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MALE DEPRAVITYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:20 PM
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QUEEN SH*Textraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:17 PM
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LEVEL UPextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:01 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:38 AM
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LEVEL UPextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:35 PM
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SEX STRATEGYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:51 PM
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LIES MEN TELLextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:58 PM
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SCROTES MADextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:12 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:02 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:56 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:11 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:16 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:53 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:43 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:59 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:09 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:23 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:52 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:11 AM
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NAH, SISextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:18 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:01 AM
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STRATEGYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:47 PM
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QUEEN SUPREMEextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:29 AM
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LEVEL UPextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:10 PM
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NAH, SISextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:11 AM
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DISCUSSIONextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:28 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:07 PM
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DISCUSSIONextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:32 PM
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SEX STRATEGYextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:25 PM
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NAH, SISextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:49 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶extraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:06 AM
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DISCUSSIONextraacct1234/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 06:46 PM
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That rent thing! Asolutely dump him. Like someone else said, that's just the tip of the iceberg. If he feels comfortable doing that to you he absolutely does not love you and he's probably doing other things like cheating. Get out before you waste more time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:31 AM
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Mod here, please both of you stop it. Let it go. Also don't report comments for petty reasons please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:18 AM
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Go ahead and message the link to me once you have it up and I'll approve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:56 PM
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We would prefer that you write a post out instead of asking to private message members. This is just a safety precaution for everyone subbed here. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:54 PM
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LVM manipulation. It's so transparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:49 PM
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🤷‍♀️ too bad but shows FDS works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:40 PM
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Yeah unless you're walking around by yourself at night... You do realize it changes the statistics simply because women don't do that because of the risk? Women simply aren't out wandering around the streets at night to be attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:27 PM
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The food is served on plastic trays with plastic silverware? What does he think you are a dog to eat off of plastic??? I would just have not responded after I saw his suggestion. He can either take the hint and come back with a better offer or leave you alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:23 PM
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Please post these to r/FDSsuperFans. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:18 PM
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I agree with the other two people who responded. Only if he's done significant work to change and knows what his father did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:27 PM
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Meet and get to know his father and evaluate if his father was a good dad. Use an article or an incident with a friend to bring up parenting topics like spending time with kids, importance of schedules/bed times/homework, discipline styles, values that need to be instilled etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:51 PM
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Either he's an idiot, which you don't want, or he's trying to manipulate you. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:44 PM
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Even if she uses a condom and they have no genital-genital contact or even mouth-genital contact, which is not how most people have sex, she's very likely to get herpes or HPV. Getting warts or painful herpes sores really sounds like the way to start your sex life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:13 PM
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That's so sad. She was the low hanging fruit having sex with lousy guys who probably never gave her any pleasure for a 8$ drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:11 PM
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Or just excuse yourself to the "bathroom" or to "take a call" and then don't come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:04 PM
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Yes absolutely do not contact your ex again after 30 days. And do not remain friends with your ex's. It's just not necessary. let the past be the past and move on fresh into the future with the lessons that you've learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:29 PM
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This is why I dump men who push for sex early. If he asks for sex or tries to get it on the first through fifth dates I would just dump him. If after that he tries and I make it clear it's not going to happen he better not ask again. Sex doesn't happen when he asks or he pushes, it happens when you're ready and comfortable and you have vetted him sufficiently. Sex happens when you choose, on your own timing and after a high investment date on his part (meaning money and planning).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:19 PM
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I agree with other commoners, that's part of their fetish to violate women's boundaries. BDSM "doms" love that shit. A large portion of them are rapists and they rape women in the BDSM community and the community provides them cover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:13 PM
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This question could be covered by "read the handbook" but I'm going to post it for the discussion. The idea is to always hold something back. Always make him strive and try and work for you and your time, attention and love. Be busy, have your own life, your own friends. Tell him no sometimes to going out and spending time with him, dress up and go out with other people, not him. Have expectations and expect him to meet them. If he stops dressing nicely for you ask him if he's tired or say somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:56 PM
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He has failed. He just bulked at the idea of having to do even a small thing for you because he's not really interested in you. Throw him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:49 PM
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This post was reported for "get your sexist sub off r/all!" Lol! They hate it when we're winning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:46 PM
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Next time laugh in his face and walk out still laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:42 PM
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It's amazing what a rapist mentality these dudes have. "you didn't want me the first time? I'll just keep shoving myself in your face over and over and over again!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:21 PM
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You're really missing the point. You're clearly not the same sort of person that he is. You are really spending a lot of effort defending him when what you wrote about him was seriously damning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:02 PM
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I remember my brother being a filthy pig all through his teenage years and early 20s when he lived with his buddies. Then one day he got his own studio apartment and every single thing in it was spotless and never out of place. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:57 PM
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If he's watching TV instead of watching her then she can get physically injured. That's exactly what I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:57 AM
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Why are you chasing this piece of shit down in an attempt to force him into your daughter's life? Do you really think that's beneficial for her? It's certainly not beneficial for you. I'm sure he's a terribly neglectful parent and she's probably gonna end up getting hurt because of him and she is certainly getting emotionally and physically neglected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:35 AM
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This is a joke right? Wow. Fuck that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:51 AM
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You don't explain this to them. You judge them on their lack of follow through and you dump them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:14 PM
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Try reading the handbook and the wiki. Also there's posts that you can search for on the sub about high value woman traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:12 PM
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We do. We. Do. Dear Lord!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:10 PM
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I really liked her video. Too bad they had it taken down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:57 PM
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He should pay more because you sacrifice more. You're the one improving his life, therefore he should reciprocate financially because men still have more power and more money. Plus they get bitter and resentful if they can't fulfill that role. Same reason you shouldn't be with a man who makes less money than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:53 PM
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After you lost the weight on keto, did you stay keto or are you on some other sort of diet now? Low carb is a really good long-term option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:44 PM
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You should make this into a post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:29 AM
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And trust me, these guys will never decide that you're worthy of his time, entertainment or money no matter how much you fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:22 AM
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He sounds like he doesn't care about you or consent. Definitely don't let him mess with your head, you are not his fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:20 AM
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Yeah he totally blocked you from that guy. I think it's interesting that he had to come back and tell you the guy is in a relationship now he probably wanted to see you hurt and be there for the reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:13 AM
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That guy sounds like an asshole! He made fun of you while you were being abused? You can stop being his friend any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:45 AM
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Yes it is period PCOS has a large metabolic component and controlling your blood sugar will help significantly with weight and many other symptoms of PCOS. If you do have PCOS it's important to get on metformin and also do a low-carb diet (less than 90 grams of carbs per day) which can be difficult but is essential. It's also very important to do at least 30 minutes of exercise every single day because that will also keep your blood sugar down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:42 AM
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I was highlighting that comment and having a large reaction to it for humor. I was not yelling at you. That wasn't directed personally at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:32 AM
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Well I couldn't see whatever comment you were referencing. The link in the original post just goes to all the general comments. I've noticed mobile doesn't link to individual comments anymore. Not sure what changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:26 AM
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Oh shit! I removed it on the assumption of a serious typo. Reinstated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:10 AM
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One in 20 women don't get off from anal? So the other 19 do? I think you messed up your title. If you want to repost go ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:31 AM
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That was a trip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:53 AM
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If they were normal they would be out with the jobs and women and getting attention, having friends and healthy hobbies. So no, they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:28 AM
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Good to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:17 AM
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What if you use a VPN?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:09 AM
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That's literally what they mean. If you don't fuck random dudes on the street the second you lay eyes on them you're conservative now! Also not wanting STDs from randos is conservative. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:09 AM
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Well we all know some butt hurt LVM wrote this! Probably that hideous one that has made like a fifth of posts on Wikipedia or whatever from that post the other day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:08 AM
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Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:58 PM
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Oh my god I choke-laughed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:52 PM
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"bottom line is men are better than women" I couldn't even repeat that line for talk to text to type it out! 😭🤣 They literally can't even wipe their asses, clean their dicks or change their underwear properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:43 PM
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"it may seem doable now" WHAT? HOW? LMAO! STOP SETTLING FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE TOTALLY SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE WITH YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:41 PM
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Of course she got cheated on by the ugliest one. Anyway she dated down looks-wise. Only one of those guys was normal looking, decent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:36 PM
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Oh and I forgot they also still get better care than us anyway. if you want to read about a mindfuck check out the criteria for munchausen's by proxy. It's basically "stay-at-home mother who tries to get treatment for her sick child and won't let you brush her off and therefore I'm mad at her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:45 PM
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If they get shorter doctors visits it's because we ask more questions. That's my bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:59 PM
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Congratulations to us being the top growing sub! 💅🏼🎉🎊🎈🥇🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:58 PM
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I wasn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:55 PM
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There was this abusive guy that I dated one time and at some point I finally got sick of his shit so when I made him do something for me afterward I told him he was my bitch. He didn't like that one little bit. Also had this worthless little fuck buddy who had no respect for me. In the midst of throwing him out of my house he kept refusing to leave and using his greater strength against me. So I told him he had a worthless little dick, that he was selfish in bed, didn't give me any pleasure and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:18 PM
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That is a much better, fairer source. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:07 PM
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Below average men live in their own world to compensate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:37 PM
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That was a great link to gender critical. The site that you linked though really has the with of MRA propaganda with no sources linked that I could find. I live in the US but I've been 50/50 with circumcised and uncircumcised men and I have no interest in being with a man who os circumcised at all ever again because it hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:35 PM
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Less friction and softer. It's like a soft cushion around the outside of their hard erection. Also because of the penis moving inside of the foreskin there is less movement between the foreskin and the vagina thus reducing friction. Circumcised penises also pull natural lubrication out of the vagina while you're having sex, drying your vagina out and increasing friction. (The uncircumcised penis partially moves within the foreskin while the foreskin moves inside of your vagina.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:29 PM
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Instead of getting yourself an imitation diamond-looking stone you could buy an old second-hand ring with a nice diamond, take that diamond and put it in a new setting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:44 PM
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My personal opinion is I prefer uncircumcised men. The sex feels better, it adds to penis thickness, and I like the smell of dick as nature intended. Also hand jobs are easier. But circumcision is nothing equivalent to female genital mutilation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:31 PM
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This has the potential to be a highly brigaded post but I think this is a discussion that we have a right to have amongst ourselves so I'm going to tentatively approve the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:29 PM
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I did the same thing. It's a trauma response. It's not default. I had to finally pull back completely and totally stopped dating and stopped interacting with men. I cut all men out of my life to protect myself and only then did I start to feel better, like I had control again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:10 PM
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You absolutely need to be extra careful since you have that trauma. It makes us far more vulnerable. Do you think that you would be able to get therapy? Or go to a rape support group? If you can't afford therapy a support group is an amazing option and is very helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:03 PM
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The best thing that good boundaries will do for you is put these men off of trying to manipulate you because they won't be able to. Good boundaries are the best offense to abuse. After you've already been raped it's really hard to have good boundaries because you're also dealing with trauma. Having been raped once makes you far more likely to be raped again. One study I read showed that most women who were raped were raped again within the following six months precisely because of trauma respons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:00 PM
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These are literally the women that men look for so that they can rape them and then say that they were "confused" later. the only appropriate response to being confused about consent is to stop completely. A good man will never continue. A rapist will. If you tell a man no he needs to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:55 PM
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Yeah I had to make that rule after men tried to rape me. Never be alone with a man unless you absolutely want to have sex with him. Any male friend that expresses interest in you over time despite you telling him repeatedly that you are not interested will eventually try to rape you. He's literally just waiting for his opportunity. I've had this happen too. Male "friends" are just a bad choice all the way around. If they're not trying to rape you they'll blame you when another man does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:54 PM
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I even judge doctors by their photograph now and it's worked out pretty good for me. You can tell a lot by someone's face, their eyes, the lines on their face, clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:38 PM
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This is rape, not "bad sex".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:27 PM
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We can't do anything about the down voting or upvoting. And we already have automod in place to catch all comments from new people who have not gotten flairs. We review every single one individually. Once a person has a flair their comments are automatically approved and posted. Again we really rely on everyone here to report anything that they see that goes against our rules. Anytime we have new people we're going to have an adjustment period with those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:48 PM
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These types of posts are supposed to be posted to r/FDSsuperFans. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:44 AM
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Lol. This post was reported for "threatens harm against me or someone else". At least they recognize themselves. Doesn't that make them a higher primate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:42 AM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:40 AM
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The 16th state? I have never even heard that even one state recognized pornography as a public health crisis. Clearly the story is being suppressed. I don't think it matters how much harm pornography does, certainly not the harm done to women, men will never let it go. You can see when you try to discuss it with them how reactive and angry they get. It's like we're trying to take away their heroin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:19 AM
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Only if they actually care about you. If he doesn't, he doesn't care. If he does he might care or he might be a user. Evaluate. Evaluate. Evaluate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:15 AM
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Yeah he really just refocused everything on himself with that statement. "No no, you aren't human with emotions, I'm human with emotions. Cater to meeee."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:14 AM
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Never date a man with depression or some other untreated mental illness. He'll only dump it on you. He's using you and he's sucking you dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:12 AM
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Thank you for sharing that video link, it was kind of cathartic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:09 AM
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The pickme friend that I ditched was ultimately a piece of work, but I ignored it because I wasn't insecure like she was. I still can't figure out why she was insecure and don't understand it at all. It took me years after the friendship ended to even realize it. She was gorgeous, accomplished and had a wonderful sparkling personality and was very intelligent. She encouraged me to date a guy she knew was mentally unstable and it blew up spectacularly. I think that was to get back at me somehow. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:54 AM
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That's a setting on your end. You can choose hot or new in the drop-down menu at the top of the sub. We don't choose, they just get posted once they're approved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:17 AM
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We have been removing comments very aggressively lately for exactly this reason. A pickme or a troll might come on and make a comment then get seventy upvotes and some awards from lurking LVMs. Please just report this when you see it happening so we can take care of it. We are discussing in the mod chat now how to deal with all of this and move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:45 PM
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Well we like the memes. We want to have some so that we can have some irreverent fun on our sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:36 PM
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We have been cutting down somewhat on the memes. Part of growing is that we will be getting new people who are pickmes and don't understand FDS. Just report comments and posts that you don't think fit and we will look them over. It's just something we're going to continually deal with in this community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:31 PM
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I think this is a fantastic way to test a man to see if he will be sexually abusive or pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:53 PM
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Don't do that. Don't go to the dinner. They're not worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:40 PM
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No. Just say no. He knows what he's doing and he will step it up if he's truly interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:30 PM
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Yeah he is certainly not out in the sun or working out! And check out that horrible posture...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:29 PM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:28 PM
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Sounds more like he wants a dog. When they say they want a woman who's always happy and sweet they mean takes all my shit and is always nice about it and never calls me on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:27 PM
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You can't meet new better quality friends until you make space by getting rid of the old ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:26 PM
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A high value man is not going to be want to be around a woman who has pickme friends. He is going to judge her by her friends, just as you would judge him if he was friends with a group of LVMs. He's not going to want to hear about their pickme LVM drama. He's not going to want to introduce them to his high value male friends or have them in his social life. Also that pickme, she's going to hit on your HVM, or try to break you up or make up lies about you. Why would you keep someone around who d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:16 PM
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I agree. This is clearly a big red flag! He's a rapist and he prioritizes solely his pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:27 PM
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"HiS LoVe LaNgUaGe iS ToUcH!" Sounds like his love language is rape and sex addiction. What do you want to bet she doesn't even get to orgasm once. Or get foreplay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:24 PM
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It's also pretty hilarious that now that people have figured this out suddenly IQ tests are meaningless. 🤷‍♀️ Just like primary, secondary and tertiary school is now totally "biased in women's favor" because women are doing so well in comparison to men when schooling was actually designed for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:22 PM
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As far as I'm concerned the LVMs can have whatever expectation they choose to have and its literally not my concern. Lol. They can think they're gonna get whatever they want to think they're going to get, doesn't mean I'm gonna give them anything. I'm certainly not paying for a date to sit with one of these dudes who would think that I owe him my body for the cost of a $30 meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:08 PM
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Dump them and find better smarter friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:03 PM
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This is a great distinction. Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:58 PM
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Yikes! Yeah it was from The Gift of Fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:56 PM
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Yeah that gym is only open 6 a.m. to 12 midnight what other time could he possibly go! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:13 PM
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While also using ladies night to find drunk women to rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:10 PM
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And you know in this rule had to be made in response to men using the gym as a place to creep on those poor women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:09 PM
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"Tonight" is never an acceptable time for a date. Three days or more in advance or you're busy. Handbook. We don't drop everything to come running. It also takes us time to get ready for dates. He doesn't respect you if he does this to you and he never will. What tonight means is that he already hit up other women he was more interested in seeing and none of them agreed so here you are last minute to fill in. Don't be his last minute last choice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:06 PM
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Big mistake. If a guy doesn't like me enough or have balls enough to come and speak to me then I don't care about anything to do with him. I want a man. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:01 PM
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Dear God! Dodged a bullet! Yikes! I forget what it's called but that thing men do where they say you can trust me and what they mean is you can't trust me or I'm going to protect you and what they mean is they will not. Where they give them themselves away by making these random statements unprompted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:00 PM
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She's in denial and has never been with a dude with a micro dick or a little three inch finger dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:11 PM
5

Have you ever been with someone with a two or three inch penis that's the width of a finger? I'm guessing not or you would care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:11 PM
66

The only time I made the first move the dude dicked me around for months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:07 PM
2

I'm not going to post this because this could be covered by read the handbook. This dude sounds annoying AF and I would not consider dating him. Men who cry inappropriately are usually manipulating or have emotional issues. You won't have fun in that relationship. Plus if he was really high value he would treat his mental illness before trying to get into a relationship with someone that he respected and was serious about. That shows that he doesn't respect you or himself or care about giving yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:01 PM
77

Just imagine thinking you have no right to the proof that he actually took the test and is clean because you should TrUsT HiM 🤦‍♀️ Anyway this dude is just using her. He has no problem lying to her and putting her at risk. Those are all big red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:55 PM
7

Great! Definitely share it to FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:51 AM
71

Lol I can smell the small finger dick male LARPing as a woman. Adding: if I've got to fuck it to get my pleasure then it's got to be big enough for me to feel. If some dude with a little finger dick wants to get on in life he better learn how to get really fucking skilled with his hands and his mouth and make a woman cum with that. And even that's really just barely sufficient but not fully satisfying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:35 AM
9

Imagine a man like this being allowed to be unsupervised with a room of kindergarten age children. His mentality hasn't even progressed beyond theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:46 AM
5

My first thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:46 AM
9

Yes you did do the right thing. He was probably just another one of these dudes who wants to have sex with his female friends. He just probably couldn't get in your pants without commitment faking. In the future never say that you love the man first. Make him come out and say it first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:36 AM
1

I think this is girlfriend things and you're not his girlfriend. You've only been on four dates. I think that that's premature but maybe he's testing you for girlfriend material. It would be interesting to see him with his friends and judge him and learn more about him there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:25 AM
4

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:17 AM
11

Can you link us? I would love to check it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:54 AM
42

Imagine kissing this dude with his flaky lips. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:49 AM
81

Dollars to donuts this dude has never given her an orgasm but has no problem with asking for even more all for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:12 AM
30

There are men in the notes really trying to find some way to support this guy and all they've got is coronavirus. I've never seen a bunch of men hand wringing over a virus like old ladies that fell for scare mongering before. It's amazing how delicate men become whenever a woman wants to have some independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:55 AM
50

