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What the hell? Morning after pills are probably cheaper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:44 AM
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I just decided i didn’t want to deal with her or at 42 help raise his 5 year old. Yikes. Yeah, I'd be suspicious that he was just looking for a nanny for his kid. It seems they like to fight for more custody from the ex wife once they have a "live in nanny".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:07 AM
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A guy wrote this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:02 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:07 PM
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What I think is funny is when the same people who will call others "victim blamers" are the same ones who will be rude and condescending to impoverished women asking for employment advice. The person you're arguing with got snippy with me on another sub when I was asking for economic/employment advice, and I think she has me blocked. LOL. I deleted my thread. I simply don't ask for much advice in regards to school or employment because I WILL get rude and nasty replies on reddit, even on suppose…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:30 PM
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Ugh. Yes. Many children who grow up in abusive homes are jealous of the kids who’s parents are divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:20 PM
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He wanted a live in nanny, housekeeper and nurse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:17 PM
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Porn addicts often fall under this category. Damn! Can I cross post this to r/pornfreerelationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:40 PM
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Yeah. I’m not sure why you were downvoted. If anyone reads the threads and are convinced they are already fully aware of all the tricks and traps LVM set, they can just move onto the next post. So many women are brainwashed to bend over backwards to please men, and to ignore their blatant bad behavior. Depictions of “male depravity” and discussion about their tactics helps illustrate to less experienced women how to interpret the tricks LVM use, the traps they set, what red flags to avoid. Not e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:27 PM
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Jedi hugs welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:27 AM
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Yes. I think there was a point in time where they put arsenic in their eyes to dilate their pupils. It seems like a bizarre thing, but apparently men liked it. It's probably not a coincidence that the very thin "flapper look" became all the rage right after women won the right to vote in the US. That weak and fragile "look" suddenly became "sexy" to men at the very same time women won a new legal right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:22 PM
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I wonder if she developed those problems BECAUSE he was coercing her into anal to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:17 PM
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He sounds toxic, I would sort of disappear from his RADAR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:07 PM
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WTF? I can't imagine living on top of someone in a van unless the world was in literal disaster-mode. You'd have to be someone with zero sense of personal boundaries to find that even remotely enjoyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:06 PM
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I was auto banned from them a while ago after joining gender critical. I don't think I ever posted anything there, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:04 PM
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I often think a lot of really young women are soooo desperate to leave abusive families of origin and unpleasant roommate situations that they'll bend over backwards to keep a relationship intact. They think prince charming will rescue them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:03 PM
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Don't want to start a thread on this, but I feel seriously depressed. I'm in a low wage healthcare job, I'm an "essential worker", I've gotten tons of free pizza--- it's such a joke. It pains me to fully realize how disposable the healthcare industry views me and other coworkers who work in the same field. Dealing with a pandemic is one thing-- dealing with a pandemic while your employers refuse to give you adequate PPE, where they can rescind your PTO at a moment's notice, where you're expendab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:57 PM
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My opinion— I think they’re easily swayed by popular trends in what constitutes “attractive”. Notice how the definition of attractive men (in terms of how women value male beauty) doesn’t seem to change a lot— but men’s preferences sway with trends. Look at some of the bizarre fashion women were expected to wear in the 1800s with the poofy skirts and tight corsets. Paintings created by men of women deemed “attractive” seemed to change with each different generation. Some famous “beauties” of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:44 PM
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I swear, ever since the infamous “Dr Melfi gets raped” episode, salacious depictions it rape have increased dramatically on US television and movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:28 PM
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I always have a hard time embracing philosophy if it seems to be completely geared towards men, famous men, with zero mention of women-- which most of it is. It's easy to be "stoic" if you are a wealthy and powerful man in a huge empire. Interesting to read, regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:45 PM
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This might sound off-topic, but it really stinks how "religion" is kind of a no-go when it comes to women's betterment. (I know there are unique exceptions to this in some cultures.) So many religions are blatantly misogynistic and limit women to the functions/history of their vaginas, no matter where you look. While men can often lean on religious teachings to soothe them and to use as a means to "get therapy" of sorts, those same teachings are often punitive and hypercritical towards women, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:39 PM
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That's when I would make up some story, "My whole family has severe reactions to SSRIs and antidepressants! I can't go on medication!" Maybe then the state would approve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:31 PM
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This is like one of those situations where one can argue that seeking support anonymously online is sometimes a better alternative than therapy. I also think, since therapists are human, they are likely to have prejudices and misconceptions about people right off the bat. I've worked with some in an outpatient psych office that primarily took patients with commercial insurance. Plenty of them were sexist, racist, critical of people who were obviously poor and unhealthy, had misconceptions about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:23 PM
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Yes and do NOT get a religious therapist because they will taint your therapy with some universal 'turn the other cheek' 'forgiveness' pickmeisha bullshit Absolutely. If one lives in the US, I would add that people really need to research a therapist before going. It seems that there are a LOT of "christian therapists" who are covered under regular insurance, so if you just go blindly off the list of accepted therapists under your insurance plan, you might unwittingly wind up with a "christian t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:15 PM
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Yes. There are only a few men out there who can grow a beard and still seem attractive. Otherwise, I think they’re hiding their faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:23 PM
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Yes. “Harmless bachelor parties” are notorious for having prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:15 PM
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He probably used them as well if he told you. He wanted to gage your reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:14 PM
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Yes. It seems like the most avid porn users wind up going to massage parlors, hiring escorts, using hook up apps, or just hire prostitutes outright eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:13 PM
