Ok, so my cousin came over to stay the weekend with me because she's feeling rough (and I'm like 100% sure this is why).

She and her boyfriend have been dating (well, together, he's never taken her on a date) for 4 and a half years and she told me they've only had sex maybe 3 times the whole relationship, and she said she wished they had sex more.

I asked why they didn't have a very active sex life and she just...laughed and started crying. It broke my damn heart. She said "because I'm not hot like a f*cking pornstar." I told her to catch her breath and talk to me.

She went on to tell me that she's seen the kind of porn he watches and it's usually one petite white woman and several big men having sex. The things that bothered her the most was the wording of the porn titles like "tiny sexy white blah blah gets blah blahed on" and "fun sized gorgeous pale ect". We are Hispanic, and she has darker skin and is blessed with curves. She said she's talked to him about it and all he says is "well, I like what I like."

She of course says that breaks her heart because she can never be that skin tone or that small. She talked about how she was comparing her body to the girls on the screen and she felt ugly. I'm so freaking ticked. She's NOT ugly. She is absolutely gorgeous, but she feels ugly because of a gross guys weird fetish where he can only get off to watching small white women getting abused by several big men. She said SHE FEELS BAD because he's not getting to sleep with what he wants. She saw the videos he watches and thinks "well, he's a bigger guy who would rather be doing this than having sex with me, I'm the problem."

I told her I'm like 100% if her boyfriend had a "petite pale skinned goddess" as a girlfriend he would STILL be claiming the girls in porn were better, there's something wrong with him.

They've been in a relationship way too long for this mess of his IMO. If he honestly loved her, he would have stopped watching porn. Would have gotten psychological help, anything but just saying "I like what I like".

I wish she would just leave him. It hurts seeing someone I love so dearly start to hate herself because she's not good enough for some sickos fantasy.