So when are we going to be able to bring these men up on attempted murder charges, assault and sexual abuse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:04 PM
45

If you had said 20 years ago this was going to be a thing that would be happening nobody would have believed you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:03 PM
1

He's literally calling women stupid and putting us down. Is that an attractive feature? This is pure LVM bitter douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:20 PM
7

This was pretty damn funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:13 PM
4

The truth is he was just not that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:06 PM
2

Get involved in your life. Go to some classes for a hobby, the gym, spend time with friends etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:04 PM
3

The part where he won't introduce his girlfriend to the players at team meets and stuff is ... Interesting to say the least. He's either fucking the teenage girls or he's trying to. oh yeah an extra points for watching porn on Valentine's day and their anniversary and this woman excusing it. Very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:43 PM
25

Those facial hair styles and names! Omg!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:15 AM
13

That could have been me if I had stayed with one of my boyfriends. Gag! Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:46 AM
16

Shocking. I didn't think Reddit pickme's had a limit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:56 AM
110

I love all the pickmes falling over themselves in the notes to say that the $5 ring isn't the problem just all the other shit. I'm sorry! The $5 ring absolutely is a fucking problem! One of many. I can't believe that women have been pushed against a wall to the degree that we're not even allowed to want an actual engagement ring anymore something that's supposed to last us for the rest of our lives and be a symbol of this man's love. This sub and all of the unapologetic outspoken women here have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:38 PM
56

So he got her a $5 shut-up ring and tried to pass it off as Tiffany's but he can spend three grand on his shit. My favorite part is how she wants him to tell her why he did it. Um, because he doesn't love you. He doesn't even like you. He actually thinks you're an idiot that'll put up with anything including a $5 ring and he doesn't respect you at all because you don't respect yourself. And don't worry, it's just a placeholder ring because he's never thought about marrying you before and thus ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:00 PM
19

Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:40 PM
172

This right here also counts as financial abuse. He put her in a position where she can't save, can't leave, can't be independent and is wasting money paying for things she doesn't need that he wants (housing).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:40 PM
18

LVMs always trying to get maximum benefit and commitment for zero investment on their part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:34 PM
23

Why are you packing his fucking lunches like he's a little kid going off to school for the day? This is up there with laundering his panties. Never going to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:53 PM
85

Yes she needs an attorney! The whole idea of behind alimony was that the woman gave up her life and prospects to take care of this man and have his kids. This dude just sat on the couch and abused her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:23 PM
19

Clearly this dude hates her. He probably also wants to get rid of the frogs so she can focus completely on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:06 PM
2

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:40 PM
39

I did that once and the guy tried to attack me then cried. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:21 PM
32

Also chances with rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:05 PM
13

Well we know most are women so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:04 PM
16

Absolutely. I'll have one with dinner and draw it out. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:13 AM
32

I hate that. Such a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:59 AM
44

True. I was just wondering if he drugged her too. Although essentially he did. Let's all take a moment to remember that the most popular date rape drug is alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:36 AM
111

Complete with "accidental anal".... Bullshit he didn't know she was drunk off her ass. Also I'm really not sure how you black out after a bottle of wine. I have shit for tolerance but I can drink a bottle. I'll definitely be drunk but I'll remember everything that happened. This is so messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:25 AM
11

That's so evil that your family did. that to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:52 AM
3

Scapegoating is horrible. I was also the scapegoat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:51 AM
7

They're not he just has a tiny dick and is insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:52 AM
8

Yes they do lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:10 AM
32

His tiny penises intimidated by her threat to his masculinity for making a good point while being a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:52 PM
33

Would men murder less people or more people if they started happening all the time? You know how they claim they murder people because they don't get compliments or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:50 PM
47

I would just turn it back on them later and then stare at them silently. Life is too short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:47 PM
17

Wow he's such a nice guy being impressed by a lowly woman (I can smell the subpar intelligence and insecurity from here) and then immediately trying to regain control by reminding everybody about her looks thus degrading her. And then he badmouths her to everyone. Triangulation. So "nice".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:45 PM
12

Yeah my mother gaslighted the shit out of me about all of the abuse when I was a childhood which made me a very easy target. Their voice gets in your head and it becomes your voice in your own head, gaslighting you. I had a boyfriend who attacked me and when I got away and I called her and told her about it she said it was my fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:33 PM
18

Anger at abuse and injustice is what allows us to stand up and overcome. To fight. Without anger you roll over and die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:30 PM
10

For your own health I would recommend ditching all those fuckers. When people screw you over they don't get to keep a space at your table. Plus you will basically be validating your own self and protecting yourself, nothing is better for you than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:28 PM
11

Absolutely. Everyone covers for that guy from the cops to the neighbors. Every time everyone talks about how wonderful he was after he murders the woman. Everyone continually pushes her back into his arms telling her to compromise and communicate. And that's not even touching on how many women lose their jobs for being abused or their home which pushes them back to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:26 PM
94

Of course they played her off like a selfish, crazy bitch for this but this was the first time I ever liked Jackie! I was so in her corner for that scene!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:23 PM
28

So now we have to plan the dates pay for the dates pursue the guy proposed to the guy and work have the children and clean the house? What the hell is the man going to do? I guess masturbate to porn and tell you what a dead weight you are around his neck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:20 PM
5

If I see a guy with a decent build and height or more and he's confident, if he's white I know he's probably got a seven or eight inch dick and if he's black probably 10 inches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:29 PM
5

Join groups. Running groups, biking groups, tennis groups, hiking groups... what have you. You could try coed sports teams like soccer or baseball, basketball anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:14 PM
7

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:09 PM
13

I can't believe people are acting like a bachelor's degree is elitist. That's ground floor, right along with being healthy, normal and good in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:46 PM
2

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:32 PM
73

They are angry because nobody wants them with their kids from their last marriage. You would just end up being a replacement mommy for a lazy POS who doesn't want to parent his own children. I can't date people without a sufficient education and I also don't want someone who already has kids. Or an ex wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:29 PM
37

That's just absolutely crazy she would do that as soon as you had a baby. She knew that you were in a position where you were vulnerable and she wanted to get back at you for having a happy marriage. What a freak. I had one of these. She ditched me after I was raped. But three years later when her abusive relationship was on the rocks she wanted me to be her shoulder to cry on. On top of everything she was a damn alcoholic and her first idea to hang out was to come to my house and get shitfaced,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:18 PM
2

How do you "accidentally" have sex with someone repeatedly? You need to be honest with yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:44 AM
12

"i'M A gOoD GuY yOu SlUtS!" -This guy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 08:37 AM
7

Well it was something that I wasn't aware that I was doing until the last few years when I finally allowed myself to totally step away from men and re-evaluate everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:39 AM
-2

And short
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:36 AM
-5

Well your kids won't appreciate that when they're short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:05 AM
18

I've tended to pick smaller men because I like a man with less of an advantage of he tries to beat me. I'm small enough as it is. Physically I am much more attracted to taller, bigger men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:01 AM
1

No. The more money a woman makes the higher her prospects and the more she can ask of a suiter. A woman should always try to max out on finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:36 AM
1

1% maybe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:35 AM
1

Oh I meant to correct that part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:30 AM
6

This is terrible. You are going to end up supporting your 31 year old house husband bf who has never told you that he loves you which at six months is just absurd. And the fact that he said it'd be great to have someone support him when he moved home is also absurd. He's 31! He needs to support himself, not wrangling some 24-year-old woman to do it for him. If a man ever said that to me I'd laugh at him. And this getting a dog bullshit, that's not some high ideal goal. You can get a dog with any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:46 AM
1

Yes. Unless it's one or two hours a week. Other than that adult should have healthy hobbies like exercising and getting it into the outdoors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:34 AM
1

I'm sure that he could have worked in some time to be with you. I wouldn't be happy with this either. I would go quiet for a while and wait for him to reach out and then still ignore him a little bit to see if he tries to make it up to you, if not, goodbye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:31 AM
5

This is ridiculous. if he hasn't seen her in a month and won't make time for her over his dumb guy friends then he's not that into her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:26 AM
4

This is like telling a man with a 10 inch dick that he needs to be with a woman who has some medical issue that makes her vagina 2 inches long. Would never happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:51 AM
108

He's looking to cheat with old girlfriends while his girlfriend is out of the country. You should send her screen caps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:10 PM
3

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:08 PM
17

It's just about blaming the woman. Everything in patriarchy is about shifting blame to the woman. It's gaslighting, it's crazy making, and in the end it's abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:46 PM
3

Either way though we still get judged by our friendships. It's hard to level up by clingers hanging on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:42 PM
5

Trust me they know that's exactly why they beat us up. The majority of men at heart are deeply cowardly and weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:39 PM
5

They got some of it. But I think they missed a little too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:01 PM
6

I think we've really lost sight of thinking about the future. It's very important in dating. Discounting the importance of what sort of children you might have or raise with this person leads to many women who end up with these awful men and then they end up with girls messed up from being abused or boys that are misogynist porn addicts. At least you might have a chance if you hook up with somebody good of raising decent children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:46 PM
42

Regret is a wasted emotion. Beyond the point where it helps you do better in the future, it's just a way to hurt yourself. Stop beating yourself up for something that you can't change. You can only go forward from here with the lessons that you've learned. The important part about not letting someone treat you poorly is that when you set up those boundaries they usually take themselves out of your life because they want someone they can control, abuse or run roughshod over. Some will treat the n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:14 PM
33

And the advice they're giving her. "Talk to him again!" She's already spoken to him repeatedly and he doesn't care. They're shaming her. This is ridiculous. "Call him out". Anyway he's violating her consent and then when she tries to talk to him about it he throws a pity party to flip the script and make himself the victim and make her comfort him. This is abuse and this is manipulation and this is an indication that he does not respect consent and men who don't respect consent rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:11 PM
9

It's about being high value all the way around. That includes genetics. It's about being physically healthy, mentally healthy, attractive, a good height, but it's also about their character, personality, how they choose to live their lives, their work ethic etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:07 PM
11

This is good but it's definitely libfem. They forgot to mention all the pressure on women to be more sexual and to do more nasty things and they also forgot about the pressure on women to show more skin, not just less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:02 PM
4

Make sure to report all those people too! Every comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:12 PM
12

Well she's settled for whack dick and whack stroke and she wants everyone else to do it too because she's unhappy. I just can't see any other reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:07 PM
0

Hun, if you're rooting around outside of someone's pants trying to find their penis, it's small. Nobody's gonna miss an 8 or 10 inch dick because the dude is wearing jeans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:22 AM
48

Any comment that needs to be reported should be reported. If you see a hundred of them report a hundred of them. These comments are just not acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:41 AM
91

Pickmes, incels... 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:26 AM
4

Man, I know because I used to do the exact same thing. And it always ends in the same sort of one-sided friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:24 AM
92

Just keep reporting them so that the mods can take care of those comments! We have influxes of new people and they bring this trash with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:14 AM
2

I know a girl who's rapists shamed her for not using condoms when he raped her like that made it ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:53 AM
15

You could try some women's networking events. Fankly you can make friends anywhere. The only way that you can make new friends is by dropping the old ones. I've done it multiple times and had no friends for a month to a couple months. You can make friends at all sorts of classes too. Heck, I just started hanging out at this one coffee shop every day to do school work and ended up making a bunch of friends. I also made friends at a hiking Meetup group. Another time I made friends at an art walk w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:42 AM
40

You have to ditch your pickme LVW girlfriends in order to level up because this is the sort of stuff they pull. It's a hard truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:26 AM
30

You know the one thing I have noticed with all of these horrible stories here on Reddit is the dude is always significantly older than the woman. In all my time on here I've seen maybe two horrible stories where the man and woman were the same age or one year apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:22 AM
3

Yeah they are since other women have already snatched them up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:09 AM
14

Lol. The first comment is we should tell abusers to change. Abusers don't change. Rapists don't change. Pedophiles don't change. Men don't change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:09 AM
7

Because that's his job. He's the one who used your time. He should pay for it. He asked you out. Guaranteed you spent more of your time getting ready than going to this date then he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:07 AM
103

Yeah they don't tell you because they don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:03 AM
10

I noticed that orgasms isn't on his short list. Fucktard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 01:44 AM
3

So he sort of locked you down sexually before you went on your study abroad but he isn't committed to you? Nah! Enjoy your study abroad! This is BS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:50 AM
9

Well with that description they're going to be looking at most men over 30! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:43 AM
13

It is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:36 AM
17

This type don't usually stop when you say to. They're the rapist type. The ones who think they don't have to listen to you, don't care about you, are fine hurting you etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:30 AM
48

They do it on purpose. I had a guy who "leaned how to rub the g spot" (from porn smh) and he would just scratch the front wall of my vagina. When I tried to show him how to actually do it, the fuck actually argued with me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:01 PM
59

How about when you try to move their misplaced hand to your clit and they grip harder and fight you. Honestly low value men are just dumb, ego-driven trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:08 PM
8

Because those are the only women men care about being murdered because they didn't get to fuck her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:43 PM
88

Honestly! Even oral from most men is like they're trying to sand your clit off of your body. 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:11 PM
2

I'm sorry but I'm going to have to remove this post. in order to not feed the trolls that harass our followers we don't post these messages here. Anytime these men send personal messages to you and you want to make fun of them we have a sub for that! It's called r/FDSsuperFans!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:38 PM
43

These are all true but these are already either rape or attempted rape. And yes I consider trying to coerce someone into sex attempted rape. Because it is. Because if they succeed in coercing you into sex it's rape therefore the attempt to coerce you as attempted rape. We should talk about signs he's not somebody who respects consent or you when you're on a date with him. I would say touching you more than say just on the hand casually, especially in any sort of inappropriate way, touching you m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:36 PM
129

This reminds me of the dudes who "rub your clit" but actually they're rubbing like to the side of your clit so the upper part of your labia or even your inner thigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:25 PM
11

Sounds promising!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:05 AM
5

Your comment made me laugh but you're right, she would just be taking out the trash. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:55 AM
8

Just imagine the sickness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:54 AM
11

No they're the freaks. All the normal people wash their sheets every week. I also change out my pillowcase twice a week at least. People are nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:53 AM
4

Throw the boyfriend out instead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:50 AM
5

This is why if they won't come up and make the first move and speak to me I'm not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:25 AM
16

This was fascinating. Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:21 AM
1

Perfect idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:39 PM
3

Yeah we're not there yet. I'm not sure we'd go that far. Some of us think that under some circumstances it could be okay. Maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:02 PM
16

Part of me says report all of them. But part of me also knows that might come back on you and threaten your job. But notice how they're all having his back for abusing you like this. Absolutely unacceptable. Start documenting everything. Also that guy that came into your office was pretending to be your friend while fishing for information and trying to get you in trouble. I wouldn't say one more word to anyone who speaks to you or they might use it to say you're causing problems and threaten yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:00 PM
6

"punish him with the whip of your indifference" That's one of my all-time favorites. We should have a flair for FDS motto!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:24 PM
6

Yeah that too. It's fucking sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:23 PM
50

I think it depends on the sort of man you are trying to attract. You can be a high value woman and simply dress nice but not wear heels and makeup. You can be a high value woman and have wrinkles as you age. You don't have to look like a supermodel or a porn star. And in fact I think that might even be a disadvantage as there are studies showing that the more skin you show and the more makeup you wear the less men take a woman serious. The less they see her as a human being, and the less they re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:21 PM
11

I forgot to add that in LVM speak "easy to talk to" means doesn't seem to have any judgments about anything that I have to say and just goes along with whatever and thinks it's okay. That's definitely not something to want to be. LVMs love that because they know that they can manipulate you. It's the reason they go after very young women and the reason they love pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:07 PM
29

The problem is where most of these women are doing it and it's not to maximum benefit for themselves. If you're older and you want men that date you, take you out, treat you well, entertain you, give you really good sex, and you want to have multiple men doing that and not have a relationship and not have a man living in your house, some of us do support that. Depends on the benefits you're getting from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:05 PM
30

If they're not ready to level up then mostly they filter out of the sub when they get pissed off and triggered. You're welcome! It is a lot of work but we're definitely here because we love FDS and we believe in it and we want to have this space for women. It's just so important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:10 PM
13

This is exactly why you don't play along with what men want and end up doing things you don't like for them. You're just left feeling resentful for getting screwed over one more time. You're also setting a terrible precedent for the entire relationship. Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:59 PM
5

It's because they know that they are LVMs and they know they're lying to you, manipulating you and playing you. So when you fall for their shit they lose all respect for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:51 PM
100

Absolutely. Respond to them. Direct them to the handbook. But please don't get into long drawn-out back and forth argument. Maybe engage them once or twice and then drop it. Most importantly though is report them so the mods can deal with it. We can label people pickmeisha, remove their comments, we can also ban or give two-day time-out bans for not reading the handbook. We are growing very very fast and it takes a lot of work to stay on top of the flood of pickmes that are joining. Personally, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:37 PM
14

This is just horrifying. There's a history of men doing stuff like this to get a woman raped to get back at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:24 PM
6

This is the exact attitude you should have. "Not my monkey, not my circus."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:15 PM
3

That is absolutely the only appropriate response to these sorts of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:14 PM
37

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:52 PM
177

If you go a whole other level, it's also men giving this advice often. It's abusive men telling women to "just talk" to the guy who's abusing them that they've already spoken to. They're operating to give all men that maximum benefit and to gaslight women. I'm a moderator here and I can't tell you how many MRAs and incels I see subbed at all of the dating and relationship subs when I go to block them. They are very active on Reddit telling women to put up with more abuse. This is precisely why I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:48 AM
76

Even when the woman has repeatedly spoken to the man they'll still tell her to talk to him again. It's completely ridiculous. It's just more gaslighting of women so that we will stay in abusive relationships and serve men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:44 AM
67

I would say go cold turkey for a while until you feel some natural arousal and then try to have some fantasies. It takes time to be able to have fantasies that you enjoy and orgasm from them. The key is not to force anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:37 AM
37

Gosh they found a way to push even more women off of OLD! LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:34 AM
50

Cut your losses. This guy is a joke. He likes you because you're "easy to talk to"? A pillow is easy to talk to. Just the fact that you ended up apologizing to him you've already lost all your power in this relationship and you should cut your losses by leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:33 AM
14

I am answering as a moderator of this sub. The official stance of this sub is anti-porn and anti-BDSM. We do not support polyamory, we do not support women prostituting themselves. All of this is anti-woman and anti-max female benefit. You can have whatever opinion you want but you don't get to talk about it here. If you want to talk about polyamory or porn or BDSM then you need to go to a different sub where you can discuss those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:14 AM
3

His opener was a red flag. Could have saved yourself all of this trouble! You're gorgeous or hey gorgeous are such typical LVM openers it's a joke on the sub. Also calling you baby right away when he doesn't know you is too familiar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:56 AM
2

Obviously they want her out of this relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:37 AM
1

Yeah that's how you end up in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:04 AM
3

Well you can know a low value man by the way he devalues raising a child properly, cooking healthy food and cleaning a house. making sure your child can speak and interact with other human beings is a waste of time apparently. Just shove him in front of the TV like this dude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:55 AM
10

Male feminism in a nutshell. If any man starts assuring me that I deserve human rights and I'm really a human being I just give them the side eye. I wonder if he pays that much bs lip service to the sky about it being blue?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:44 AM
3

Oh they all push it as an intellectually superior way to exist! You see, you're loving multiple people which means you're a better person than somebody who only loves one person. Or something. Anyway, none other weird hookups seem to last more than a couple of months but it LoVe. Gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:38 AM
2

