Once you have married a HVM make sure you always some money a month towards a 'running away fund'. Obvs if you have the money, but do prioritise this. Once you have $300 then it's enough to leave the house in an emergency, stay in a motel, get food and chill out. Nothing will get rid of unwanted behaviour quicker than you voting with your feet.

If he's a but too friendly with a female colleague and say 'it's nothing', cheating, if he's abusive, you've got the money, just GO and get some headspace from the situation.