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Hmm. Sometimes parents play favorites, too— but then again, I’ll take your word for it as far as your friend is concerned. My parents were weirdly thrilled whenever my one sister (older but not the oldest) or myself brought a man over, even if the guy was a total loser. In hindsight, they just wanted us married out of the house. Conversely, they were nasty and highly suspicious when we went out on dates. Nothing made sense. My father often said he wished he could arrange marriages for us “useles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:37 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:16 PM
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Yep, and rehashing your cringe worthy life story over and over every week for $40-60 a pop gets tedious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 03:09 AM
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Step number one: Have lots of money. Step number two: live within driving distance of a large city Step number three: have a job that gives you the luxury of taking time off and without telling them precisely where you are going and why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:35 AM
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Therapy can help, but it's not always accessible if the cultural norm in your society is for women to have low wage jobs with long hours (often multiple at a time) which makes seeking therapy impossible. If you live with family or an abusive boyfriend, trying to go to therapy while keeping it a secret can be extremely difficult-- and abusive types WILL use the fact you use therapy against you. I've personally had a rough time even finding one that jibes with me after jumping through all the hurd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:24 AM
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Yes. Thank you. With the state of US healthcare/economics, things are much easier said than done... not to mention many women are stuck in low wage pink collar jobs that don't allow luxuries like time off for "therapy" and that's IF you have medical benefits that cover therapy appointments. Many therapists hours overlap with normal working hours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:18 AM
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Sometimes well off parents are extremely manipulative/abusive, are capable of infantilizing their children to the point of complete ignorance and dependency, and it's not often obvious to outsiders... kind of like how SAHM of wealthy men might seem pampered, but they really aren't. LVM love love love to go after women with low self esteem who appear to have loaded parents. They KNOW that "her daddy will pay the mortgage if I lose my job", so they will go after women like this. Women with abusive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:01 AM
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You're born as either a band-aid baby, or your parents wanted a son. Once people realize you will be born a girl, relatives and friends alike will tell the parents how sorry they are for them. In the rare instances where people don't display horror and sorrow over your sex, what they really want is "an oldest daughter who can help me watch our other babies, cook and clean for us for free and take care of us when we're old!" (EDIT: Got personal in this rant at this point) Once you're born, your v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:33 AM
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What the? Please leave this guy as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:20 AM
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Yes. It sounds like an ad for a prostitute or like a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:18 AM
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Word salad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:53 AM
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Yes. His "taken" sentence has a r@pe-y vibe to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:50 AM
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"She's really nice and humble". BLEGH. In other words, she seems mousy and meek to him, and he "can't imagine why some guy hasn't taken you yet". It's gross. For all he knows, she could be in a relationship. She could have been "taken" by someone who sexually assaulted her, her abusive ex boyfriend, and here's this a$$hat asking her nosy prying questions about her relationship status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:47 AM
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I thought you were going to say something along the lines that that men (who often don't use TP) have hoarded it knowing that they could sell it for a profit to desperate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:46 AM
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It's as if not only is she trying to claim you are "un feminine", but she is also trying to low-key tell you that you're "nothing without a man!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:41 AM
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I had a toxic older sister like that. I would ignore her completely, as she definitely does not have your best interests at heart no matter how charming she might seem on the surface. TBH, you could be extremely "feminine" in appearance, and your sister's nasty comments could be jealousy on her part. Actually, both of my older sisters seemed to take pleasure in taking me "down a notch". I wouldn't read into what she says too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:40 AM
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And in my personal perusals there is a blackout ban and moratorium on naming power dynamics and differentials in social issues indicated by the worldwide birth and marriage rate decline. There’s no unified understanding using statistics and official sources that clearly show that men overwhelmingly and nearly exclusively are the protagonists and perpetrators of violence and coercion that impacts interpersonal relationships. I've noticed the same thing. Identifying domestic abuse for what it is s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:39 AM
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I'm not shocked. I've said on more than one recent thread regarding posts on that sub that they are ban-happy, and that they auto banned me for being on r/gendercritial despite the fact I probably never posted there (at breaking mom) at all. There are quite a few supposedly "supportive" subs for women that actively ban women who are deemed as "too feminist" "too misandrist" "too political". I know ask women likes to band/delete women's posts they deem as "too toxic towards men". Same goes for tw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:35 AM
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Sometimes I think it's crabs-in-a-bucket mentality. "If I have to stick with this loser, other women have to be miserable with horrible spouses, too!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:33 AM
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Can I crosspost this to r/pornfreerelationships??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:21 AM
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Great post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 06:27 PM
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Great post. I notice on r/pornfreerelationships that a lot of women who find their porn addicted partner’s behavior problematic seem to over-apologize for being upset in the first place— as if they feel they have no right to complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:18 PM
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I’ve seen a ton of women stuck paying men alimony, and women who are afraid to divorce because they KNOW they’d be on the hook for alimony. This is why I think men who are often unemployed or underemployed are extremely problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:14 PM
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I like nice man hands... and veiny forearms. Just had to put that out there 😜 Lurking men: groom your hands. Trim long nails, cut off scraggly cuticles. Use hand lotion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:11 PM
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My mother and family in general was the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:15 PM
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Did you ever contact her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:51 PM
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Thank god you left. I'll bet he was testing the waters to see how much abuse you'd take-- he wanted you to cower and apologize to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:43 PM
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Yeah. I think this scenario also shows how large age gaps can also be extremely problematic, too. Guaranteed he wanted a live in mommy/nanny for his little kids, that's why he was so insistent on marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:42 PM