Isn't it nice? It's a relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:34 AM
2

Typical LVM manipulation. "you want me to not fuck other women??? That's so toxic and insecure!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:00 AM
3

What sort of questions might you ask to subtly lead them to reveal if they have addictions or mommy issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:25 AM
3

This is the only way. Shut up and they will reveal their nastiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:24 AM
6

It's my favorite thing to do. Just sit there quietly and let them spill their guts... and all their red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:13 AM
51

She did level up! Don't feel bad about speaking the truth about your dad. If he didn't try and he just let your mom do everything he is a bad person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:54 AM
56

Wow! I wouldn't. It's true. You nursed him and instead of being nice to you he's turning around and being even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:07 PM
28

Your boss doesn't really sound too serious about talking to him. Saying you should wait several weeks to see if this dude's behavior improves? Shouldn't he reign it in immediately after being spoken to by his boss? Kind of sounds like he just isn't even going to talk to the guy and just hope he stops and the next few weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:43 PM
87

It's a shame that you didn't leave him when he got diagnosed, maybe he would have died without you. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:36 PM
15

"A few minutes of FDS a day keeps the LVMs away." This should be our new motto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:30 PM
25

I'm shocked he was able to hold back 6 months (assuming he's known from the beginning but maybe I'm wrong). That means he knew it was wrong but his dick got the better of him in the end. Smh I hope she leaves and never looks back. All the men screaming that there's no harm in asking as long as he accepts no for an answer. That's not how things work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:16 PM
15

Oh they know. The goal is silence. Looks like they're downloading this post now. Must be sad to have so little control in your life to the point that your goal is just abusing and silencing women on the internet because you can't get close enough to one in real life to do it and take your angst about your lack of masculinity out on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:14 PM
9

Where people come on the sub and downvte everything in droves to make it look like the posts aren't popular. Or where someone links to a particular post and a bunch of people downvote it or leave abusive comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:10 PM
75

Yeah he totally asked for sex with another woman to fulfill his porno fantasy because the two of them are really secure and he totally respects her! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:52 AM
6

Ahh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:55 AM
6

Oh god what are the brahmin scrotes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:37 AM
50

Also look up penile subincision. Not a medical thing but if you're looking for a graphic picture to send a man as punishment, you won't be disappointed. Dear God I looked up testicular necrotizing fasciitis. That's worse. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:28 AM
4

Men really are sick twisted animals. Women just aren't out committing these atrocities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:23 AM
29

This is really lovely! Thank you for your support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:21 AM
31

Oh that's when they make nasty comments and it gets removed before you have to see it. The mods doing a good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:20 AM
2

That 40% wife beating rate is a fact
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:49 AM
49

"What about my right to privately cheat on you and give you STDs!" That's not your private right if you're coming anywhere near my body. Die mad about it. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:46 AM
2

Wow. Broken dick is suck a deal breaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:11 AM
19

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:10 AM
5

I'm going to add being interested in sex with you for the first three to six months of the relationship and then suddenly losing interest. Losing ability to get erect or stay erect or losing an erection before ejaculation. And then he might also start nagging you for wanting to actually sleep with him. "It's always about sex with you." "You don't actually love me. You just want sex."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:48 AM
5

I've had similar experiences with men who don't use porn and also don't masturbate. They get so fucking hard and they can fuck so much more. It's so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:46 AM
22

I just checked it out and yes it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:31 AM
8

Is it also about making sure that the woman can't go on to be happy without him and find another man? They also have a penchant murdering the children and leaving the wife alone without her kids because he wants her to feel like it's her fault that her kids are dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:19 AM
3

Because that would leave her free to move on without him, with her children, and find another man and possibly be happy. He wants to kill himself but that's just not enough control for him. He's got to take the wife and the kids with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:17 AM
0

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:13 AM
2

Yeah you know there is no refund coming because that never happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:12 AM
5

Honestly kick him in the testicles and then divorce him. Or invite a hot younger man over and fuck the dude in your bed and let Dbag find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:09 AM
9

Welcome to polyamory 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:14 AM
12

Only if they are a 16 year old virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:13 AM
6

Tell him to ejaculate in his hand. Trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:05 AM
39

Stop talking to pickmes. They don't make good friends. They won't have your back. They give horrible advice. And mostly they'll just tire you out with their relationship bullshit. Level up your friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:52 AM
15

Some of them will rape you the first time they get the chance. If they're repeatedly showing interest in you and you are repeatedly telling them you're not interested or showing them you're not interested eventually they'll get their chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:47 AM
23

I screamed out loud when I read this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:27 PM
100

Oh my god people, have sex with a fucking condom! And if you're in a relationship and not using condoms make them pull out. He can cum in his hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:53 PM
7

Just facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:25 PM
2

I think the idea here is to pull away a little bit and be a little less available. Take longer to get back to his texts, be busy with other people but be vague with whom, dress up and go out... Make him think there could possibly be someone else and that he might want to lock you down if that's what he wants. You could even buy yourself a new dress appropriate for a nice dinner date but not too fancy, and then leave it lying out in your living room with the tag still on when he comes over to pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:24 PM
5

I hate to tell you this but military is another red flag. They're generally highly abusive. Like cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:52 PM
3

This. She already told him no sex until exclusivity so he knows what he needs to do if he wants to lock this down. But instead of doing that he'd rather go about it this way and get her exclusivity without commitment and without exclusivity on his part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:48 PM
4

He's insecure and he's taking a decade to you instead of talking to you like an adult. He's also fishing for information that isn't his because you're not in a relationship yet. More than anything though is that age gap. Why is a man who's almost 30 going after someone who's 20 essentially? Certainly not for a good reason. Comments like that aren't just going to go away. Eventually he's going to escalate to accusing you of cheating. He'll probably never believe that you aren't. Or it's just a ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:47 PM
2

Personally I can't because of the cost. Stuff like that would be hundreds to thousands of dollars where I live. I live in a high cost of living area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:40 PM
6

Start by reading the handbook and there's also a further reading list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:35 PM
13

You wouldn't believe the number of stories I have read where the man takes the woman's children back to his Muslim country. If they are girls he marries them off at 13 or 9. One of the women who this was done to as a girl actually was able to escape and she wrote a biography about it. It was absolutely horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:21 PM
12

She's been a secret girlfriend for two years. Women need to fight this immense desire to come up with any sort of excuse for a man's behavior. I see women inventing whole backgrounds stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:17 PM
2

That could explain why he doesn't tell his family but why wouldn't he tell his friends and co-workers in the US? That doesn't fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:15 PM
8

What in the fucking world gets into these women's heads that they agree to be a secret girlfriend? "He just doesn't want people in his business, that's why no one in his life knows I even exist. You see, it makes perfect sense!" There's no chance this dude isn't fucking other women. I bet he goes out to clubs on the weekends with his guys looking for other women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:08 PM
1

You could screen cap it and open it in another app that allows you to color over the writing with black?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:03 PM
9

Add in poor diet, poor health and no exercise and you've got the Dick Death Trifecta: age, porn use, and poor health and fitness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:54 PM
7

I agree. Dump them or just fuck someone else. She could be fucking men in their twenties that can lay the dick down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:48 PM
2

Lol! For me I could have him do some of the stuff I have to normally do like trimming the damn trees and putting down bark in my yard. I'm getting really tired of doing it myself. But that's it. If he doesn't pamper me he doesn't really have any worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:51 AM
2

I am so relieved to hear that. You sounded so unhappy. So it's only been one month and he's pressuring you into a relationship? That's a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:38 AM
1

My father was abusive. My mother wouldn't talk about it. She would actually try to talk him up. It became another layer of the gaslighting which turned into a lifelong struggle for me, particularly when dealing with anybody who's abusive. It's exposed me to terrible situations with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:53 AM
5

Lol good luck with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:51 AM
8

So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:31 AM
26

It doesn't sound like you actually want to date this person. I think it's pretty obvious you should turn him down if you're not actually interested. He could always continue to date and pursue you and try to offer you more, If you're even interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:09 PM
16

This guy wants to be with you "for sex and the girlfriend experience"? I'm very confused by this. He doesn't want to actually be with you, he just wants to have sex with someone and get girlfriend benefits? Why would you agree to that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:01 PM
56

He's just sitting back and enjoying the free, no effort sex that he's getting from this woman like a Pickmeisha Sex Uber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:21 PM
2

So that plus the weight of her husband means she lost like 300 pounds! Good for her! I have known quite a few women who lose a bunch of weight when they get rid of their dead weight worthless husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:55 PM
1

Sadly...it's a fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:52 PM
1

Fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:51 PM
8

I'm out for depression as well. Those meds give men ED. I'm not getting into a relationship with someone who's dick doesn't work. That and I had a close male friend who was an Eeyore Debbie Downer sad sack and all I have to say is never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:19 PM
1

If you hate it so much you can find the door. This might just not be the sub for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:11 PM
10

I also regret every second chance I ever gave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:55 PM
3

Is just called lying. Gaslighting is a sustained campaign where you cause somebody to question their sanity and memory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:21 PM
2

It's scrotation because most of them turn out to be low value when they reveal themselves after the first second or third date, or further on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:59 PM
6

Yeah that didn't happen. As a mod I can tell you there are tons of pickmes every day that get triggered. I think obviously she has an insecurity about being a stay-at-home mom and she got triggered and defensive and took it out on the sub instead of realizing that that's her personal emotional issue. No one here has anything against stay-at-home moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:57 PM
8

"just like incels" Meanwhile over in women's actual lives... we're beating off the LVMs with a stick left and right for 40 years. "It causes women to generalize men (the absolute horror!), possibly even worse." Like not dating these pieces of shit? 😯😮🤯 It's the worst abuse and oppression the world has ever experienced! We must stop it now! LMAO Very similar to how they react when you speak out against porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:51 PM
23

I'm guessing BPD is mgtow for "woman who has any emotions at all and I don't want to deal with them".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:10 AM
62

I would absolutely tell a man that a real man brings his sexual energy to his woman. He doesn't waste it on fake porno and chronic masturbation to the point that he can't get or keep an erection with an actual woman. That's pathetic and embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:07 AM
1

So you're countering my argument, which is something men do fairly regularly to women, with outlandish arguments that either don't happen or hardly ever could possibly happen. Stellar argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:37 PM
4

What about if he choose to clean out your joint account and leave you without warning?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:34 PM
0

Well you're failing to protect yourself and just assuming that the man that you're marrying is not going to screw you over. it's not a risk any mature adult should be taking You should always be protecting yourself. 50% of men cheat. Usually after you have your first kid. A lot of men when they decide to leave the woman for another woman they clean out the accounts. Sometimes they even get credit cards in your name and run them up. it's very common. If you have a joint account you're not protect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:04 PM
5

I would never make out with a man on only the second date. He still knows that you don't know him from Adam, he knows he's only showing you the best and probably playing you, and here you are sucking face with him. I think you would lose value in his eyes as a conquest. Probably would lose respect for you too for falling for his games/false front so quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 PM
3

Correct. It's a reversal defensive move because she's sniffed him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:17 PM
3

He really just tried that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:14 PM
2

Dear god! That's nothing less than attempted rape by manipulation. Sick bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:44 PM
13

Men that have high-end stressful careers and make a lot of money typically go for women like this. They want a wife who is working as a secretary or who teaches fitness classes, maybe an elementary school teacher... Someone that is free to be pushed into devoting her entire life to him and doesn't actually have a career to advance in and future goals that would get in the way of making her his bangmaid, like you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:41 PM
1

Plus it leaves them no chance of saving adequately for retirement. No financial protection for their future. Probably extremely reduced or non-existent ability to leave the relationship if she has to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:20 PM
1

You don't get a joint account. That's how you get screwed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:15 PM
4

Don't forget also be a maid and have his children!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:09 PM
11

Absolutely not. You will always be putting more into the relationship than him. Especially when you factor in having children and all the financial and physical losses that entails. FDS isn't about 50/50 or false equality. It's about getting the best for ourselves and what we deserve and thinking outside of societies sexist expectations that are skewed to favor men. We come to this sub to learn how to best protect ourselves from getting screwed over by men and clearly we need to do a lot of work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:04 PM
6

Unfortunately what they do when they become the house husband is play video games and often become porn addicts. They're also significantly more likely to cheat with all that free time and privacy. Most don't actually become good fathers that do even a fraction of what mothers. Kids are far more likely to be injured due to lack of supervision, emotionally or physically neglected, and abused particularly sexually by men. These are also far more prevalent when the man becomes the "caregiver".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:59 PM
12

Being baselessly accused of cheating by a man is when you just turn around and walk the fuck away. Or if you are in your house you look at him and say get the fuck out. There are only two reasons a man does this, either he's cheating and projecting it on you with added optional benefit of using it to try and put you on the defensive when you question him. Or it's an abuse tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:56 PM
1

We don't, don't worry. They're wrong and that is not FDS at all. Clearly me and the other mods are going to have to make a post about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:51 PM
2

Sadly that was the best outcome. I think he was looking to get it into a joint account so he could take it and skip out on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:50 PM
3

I'm glad you dumbed him! Could have dumped him after you had to pay the $2 parking fee! Ridiculous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:49 PM
18

He just wanted to lock down a baby maker. There's no way he cares about her at all. He obviously learned his lesson with you and picked someone too young and timid to protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:48 PM
5

You already pitch in by almost doing everything. You also birth the children, carry the pregnancy, recover from the pregnancy and birth, breast feed the children, raise the children, take time off work... Don't you see how this isn't 50/50?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:46 PM
16

Is he going to split the pregnancy with you 50/50? How about the loss in retirement contributions, income and career advancement that you'll take? The birth recovery and vaginal tearing? You would be giving him the far better deal in this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:44 PM
10

Wrong. The correct answer if you make that much more is that you should go 50/50. Use that "equality" bullshit against them to secure your future. I might even skim some money off the top to put into savings before that 50/50. What happens when you have kids? Are you going to share the pregnancy 50/50? How about the postpartum recovery and vaginal tearing? Nope. He's not going to take that hit medically or financially! That'll be all you alone. That won't be shared 50/50 and certainly not 66/33.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:34 PM
15

So pretty much the exact same situation described? Except that you have zero security by having no money in your own name? That's a good way to end up with nothing if he decides to leave you for someone else, he'll just take all the money. And you won't be able to get any of it back. I'm assuming too that you make less than him, probably have less in retirement and less in savings and benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:14 PM
17

Lol! I love adding this stuff to good posts because it really highlights how pathetic these men are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:10 PM
2

"he's blocked in my soul" 👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:02 PM
3

He cheated on you and he thinks that he can suck emotions out of you? 😯 The nerve of LVM. Just blatantly trying to use you probably because he has no emotional support from anyone else since he's a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:56 PM
4

Men use their feelings as a way to control us and as a weapon. They see us having feelings and expressing them as using our feelings as a weapon against them so they do the same. Except it's just projection. They're just totally emotionally stunted human beings who are constantly trying to figure out who is going to get to be on top because life for them is adversarial not relational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:55 PM
3

Stuff like this always means that you took the most of his shit and challenged him the least. It's also similar to when men apologize. They're not actually sorry. They're either trying to manipulate you or they feel bad because their ego took a blow and they want you to validate them by saying "oh no it's okay." then they feel free to completely forget it and just move on being exactly what they have always been. I had a guy who literally repeatedly tried to rape me and then he apologized to me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:51 PM
9

This wasn't even a date so I'm not even sure where you're coming from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:41 PM
8

It was so weird watching her sister scream at her about what is she going do at 45 or 55 without a man like there is nothing else. LOL! All I could think was be happy and single without wiping some man's ass for 20 years? Retire early with all her money from her great job and travel the world with a couple of good girlfriends? Meet a decent man from another country and move there and have great life? She could do anything if she's free. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:38 PM
9

Her standards were literally not an uneducated poor piece of shit and respects women. Those are minimum standards! Very sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:32 PM
10

I was really shocked by the bluntness of that man telling her that he expects to be dominant in his relationship and that his wife shouldn't ever make any decisions or give advice to him. You would never get a straighy answer like that from an LVM in the US. The truth is that's how they feel though. And her sister, holy shit! She was so angry at the idea that her sister could get away with not having to put up with the shit she's putting up with in marriage. Really pulled the veil off of that re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:31 PM
3

Thank you but I can't take credit for that. That was a thought inspired by a tweet, I think it was, a woman made about how men are always responsible for pregnancy because they choose to ejaculate in the woman's vagina and they don't have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:01 AM
28

There are only two appropriate responses: the first and best is to completely ignore it. Punish him with the whip of your indifference. The second option is say "oh my god, why is it so small?" *If it's actually small he's probably sending it to you for his humiliation fetish so don't use this option. See option one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:30 AM
47

He got confused because he's so undesirable that his only standard is literally "has a pussy" and he still can't get any action! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:31 PM
32

Well this made me scoff out loud! You know this guy got triggered because he's got a tiny penis and no job. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:29 PM
5

Sorry. I meant to say that will be the norm in the future. Thanks to Reddit know that women are actually living this reality already. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:17 PM
3

This is always the correct response 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:29 PM
3

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:07 PM
2

I reread your comment twice just to make sure. It didn't sound like you were only discussing the legal definition, although you did also mention it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:02 PM
7

Yeah I'm feminist as hell and very independent, but he better damn well pay. He also must open the door, hold my arm when we walk down the street (especially when I'm wearing heels), help me on with my coat...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:36 PM
11

And this is why we make the man plan the dates, contact you, do all the work to prove that he can and he's interested enough in you to step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:26 PM
5

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:24 PM
8

🤦‍♀️🤮 I hate that. This was in reference to my casual sex days, but I always want to tell them "you don't even mean enough to me for me to fake it for you." It's like the fuckboys who think you're trying to steal their sperm and have their baby! I want to say "Why would I want your baby? You're a loser? You probably couldn't even afford one hundred dollar a month child support for the service of passing on your genes to the next generation."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:19 PM
9

Insecurity is just honestly the most unappealing trait after simply being an outright abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:17 PM
9

This is a perfect list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:11 PM
17

Controlling, particularly about where you go and with whom and wearing what. This also includes calling and texting constantly so that he always knows you're around and not having sex with someone else. Hell no. Any pathetic comments about "I don't know why you're with me" or "I'm not good enough for you." Run. Anything where he tries to have a pity party, especially if he tries to make you his therapist who must build him up. Barf. Not trusting you, particularly to not cheat, or accusing you of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:05 PM
3

Hopefully that will provide a good contrast in behavior for her to start evaluating this situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:58 PM
8

Don't worry he's proposed to her now and they're super happy! (He's abusive too) Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:58 PM
3

👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:57 PM
5

If the consent was not freely given or the woman was incredibly drunk, it actually is rape. That's rape. See him as removing a condom without the woman knowing is right. Will it have the same amount of trauma as if a stranger attacks you and beats you almost to death and then rapes you? Probably not. Does that mean it's any less non-consensual? Absolutely not. I've had men rape me gently. It's still rape. Persobally, my "gentle" rape was far more traumatic than the guy who held me down, raped me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:55 PM
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We're also told that it's fun and sexy and all of the risks are completely covered up and ignored. If a woman even tries to discuss them she's called hysterical and silenced immediately. There is almost zero conversation about how we are far more susceptible to STDs, we have far worse outcomes with STDs, we basically don't get any sexual pleasure from it, we're totally being used, we foot the cost of birth control and also have to suffer all of its side effects some of which are for life. And th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:42 PM
10

