy. It was like an impromptu date.

It was really a breath of fresh air, I don’t know where I would be if I hadn’t come across this group before my ex and I broke up. I never realized how much of a HVF I was or am (I hope I’m using the right terminology, still new to responding).