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YES. I remember that... most of the ads were "married male looking for married male".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:34 PM
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I'm wondering if he's trading it with others online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:27 PM
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That's just a creepy thing to say to a group of women. Even "Chad Chadburger" would probably elicit groans if he said something like that at work in front of women coworkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:25 PM
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'she has to spit in the bin and that's EVEN IF I get a blow job' How much do you want to bet she's probably vomiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:21 PM
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There is a subreddit called r a p e w o r l d ??? Why is there a subreddit called THAT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:20 PM
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That whole story sounds shady... I'll bet his work photos were fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:13 PM
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I second this. I think we are brainwashed so heavily about how "wonderful" marriage is that we walk into long term relationships with blinders on. The older women in our lives watch us walk into these traps (crabs in a bucket mentality, I guess), and smirk at us when we complain about how badly it's turned out. A TON of young women on here probably have a much more positive outlook on motherhood and/or marriage than they should. Motherhood and marriage often mean extreme limitations in terms of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:08 PM
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organized a group of flight attendants to support a sex trafficking organization Huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:06 PM
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If you get too emotional too quickly, don't have sex. THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:59 PM
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This whole thing is bizarre. Why would you make cheesecake for someone who is a professional model? I know, that's a totally bizarre question, but it seems odd to me. A professional model is probably strict with their diet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:56 PM
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Stories like this make me never ever ever want to have a FWB thing. It's as if you really can't trust anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:54 PM
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I think some guys do this to socially isolate their GFs... they think it will force the GFs to remain in the relationship longer, because once their reputation and self esteem is crushed, it will be harder for them to make social connections in the outside world and leave. Married men who are domestic abusers are notorious for putting their wives down all the time, including publicly and among family and friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:46 PM
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Hell, I had a much trusted sister do that to me. I was wondering why it seemed as if some people in my family started avoiding me as much as possible. As it turns out, around the time of a few family deaths, a few neutral relatives from out of state pointed out some of the bizarro shit she was saying about me behind my back-- after I had confided in her for years and years she was trashing me to others. When I confronted her, she admitted to what she said, and she believed her own lies. It was s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:40 PM
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What makes me cringe hard is when the boyfriend is doing something blatantly wrong, like surfing internet porn or playing video games for 12 hours at a time, and the OP is like "how do I stop myself from feeling this way?" It's like they want tips on how to dissociate and cut themselves off from their own feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:35 PM
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Yes. What also sucks is that for many women in many subcultures, friends and family will NOT tell them the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:33 PM
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They get paid too little for what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:30 PM
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I have a feeling a lot of women are being pressured into doing things that will wreak havoc on them permanently due to pressure from abusive spouses, boyfriends, even parents. Controllers and abusers LOVE to make sure their victims are too financially strapped to ever escape on their own. I’ve read a lot of posts like this— peole trying to browbeat their wives/girlfriends/daughters into quitting their jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:29 PM
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I am really hating how much reality TV has taken over society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:42 PM
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Notice how they get triggered when a group of women say No!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:40 PM
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True, I don’t think she had that much choice in the matter as her family was pressuring her, right? Her older sister was Henry 8th mistress for a time, I suppose Ann was smarter in that she didn’t give in as easily. Her sister still managed to keep her head, though. Kind of also goes to show you how some women are pressured into hardcore pickme behavior depending on culture/time period. Elizabeth was definitely a Queen, as she made sure not to repeat the same mistakes of others. I don’t think th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:56 PM
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Elizabeth was definitely a Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:48 PM
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I'm sure the readers of Vice are outraged... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:49 PM
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Screen shot that and show it to his pastor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:47 PM
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Ugh, I don't think men naturally seep streaks of feces from their anuses, unless they have some medical problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:14 PM
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I'd definitely look into getting a drivers license ASAP. You don't want to move in with this guy (or anyone else for that matter) and end up being totally dependent because you can't drive. Granted, some places have public transportation, but since you mention driving I'm assuming public transportation isn't great where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:13 PM
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NO. He's using words like "simp" and making sexist comments. I'd block and delete. "Butt hurt" is like a term a 12 year old boy would use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:54 PM
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Well, my long term porn addicted ex boyfriend used to mansplain to me that having sex with an asshole didn’t count as “losing your virginity”. Maybe this is what he meant? In that case the girl is still a virgin and I could join a convent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:37 AM
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Having empathy and being respectful is apparently a bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:32 AM
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I just read in her edit she says she didn’t mention the name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:29 AM
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Meanwhile, he probably sees nothing wrong with masturbating to cam girls. He can “communicate” with strange women online, but you can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:28 AM
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I support the messages they send to women. They also say a woman is better off single than with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:22 AM
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Yes. I’m terrified for the children who are quarantined with disturbed pornsick men right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:21 AM
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Notice how nearly every US TV commercial consists of some happy homemaking mom gleefully doing endless chores for her happy happy family and happy happy pets in her big big suburban house with her happy happy hubby with his nice ironed work shirt and tie. Notice how often the actress playing mother is hardly old enough to have teenaged kids to serve her five course meals to. Literally- commercials with highly coiffed women dishing out plates of food with big plastic smiles and obedient little da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:16 AM