You're also not responsible because it's his semen. Do you break something of his or spill a drink in someone's house and then not pay for it or clean it up yourself? Do you split the bill? Would you call it his problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:37 PM
10

US 50$ minimum depending where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:34 PM
24

🤦‍♀️👀🙄😵 No. Absolutely not. The guy should pay, it's his semen. He didn't have to put his dick in you and ejaculate inside of you. As far as I'm concerned that was a courtesy that you allowed him for being in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:32 PM
9

"yeah she expected things of me was kind of pissy that day!" That's as far as they're so called perception will take them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:28 PM
13

Some poor pickme on here made a post about how her scrote started reading books because of her. She was super excited with this. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:26 PM
14

Sounds like estradiol has our back and is telling us to raise our standards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:23 PM
11

Oh no Mommy does not need to be trying to make up for her shitty son to the son's GF! Don't do his work for him. Don't make him seem better than he is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:21 PM
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What's even left that he's going to do to show that he cares about you? Apparently we're not allowed to expect good sexual performance, no ED, no porn sex, BDSM, or abuse, certainly not orgasm. We're not allowed to ask for dates or flowers or consideration or say no to sex. Expecting respect is being a high maintenance bitch. We can't expect him to protect us or provide financially for us, that's sexist! Apparently we can't put our foot down about him doing his fair share of chores around the ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:14 PM
22

He could literally lay his head on her thigh sideways and just eat her out without any strain on his part. So apparently "feminist equality" where you respect your partner is the woman servicing him and then having to get herself off too while he just lies there? This woman has never had good caring sex with a decent male IN HER LIFE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:08 PM
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Clearly she's never been with a man who actually gives a shit about her in any slight way. Instead of admitting this to herself and finding better men, she'd rather be a pickme and put her head in the sand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:04 PM
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They're just lazy and selfish and don't care about you at all. Don't ever fall for their lies. I've never once had a man who genuinely cared about my pleasure pretend like I ceased to exist once he orgasmed. We have always cuddled, talked, looked into each other's eyes etc. Although one narc guy who morphed into a douche suddenly became obsessed with running to the bathroom and showering immediately after sex and then would ditch me. Don't fall for it ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:01 PM
22

All LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:54 PM
1

I didn't report my guy either, I just gave him the cold shoulder. I figured it would only come back on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:53 PM
2

You're welcome. I hope that helps! You can also change messaging to only approved users that you choose and turn off chat function.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:13 PM
4

You need to be able to get on a computer to get to the proper website. It can't be done through the mobile app if I remember correctly. And then just go through your privacy settings until you see one that says to make your account name unsearchable in Reddit or something like that. Might be a good idea to google how to do this for step-by-step information. It wasn't hard to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:10 PM
21

More accepting of rape too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:36 AM
31

Yep. If you want something to die, ignore it. Just like with a LVM and his bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:19 AM
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It was a man. Banned now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:14 AM
4

Yeah he'll probably put a camera in her bedroom. This is why you don't have men as roommates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:04 AM
10

That must have made him so angry that it completely backfired on his stupid ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:01 AM
5

You have to dump that so-called friend too. You don't need the voices of ridiculous people like that in your ear telling you what to do and think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:58 PM
10

Exactly. They will only appear to give up what isn't important to them. The moment it comes to porn or equality in the bedroom or doing their fair share around the house, they're out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:52 PM
3

This right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:50 PM
9

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:50 PM
1

Kind of sounds like he should have asked you out by now.... Maybe he's a commitmentphobe or using you has an emotional relationship replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:45 PM
20

This right here is absolutely the only response! 🤣🤣🤣 "So how much of your money am I getting in child support?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:39 PM
5

Well now I've heard everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:38 PM
5

They would campaign to have condoms removed from shelves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:34 PM
10

They're very obsessed with penises for straight men 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:32 PM
13

Remember these fuckboys think the vagina is a dead hole you stuff things into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:28 PM
7

I love how little these people understand any sort of biology at all. There might be residue in your vagina of semen for a couple of days. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:27 PM
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The link seems to be broken, OP. Also maybe send her a PM to come here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:26 PM
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Only a rapist does things like this. And he's also stupid because he was dumb enough to tell a woman about it like it was some kind of joke. Bet he's done this to her or would if she ever gives him pictures/video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:22 PM
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Submissive is male code for takes all of my shit with a smile and has no spine or self-worth. Do you think there is any way that this guy could have been fed information by your ex to mess with your head? Also sounds like a fuckboy negging strategy to get you to bow down and be a doormat. No woman likes to be told she is like a man/masculine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:10 PM
21

I knew one who got married after about that long of being the forever girlfriend. They got divorced like three years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:04 PM
2

Dump him, block him, and return the gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:58 PM
59

Of course his low value male buddies left in protest. They all support each other. Always judge a man by his friend's character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:57 PM
12

Ewwwwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:55 PM
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Man I would literally just turn around and walk out. I would not pay. He can pay with the money in his hidden wallet he's pretending he doesn't have with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:54 PM
11

Men are getting triggered at this post and sending me angry messages about their small penis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:46 PM
38

I will share one. Years ago I had a lover for many years and we were actually friends as well. He was extremely sensual. We would spend hours talking, laughing and relating. Only once we were relaxed and our energy was flowing nicely and melding would we then start to kiss, and caress and massage each other. And after an hour of that we would then shift to so-called foreplay. And after another hour we would finally have sex. He always made me orgasm. He would also set the mood with light, music,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:30 PM
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Ugh... The only other possible option is allergies or stomach problems so he couldn't eat anything, which is obviously something you wouldn't discuss on a first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:08 PM
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Well that was a damn good article right until she defended Brett Kavanaugh and played poor baby violin for him. Imagine calling yourself a feminist and feeling bad for a male narc who attacked and raped women and then cry like a little baby victim on national TV so that he could get away with it. And then writing a just possibly slightly self-serving article... talking about how women should be accepted for not being nice or being "problematic". I think if we're going to support women being mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:07 PM
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Eww. It's probably a fetish. Or he's poor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:47 PM
5

Feel it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:46 PM
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I know that men would always approach me when I was looking really relaxed and happy which annoyed the fucking hell out of me, so now I walk around with my RBF firmly in place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:25 PM
8

I asked one guy that I was in a relationship what he liked about me and he literally told me my looks and my sexual performance. I was shocked he just said that. He was such a narc he had no clue how that sounded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:18 PM
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I lived for a year in a country where I got harassed and followed by men constantly. I stopped going out alone too eventually. My shitbag abusive narc boyfriend mocked me like I was just some little weak idiot for not wanting to get attacked. I was actually attacked several times. Instead of helping and protecting me he tried to make me feel small and weak. So many things about that guy that were LVM traits. One time I had to pass two army trucks full of men, about 50 all together, I got screame…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:07 PM
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This is exactly why I say that when a woman asks if she's overreacting to something she should absolutely be even angry or about that she's speaking men's words. It's men's gaslighting programmed right into women's brains. Keeps us under reacting and under men's thumbs all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:58 AM
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"too bad you only "wanted" to but didn't follow through with it 🤷‍♀️"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:50 AM
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I would have said they weren't my reservations and canceled them for him if possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:14 AM
2

Then she goes down to the police station to pay his $200 bail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:41 AM
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Extra LVN points if he splits up that bouquet and gives individual roses to 12 women. 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:38 AM
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Clearly you don't actually want anyone's advice. This situation is ridiculous. Stop going after your ex's friends. Stop raising your ex's children. Stop living with your ex and thinking you can date other people seriously. You want "progressive" advice? Stop selling yourself so short! That's the most progressive thing that you can do as a woman. PS The fact that you didn't tell your ex you were interested in his friend because you didn't want him to either put you down or bad mouth you to his fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:24 AM
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I had a co-worker like that once. Those guys need to be reported to HR. Work isn't your own personal dating pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:05 AM
5

That is so sweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:39 AM
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This is literally all about our power. And we hold it all. Never let them fool you! If the free pussy faucet gets shut off men will have to fall into line and go back to writing love letters and kissing our asses just to get a little taste! And they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:59 AM
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I can't believe these people's biggest sticking point always seems to be that we tell women not to have sex with men right away, to wait and see that he's really serious about her. That's good old common sense to weed out the lowest rung of men. These people are really invested in women having sex with low value men who use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:46 AM
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It's really nice that you have your dog to go with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:10 AM
10

I actually found out from a postive comment! Amazingly. But all that negative stuff seems to bring us a lot of women who love us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:04 AM
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I'm glad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:03 AM
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I think that is British terminology. But it says the author lives in San Francisco? He's obviously plagiarizing. Maybe we should anonymously tell the author Erin Taylor that she's been plagiarized and let the two of them fight it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:53 AM
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Wow how dare women want a dude with a normal size dick who can get it up and keep it up so that she can actually have sex with him! Libfem is here to the rescue white knighting for porn addicts! I bet she has a very sad life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:47 AM
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My personal theory is that the author is a pickme who got triggered on FDS. We've actually had a few go off and make hate subs or go and trash us on the other feminist subs. This is just a next level pickme fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:45 AM
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The "verification" that she offered was to send a link to one of her articles again. That's it. Just an internet link that anyone could send. Lol We honestly thought it was some incel man trying to trick us because she was so unprofessional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:40 AM
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You know that you need to ignore him right? He's only going to come back to get in your pants and then fuck you over again. He's not a good person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:25 AM
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Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:00 PM
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This. Is he going to get pregnant for you? Is he going to birth the baby? Is he going to do the postpartum recovery or the breastfeeding? No. Giving birth, even in a healthy vaginal delivery with no tearing, still causes pelvic floor damage, most of which goes totally undiagnosed. After a year a large amount of women still have injuries according to one study that I read that was recently done using MRI. In some other countries, not the US where I am, women routinely get a pelvic floor health as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:44 PM
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I hope she hears the voice of the universe telling her not to marry this dude because he's a damn moron and a pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:39 PM
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I bet he's a narc and he probably made up the story about how he really loved her because she dumped him and you know narcs hate that. Or it's just fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:33 PM
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I love this! Cue the lurking scrotes who are going to report this for being "offensive" 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:29 PM
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The lurking scrotes reported this post for "inciting violence" LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:27 PM
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Apparently medical professionals have taken to calling the reverse cowgirl position the "dick guillotine" because it breaks so many dudes dicks. 😈 So if a guy ever cheats on me... 💅🏼😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:07 PM
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I want a man to be a man. Fuck this. I am not working the last half to three months of my pregnancy and then going right back to work. I bet that increases the postpartum mortality rate of mother's significantly. I want a man to take care of me and that includes financially. I want a man who is a man. Mostly just because I absolutely doubt this dude would ever do this job very well, even when they are really good they don't do what mothers do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:59 PM
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I mean, that's exactly what I would expect a man to do with that much free time and privacy. These dudes masturbate at work as it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:56 PM
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Always. I love taking myself out to lunch with my book or going to a cafe and getting a really perfect latte and an amazing pastry and just sitting by myself and reading. Taking myself to the park and hanging out. I actually love traveling alone and going to museums. I used to go out and be in nature alone out by the river or out in the woods but I'm too paranoid about creeps now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:52 PM
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But he's a gentleman! 👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:45 PM
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Yeah you need to dump this dude. I honestly can't believe you're staying up until midnight your time for him so he can have a convenient call at 8:00 p.m. after he is done with his day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:41 PM
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I feel this. I got a navel piercing because I thought it was cool back in like 2005. What I didn't realize is it was a big thing in porn and it was basically the signifier of the trashy porno girl that you can do anything to. The men I slept with after that started treating me really disgustingly and would get really excited when they saw it because of all the porn they condition themselves too. It was utterly vile. So while I loved the piercing and it looked really nice I got rid of it after a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:38 PM
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Why would they when they might have to take some sort of responsibility if they pass STDs around. This way they can just claim ignorance and say with a straight face that they don't have anything. Pure LVM mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:14 PM
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The funny part is I'm nice as hell and I smile all the time but they can sense my other side which is I will literally rise up and cut their testicles off if they cross me. I have fucked some dudes up emotionally verbally physically and socially. I don't take any shit, but they'll never know it if they act right. Yes, a man calling you intimidating just means he realizes that you have boundaries that he can't cross and he can't bend you to his will. I've also been called independent a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:11 PM
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I just don't know how they'd give half the value of a home to a man who stole his wife's inheritance, let alone allow him to go near the children. You just know if it was a woman she'd never see those kids again. Shit, I knew a man who raped his children and he still got to see them. This girl was forced to spend time with a man who had raped and molested her because he was her dAdDy and that's so important. That was the most beaten down subdued woman I ever met. She was totally incapable of ang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:08 PM
13

Words to live by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:56 PM
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If you don't go with him to the clinic and see the results first hand it didn't happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:31 AM
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There is one absolute clown in the notes saying this dude has trauma because he doesn't get to be his wife's little baby anymore and have all of her attention. All the women in the notes are dragging his ass hard and the dudes are calling it misandry. Just another typical day on Reddit 🤷‍♀️ Anyway I've just got to say it, this dude needs to step the fuck up and be a man instead of being a whiny little baby. Never marry a man who has no dignity because you'll end up in situations like this. Updat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:13 AM
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Just block him delete his number and forget he ever existed. He threw you aside with no word, you should do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:51 AM
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Umm, a roll is like 8$ to 10$. How much is the cost of her time and gas to drive to lazy ass and talk with a stranger to maybe give him free dick? Between the time it would take her to get ready, drive out there and then the time she'd have to spend talking with him and then gas money I'm sure she's looking at $50 at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:50 AM
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You block and delete. The guy's an asshole. Instead of attacking you and saying "when are you going to want to hang out with me?" All he had to do was actually ask you if you wanted to do something. Sounds like he's nasty bitter negging to control you and probably already knows that you're out of his league and is hedging with rudeness in case he gets rejected, rather than making an honest and respectful attempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:35 AM
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They're reporting this post for standard shaming... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:24 AM
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Honestly they have no care at all for their own children. They'll just go back to not trying anyway. Imagine trying to fuck your kids over this hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:51 AM
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She could have had a stroke from his bullshit. Kill me if I'm ever this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:50 AM
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I'm always curious to know what the difference is when different women attract different types of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:48 AM
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I must come off like a heartless bitch because I've literally never had a man do that to me. Wow. Actually I've been called intimidating. A lot. I always think "Good, that's exactly how it should be." 💅🏼 I used to seriously vet men for normalcy before even going on a first date. They had to make it through a full 2-hour conversation and maintain total normalcy and not talk about sex. I had really great luck with that strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:24 AM
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They'll make threats or use physically threatening body language and then they'll be like bUt ShE DiDn'T sAy No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:20 AM
10

Oh barf! Second date? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:17 AM
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I fell for this ONCE and never again. The whiners can GTFO. I'm not your mommy and this isn't toddler time. I want a real man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:10 AM
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It's probably also because girls displaying oppositional defiant disorder are probably just abuse victims trying to cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:04 AM
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You just found the only reason to do it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:50 PM
21

You can post for help and advice absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:24 PM
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Yes! I say this all the time because of the BDSM trash. We have to define rape and consent for ourselves. Don't let men define consent for you, for women. They will only say rape is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:08 PM
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Honestly I wouldn't put that past the pickmes! Lol I bet it was both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:03 PM
10

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:28 PM
2

Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:15 PM
13

He was hoping if he could be nice for a day or two you'd give up the pussy. And when you didn't he pretended he just isn't ready for a real relationship because he knows you're not going to put out right away. Also you folded to his bullshit in that text message. You've got to block this guy because he is going to come crawling back and fuck with your head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:14 PM
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That's definitely not from a woman. The men troll this sub heavily and send out hate messages. You can change your settings so you don't receive them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:06 PM
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You might want to check out resources in the wiki and the handbook. I know there are linked posts where this topic has been discussed a lot. The most important thing that you need to do is hold back getting emotionally attached while you ruthlessly evaluate him slowly over months. Judge him by his friends, his actions, his words. Keep a list of anything that he does that might be a red flag or a yellow flag and also green flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:52 PM
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He's a nasty little pig. Your mom is wrong. Never forgive a man for acting like that. If he barely knows you and thinks he can wave his hands in your face to shut you up wait till he knows you better. That guy definitely would be a hitter. I would suggest asking your mother about that and seeing if that would make her reconsider and think about the long term possibilities here. If she's unable to then you know that she's not someone that you can get good advice from ever. I would consider doing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:48 PM
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This is not a liberal feminist choosy choice space OP. This is a space about women making smart choices. We're not here to pretend choices are consequence free just because somebody wanted to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:30 PM
3

Stop being friends with those guys. They are pigs. Life is too short!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:27 PM
7

I know a woman and her ex stole her inheritance from her parents that was in her account. She never got it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:24 PM
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I'm pretty sure now if you try to fight them they call it abuse and try to report you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:20 PM
4

I'm a mod and you're banned. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:17 PM
4

She's also forgotten that giving birth when you have herpes it can go into your child's eyes as they move through your birth canal and blind your kid. "If a woman with genital herpes has virus present in the birth canal during delivery, herpes simplex virus (HSV) can be spread to an infant, causing neonatal herpes, a serious and sometimes fatal condition." There is prevention but it's just one more risk for your child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:02 PM
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She's angry she has herpes and that people won't have sex with her because of it. She also apparently doesn't want to have to get tested for STDs before having sex in a relationship with somebody. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:59 PM
-2

If you couldn't afford to get tested for STDs and you shouldn't have been having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:57 PM
4

This is a fantastic resource and yet the pickmes in this thread are downvoting you for sharing it. But remember this post totally wasn't about shaming women for not wanting to get with dudes with herpes and only having sex after extensive testing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:57 PM
4

Where did anyone say that? Anyway the quickest way to get an STD is fucking random dudes who are fucking a bunch of other people. These are usually fuckboys who pass themselves around, have sex without condoms, don't take care of themselves and their health. Condoms do very little to prevent skin transferred STDs like HPV and herpes. This sub advocates for waiting and getting tested for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:48 PM
80

sHe DiDnT TeLl Him hOw cOuLd hE KnOw???? 😩😩😩 Hell a guy will rape you and they will still be like how could he have known if you didn't tell him? They really think it's open season on women. I've seen men tell women this and I've seen other women say this to women and also to themselves. It's a damn tragedy when you think you have to explicitly tell another human being not to sexually assault you or you are fair game for rape. I have to tell this all the time to women who had that choking shit o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:37 PM
66

Yeah it's just about finding a woman to cook, clean and have sex with him, and maybe have his kids. That's it. This is precisely why you don't do things for a man before you marry them. And you only do so much after. Never cook or clean for a man that you're dating, and frankly, I think I would give out limited sex as well and only when I really wanted it and he really made an effort. Sometimes I might tell him no just to make him pursue and want it more, get him trying harder. Make it clear tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:17 PM
237

The whole "What do you expect him to read your mind or something?" bullshit it's just yet another way to put zero accountability on men and make excuses for them. It's essentially another form of gaslighting to hide the reality that he just doesn't give a shit about her and she's not a real person to him. He doesn't care. It's a way to shut up women and shift all responsibility onto them. Patriarchy is always about shifting responsibility onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:13 PM
3

Thank you for your reply. That's really sad for her. Good for you though, it sounds like you are moving on from it in a very healthy way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:44 PM
1

Definitely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:04 PM
5

I struggle with the anger at her. How do you deal with it? I know she was a victim but it doesn't change the fact she didn't protect us, her children. And I am so resentful of it. She also became abusive of only me after getting PTSD when everything really fell apart. She's really pretty great now and was before but a part of me really hates her and has no respect for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:02 PM
13

Typical male reversal. It's just projection as usual. Most of these dudes will use you for money and as a servant and run you into the ground until you die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:03 AM
15

He wants it in a joint account so that he can take it all and leave one day and she won't be able to do anything about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:02 AM
3

I just can't wrap my head around that delusion! And yeah sure they're the logical sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:50 AM
10

I don't even want to hear his opinion. It's not his damn place. He can shut up and sit down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:19 AM
7

Don't mess with pro-life dudes. He is basically telling me he doesn't see women as human beings with rights. What happens when you get into a relationship and have sex and have a pregnancy scare or get pregnant and you want to have an abortion? He's going to pressure you and demean you. Might even force you to have a kid you don't want and then you'll be tied to him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:56 AM
11

Yeah in summary I reported my rape to a bunch of rapists. They seriously acted like this guy had a right to rape me. They were all despicable human beings. My rapist is a better person than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:32 AM
11

I wouldn't pay for anything until and unless we're married or close to it. He's pursuing you. He wants you. You're bringing more to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:13 AM
13

Or my mom, was with my abusive asshole father for 8 years, could have left but she didn't. Instead she had kids with him. Do you want to guess what happens when you have children with an abuser? The strain makes them even more abusive. One of my earliest memories is of her just standing there while he would come at us all the time. I never had any respect for her, it's one thing to let a man hit you, but it's another to stand by and let him hit your children. I would rise up and murder a man for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:57 AM
18

So you just stated that the most serious man paid for everything and you never paid for anything. And now you're asking how you should pay for things? Also him paying for dates isn't you taking and giving him nothing. Is money the only valuable thing in a relationship that people can give to each other? I know you know the answer. It's not one-sided. You're giving him your time and attention which is valuable. You're possibly also giving him, in the future, sex, a relationship, and maybe even ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:37 AM
5

So you barely know this guy and you've committed to spending two whole weeks with him? Clearly you don't know how spectacularly bad this could possibly go. And yeah it is a family vacation that's just weird. why would you introduce a man that you barely know and haven't vetted to your family? And he's not even exclusively with you, you haven't had any conversation? Also if he lives in the UK and has to take care of his disabled mother it's not like he could move to the US for you is it? Are you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:27 AM
4

Whatttt? By text? Fuck this dude just for that! You wont miss this guy is 6 weeks, let alone 6 months. Another note, a man thinking that you're "open-minded" isn't to compliment. I think that just means that he thinks you have no boundaries probably because you haven't enforced any. It's practically as bad as being called a cool girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:12 AM
4

They're really not though. There's no way to tell whoes sperm you're getting. They just recently had yet another scandal where the sperm of men who were criminals or mentally ill was being passed off as top quality. And then there's the doctors that like to substitute their own sperm. The whole thing is a disgusting mess and I would not want to have a random person's child sight unseen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:09 AM
5

Honestly I just don't care what anybody says anymore there's a real stupid streak in all of these women telling her to support him. Meanwhile on the other hand, men will leave a woman for getting fucking cancer. Can't fucking believe she has kids with this man. What a horrible thing to do to children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:04 AM
2

If you want a female practitioner you have to say I only want a female practitioner. And then you have to follow through. After what I've been through I don't even care if it was an emergency, I would tell them get me a female or I'll just die thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:58 AM
6

"your worried distance" Is this a fucking thought? I can't fucking read this. WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:05 AM
7

Absolutely. You just wouldn't have dated him because he wouldn't have passed muster. It's hard accepting our shitty past choices and the crap we took from men. You just have to hold your head up and move on and take less crap next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:01 AM
14

Lol you're the winner! Everyone's always shocked at how low my blood pressure is(106/67) when I go to the doctor and every time I bite my tongue from telling them it's because I don't have a damn man child and three kids at home screaming for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:59 AM
4

Absolutely. You can't take a narc to therapy, And certainly not to pickmisha therapy. I would watch my father charm people and they would be eating out of his hand within 5 minutes. The guy was all a woman and child beater and he could trick people like it was nothing. I never forgot that lesson. People would actually come up to me and tell me how lucky I was that I had such a cool father. He spent all his time, when people weren't looking, with his fist in my face telling me he would fuck me up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:56 AM
18

My rapist got a new ugly pickme girlfriend who ended up somehow confronting me in the street and telling me she "knows how it feels". He had lied to her, and apparently she believed, that I was lying about him raping me cuz I totally wanted him to get with me. Or some shit. Where do these fucking women even come from? How would that even work? He's going to fall in love with me because I reported him to the police for rape? Long story short he admitted it and it's recorded by the police and they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:45 AM
8

He probably rapes her too but she's cool with it because she gets to be his girlfriend and doesn't call it rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:32 AM
3

This was great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:12 AM
7

Your friends are idiots. Flip the script and get new friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:09 AM
13

They're jealous you are free and have little to Lord over you other than the shitty man who PiCkEd ThEm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:06 AM
95

These comments are fucking embarrassing. Stop giving awards to people that are encouraging you to waste your time on random dudes who don't like you and don't respect you and probably don't even give you an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:33 PM
21

You are getting way ahead of yourself here. Just keep watching his behavior and leave if there are any problems. It sounds like what's really scaring you here is the potential for a real adult relationship. If you're not ready for that then you don't have to continue seeing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:52 PM
8

That is cheesy as hell. I wouldn't even nickel and dime a friend like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:39 PM
3

Date multiple men who take you out and treat you right, and if they stop kick them out of your rotation and replace them with someone new. In the wiki/handbook there is a whole section on casual relationships/FWBs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:01 PM
29

Lol My mom knew a woman who, when she got kicked out of a trash job, she destroyed all of the work that she had done for them and left no backups. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:59 PM
1

If they're right we can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:57 PM
19

Exactly. You have to encourage what you want in a relationship and discourage what you don't want. It's like letting a puppy jump all over you and thinking it's cute, but what do you get in the end? A fully grown dog that jumps over you and all of your guests and everybody hates that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:54 PM
13

Congratulations! Closed mouths don't get fed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:52 PM
7

I honestly thought this was sarcastic. So sad. RIP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:46 PM
52

No, he should have that $20 unless he is a college student. Never get into a position where you're loaning a man money, even short-term. If you have to do it repeatedly you might want to ask yourself why he isn't budgeting correctly and why he can't take care of his own bills. The signs of financial immaturity are blatant. I would also be asking myself why he has so a little dignity he has got to come begging to his girlfriend for $20. I wouldn't want the woman that I love and respect to know th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:30 PM
29

Yikes! I'm sure you know this by now but just to reiterate for everyone else, never travel to a man and never pay for anything of his. When it comes to him you can't drive and you have no money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:26 PM
25

The dude from that last comment that that woman babied, I would have blocked his number at the first or second question and washed my hands of the situation then. When you have to leave a shitty job where you're treated poorly do you offer them free help? Do they constantly call you with inane questions they could easily answer themselves? Absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:24 PM
19

Someone should make a women only version of the sub! That subreddit, lovewithoutporn I think it's called, was taken over by men so a bunch of women made r/pornfreerelationships just for women. The men on Reddit are cancer and we need as many female only subs as we can manage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:07 PM
15

Yeah I read horror story after horror story. I actually got to have my own experience with this when I was 15 with my narc ASPD father. That therapist had no clue that he was totally playing her. By the end of the session she was eating out of his hand telling me everything was my fault. Basically she was just an outside person he essentially paid to continue the attempted gaslighting. When we got out to the car I had to throw up ridiculous anger fit so he would never attempt to make me go back …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:41 PM
18

This is exactly why women should never take men's shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:31 PM
21

It's fucking hilarious when they do do this, and by hilarious I mean damn tragic, because a lot of time the counselors are too poorly trained on men and their bullshit to even realize he's the abuser. She will end up with the counselor on his side telling her to just give in and do what he wants. I'm pretty sure marriage counseling was completely invented by men and pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:27 PM
13

Another example of why you never give up everything that you have and everything that you are and all of your free time for a man because it will never be enough. You'll just end up with some abuser like this douche who wants more and more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:23 PM
50

We all know these dudes that pretend pedophiles don't exist are beating it to child porn or faux child porn. Men lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:11 PM
7

Men will bluff til the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:04 PM
8

They're lying. Men are little bitches. We should also add in that she doesn't have sex with him anymore but masturbates furiously on her own with giant dildos and makes nasty remarks about his body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:03 PM
31

"I treat this woman like a princess. Now let me know how I can orally rape her!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:30 AM
56

The comments are a mess. "Remember you are special because he chose to marry you not PornHub" "You're insecure and you need to get therapy" And then she's all "he did nothing wrong." I want to reply to her and ask her if she has a folder on her computer full of hot dudes in pornos that she gets off to and if he would be cool with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:59 AM
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You tell him that's none of his business. I would also recommend just dumping men who ask. They're mostly just looking for something to hold against you and throw back in your face once they get mad at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:16 AM
3

Stop giving so much that you keep getting taken advantage of. And also don't date projects like everyone else said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:06 AM
22

Yeah I think this is the right answer. Tell him you have reported him to the police and if he contacts you again you will be getting it restraining order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:01 AM
2

Just keep watching his behavior, if he keeps it up over the long haul that's what matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:23 PM
3

So he's got nothing more than some juvenile stuff from 10 to 15 years ago, minus the smoking which he quit was it 5 years ago? And he's done so much work and dug himself out of this and you're still holding it against him? If he has changed then keep dating him. Evaluate his current behavior instead of stuff from a decade and a half ago. It sounds like it's more of a problem for you than it is for him at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:57 PM
4

It's not just "rapey" behavior. They straight up attempt to rape her when she is passed out and can barely move. I also can't wait to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:49 PM
3

Thanks OP, that was a great twist at the end and much better than the original!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:50 PM
6

If a guy can't fuck me right and make me orgasm I'm not interested. It has saved me from all of these losers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:33 PM
3

It's okay to be upset at dumb people, even when they are women. It's very Libfem to think you got to love every woman all the time and always think nicely of them all. I would suggest not being friends with dumb people anymore especially since it reflects badly on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:24 PM
9

No shit! Lies men tell indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:52 PM
17

Welcome to a future of porn induced ED, boys. Another reason not to be the one to approach first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:50 PM
19

Abortion saves lives Poor girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:49 PM
30

All the ED and spontaneous choking is starting to peak women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:32 PM
15

The scrotes are so pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:31 PM
5

Really shows you what that they knew what sort of crap they were writing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:21 PM
9

And what a terrible lesson to teach a man too, that you'll screw your life and give up your dreams just for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:55 PM
8

Too bad they waited for the final episode for that energy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:44 PM
13

Oh my God that last frame fucking killed me. I forgot that part. Why the hell would adults do this? Some dude got left by a way better woman at high school graduation and she had a great life didn't she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:41 PM
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God I fucking hated that show. I also really fucking hated Ally McBeal. What a load of bullshit. They really wanted a size zero girl in mini skirts, who is a lawyer (!!!), to feel insecure all the time. Gag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:34 PM
16

I came here to say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:31 PM
18

That second woman is pickmisha's future. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:17 PM
58

That research had already been done and yes they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:11 PM
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"I do believe he loves me" Yeah this totally sounds like love. She's going to marry him anyway probably. She's too far gone. yet another reason to check their phones and their search history. He's probably been fucking escorts for years and though their entire relationship. She also probably has herpes and chlamydia now considering almost 10% of STDs in the US are from prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:59 PM
2

Once I met a guy and one of the first things he asked me was what I'm into. I answer and after I'm done, this no value scrote tells me that "it sounds like you wouldn't have time for me." Lol bye dumbass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:12 AM
1

👎👎👎👎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:17 AM
20

Those losers are going to report this post as "threatens violence against me" lol They don't seem to realize their ridiculous reports actually all go to mods of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:50 AM
15

That guy had mental problems! It's nice when the trash takes itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:32 AM
8

Yeah privacy protected by unnecessary searches from the state, not from individuals. Ridiculous. The alternative to her looking is her getting strung along for months or years by a low value male porn addict who will probably lose into stint sex with her within a few months and then start blaming her for it and destroying her self-esteem. She could even end up like that woman from the Reddit story recently who was living in poverty after birthing this dude's child and she finds out hubby is spen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:29 AM
2

I would just dump him right now. Why wait to be disappointed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:42 PM
25

All the LVM porno losers and pickmes are pissed that you had the nerve to go through his phone! How dare you feel you have the right to see what a man is really up to if you're going to commit to him, date him and share your body with him? Clearly women have no right to know if the guy is a porn addict who's going to use her, waste her time and then blame her when he can't get his dick up and destroy herself esteem! A woman also totally has no right to know if a guy is cheating, paying cam girls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:33 PM
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At least you looked at his phone and found this out now. And you did so well just walking out. "Snooping" is good and it's your right to know these things about someone you might potentially be in a relationship with. I probably would have finished out the date being nice and then just left and never spoken to him again, but you were right to walk right the fuck out. I'm tired of being nice to people who don't deserve it. It would make me so angry to know that while I was excited about our date,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:13 PM
10

I'm trying to think what I did. I made myself be social, got a degree, got a whole bunch of friends, I took up dance and got pretty good at that, I know how to fix a lot of things and cook and garden and grow just about anything... So building skills and social confidence. I also did a lot of introspection just on my own thinking about all of the stuff that happened in my childhood that shaped me and how it shaped me and where the origin was. When you are abused as a kid your values are all mess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:46 PM
18

I think a lot of self-work and introspection is necessary to find out why you are attracted to these men. You have to change what sort of personality type you're attracted to. It's hard. I have a little problem with this myself, I'm attracted to both. Maybe it's insecurity or low self-esteem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:29 PM
37

What do you want to bet he just wants to get out of the responsibility of having a kid...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:43 AM
36

The rational sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:41 AM
47

Oh my God what are you doing? You should reread your post, a couple of times. Remember that old saying fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. If a man dumps you or pulls away from you he is dead to you. Even if you see him in public, you've forgotten his name, you don't know who the hell he is, you don't even see him. Maybe you just look through him because he ain't there. He's a ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:20 AM
51

Tell him he's a zero because of his micro dick and porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:16 AM
4

You should have dropped him a long time ago. Just the part where he was 20 and you were 17, or how about the part where he started getting closer to you once it was legal for him to have sex with you, or the part where he was hot and cold and off and on. Overreacting is a label that men use to control women and keep us from prioritizing ourselves, having boundaries, demanding respect, and frankly, getting angry at dismissive, disrespectful or abusive behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:13 PM
18

I would have left the dishes there and told him look the dishes are waiting for you. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:10 PM
12

I was coming here to say this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:09 PM
21

In addition to the other person's comments about emotional labor and how you'll be a starter wife for this guy, this is just an unreasonable amount of time, effort, thought and energy to put into a relationship and reeks of codependence. Being this giving will get you abused. There is such a thing as giving too much to a relationship and this is a prime example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:04 PM
27

I like to make myself a fancy meal at home and break out the silver, crystal and china, buy myself champagne and flowers and just have a nice time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:01 PM
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hOw Is PuNcHiNg A WaLl tO ScArE mY GF aBuSiVe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:55 PM
30

This is going to be harsh. But you want an old man who probably has a broken dick who is a friend of your family to be your lover? Men 40 and up have ED 52% of the time. I'm wondering what age you are? Did this guy perv on you when you were underage or try to groom you in anyway? Do you know what grooming is? Has he hit on you before? Made inappropriate comments to or about you? If he has this is completely inappropriate on his part and he's a perv. Best place to find a lover is outside of your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:35 PM
15

Accurate though. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:31 PM
2

Poor woman. I wouldn't accept that for one hot second. You've got to love yourself most in this world because nobody else will, other than maybe your mama. I find a lot of power in being affronted and insulted by poor behavior. It gets me out of things really quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:20 PM
8

Porno and easy sex happened. If you allow men not to try then it's just a race to the bottom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:16 PM
4

Absolutely not. I wouldn't put up with that and I would consider that a no-go. That would absolutely fall under "fail to keep up a conversation like a normal person for one to two hours".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:14 PM
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I always had much better luck meeting men out in person at events. Then I would have a 1 to 2 hour conversation with them to see if they were normal and could keep up a normal conversation. Only after they pass that basic level of normalcy would I agree to a date. A few times I varying from that model were not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:03 AM
44

Don't forget youth too! Ignorant youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:23 AM
53

In what world could that ugly man get with Rihanna and Beyoncé? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:19 AM
87

"A wedding is a party, but a marriage is legal contract." Fantastic quote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:59 AM
166

This is cool. But also she has to have sex with that ugly, creepy, old man who perved on her while she was still a teenager, and bear his children, while he cheats ON HER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:56 AM
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👀 🤮 🤦‍♀️ And then he'll leave you for another woman with all that confidence you gave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:54 AM
29

Too bad she didn't think to apply her vigilance equally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:20 PM
3

There's actually a sub here on Reddit about finances and they call that extreme saving FIRE, iirc. I think you basically just cut back on everything, use Dollar Store toiletries, don't buy any clothes... all that sort of thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:39 PM
6

I second looking specifically for a trauma therapist. I did a lot of EMDR as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:37 PM
6

Oh my God you guys should have been at the gym with me yesterday. I saw men on the treadmill and on the open stride elliptical looking like monkeys throwing their bodies around. I've never seen anything so stupid looking and so wrong. It takes two minutes to Google and watch a beginners instructional video, yet men won't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:49 PM
9

Pretty sure that's been around the corner for 15 years now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:18 PM
31

Yes it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:13 PM
22

This is what you get with an LVM porn trash male. Holy shit this is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:11 PM
1

You might just not be ready yet. You might try talking 5o him more and slowly trying more sexual things to see how that goes for you. Just listen to your emotions and body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:02 PM
11

This is such an amazingly fair article. Frankly I'm shocked! This is so great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:57 PM
5

Wow! Clearly they didn't learn anything at all from you going no contact. They're really persistent in their ridiculousness. I'm sorry about this whole fiasco you're stuck in with them at the moment. I haven't spoken to my dad in, I think, 5 years now and it's fantastic. Sometimes it just has to be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:43 PM
22

Sounds like a woman who has been cheated on a lot and decided to stay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:42 AM
11

If you can I would just stop talking to your entire family, especially your mother, for an indefinite amount of time. Set up new boundaries and every time they cross them cut them off again. I did that with my abusive narc father and it worked pretty well. He was still an asshole but he understood that there were consequences. This whole thing is ridiculous. Just keep ignoring this pig and the family who sent him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:25 AM
1

Someone else said that too and she got PISSED! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:06 AM
5

He should have been apologetic not hurt. I would be horribly embarrassed if I did that to somebody, but I'll never find out because I would never treat somebody like that. Respect for yourself as respect for me, and vice versa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:45 AM
2

Funny because I know exactly what freak you're talking about. We're wondering if she's a troll at this point because the thing she's saying are just so devoid of all logic. She just keeps screaming at us but doesn't once think of what the alternative is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:40 AM
12

You don't sound ready. I'm also a rape victim and haven't had sex for a long time. How long had it been since you were last raped? Now you don't have to answer here, but think about it. I'm at 6 years from my last rape and I still don't trust anyone. But I do feel the PTSD/trauma is finally subsiding to the point where I can be sexual alone where I'm safe. I can see I cute guy and think of him. You just don't sound ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:18 AM
4