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I I got a PM from the same poster months ago! I reported it, but I guess he was never perma banned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:02 AM
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Anne Boleyn. She literally lost her head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:00 AM
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I agree, and so do the posters on r/pornfreerelationships Porn using men are automatic LVM. The more women acknowledge this as a whole, the better off we will become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:57 AM
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Expectations were ridiculous when I was young in that ultra-thin and tall supermodels were "the thing". The most surgery they had was probably breast implants and maybe nose jobs. Typical beauty enhancements included hair dye, blue eye contacts and hair extensions. Depictions of their bodies usually involved heavy airbrushing. Nowadays, we have girls having to compete with "models" who have botox, lip injections, butt implants, ribs removed, waist training, jaw contour and realignment, iris impl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:55 AM
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Also, even if most men may be LVM who think porn is the real deal, there are sane men everywhere that appreciate sex in the same way as any of us. I disagree. Too many of them are obsessed with activities most women find deeply degrading, painful, and coercive including: anal sex, deep throating, threesomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:50 AM
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Depends. I think I'd avoid dating a guy who was extremely intelligent AND who lorded it over everyone else at all times. That being said, I think certain kids of intelligence matter more to different people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:45 AM
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It’s all one big deliberate agenda to guilt trip women into taking these clearance sale delusional men off the shelf with someone way out their league. It is all revolves around men extracting the most benefit. This is why I resent it when stories like this are broadcast everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:40 AM
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Stay away from Jordan Peterson fans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:32 AM
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I completely agree. Porn users are automatic LVM women need to avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:23 AM
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Boom! That's why men have midlife crises and women midlife revelations. Awesome sentence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:21 AM
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At this point, even if "being desired by a man" were important (which it's not), most men are obsessed with internet porn. Being "desired" by any man is fleeting and temporary, because they're so easily bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:18 AM
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I’m glad she broke up with him. THIS is why I insist that people should walk away from guys as soon as you realize they’re porn addicts. Even if they claim they will try to cut back for their partners, they fundamentally believe they have the right I do as they please.. they’ll make the bare minimum of promises to keep their girlfriends in their orbit, but go right back to their nasty habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:33 PM
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"Come over here and service me by the pool, sweeetie!" GAG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:23 AM
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What always disturbs me about missing child and young adult cases is that it's usually the wealthy children and children with a certain kind of "look" that gets plastered all over the news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:17 AM
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Yes. I think FDS tigers would have better taste in men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:14 AM
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Yes. Most of the advice given on here is practically timeless, which makes it even more ironic. My grandmothers, great grandmothers and great great grandmothers would have approved of most of the messages on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:45 PM
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Yes. I always thought it was a common courtesy not to "stare" at people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:13 PM
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I’ve noticed this, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:38 PM
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It’s frustrating how many supposedly “women friendly” subs seem to care more about not offending men than actually helping women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:36 PM
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They auto banned me for being on GC. Not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:36 PM
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I can’t seem to click on the link at all— I get a “server error” message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:34 PM
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Yes. It’s the perception of pain and disgust in the partner that seems to turn them on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:28 PM
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There’s a difference between leering, discussing how sexy another women’s body is, and flagrantly flirting with another woman in front of your girlfriend/wife and quick glancing. I think humans tend to look at exceptionally attractive people just as they might do a double take at an amputee, someone dressed in unusual religious garb, or someone extremely unique in another way— if something unusual enters the picture, it’s kind of an instinctual reaction to look. I think that’s different than lee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:27 PM
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LOVE that book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:01 AM
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Maybe it’s just me and I don’t get the light hearted humor in it No, it's not just you. This guy is an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:00 AM
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I had a sister who would purposely put the worst photos of me up on social media. Yes, her feed was filled with "look at me" selfies. Stopped talking to her a few years ago. The photo-social-media-cyber-bullying was just the top of the shit sundae.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:59 AM
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Sounds like Shirley Valentine-- but in that story she leaves her loser husband and cheats on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:56 AM
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Kind of off topic, but it bothers me when shows that are aimed at women have characters who are obviously wealthy-- I notice that a lot on fictional shows based in the US. Characters that are supposed to be "average Americans" are obviously extremely wealthy in terms of lifestyle, job, city of residence, style of home, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:55 AM
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I notice that men who are substance abuse addicts will often have friends who's lives also revolve around that substance of choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:52 AM
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This kind of mindset is part of the reason I've been repulsed at the idea of attending any kind of church. It seems that they all reduce women to the role of "wife and mother" "mother and wife", anything beyond that means you're "damaged goods".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:46 AM
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Yes. She is probably suspicious, too, but doesn't have anything to prove that he's been cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:44 AM
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It's one thing to watch sports, it's another thing to be addicted to watching sports, obsessed with talking about sports, starting violent fights over sports, buying expensive cable packages and outrageously priced tickets to see sports.. Don't even get me started on the sexualization of women in "half-time" shows and the like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:36 AM
10

Yes. They fetishize these highly specific/ stereotyped versions of certain subsets of women... and if you fall beyond those parameters, you are somehow "less than".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:51 PM
37

I think of Elin Nordegren (Tiger Woods' ex wife) when I think about how even being "the perfect blond" is no guarantee that a man won't discard you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:50 PM
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As a blonde woman, I have an extremely deep sense of cringe when I see fetishization of blond women. I also find it bizarre that men frequently assume all blondes have blue eyes. Whenever I encounter a man who fetishizes blue eyed blondes, I immediately know he has a hardcore fascist streak going on. There’s also an element within men like this that indicate they like to infantilize women— since blond hair and blue eyes is common among young children who’s ancestors come from certain parts of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:01 PM
9

YES! That's the same one I got!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:12 AM
12

I've gotten some truly bizarre invites lately- one was about celibacy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:07 AM
16

From what it sounds, he was probably hounding her when she wasn't into it, and now he's "returning in kind".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:55 PM
5

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:18 PM
2

I think not, unless they equate "women's intelligence" to be something entirely different than "men's intelligence". I recall how many of the "smart girls" in my high school graduating class wound up in "women's work" jobs or as stay-at-home-moms. Their own parents pressured them into these jobs so they could "land a man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:59 PM
4

I think the issue is that a lot of men will financially abuse/exploit women if they think they can get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:55 PM
2

Slightly off topic, but the student loan issue is going to harm countless generations to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:54 PM
6

Yes. If the guy has a ton of loans/debts he owes to other people, I'd consider that a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:53 PM
6

Yes. Always keep your money/bank account information private! I know some people have difficulty with this especially if they're on a tight budget and living with another person, but it seems that tons of women get sucked into abusive situations when they let their partners know about every last dime they have!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:52 PM
2

Oddly, my ex, if he borrowed anything from me, would always pay it back. That being said, I still wouldn't loan any man money unless you've been with the guy a long time, the request is reasonable and small (like he needs $20 for gas because his new debit card hasn't arrived in the mail yet). Don't loan out anything to a man who isn't employed/ has no means of paying it back. If my ex asked for anything, it was usually small and he was kind of embarrassed, but he would always pay me back. He kin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:50 PM
2

I think a lot of the dread women have regarding breakups is enormous because they are often entangled with men far beyond just dating-- being married, having kids, sharing financial burdens. That's why I'm glad subs like this exist to warn off single/childless women from LVMs. Once you get sucked into a relationship with one, it's extremely difficult to sever the relationship without encountering a ton of losses in other areas of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:45 PM
1

Well, there are Hitler supporters in the US and other countries that fought against Nazis in WW2, so stranger things have happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:41 PM
8

Red Pill = entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:40 PM
2

Interesting. Never heard of that place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:40 PM
2

I don't understand the mentality of red pillers, particularly the loudmouth ones. It's like admitting you're KKK and trying to have a relationship with a person of color. It makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:38 PM
4

This sub helps me heal from the bad sh*t my mother taught me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:37 PM
9

Yes, unless he's talking about a relative or something, that seems odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:36 PM
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YES. Men who immediately jump to the MRA/redpill/altright talking points whenever you mention a topic are a hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:35 PM
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Porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:35 PM
7

I used to read those garbage magazines. However, they seem tame compared to today's instagram and internet articles. I notice that half the time I see them in the doctor's office, men are reading them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:33 PM
11

That sub is extremely ban happy, I wouldn't subscribe to it for that reason. Just No So is also a good place to see examples of LVM in action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:32 PM
22

They think they have a right to cheat and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:30 PM
38

Definitely projection. Of course, the number 5 + 6 for the men's expectations is essentially "Let me sext other women and look up endless porn, and never ever question my right to be unfaithful to you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:29 PM
3

Yes. And everyone should keep in mind that waiting before a pregnancy termination can make the procedure more invasive and expensive... so any time lapse between unplanned pregnancy and termination is a BAD thing under normal circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:45 PM
2

"Can't get married? Okay then." Off topic. Just got an old cookbook from the 1960s that's practically an encyclopedia-- probably marketed for 19 year old brides. I made the most delicious fluffy omelette and promptly sent a picture to my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:10 PM
3

They think they can lives the lives of Mad Men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:53 AM
2

women saying "who asked" and also indicating that my post was me rubbing my desirability into their faces, pickmeshas saying "I didn't get any kind of those messages" or "I wish I would get those". Other women with internalized misogyny should be up there in the category of "cringe".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:48 AM
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Exactly. One has to reach a certain body fat percentage in order to menstruate, and the reason menarche is happening earlier is because girls are more likely to reach adult weight at an earlier age than their predecessors. Chronic childhood diseases and malnutrition meant that women often menstruated much later in life than they do now. The kind of bone-skinny pre-adolescent body porn sick men like is often a sterile and infertile weight. I know if my body fat dips below 20%, I stop menstruating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:31 AM
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And her husband was regarded with disgust for impregnating her at such a young age, from what I've read and heard. It wasn't considered normal to sleep with a child bride at that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:28 AM
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Not to mention that many royal wives wound up sterile for due to their husbands' infecting them with incurable STDs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:28 AM
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THANK YOU I literally just wrote a comment just like yours, then deleted it because I didn't want to sound redundant. It wasn't unusual for child-brides to live with chaperones for years until "consummating" the marriage. Henry the 8ths grandmother had his father when she was 13. Her husband was regarded as cruel and a bit insane for impregnating her when she was so young. The childbirth nearly killed her, and she was then sterile for life. People were very aware that pregnancy was dangerous for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:24 AM
4

Yuck. Let me guess. He's porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:14 AM
12

Jesus. And they claim THIS sub is "toxic"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:13 AM
8

Yes. I HAVE thought of buying some plan B... not because I'm sexually active right now, but because I'd be mortified if I were raped and became pregnant in times like this. Many states in the US are trying to shut down clinics, especially right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:11 AM
7

Here is a porn sick scrote who only sees breasts in "silicone sizes".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:57 AM
5