I'm not hot on an old guy 9 years older than you, with a kid, and who is divorced. Guess who new mommy to the kid will be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:13 AM
1

It's so sad. I would me so hurt and angry that this chip is all I'm worth to him. And do you see how proud he is of himself? Oh my God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:51 AM
14

I would dump him for that shit. It's not like there is no way that he could follow through, and if he wasn't going to follow through he could have easily told you. It's not like he has to send over a telegram or messenger pigeon. He can just send a text. And the fact that he waited until 10 minutes before he was supposed to meet you is just a disrespectful dick move. This is just so rude. If he is actually hurt then he's just selfish and doesn't think you're as important as he is. And if he's fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:40 PM
46

"One time I orgasmed 😍" "He paid for my McDonald's 😍"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:35 PM
28

My aunt told me if he has to save up all week or two weeks just to be able to see you and take you out then that's what he needs to do. That I should never accept less. My mom always said men just throw it at the wall to see what sticks. That means men will try to get sex with any woman, any way, indiscriminately. Don't take their attentions/passes seriously and don't be the low hanging fruit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:31 PM
47

There need to be far more women only AA and NA groups for just this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:17 PM
10

And they don't feel like they are good enough to attract someone better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:13 PM
29

Men made the jealous insult and insecure, poor boundary having pickmes got triggered and caught up in proving to LVMs that they aren't "insecure" or "jealous" by reactively allowing porn, and even pretending to love it, because they were too insecure to show the manipulative pig the door. This is what desperation gets women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:03 PM
43

"women having boundaries is always to opposite of being insecure" Damn good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:56 PM
15

Do you know why this doesn't happen more often? Unfortunately, it's not because it's so rare for men to rape women who are in a coma, it's because those facilities usually put the women on birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:38 PM
2

I'm not real sure about deeper questions on a first date, might end up feeling like a job interview. Also there's a lot of different things I would never share with someone on a first date. Then there's the way so many men can't even answer basic questions and have nothing deeper in themselves. At least it would weed out the shallow morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:36 PM
2

Maybe you could find a local women's support group or a co-dependents support group? I know I don't live in a very big area but we have a codependent support group where I live. Support groups are great addition to therapy because you get to be with people who are in the same situation as you and it makes you feel so much less alone. You might even make a friend there and you can support each other over coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:38 PM
13

Men only ever seem to share them around and use them to blackmail women once it comes time for divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:11 AM
18

Women being made to perform sexuality as an act for men's sexual and misogynistic delight is one of our greatest oppressions. It's humiliating, and it is meant to be humiliating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:01 AM
3

My mom did and she said it took forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:56 AM
12

Ouch! LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:54 AM
4

I noticed that to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:43 AM
16

Emotionally unavailable... No, long since blocked and deleted. I was actually in love with him but he threw me over and by the time he came back I told him he had to apologize and he refused. So I blocked him. But I still dream of his dick. He was 10 inches and great in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:27 AM
3

That's a great idea! I'm going to post that song right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:16 AM
36

It's funny you should say that because that's exactly what I got from this quote about boys being 'cut off from their hearts" oh how sweet. Men made porn as wish fulfillment. They are violent and oppressive and rapists because they want to be. Because they enjoy it. And they benefit from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:04 AM
28

It's debatable whether men have hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:02 AM
2

Someone else in the notes quoted a great source. There's not too many comments so you should be able to find it. If I had the link I would give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:57 PM
59

I would totally ask him if he was going to put on one of those gay male thongs and fry me up some bacon and eggs for breakfast. "No? You don't want to get used like that? Shocking!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:55 PM
15

An FDS quote add a calendar, omigod I want one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:50 PM
28

Makes sense. The fittest guy I ever knew could fuck for 3 hours after dancing like crazy for 4 hours, then sleep 4 hours, fuck again and go play a double header soccer game. I miss him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:48 PM
46

Thank you for addressing this Medusa! This was a very thorough post, hopefully this will clarify some things for everyone. And hopefully people who don't like it will find the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:24 PM
61

What the fuck did I just read? Daily reminder not to send men nude pictures of you unless you want to be in his spank bank forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:02 PM
4

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:00 PM
366

This is a cute meme. But also remember this attitude about women comes from porn and you're not his performing sex monkey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:04 PM
7

He's controlling you, that's abusive behavior and nd default low-value. I'm really sorry that you think your choices are perfect unicorn that doesn't exist or men that are various shades of abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:27 PM
9

I did something similar when I was your age and almost got raped. It was a wake-up call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:25 PM
72

Never go to a man's house. Never get drunk on a date. Yeah he's a creep. He was trying to force you into sex if he could get away with it. Also never put yourself in a position where a man has to drive you back to your car so that you can leave. All of these put you in an exposed position of vulnerability that women simply can't afford. You are lucky he didn't rape you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:09 PM
10

This guy is controlling you. His excuse is childhood stuff. That's unacceptable. It doesn't matter why he wants to control you. He's making a play to control you and you are allowing him to. This will only encourage him to make more and more plays for control over you and your loved life, and you will probably give in. You will be in an abusive relationship soon if you stay. Many men suddenly have horrible childhoods when it comes to excusing controlling and abusing you. Some of them simply lie …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:59 PM
7

I think they're confusing all the porn they watch with real life and getting angry that they weren't delivered a free porn star servant when the guys on screen get laid all the time! Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:52 PM
27

99% claim that were falsely accused. Even after they are convicted they will still keep up the facade with friends and family, and most people buy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:47 PM
7

In the wiki or the handbook there is a guide to how to use FDS to get a casual sex buddy. But this is ultimately a dating sub, i.e. how to find a good man for partnership. Not how to fuck a rando. We have even repeatedly suggested continuing with NSA sex partnership until you choose someone to be with in a committed relationship, if that is what you need and desire. It has been repeatedly clarified. And yet still remains not the focus of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:41 PM
8

Straight men who like to dress up as women have way more to consider when dating Then actual women do? Women are still far more likely to deal with domestic violence, abuse, rape, sexual assault, stalking, and pregnancy and STDs. 90% of these men are straight men and they date women. They have the same level as violence as other men. these are researched facts whether you like them or not. They are still men and they are still just as abusive as regular men. They also have an extremely high rate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:00 PM
13

This is so awful! I'm really happy you found us, and that you resisted. That is so hard to do. I'm proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:32 AM
20

I think that it's polite to thank people for their efforts. He should also be thanking you. You both should be thanking each other a couple of times throughout the day for all the little things you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:23 AM
22

Well the most successful marriages are it among people close in age. Like two to three years. Therefore I would keep it 26 to 30. Any younger and you'll probably get stuck with an idiot and any older and you might get an abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:14 AM
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This is a damn disgrace. And extremely insulting to her. I would dump him. How are you going to show that ring off? Everyone is going to look at that ring and then look at him and know that he doesn't value you and that he's a piece of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:13 AM
12

We would all be dead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:03 AM
5

I remember that story. Horrific. A tragedy. More tragic than Shakespeare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:37 AM
57

It is rather embarrassing to publicly out yourself for how much trash you take from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:12 AM
20

Accept it graciously but don't think much of it, don't get too excited, and don't let it count too much in his favor. It's just a meal at a restaurant after all. You really shouldn't have told him up front that you only have sex in relationships because that's just ridiculous. You don't need to say that, you just live it. The whole point is to see what he offers you without you leading him. So that you can see if he's a joker or a good man. I would also like to add that the date is about the ple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:59 AM
20

This. Sometimes I just give them the death stare silently until they get the point. If it's over text message or private message simply stop responding and block them. One of the best ways is look them hard in the eye, pause for a moment and then say "no means no", because that's the anti-rape slogan. They know what they are doing, and you are telling them, without telling them, that you know what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:51 AM
76

He asked what are you doing right now because he was trying to get you to come over and have sex with him. Don't even let this clown take you on a date if he does agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:56 PM
11

Way to tell on yourselves, guys! 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:10 PM
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Okay so don't do it. It's that easy. Nobody's saying you have to. That book isn't the Bible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:23 PM
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I'm a mod here. To the person above you, if you want to trash the sub and mods on the sub, you will be banned. I think that's reasonable. Yeah I don't agree with that description of a HVW either because it sounds trashy. But if you want a man that cares about his appearance and is fit, you have to be as well. HVW put effort into all aspects of their life and are well-rounded. I dress for dates and I expect him to dress well for dates too. That's just common sense and courtesy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:17 PM
103

Sorry not sorry, but I'm not going to breed with a man who's 5'7 or has a small dick. My future children will not thank me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:51 PM
4

If a man ever asked me that I would dump him immediately after telling him he's a misogynistic piece of trash. Every time now I see a woman describing herself as "oversensitive" or asking "am I overreacting?" It's because she's being abused and gaslighted by some pig, of course with the base of societal gaslighting having laid the groundwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:31 PM
57

Frankly, I don't think I would ever give away my secrets like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:52 PM
11

Dear Lord! I couldn't even read that thread. One woman, whenever she gets upset with her LVM who clearly fucking hates her, asks her when was the last time she took her meds. And then she excuses this by saying he's just "coming from a logical place"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:59 PM
11

Straight from the horse's mouth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:49 PM
124

How dare we not allow men to comment on what it's like being a woman dating men? We are missing out on all of their valuable insights! Like how we're not allowed to have any sexual preferences, expect to orgasm, basic hygiene; or expect equal labor, input and emotional care! How dare we not allow men to have their say! It's their human right to come here and call us bitches!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:22 PM
78

"I wipe his ass" Sadly, lots of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:13 PM
7

This was sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:06 PM
61

For me it would depend entirely on the situation. If it's a more subtle suggestion that I go home with him, I might pretend I didn't hear it or I might laugh like he's joking and then just change the subject. If it's direct, for example he tells me that I owe him or he expects me to come home with him, then I'd rip his testicles off verbally. The one thing I would absolutely not do is pay him back for the food or drink. It's clear he spent it thinking he was buying a prostitute so he can just be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:57 AM
11

So many men revealed themselves once you have the kid. And then you're there... with a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:54 AM
1

They fail a lot for birth control sweetie. I don't know how to tell you to read statistics. They also don't protect against STDs if they break, and whether they break or not they don't protect very well against skin transfer STDs like HPV and herpes. Their high failure rates for pregnancy prevention are why LARCs, or long-acting reversible contraception, are being recommended for teenagers now. "Long-acting reversible contraceptives (LARC) are methods of birth control that provide effective cont…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:44 AM
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Actually that's if it doesn't break and you also don't use it incorrectly. I'm really sorry that you're so excessively ignorant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:31 PM
13

That reek of desperation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:00 PM
29

I went on only one and never again because it felt like a low tier job interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:54 PM
32

No one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:53 PM
9

Why does it matter what the man thinks? Why are you letting low value men's thoughts control your dating style? And then didn't he just reveal himself to be a piece of shit on the first date therefore freeing you the trouble of investing more time in him? The real reason these men don't pay is because they ain't shit and have no money and have crap jobs. That automatically weeds them out of the dating pool, and certainly the marriage and children pool. They're also bitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:52 PM
13

I hear the sound of losers never getting laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:47 PM
4

Copper IUD doesn't cause hormonal disruption, loss of genital sensation, loss or difficulty with orgasm, loss of arousal, depression or any long-term side effects. You literally just made that up to try to win a point. Please for the love of God do some research. You are literally scientifically, statistically, and medically incorrect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:43 PM
0

Some of those stories absolutely are not real the rest are like the freak chance. The birth control pill kills women rather regularly with embolism but I don't see you freaking out over that. It also can cause permanent issues with depression, loss of sensation and orgasm, and loss of desire and arousal due to permanent hormone changes from being on the pill. Those are all based on recent studies that have come out in the last few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:28 PM
1

Absolutely. That's a huge problem. Then there's a lot of people that just don't seem to pay any attention in class. But more than anything, there seems to be a total lack of desire to actually do any research on their own even though all of the information is readily available on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:23 PM
2

Yeah condoms just have a massive failure rate...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:32 PM
3

When I told mem I had an IUD most of them didn't even know what it was. Some of them got freaked out. Sex Ed, where are you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:25 PM
1

Several good points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:20 PM
2

You're "85% effectiveness" correct fact sooths me. Someone just responded to me and told me condoms only have a 2% failure rate. Lol This is clearly how people keep having accidental pregnancies... I think we need to do birth control education posts on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:18 PM
2

Oh my God! That is so much more humane to women! I had the old-fashioned sounding of my uterus too and it was not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:10 PM
5

You're literally statistically wrong. You're quoting some stories that might not even be true that you read on a Facebook group and some very rare cases. It is literally the safest form of birth control. Why don't you try Google. Google. Try actual facts instead of Facebook stories. The IUD is the cheapest longest lasting most effective birth control with the least side effects and it's also the most chosen by far by female gynecologists. You also don't even need a doctor to take it out, anyone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:04 PM
1

Is that a new one available in the US or are you living outside of the US? There is a huge variety of IUDs around the world. Okay I see you live in another country. We don't have as many options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:58 PM
1

The 2% failure rate is with perfect use and without any condom ever breaking. Actual success rates are like 86%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:56 PM
1

You have a 5-year copper IUD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:17 AM
3

Yes please. You having zero idea what you're talking about. Abusers can hide it for months or years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:34 AM
81

He really thinks he's going to get a prostitute for the price of a coffee. Anyway five dates is not enough. That's mid-range.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:12 AM
6

My boyfriend was so sweet, so romantic so cute and a little bit dorky, and awkward, he said so many things I agreed with, he was a feminist, a romantic, brought me flowers....still after a few months of living together he got sick of me and started being abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:10 AM
8

Yeah but you don't know the him that you would be living with... Sounds like you've made up your mind though. Enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:03 AM
7

I agree with her as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:54 AM
4

Good for you. Just keep going. Those women sounds so dumb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:51 AM
34

Yes I do. And it never gave me an orgasm. Bye-bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:48 AM
19

Say yes and give him the address to a place. Don't show up but keep telling him you're really close and you just got stuck in traffic. Let him figure it out. But not before you block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:47 AM
4

That's what I was thinking. Who's approving these posts? Although I might approve it just to watch the person get ripped apart...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:31 AM
0

Ok sure. Doctors say dumb ass shit everyday. I managed to get my PCOS diagnosed in 3 years, instead of the average of 10, because I didn't take their dumb shit and I did my own research and informed myself. I don't take the word of a doctor just because they are a doctor and honestly the person is probably a nurse practitioner anyway these days instead of even an MD. You're still wrong about anti-inflammatories being a problem for IUD insertion. That's just not going to change. I actually did my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:14 AM
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That literally has nothing to do with IUD insertion. I'm just not going to respond to anyone else on this thread at all anymore because I got to preserve what's left of my sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:05 AM
1

All anti-inflammatories are blood thinners. But it still wouldn't make any difference since it's not a surgery and you're not cutting any tissue that would cause you to bleed unduly due to use of a blood thinner. I'm not aware of anti-inflammatories that have extra added blood thinners?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:40 AM
2

It doesn't even take 10 minutes! They open you up with the speculum, slip a tube in through your cervix, push the IUD through the tiny little tube, pull the tube out and then they trim the strings and remove the speculum. People are down voting because they seem to hate facts and be allergic to them. Repeatedly I've seen people claim IUD insertion is a surgery. There was even one woman a while ago that I saw a claim that they cut the cervix open to put the IUD in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:38 AM
2

It's not a surgery. There's no cutting. It doesn't matter that you're taking anti-inflammatories. And they do actually recommend that you take them, they just tend to forget to tell patients to do it. I repeat IUD insertion is not a surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:35 AM
2

It's a tube they put through the opening in your cervix. It's a very tiny. You got a point for invasive but it's not a surgery since surgery by definition involves cutting. Anyway yeah it's scary. If you ever do consider it, start taking anti-inflammatories the day before and take them all the way through your day of insertion, maybe even the next day. Also demand a numbing gel on your cervix and make sure they wait long enough for it to take effect (several minutes). I did that with my second i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:25 AM
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Yeah that's just too young for marriage. I would say keep your own place and enjoy being together. Chances are in three years you probably won't even be together. I'm sorry to tell you that and I know what it's like when you're so young and it feels so wonderful! I wouldn't even say to live with him because honestly living with a guy is not that great. Most of those relationships go south. And no matter what they say, they always want you to serve them and somehow it will turn out that way. I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:12 AM
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I feel bad saying this but I got to side with the ex not wanting this woman around her daughters because she is a bad influence due to her absolute ignorance, and this entire relationship with their old ass father is a bad influence. But also if he wanted to be with her he would totally throw over his daughters for her. 🙄 Men. smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:05 AM
2

I'm not sure why these people seem to think you can't use a condom and an IUD? And as for the men I just never told them I had an IUD. None of their business. Unless it was someone I trusted and I was in a serious relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:00 AM
3

Yeah let's make inexperienced teens rely on highly fallible condoms for pregnancy prevention! What could go wrong? Anyway you can actually use both an IUD and a condom! There's a ton of anti-IUD sentiment. Just so you all know the IUD is by far and away the number one most popular form of birth control chosen by female gynecologists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:59 AM
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As far as I'm concerned he's just another molester of young women. What a nasty trick to play on someone who is still practically a child. Don't have random men's babies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:49 AM
17

It's probably a Shut Up Ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:49 AM
3

Okay that's just not true though. And I thought that's where you're going. I also have PCOS. You can ovulate with PCOS, happens all the time. It's just pretty hit or miss. So I've always used birth control just to be safe but I never worried about it and I never had a pregnancy scare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:45 AM
1

Ah! That's great! I wish they had had that 14 years ago when I got my first IUD and went through hell for the insertion! But I couldn't use any other birth control because of a variety of medical issues and sensitivities... So I got it done. It was worth it! That first IUD got a lot of happy miles! For your second IUD I'm sure you can have the paragard since your uterus would be used to having an IUD in it. Nothing beats not having to think about birth control for 10 years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:42 AM
1

So how do you know you never ovulate? Are you tested every month?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:39 AM
11

How is your copper IUD only good for 3 years? The copper IUD is 10 years. Unless you're in a different country than the US where they have different models? I also got an IUD so I could have sex without worry! My way! I've had copper IUDs for 14 years, after the first year no more cramping, no excessive bleeding. Zero. I don't even have to check the strings anymore since it doesn't even move and risk of spontaneous expulsion at this point is pretty non-existent. It just hangs out in there and pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:28 AM
11

IUD insertion is not a surgery. Oh my God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:23 AM
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It's literally the only option that most men will even allow us to have. They go on internet sites/clubs and they'll send a hundred of the same message out to different women that they don't even care about/get as many phone numbers as possible and text low value pickup lines. And then they just pick whoever accepts the lowest bid. You asked for more and you're out the window since you never had any value in the first place to this LVM fuckboy. Sometimes it becomes a choice between nothing and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:28 AM
28

I agree internet official is a little flimsy. But I must correct you, FDS does not necessarily advocate single to engaged. That's one alternate option. Our typical stance is that he should make it official by two or three months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:24 AM
11

Yeah. It's a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:11 AM
45

This. The three biggest factors in a successful marriage are good finances and income, being over like 25 when you marry, and both having advanced degrees. Statistically those are the three biggest factors in a successful marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:02 PM
23

That's pretty fast for how young you are. How old is he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:00 PM
6

Sometimes you got to laugh at your past stupidity. And sometimes the joke wakes people up. Also we want to have a little fun here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:54 PM
4