This is why porn users should be automatically deemed LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:53 AM
3

I used to ascribe to this idea that women got more prudish as they aged, but now I realize it was all a bullshit story fed to me by a patriarchal culture: we don't get more prudish; as we get older, we develop a sense of self-worth and take charge of our own lives (coincidentally, men call this The Wall) This is an awesome statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:51 AM
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Can we have a movement where instead of burning our bras we burn leather, whips and gags? I'd say also collectively refuse to date porn users.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:49 AM
1

Yeah, I've been watching some Russian youtube documentary from Star Media? It has english subtitles, seems pretty well done, and I'm impressed that their re-enactors look like their historical counterparts. I don't mind old school documentaries, particularly when the narrators don't have annoying voices. I notice some home-grown youtube documentaries have the most annoying nasally voiced men narrating. There were a couple of empresses in Russia. I think Catherine the Great's son made it "illegal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:01 AM
1

We on r/pornfreerelationships would agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:51 PM
5

He’ll string you along for infinity and beyond!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:50 PM
3

Dump
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:47 PM
3

If you’re super young and are in a gambling city, you will have LVM with money try to make you their sugar baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:47 PM
2

Ugh, I was banned and am a mother. They banned me for being on GC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:45 PM
2

Can anyone decipher this porn addicted scrote’s tattoo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:44 PM
4

Smelly armpit and double chin. Probably raped defenseless women while in combat. Probably hired sex workers on deployment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:42 PM
1

Yes. He could have brought OP to his family, and they could have hidden the fact he was married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:39 PM
3

I’ve heard some men will bring mistresses to meet their family and the family will stay mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:36 PM
4

Sounds like using Howard stern for dating advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:34 PM
9

YES. Emotional manipulators learn more tricks through couples therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:55 PM
7

Yes. Absolutely-- the brainwashing gets in the way of leaving. I think the whole "addictions counseling" model gives women false hope, feeds into the brainwashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:54 PM
7

Could be. I'd eat that, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:53 PM
8

Our whole generation as young women was groomed to be “sex-positive” but that’s not what this is. It’s porn-positive. It’s grooming-positive. Not sex-positive. YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:49 PM
5

Could be that porn has damaged their brains to the point where they consider digital connection = real connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:47 PM
9

Simply having a child with a man, particularly when his name is on the birth certificate, will guarantee the man "rights" to your child. Not getting married is NO guarantee that you will be an autonomous parent. I can't stress that enough. Most courts will still cater to "men's rights" whether the manosphere wants to believe it or not. Speaking from experience. I would have hands-down NEVER had a child if I could turn back time. It's not out of dislike for my child, but the fact my personal life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:44 PM
9

Yes. I think it was until the past few decades that men didn't get automatic primary custody in the US. People have this bizarre notion that divorce court has always favored women over men, and it's a completely false notion. Lady Diana, famous example. Her parents divorced, and I think she didn't see her mother for a long time after it happened when she was 10/11 or so. Her father got automatic custody. It wasn't uncommon for women to lose their children and be banished from society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:41 PM
10

Yes. Be very wary of him trying to love bomb himself back into your life. You don't need a cheater and liar back in your life any more than bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:39 PM
14

Is that cornbread there? Yum. I love cornbread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:35 PM
11

The more she raises standards for her housekeeping duties, the more he'll move the goalposts. And him slamming her on social media is definitely emotionally abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:34 PM
9

PPD is toxic as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:31 PM
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Of course, out in public he plays "mr brokenhearted nice guy". In private, he was probably a complete ogre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:30 PM
12

He's hoping to hook up again, and thinks the geographic distance will make it easier for him to "pump and dump".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:23 PM
9

They're not just social distancing... they make women want to quarantine themselves from THEM more than they want to quarantine from Covid 19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:22 PM
15

This is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:21 PM
11

Yes. I find it cringy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:20 PM
38

"That picture reminds me... got to put that fatty pork roast into the oven right now.."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:18 PM
65

"Boy, that gym being closed sure turned you into a marshmallow, buddy!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:17 PM
27

I think I've heard shit like this from women in my family, too. For many people, having young women in their family remain married is like a status-symbol for them. Having women who are single and/or divorced somehow makes their family "lose face", so they will pressure/coerce women into accepting the unacceptable in order to "keep the peace... and be socially acceptable to everyone else". THIS is why I warn women NOT to be surprised if their families DON'T support them when they leave abusers, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:15 PM
27

Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?" This should be required reading for women, starting at a very young age. Even women who aren't interested in dating/relationships will find this book useful in that it perfectly illustrates what it's like to grow up in a domestic abuse situation. I hadn't really fully appreciated how abusive my father was to my mother until I read this book. She wasn't a saint, but by the time I came around she had already been married to him for almost 20 years, so the me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:14 PM
27

Your grandfather was an excellent person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:12 PM
19

"Just pray to Jeeeesus to hEaL yOUr rELAtionShiP!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:11 PM
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Even if the answer is "yes", they'll want proof of bruises or "did you do something to deserve it?" Edit: Holy crap, I hadn't even read Yianna_F's comment when I wrote the above comment, and it was identical to mine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:09 PM
3

I've extensively researched my family history going back hundreds of years. Women did NOT marry at 12, 13, 14.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:57 PM
5

THANK YOU. Just realized that, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:57 PM
5

(You're arguing with a red pill woman poster).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:56 PM
5

That's revolting. I was NOT a woman at age 11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:53 PM
7

That was probably a trick to trap you and traffic you. I've heard some men will bring their girlfriends/wives/children along when trying to kidnap young women, because it's easier to gain their trust that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:52 PM
5

Maybe he was in the SUV, too, or he had experience harassing women himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:50 PM
3

I wonder how many people first heard sexual remarks from family members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:47 PM
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breaking mom bans people for being on GC. I was auto-banned on there despite rarely posting there at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:45 PM
12

R / just no so seems to be generally upfront about telling women to leave losers. It's open to men and women, but naturally more women are subject to blatant abuse, so they're more likely to post about their experiences on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:43 PM
4

I'd rather watch historical documentaries. Even they have to acknowledge Catherine the Great and Queen Elizabeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:42 PM
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I really can't watch a lot of popular series as of late. When men are depicted as vile creatures, people line up to admire them, emulate them, or mansplain their behavior. Women are almost always mis-cast with actresses who are too young for their roles, all look identical, are all pickmes and/or are graphically depicted in scenarios that inevitably involve rape, sexual exploitation, or sex work. I remember my one pickme sister hating on the wife of the main (cheating, lying, scummy) character i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:32 PM
14

Expecting the partner to be faithful, consistently employed, responsible, non-abusive, and respectful should be the baseline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:28 PM
19

Really. Anyone who pushes that "sex addiction" counseling in order to keep scumbag cheating husbands with their suffering wives does NOT value the lives and well being of women. They are all about boosting men and reinforcing their cultural place of "superiority" over women, allowing men to get away with anything they want, and keeping women "in their rightful place". Gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:26 PM
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Yes. I know DV expert Lundy Bancroft argues AGAINST couples counseling for abusers. They only learn to hone their craft against their victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:25 PM
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Addiction/couples counseling for "sex addiction" and other addictions is a sham, too. There's no reason any woman should be guilted or coerced into staying with a train wreck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:24 PM
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Yes. Gotta be perfect looking, always forgiving of infidelity and roaming eyes, perfectly loyal and faithful, perfect speaking, kiss his ass and his family's ass non-stop, never argue, limit your interests to his, limit your friend circle to his, raise the kids with his approval 24/7, chose his religion if applicable, yet never expect him to watch the kids, allow him all the hobbies he wants while never have any of your own, always obey his edicts and share his opinions, need I go on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:19 PM
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Thankfully, someone's willing to speak the truth. So man women in so many ways are constantly told to lower their standards. It seems the standard line given to them via mainstream psychology, addiction treatment, and religious beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:17 PM
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I'm so glad this community is spreading the word about porn addicts being LVM. I think a ton of women who come here initially don't even consider porn use a huge red flag, because so many of us are brainwashed to think "boys will be boys. all men use porn. if I have a problem with it, I'm the problem. If my partner has a problem, it's my problem to fix, since women are supposed to be martyrs and mommies who heal grown men with bad habits." Women who come to the conclusion that porn is an issue i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:15 PM
7

Oh yes, the American pro-life argument: “women who are truly raped shut their bodies down!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:43 PM
7

It’s not without the cost of her bodily safety, self esteem, privacy, self respect. She’ll also be drop kicked as soon as he deems her “past her prime”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:42 PM
1

Well, without going into a great deal of background story about my family.... they often might have said "you can do anything", but when the shit hit the fan and you NEEDED their help, they refused to help. They wanted us to remain dependent, like our two much older aunts who were forced to stay home and dote on their mother their whole lives. My parents just wanted their wittle girls safe and snug and under their thumbs. They refused to let us socialize like normal teenagers, refused to let us …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:02 PM
3

What is encouraged via talk vs what is practiced in reality are two different things. Sure, we might be told as little girls "you can do anything!", but that's often NOT how life plays out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:50 PM
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YES. I really think men's choice of "comedy" is a huge indicator of how they feel about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:37 PM
4

How about "Stand by Your Man!" by Tammy Wynette?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:22 PM
1

Yes— right now having to work in a facility where I’m exposed to COVID-19 with no PPE is kind of keeping me at the ground floor. I think a gigantic issue for women everywhere is lack of socioeconomic opportunities. Many women are brainwashed to think a man will take them from the ground floor to the top, and are denied opportunities to level up (because they all require money) and then they believe there is no other way to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:54 PM
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Because when I left my abusive ex, most of the men rallied behind him and treated me like a pariah. My father took pleasure in humiliating and degrading me in front of our family for my entire life, and they also partook. I could go on. Experience is my teacher. Thinking any other way has left me burned and charred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:41 PM
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Yes. My family was all about, “a woman is nothing without a man!” I was brainwashed to think I was worthless, too, was given little constructive help to become independent as a young adult. which made me prime prey. They wanted me to go from my parents’ smothering home to the marriage home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:38 PM
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They’ll push you and play you till the last minute— and strike you down the hardest when you have nowhere else to go. They’ll sleep with prostitutes at the bachelor party and tell you on your honeymoon. They’ll download tinder when you’re 9 months pregnant. They’ll push you for a threesome when you can’t lose that second pregnancy baby weight ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:28 PM
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If they’re aware of the possibility of being played ahead of time, wealthy women can make a secret savings account, insist on a prenup, hire a great divorce attorney. Poor women can’t save and plan, they can’t pay for justice to fight for them, because we’re always in survival mode, and nobody wants to help us— “go find a man to take care of you” is what society tells us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:24 PM
2