Oh we've got some quality memes on this sub! I came for the great advice and stayed for the memes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:50 PM
12

Exactly. That was where the quote was from that somebody posted a few weeks ago here on the sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:37 PM
41

Once I had a guy make up what I know believe to be a lie. He claimed that his friends told him that I was not smart and he was obviously just with me for my looks. At the time I thought it was really odd since his friends and I couldn't even speak to each other because they didn't speak my language and I didn't speak his language, I was living in a foreign country. Also I only met these friends one time very briefly in passing. Why would they claim I was stupid? I had a lot of confidence and I t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:33 PM
65

This is so common, where ##male## abusers pretend that they were the ones abused. It's called DARVO: deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. Story as old as time. Now when men tell me they were "abused" by their ex-girlfriend, or that their ex-girlfriend was "crazy", I know what the truth is. He abused her until she snapped and either held him accountable or defended herself. The best thing any woman can ever do to protect herself is to develop entirely different standards for how we treat, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:21 PM
2

I just went through your post history. You need to get your shit together. It's a hot mess. I say that with love! 22 hours before this totally crazy post you were talking about how you don't care about men and what they think of you, and a comment how you're going to make a man who clearly doesn't respect you, or women, is a douchebag and leaves you on read, catch feelings for you somehow. My non medical professional recommendation is DBT and some CBT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:11 PM
5

Oh these people are broken and brainwashed! Reminds me of the woman I saw yesterday who said that going on a date or multiple dates with someone was too much "relationship pressure". ???? It's a date, not an arranged marriage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:57 PM
2

Also being judgmental is the only way to protect ourselves! You have to quickly and harshly evaluate men and their behavior to cut off an abuser before he gets a chance to hurt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:46 PM
2

I'm sorry. But also save yourself the ##YEARS## of accepting scraps and the waste of your youth and invest in yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:44 PM
16

This response! 💅🏼 Him: "No! Not like that!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:21 PM
7

Well I hope you won't ever have anything to do with this man again. Slip ups happen. But it's his fault, he's the pig here! Has he previously disregarded any of your boundaries? Or tried to? Had he shown any previous behaviors that indicated he would do this? Now that you know what's on the other side of allowing your boundaries to be crossed it'll be a lot harder for someone to manipulate it you into anything next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:50 AM
17

I actively work to avoid attention with headphones and resting bitch face and glaring men down if they look like they're going to approach me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:46 AM
11

Meanwhile in reality we're all out here beating these fuckers off with a stick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:45 AM
4

Yes please post some things here, OP! There isn't much advice on the sub, probably more in the resource list/wiki, but there are married women here and they comment regularly about what their husbands do for them, how they maintain themselves, their hobbies and friendships, take time for themselves, communicate with their partner, uphold their boundaries, don't do everything for the man and get taken advantage of etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:42 AM
15

So you made him feel bad about himself by having goals for your life? That really says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:29 AM
331

And this is why I don't have kids. After watching what my mother went through this is my literal nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:13 AM
74

Really makes me think of the old days when they would kick the husband out and the woman's female family would move in, help her and keep that dumbass away. The worst part is these pigs that whine about wanting to put their dick in the bore woman immediately. Every one of these dudes is going to end up on deadbedrooms whining about why his vagina toy isn't compliant anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:10 AM
69

They are literally just trying to push you into sex and how dare you say no because you're just a walking hole for them. LVM for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:58 AM
60

This dude can't even put together a complete sentence or spell the word forever. Fantastic response!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:36 AM
70

3 to 6 months and he better be telling you he loves you. Not even sure I would wait for 6 months...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:32 AM
43

Emancipate yourself from this relationship bullshit!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:26 AM
13

He's showing you how he feels with his lack of action. Period. There's nothing to confront. You can't confront someone into putting effort into you and liking you and being serious about you. He's not serious about you I think he's using you for emotional neighbor which is where all the talking comes in. He's only going to use that as another opportunity to manipulate you. There's a reason older men date younger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:52 AM
18

What doesn't! He doesn't put any time or effort into you, you haven't seen each other, he's older, you admit he hasn't wooed you at all, he has never bought you a present for any holidays in 6 months... You're spending mental time and energy on someone who isn't spending it on you. Oh also the empty marriage talk. Butni see a pattern of lots of talk that you're getting caught up in but no actions to back it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:41 AM
23

He's juggling multiple women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:27 AM
3

Yeah so much of aging is caused by men's bullshit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:03 AM
46

Actually it's until you choose to be in a relationship with one man, with alternate possible route of dating until engagement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:15 AM
-1

I mean I guess you can if you want to. He's just a low value person though. Nobody needs to mention anything related to sex before you even gone on your first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:10 AM
-1

That's just super low value to immediately tell you things that would only apply to your situation if you had sex with him on the first date. Honestly men watch way too much porn! My vote is just cancel the date. And well actually, that's not even a real date. This is a free game night. As far as I'm concerned that's friend territory and here he is mentioning things that would only apply to sex. He really thinks that he's going to take you out to a free game night and then get sex from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:05 AM
2

Same. It makes me feel refreshed and reminds me value and care for myself more. It also brings me back to my connection with my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:09 PM
15

Do you see how a manipulative this is? He has no right to ejaculate inside of you, and then to throw it back in your face. No. It's becoming clear that you want to stay with him and you're willing to make excuses for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:38 PM
7

Your vagina doesn't have to be insanely tight and it doesn't have to be as tight as his death grip. I'm not even sure why you're saying all of this. I think you have the wrong end of the stick here. Ultimately it doesn't really matter the reason, if he's not able to sexually satisfy you or even keep an erection what's the point? You have to decide the future that you want and if this is what you want to be dealing with still in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:37 PM
2

Exactly. Also I got a $30 electric facial exfoliating brush with a variety of heads from Amazon and it's been a miracle! It's helped with my scarring, acne and texture immensely! I use it three times a week and it cleans my skin so nicely. It also has a massaging head that I use on my forehead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:33 PM
4

Yeah I think some of those people, whether they realize it or not, are energy vampires. Absolutely. Like some people say I don't want to fill my life with "low vibration" people. I accepted people like this because I had issues with self-worth, appropriate boundaries and healthy choices. I definitely let myself down and could have asked for so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:29 PM
3

Personally I like a nice bentonite clay mask. They are great for acne but they are extremely drying so I only use them sparingly. Bentonite and kaolin clay masks with charcoal are also good. I've noticed a lot of those women usually are not very good at actually putting women first, the baseline of feminism, nor at doing actual feminist work. Instead they scream about how dare you shave your legs or wear makeup as if those are the central tenants of feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:18 PM
31

Also everything that women have made for themselves has been corrupted by the patriarchy. From domestic violence laws that are being used against victims, to anti-rape laws that have zero teeth under system that only causes victims significantly more trauma, to women in the workforce being expected to pay 50% of everything in a household and still do almost all child care, cooking, and chores. This is just one more example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:13 PM
6

Sorry but they're all wrong. Just like you don't need to date a man who is low value, you don't need to surround yourself with low value female friends either. Besides the two experiences I mentioned above I've also had them blame me for men attacking and sexually assaulting me/groping me, another one told me once men start having sex they can't stop because they're like dogs so that's not rape, I've had them tell me being raped was my fault, that I put out sexual energy so it's my fault when me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:56 PM
15

Lowest of low effort! Don't get tricked into a race to the bottom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:11 PM
5

And she's waiting for the next installment of the story with bated breath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:10 PM
22

This is very sad. Pickme level 1000. That ring is fake. And frankly her nails are horrifyingly disgusting and say a lot about the sort of person that she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:08 PM
3

Yeah I think I'm being generous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:03 PM
11

Oh my God just throw the whole man out! God these people running around begging for decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:29 PM
15

Oh my God just throw the whole man out! God these people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:29 PM
2

Guiding that guy really put you through the ringer! This is exactly what they do, lie and lie and lie some more and shift blame on to you and then they start tearing you down physically and sexually. These LVM's have no shame at all and zero compunction about playing us. It's abuse plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:24 PM
10

Just because it works a few times in the beginning, or even for a few months, doesn't mean he doesn't have porn addiction. When the novelty of you wears off usually their ability to get and keep an erection does too. Then they lose interest in sex and they start to lie to you, manipulate you, tell you all the things that are wrong with you and why it's your fault...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:22 PM
18

Yeah men's dicks do not get sore from regular sex...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:21 PM
12

You don't need to see his history or have proof. It doesn't matter why his dick doesn't work. You deserve an equal sexual partner with functional genitals. This isn't a court of law, this is your life. You don't need unequivocal proof just to dump somebody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:20 PM
12

He has death grip from porn use and masturbating too hard. That's why he can keep it up when he masturbates but not when he is inside of you. He probably also wants porn level entertainment so actual sex with a woman isn't good enough to keep him hard. He will keep lying to you. He knows he has a broken dick and he knows it's because of porn and masturbating too hard. But he has already decided he won't stop, that he would rather just lie to you. It will be a different excuse every time. He will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:18 PM
16

There aren't a lot of women like this. I just tended to only have female friends that were single. And when they got a boyfriend they would disappear and I'd have to deal with their relationship drama when I got to see them. It was pickme bs but usually minimal unless dating a man. Later I realized that they're a risk because I ended up taking advice/introductions from 2 of those women and that lead to both of my rapes. So... Pickmes as friends are a risk. It's hard out there. Maybe find some wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:22 PM
30

I've been with a lot of men over the years and the attractive ones tend to lose their their appeal when their personality it takes a nosedive. Two of the guys that I've been with that were really great I was not initially attracted to at all. But they won me over genuinely. The third to me was extremely attractive but probably not to anybody else. Although he was kind of a sex god so he actually had other women that were still in love with him. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:46 PM
24

Hahaha But puppies are cute...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:18 AM
35

Yet another porn fueled tragedy. He has clearly watched a bunch of porn with this theme. Not only does he want to force her into this, he wants to include her colleagues and his colleagues in this nastiness as well. Pure LVM clownery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:47 AM
32

I'm 100% skeptical of any man who says he does half of anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:32 AM
13

Yeah but she's going to have to find someone new now and then try to have kids with them. I'm sure that'll take at least two or three years which puts her at 40, 41. That just doesn't sound very enticing. It's also not very smart to wait till 40 when both you and your eggs and also your partners are all older. It is simply a fact that it's more difficult to get pregnant and it's more difficult physically to get through the pregnancy. Also running after a toddler at 45 sounds pretty fucking miser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:31 AM
10

Oh she's got a chip on her shoulder about something. Probably was called a as pickme. I have PCOS so I use retinol to help with the cystic acne and it keeps it almost completely at bay. But I mentioned I use it on GC and some women replied and screamed at me about how I don't need to prevent wrinkles! That'll show the patriarchy, I guess? Better not use sunscreen either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:25 AM
24

Men have zero problem gaslighting women into thinking that asking for basic sexual consideration and equal pleasure is some sort of crime of selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:19 AM
105

So you cooked for him, did the dishes and the serviced him sexually? Well now that you know what disappointments are on the other side of this next time you won't have to have a firsthand look!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:20 AM
31

The only potential issue with this is that he really thinks he's doing 50% when the studies prove women do almost everything. It's probably more like 30/70
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:04 AM
9

The point to dump him and not look back was when he called you ugly. Then on top of that there's ignoring you, not putting any effort into being with you, refusing to speak about issues in the relationship, and now he's pressuring you for sex. You know the answer or you wouldn't be here asking. Maybe you just don't like the answer? Think about what you want for your future. You should love yourself more than this abuser who is trying to force you into sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:59 AM
7

Rape is essentially legal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:52 AM
48

I was at a feminist meeting today and Julie Bindel said "you might not think rejecting men's sexual advances is a political act but men definitely do." She was talking about lesbians being political but it actually describes the reaction to FDS quiet well. Rejecting penis is a hate crime so FDS is a hate group. A great comment. Hilariously over there there's some angry simpleton claiming we promote sugaring and prostitution. That's amazing since I've been here for 4 months and I've never seen an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:46 AM
73

Twin flame love indeed... It's killing me that she's 38 and still thinks at some point "in the future" she's going to have children. Probably should have thought of that quite a few years ago. Anyway if a guy wants to have kids with you you're not going to have to be the one to bring it up. This cop out reply is a dead giveaway that he knows he's never going to have children with her but he's happy letting her think that he might have children with her in the future if it will get her to stay no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:39 AM
49

"the truth is mean" 🙄 If you keep doing stupid things for years you probably should feel a little shame if it will get you to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:33 AM
154

More like patriarchal poopy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:24 AM
18

Maybe he was hoping that she would dump him over text so he could sleep with the prostitute and then claim it was okay cuz they were "on a break" à la Ross. It was very bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:10 AM
8

You're right. Keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:07 AM
5

She reported your comment as "targeted harassment against me" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:20 AM
9

Making up stuff about mods getting in trouble for labeling you a pick me while acting like a pick me 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:54 AM
12

She's a Stockholm idiot, you can't do anything. She has to figure out it out for herself. I can't imagine being so pathetic and having so little that you proclaim that your boyfriend is your whole life at 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:43 AM
3

You don't. Stop responding and see if he offers more. Otherwise, block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:40 AM
14

It's shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:53 PM
22

God you got that right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:52 PM
50

God I fucking hate men so much. "We're creating a human" Suck it, Jimbo, you didn't do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:37 PM
4

That's really hard to admit to yourself. It's tough. Sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:00 PM
127

This is really ridiculous isn't it? Men have shifted all of the responsibility of birth control, pregnancy, pain, abuse, pressure, lack of pleasure and orgasm, and STDs on to us and then call it even. Reminds me of the studies that show men think a crowd being 30% women or 30% women speaking means it's 50/50. Anything above 30% is viewed as women taking over! Says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:37 PM
66

This all the way. Also keeping you on the back burner in the hopes that they'll be able to have NSA sex with you again in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:33 PM
84

🤢🤮 All these women blaming themselves and calling themselves insecure for not wanting their man to go running after other women and treat women like sexual objects. That's men's words they've put in your mind. Not wanting your man to essentially cheat isn't "insecure". Not wanting your man to dehumanize women and reduce them to things isn't "insecure". Male manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:32 PM
2

Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:29 PM
4

So amazing! Great job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:24 PM
9

What about how he treated you? He obviously used you as a meal ticket. And to the tune of 15K! That guy's just going to find another woman to suck dry. He sounds like a hobosexual. I think you wouldn't be feeling bad like this if he hadn't manipulated you. This whole situation is absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:04 PM
38

Next it'll be a coffee date...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:02 PM
15

Wow. What jerks! You had the right response though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:02 PM
9

Yes. Back row of the movie theater. A classic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:58 PM
17

He can walk you to your car at the end of the date and give you a kiss. Also if you can manage it a walk in the park after your date at night is a perfect spot for a first kiss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:57 PM
32

Yep. Auto-dump ⚰️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:15 PM
105

I'm just amazed at how much bullshit so many people take. I would have told them to get the hell out of my house. Imagine having the nerve to let yourself into someone else's house without announcement or permission and then get angry at them for what you see. That's like going through somebody's drawers and finding their dildo and then screaming at them and making them apologize because you found it while snooping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:59 PM
9

Well you didn't say that in your OP, that would be a different situation. It can definitely be a manipulation tactic to mention marriage and kids early. I also think you should have an idea that he wants a future of some sort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:50 PM
44

Well if he can't pay for an expensive dates then he needs to be planning thoughtful dates. He should be putting time and effort into you, consideration, thoughtfulness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:40 PM
39

Guys go on there and use those apps for free photos to masturbate to, and even free emotional labor without an intention of ever meeting for a date. Sorry he did that to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:36 PM
7

Very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:35 PM
35

He should be talking about a future with you. Otherwise he's not interested. If you tell them what you want you will likely get manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:33 PM
111

He used you for masturbation fodder for free. Please don't ever give photos like that to a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:31 PM
39

This guy is looking for free masturbation material and I've heard that they like to move the conversation off of the app so that they can send pictures of their dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:25 PM
7

Actually some of their own groups have done studies and found rape to be extremely prominent at parties set up by these people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:02 PM
5

It really is sickeningly obvious from the outside of their porn brain entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:54 PM
62

Remember they're all logical though! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:27 PM
25

I think at this point I would just openly film the guy until he figures it out. Then tell him I'm going to put it on the internet and he should give me his full name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:54 AM
140

"How do I get my boyfriend to do these things that I want him to do without telling him that I want him to do them but how do I tell him? Also am I selfish for wanting my boyfriend to like making me happy sometimes?" This is what happens when you ask for nothing. Another note, he's dating a single mother with two children and he makes her pay for her own dates????? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:20 AM
107

So He was pushing himself on her sexually repeatedly for a whole year and then got sick of her because she didn't enjoy it enough and "perform"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:14 AM
16

Stop giving shit to men. They don't fucking deserve it. This piece of shit's already cumming every single time they have sex. I doubt she is. Asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:56 AM
16

Yeah I had one guy who "accidentally" tried to force it in twice. Absolute bullshit. Never once had anyone else "accidentally" try to hit the ass instead of the vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:53 AM
9

Then just text him that you're not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:34 PM
41

I just cannot believe that women allow themselves to be played like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:25 PM
17

This is a very good example of exactly how to handle this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:08 PM
19

Absolutely do not tell him what you want or expect. He is supposed to come up with something himself and show you what he thinks of you and the effort he is willing to put into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:07 PM
29

Yes I've been there done that. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:49 PM
63

Doesn't matter what he said. No backsies. We don't backslide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:25 PM
24

I dated one of these dudes and he said what he liked about me was my looks and generosity. I was shocked. 2 years and that's all he liked about me. Basically you're hot so you make my peepee hard and you give me things and do things for me. Now I don't do things for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:17 PM
27

This is very, very odd that he won't "allow" you to do something.. I have to echo what some of the people above said about abusive behavior. Particularly how he refused to let you do this thing, then took it out on you, then ran after you telling you that he loves you but not apologizing until you refuse to speak to him all day. All of this just sounds like a lot of drama to deal with constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:08 PM
41

They are acting exactly the same way as when you try to take away their abusive porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:23 PM
247

Word of advice, never ever ever get with a man who cannot apologize to you or will not apologize to you. Or gives you one of these fake apologies. That's a person who doesn't care about you, doesn't respect you and will never listen to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:21 PM
4

This phrase triggers my fist clenching ready to punch! Too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:20 PM
10

Very sad but not at all surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:39 AM
43

The men be downvoting! Love how they troll this sub getting butthurt! 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:42 AM
51

The most astute comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:08 AM
18

Those dumb girls don't even know they're getting played... Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:06 AM
96

"Divorce rape" him and take one of his two cars and keep your own. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:33 AM
19

It's a whole step above fugly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:18 AM
7

Do you mean FDS? Or the Mormons?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:17 AM
11

This is great! LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:22 PM
87

Cheated on by a mugly old fuck barf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:19 PM
16

That means he's fucking other women. Or trying to. Or drunk or out with his friends. Probably all 4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:50 PM
8

Lol Their body just betrays them. And yet they continue to try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:51 PM
107

Imagine being so narcissistic you can't even give someone one day for them on their damn birthday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:18 PM
91

They really think being used as a flashlight by them as some sort of compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:17 PM
6

Typical. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:13 PM
12

It's hilarious how men react when getting an infinitesimal fraction of the shit we women deal with daily. And in their case it's the truth, for us it's lies men tell about us constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:12 PM
6

Obviously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:09 PM
6

Brutal 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:06 PM
16

Once and only once I told a guy I wanted to fuck him and then he played games with me for months. Never again. Discretion is key. I find a middle ground to be good. Be nice, be flirty, enjoy talking to them, sometimes maybe go out with them a few times and then proceed to use them for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:03 PM
22

This is it right here. They also have dreams of being the big man beating off all the women with a stick being indifferent to them. You totally flip the script on their fantasy if you're the indifferent one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:54 PM
22

I had a dude I was seeing casually get downright pathological with me one time. Accused me of being in love with him because I smiled at him! I had another accuse me of playing games with him to manipulate him and get him to like me. I don't even remember the dude's name... They are so fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:53 PM
11

True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:52 PM
12

I have always wanted one of those over the top peignoir!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:50 PM
57

If they actually counted all the rapes that happened, not their fake numbers, their petty little number of assaults wouldn't have anything on what they do to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:14 PM
34

Yet another reason men should pay and shut up about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:11 PM
11

What a turn around! You're amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:10 PM
27

At least it makes them easy to filter out. Can you imagine having to live with a man who speaks and thinks like this 24/7 for the rest of your life? You would need a lobotomy to survive it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:35 PM
20

That is so tacky. Oh my God!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:34 PM
45

Another example of a male projection. Projecting their racist porno race fetish on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:32 PM
5

now I don't give them the chance to gaslight me. I will send the person to text and then just block them. It's not my job to take their abuse or gaslighting. I'm not getting paid for it. Bye-bye! You can do it! Make a list of all the stuff he's done to you and just keep reading it every time he's nice to you and every time you find yourself making excuses for him and every time that you find yourself "remembering the good times".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:31 PM
6

See they just don't know what's good for them! That's why we have to take control 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:28 PM
4

Lol good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:25 PM
21

Yes this is it right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:30 AM
21

Lol hopefully this disgusting asshole searching for submissive woman remains alone forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:28 AM
4

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:24 AM
22

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:36 AM
3

Oh my god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:33 AM
26

Say it by slamming the door in his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:11 AM
40

Lol no matter how they play they'll still have to wait 3 to 6 months for sex. Good luck fuckbois! Hope you have a few grand or more to spend on dates Mr. i mIgHt pAy FoR YoUr CoFfEe iF YoU pLaY YoUr CaRds rIgHt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:05 AM
3

Best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:01 AM
11

Sadly there are now women claiming they orgasm just from sucking a guy's dick...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:57 AM
7

Dude did you see the post yesterday about a specific place in Africa, I forgot which country, where men breastfeed before the baby. They force the women to do it. They say they like the breast milk. Some infants have been forced on to formula because of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:36 PM
2

So I haven't answered for you and I'm going to edit the OP to include it as well. You have to send a mod mail over at FDS superfans and ask to become an approved user. Then once you're approved you can post there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:24 PM
17

I really sit back and let them do the talking. Show no judgment and they'll just sort of reveal themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:20 PM
17

Wow that's dead. Once a guy brought me a plant. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:15 PM
15

If a guy came to get me and wouldn't come to my door I wouldn't come out. And if he did come to my door and I open it and he has holes in his clothing and dirt I would close it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:14 PM
12

Yeah they can take it over there. We're just not going to feed them here on the main sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:07 PM
28

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:55 PM
9

Revolution! Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:15 PM
16

The smaller you get in response to an abuser will only encourage them. They will continue until there's nothing left of you. We are so glad you found us! You have obviously made so much progress and are in a much better place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:59 PM
22

I wonder what percentage of that sub, red pill women, is actually MRA dudes pretending to be women to manipulate and gaslight them into compliance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:53 PM
15

Yeah you can be the First Mate in your own life to your precious Captain. Lol! Have fun wiping a grown man's ass for 30 years and never orgasming! Yeah so much more "logical" to see yourself as a subhuman object meant to submit to a dude! Totes more positive! Being aware is just so depressing so why do it? Get used, it's much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:45 PM
17

Lol yeah. After a certain age there's no way they can't possibly know though. But they do like to play ignorant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:29 PM
17

Thanks! Sorry I had to remove your post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:22 PM
6

We have a sub for these. r/FDSSuperfans I'm going to have to remove this post. We don't want to feed the trolls on our main sub. These dudes are desperate for female attention even negative attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:11 PM
78

It's not a valid issue though. 99% of these dudes are always either, 1, raping the woman, 2, never give her any sexual pleasure and whine/shame/gaslight/tell her that's her own job her when she asks, or 3, acting like an incompetent that needs the woman to wipe his bottom and burp him all through life and then expecting sex too. These users and abusers have only themselves to blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:09 PM
51

Well if he was accused and he acted like that with you then we all know he did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:00 PM
64

Good for you! I'm so glad you listened to your gut. He sounds dangerous as hell. Women are gaslighted to put niceness and courtesy ahead of our own common sense and safety. Don't let men trick you with their lies. There's nothing impolite in refusing to meet with an abuser privately when dumping him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:24 PM
198

From 22 to 29 I didn't have one close female friend who hadn't been raped. Even my female physical therapist, counselors I went to when I was looking for help, and my hairdresser have all been raped too. I finally got to know two women online who hadn't been raped. They were both lesbians. Being alone with men is dangerous. Even a wonderful nice man who you've known for a year who has always been a tender, sweet lover will often rape you when you tell him no. This is why we need to be careful, l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:25 PM
38

Meanwhile there's apparently an epidemic of men raping their dogs... Combine that with projection... And you get a message like this. Ipso facto he probably wants to get a dog so he can rape it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:16 AM
20

"humans need companionship" "You get companionship from your dog? You must fuck it." Apparently men use the word companionship for sex. They also use the word ”intimacy” for sex. Morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:14 AM
11

The only good marriage counselor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:39 AM
3

Don't listen to your mom. She's wrong. If she can't be on your side then don't speak to her about the subject at all. Maybe even take a break from speaking to her for a while. People usually only think about the nasty things they said when you pull away and stop talking to them and they start realizing that maybe they really messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:11 AM
12

Smh LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:03 AM
28

Exactly. There is no way this dude even knows a man that has a wife. I'm sure all his buddies are just as pathetic as him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:20 AM
98

BuT wHaT dOeS SHE bRiNg To ThE TaBle? Aw everything? I can't believe this guy thinks he's worthy of getting to go out with a woman and he can't even be bothered to buy her one meal. I love the coffee date bullshit "if you perform well enough I'll buy you lunch after. Just come to our date hungry and, oh yeah, spend 2 hours getting ready so you look perfect to sit across a coffee table for me for 1 hour and perform like a trained Pomeranian!" If they didn't even want to have to show minimal since…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:17 AM
39

Don't worry about people calling you judgmental. Judgment is what keeps you from being an idiot. Usually it's people who don't meet your standards that call you judgmental or are dead set on being idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:27 PM
10

This sounds like fun 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:15 PM
2

Please read the handbook it covers all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:50 PM
3

If you're just looking to fuck then go fuck. If you want a real relationship don't give it up until he tells you he wants to be with you and makes effort, otherwise you're just going to get dudes who are going to play you. This is literally common sense. You can go to any of the other ridiculous dating subs and get all the stupid advice you'd like, tons of men will tell you to have sex without commitment, trust, safety etc. It has nothing to do with "women not getting anything out of sex".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:48 PM
7

That's totally how one of those Lifetime movies starts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:58 PM
14

Ooh okay! I would say a sleek dress with heels. Miniskirt is a lot of skin for a first date...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:57 PM
34

A mini skirt? To a taco place? For a first date? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:36 PM
12

They're so manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:31 PM
19

That's still creepy as hell considering she doesn't know who this man is and she's only been on two dates with him! The offer itself would be polite though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:29 PM
20

That "busy lady" stuff and asking when you would have time for him is just another attempt at controlling and shaming you. Dump. This is creepy as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:28 PM
10

He's either trying to get in your pants or get control of you and use this as an in. It's creepy as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:26 PM
8

No set of tips is guaranteed to be flawless. It's intended to be a guide. Edit: my comment triple posted. Oops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:30 PM
15

I think the best thing you can do is find a high value conscientious person who clearly takes care of himself, the way he dresses, his hair, how he speaks, how he types. For example I don't date men who don't type complete sentences and I've never had a hygiene issue amazingly. You need to find a generally conscientious person who cares about things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:25 PM
12

Neville Longbottom 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:56 AM
6

Yes I think the smaller a woman is the more they target her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:08 AM
20

I agree. It's too damn late. You're right, as long as it only hurt her he was fine with it. Women are so keen on accepting scraps and this is exactly how they end up in these relationships. Could never be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:27 AM
6

No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:23 AM
13

And this is why you don't ever pick up after a man or do their laundry or cook every single meal for them. They will never respect you for serving them and you will only grow better. Start out how you mean to go on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:16 AM
13

Tip: You also aren't available for this man in a few months. You aren't available for this man period. Firstly he's probably lying and he's married still and he will still be in a few months. Secondly he won't be a better person in a few months. Thirdly if he is truly getting divorced he's going to be hung up on her still and not ready for a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:01 AM
51

You did so good! Good for you! When I was a kid I was like bully catnip. I was small, quiet, a loner and abused kid, I had to wear glasses, I had social anxiety, and I was poor and had nothing. But anyone who fucked with me I either ripped them apart verbally, intimidated the hell out of them until they were too scared to even speak or literally kicked them in the balls. No one messed with me twice. Nothing keeps you warm at night like not letting people abuse you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:22 AM
5

It was a study. Apparently in the distant past only 1 in 17 men reproduced. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:10 AM
25

Oh my God she needs to fucking kick him to hell and have the baby and then run free from this POS! She should leave him with his daddy and the two of them can get couples therapy together. This father and son are completely enmeshed in an unhealthy relationship. Why are you going to be an adult having dinner four times a week with your father?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:32 AM
15

No. If you don't want short men that's okay. I don't think I would breed with them either. If I'm not going to have kids with them I might consider shorter but I'm not real sure. Only like one in 17 men should be breeding anyway...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:24 AM
1

Reporting men doesn't ruin their lives unless you get really lucky. And anyway they ruined it themselves. You have the legal right to defend yourself. And you have legal right to call the police. And you should. People like that need a record for when they abuse the next woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:17 AM
1

Thank you. I agree with the statement completely. Defending yourself isn't "low value". Reacting reflexively to a violent threat isn't low value. You're not classless because you react physically to a threat of violence. It is not more classy to get your ass beat. Or to cower in fear. Being "high value" does not mean being a doormat. It does not mean being weak. And it does not mean not defending yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:13 AM
-1

That's what I said repeatedly in several other comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:26 PM
71

I would consider that "compliment" a red flag in itself. I also do not show men that I disapprove of what they're saying or I'm seeing red flags in their words and behavior. I keep it all to myself. And yet I've never been called easygoing... I wonder what the difference is? I'm very precise in my clothing, how I carry myself and how I speak, and I clearly judge things somewhat harshly and have strong opinions. Maybe that's the difference? I have been called intimidating by men. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:35 PM
3

Well even if he was choking her to death and she punched him in the nose and broke his nose she'd still probably get charged with a crime. And he probably would get off. I don't think the sexist and skewed prosecution decisions of the justice system is a good meter to live your life by. Never said she should hit him, in fact in my other comment I told her she should never open the door for an abuser for her own safety, just said it doesn't count as abuse of him. A man punching a woman in the fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:20 PM
49

Sounds like he's trying to claim previous connection to her so he can use you to get in contact with her and try to get sex with her too. This guy is a creep and a loser and I mean all the way around not just this one part. What are you doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:47 PM
20

Just so you know if some freak comes to your house banging on your door the appropriate response is to call the cops. You do not under any circumstances open the door. Abusers don't get let in. It could have gone very badly for you. I'm glad you were the one to break his nose instead of him doing it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:30 PM
14

I think when an abuser gets in your face you can punch him to protect yourself. Women have a right to defend themselves against men. She is the victim of domestic violence here not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:27 PM
4

This isn't the place to post messages from trolls. We have a sub for that called FDS super fans. Please post there. Feeding the trolls will only bring us more of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:13 AM
20

Not only can you request it, you can make that a condition of treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:08 AM
3

Ex who cheated on me broke his dick whilst having sex with the girl he cheated on me with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:29 AM
76

SHE IS 42!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:30 AM
12

"You seem like the type of dude with a small penis"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:19 AM
22

Male relationship therapists are the absolute worst of all male therapists. I would never go to a man and let him in my head unless it was Lundy Bancroft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:16 AM
6

I am a mod but I don't moderate the discord. I know we just don't have quite enough mods to get back to everybody as quickly as would be preferable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:53 AM
6

Yeah for some reason Nike has the smallest fucking workout clothing. They're shorts are so fucking small. I really don't need my ass hanging out thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:14 PM
12

Men dumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:21 PM
21

Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:20 PM
3

This is hilarious and I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:18 PM
14

Thighs always touch unless a woman is very thin, underweight probably. Or still a child who doesn't have adult female fat distribution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:24 PM
138

Sounds like she wants you to be as miserable as she was and she's bitter that you're going to have way more than her. I would never talk to her about these subjects again. It sounds like she has a lot of coping mechanisms built up for what she went through. She was married to an old man at 16 and raped and told that was all she was worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:25 PM
7

This is the best story I've ever read! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:09 AM
17

Never mind that this is not how STD tests work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:59 AM
42

You mean user men with no dignity are more likely to cheat?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:55 AM
17

If you want to not look like you have issues with your father then don't talk about it. At all. If someone brings it up very calmly say he's not in my life. Just don't talk about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:47 AM
24

If I date again I might just go younger and enjoy the spoils. Might be nice, better chance their dick will work and of a nice body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:40 AM
31

It's very sad that one day that woman is probably going to get beaten or murdered because she didn't clean the house to some man's desired level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:20 AM
30

However you feel about your body never let a man know that you have any insecurities or want to change anything because they will feed on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:13 AM
4

Yeah I was about to watch it until I saw it was Tyler Perry and I nope out fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:09 AM
2

I think that's really cool. That's a great way to go about your month! Do you rest when you're on your period? I'm guessing you probably do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:01 AM
2

Sorry. No I don't. I will look into it but I'm not sure if I'll find anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:59 AM
1

Oh I agree completely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:58 AM
4

Porn sick, nasty teeth... more like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:55 AM
103

Mine is still single. The girl he stopped speaking to me for has since left him. He tried crawling back after 13 years! I told him to go to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:54 AM
17

That is exactly no more and no less than what should be expected of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:04 AM
3

Please tell me more about how you organize your activities to work better with your menstrual cycle. That's a really interesting concept. I also organize my time and activities by season and weather. Usually by the colors that I wear, which jewelry I choose, and then of course what I cook, what I grow, what I'm doing in my garden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:50 AM
2

I really love this cyclical approach. It gives you a fresh chance to continually work on these subjects every couple weeks, alternating approaches and goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:47 AM
19

UTIs are most likely from him not washing himself properly before sex. They aren't sexually transmitted. Yeast infections can be sexually transmitted but likely, again, you were getting them from him not washing correctly. I had one partner where I would get yeast infections when he ejaculated in me because it changed my vaginal pH balance. I've also found out that I was having problems with my blood sugar and hormone imbalance due to PCOS that make me more prone to yeast infections as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:48 PM
25

Since it's not possible to post a picture with text, I'm going to have the discussion starter here in the comments. I'm not religious and this isn't a post about religion. This is a post about taking time, finding peace, reflecting on your life and your desires. This is important if you want to have quality friendships and relationships in your life. It's important to make time to calm down and center yourself. Reflection helps you be a better partner and friend. Knowing what you want and where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:36 PM
14

Men are such losers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:07 PM
4

You work together. Keep it professional. You can't save her. You can't change her mind. She has to get there on her own and it looks like she's got a long journey. The most you could possibly do is share stories about your or your friend's high-value men doing good things for them. (Use FDS accounts if you have to) This might get her to see the contrast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:50 PM
4

Also shirtless bathroom selfie or bedroom selfie with filthy bedroom in the background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:44 PM
2

Now this right here is exactly how you get the ladies to come running!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:42 PM
27

It's just plain bad form to talk about your sexual history with your new partner. Also no one really wants to know that their partner has fucked 30 or 50 or 100 other people. I was shocked to find there some dumb dumbs who go into details and tell their new partner things they did sexually with their previous partners. That should never be spoken of. That's story time for your close female friends, if that. That is not for your new partner. And if they ever ask shut it down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:42 PM
75

Just remember the one biggest commonalities among abusers is financial abuse. 99% of abusers practice financial abuse. That could include forcing you to quit your job, getting you fired from your job, forcing you into a lower paid job, keeping you from taking a raise that would give you enough money to be independent, abusing your credit, or simply controlling the accounts or taking your money. Don't let men have control of your money or allow them to push you into position where you lose your j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:20 PM
3

Well this was a mixed bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:22 PM
25

Say what? What the hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:13 PM
53

Yeah I bet she'd love not having any money or any rights! Anyway I feel like this was written by a man especially since it's on unpopular opinion. "I would be his sidekick" 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:03 PM
165

I'm not sure why they can't self-soothe and validate themselves like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:17 AM
4

Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:52 PM
5

Dump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:16 PM
82

You should dump this guy and try to take the girlfriend with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:15 PM
8

Seriously? You already know the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:40 PM
32

He's just about to fall. Hope she escapes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:32 PM
26

Yet another unsurprising study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:45 PM
9

SO WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM??? Lord! Why the hell are you with a man who has never made you feel wanted or loved? Why do you serve a man who won't even look at you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:16 PM
8

You don't. This guy's a dick. Instead of soothing an insecurity of yours he immediately turned on you with some manipulative, misogynistic bullshit. Don't talk to him. If it makes you feel better then go talk to him but it will be very interesting I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:10 PM
10

<Confused? Leave, it's manipulation! This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:07 PM
14

I agree with every single part of this comment. Keep your insecurities to yourself. But never let some misogynistic asshole show you exactly who he is and then stick around for more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:05 PM
7

She needs to get a restraining order
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:57 PM
74

You have to accept that men don't give a shit about your pleasure, not because you're not talking about it and asking him about it and poking him about it all the time, but because they don't give a shit about your pleasure. I've never had to ask a good man to give me an orgasm. They always deliver, the first night, the first time. Every time. This is why you don't date men who don't make you cum. Then you get to have a relationship with men who don't make you come. He will never change. Stop gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:54 PM
31

Gosh I remember being that young and it seemed like everyone who was older than thirty was basically just dead. Those kids are total idiots. I love watching them try to park cars when I want to remember how stupid they are. I live near a high school and sometimes I drink my morning coffee standing at the front window watching one kid repeatedly go back and forth six times until he decides he's finally got it or he just gives up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:46 PM
1

Oh no I mean when he leaves you he's dead to you. Yes they always come back. I just had one come back from 13 freaking years ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:37 PM
143

I actually screamed out loud reading this 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:49 AM
2

Pickmes always do the same thing, making up stories and extenuating circumstances and excuses that simply aren't there in the facts at all. Imagine working that hard for men that you don't even know who are likely either average or dicks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:43 AM
3

You would think having to invent stories might be a clue to them that they have gone a little too far?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:30 AM
8

Dear god!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:29 AM
3

You can simply say "mind your own business" in a harsh town or even simply stare at him too long and too hard until he gets the point and then turn around and walk away like he doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:01 AM
1

He's dead to you now. He doesn't want you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:41 AM
15

Let's bring this back! Also they're high death rate from doing dumb things like getting into fights and killing each other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:39 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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