Off topic: does anyone feel deflated after seeing pyramids like this? I can’t fully get off the ground floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:20 PM
3

It's all so weird. Makes you wonder if they're setting themselves up to fail on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:56 PM
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He's looking for someone who be a private porn star for him... hence he expects his dream woman to like "live drama" and bizarre sex practices. Anyone who "dates" him WILL be filmed, and her face WILL be on porn websites everywhere in no time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:24 PM
5

If there is a three way race close to the election, Trump wins again. Women will definitely lose with Trump no matter what. The backbone beliefs of the right wing are misogynist through and through. They want misogyny enshrined in our law-- women to be forced into repetitive pregnancy, women forced to remain in abusive marriages, women forced into low paying jobs with no medical benefits. It's a part of their belief that women must suffer eternal punishment "because it's god's will". The left is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:19 PM
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Yes. If you have stuff like this up, might as well blast Trump and his accusers, and pedophiles like Roy Moore. I'm certain this stuff is being blasted everywhere right now because of the election coming up. There was some other democrat I can't remember the name of right now who was ousted from politics a year or two ago due to something like this, and he was a potential front runner. The same party that wants 12 year old rape victims to be forced to have rape babies is the same party that like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:13 PM
13

I know. I was like, "I'm thinking of some Blondie or ABBA songs right now".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:07 PM
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I love vanilla so much, I think I'm going to change my middle name to Vanilla. Just because.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:45 PM
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Maybe she's a short order cook at a restaurant he comes to every morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:44 PM
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Waffles, hash browns, and biscuits together is just carb over-kill to me. That breakfast is probably enough to feed four people alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:43 PM
4

He's gonna die young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:41 PM
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YES. I think this is definitely the case when women come from abusive families or abusive relationships. We lower the bar of what's "acceptable" to "anything that won't land me in the hospital with broken bones".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:41 PM
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And I will never forget how my loved ones kept me from empowering myself. This is a HUGE reason why I think so many of us stick by LVM. "He's such a nice guy!" "You don't want to be an old spinster, do you?" "Maybe he's depressed. You need to HELP him!" "Tee hee! Your father was like that! Boys will be boys!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:39 PM
10

Yes. I think most men think like that. Notice how many women get blamed/harassed/blackballed by their own families when they talk about their own experiences. People almost always seem to rally behind the father/brother/uncle/pillar of the community/man who is accused... and the victim is shamed for "dishonoring the family". The price of her body, the only value a woman has in their view, is diminished. Her capacity to "land a rich man" is gone. I remember watching this series online, I think it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:33 PM
8

Hell. I found out after I moved to another state that the super of the small apartment I lived in had been convicted of rape in the 1990s-- he served a long time in the pen. Still not sure how he got his "job". He probably claimed he "found Jesus" and was hired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:26 PM
10

He's the one who's "damaged". I'm glad he's your ex now, for your sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:24 PM
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"Some people get orgasms from rape!" STFU, Matthew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:22 PM
13

sHe MuSt HaVe WaNTed iT iF sHe WeNt ouT Of dOOrs DrEssEd LikE tHAt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:21 PM
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This is the kind of reason I think women should adopt a zero tolerance attitude towards men who get "addictions" that need "treatment". He's an addict? Don't coddle him and act like his mommy. Dump his ass, and don't look back. Addicted men, including alcoholics, drug addicts, porn addicts, gaming addicts- they should all be blocked/deleted/ghosted/divorced. Why sacrifice your life, health, and sanity for someone who'll dump you if you get assaulted or develop a disease like cancer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:17 PM
2

Is he a porn addict?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:02 AM
2

I think they were forewarned. It's bizarre, and should be illegal unless there is some valid reason you need to stockpile masks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:09 AM
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Leering constantly at other people. Constantly around his phone/computer and freaks out if you go near it. Obsession with sex acts you find disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:38 AM
24

Move on. While I know there are sites that advocate "sex addiction therapy", these men are degenerates who never change. Don't throw away ten years of your life on a porn addict like I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:35 AM
17

Yes. I clearly remember being 6 or 7 and my mother telling me that my grades were "just average". "You're not too smart. Make sure you marry a rich man someday!" There was a lot of questionable behavior of my parents from back in the day. For example, my one sister was 19 and was dating this weird musician/engineer who was in his 30s. They were thrilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:31 AM
4

What kind of IT do you do? I'm NC with my mother, too. There's no way to describe how much a toxic family can really drag your life down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:44 AM
27

Gross. That's some r3dpill shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:46 PM
17

or E: He's got ED from his porn use, so she doesn't want to bother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:15 PM
7

She should have thrown that crap away. She should maybe talk to her OBGYN about what's happening. He's going to be more negligent and obnoxious once the baby arrives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:13 PM
11

copied post from removeddit My (28f) fiancé’s (30m) personal hygiene is deteriorating UPDATE(self.relationships) submitted 1 days ago by hannabanana94 to /r/relationships Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/f79bkh/my_28f_fianc%C3%A9s_30m_personal_hygiene_is/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf So I think I’ve had enough. Yesterday while I was doing his laundry I decided to see what was in a plastic bag that’s been sitting in the bedroom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:12 PM
5

Is this a cultural thing? In some parts of the US, for example, a man being clean shaven, groomed and well spoken will cause him to be misidentified as "feminine".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:08 PM
29

I know a woman who was pregnant with child #3 and found out her teacher husband was sleeping with a coworker. This woman who was pregnant was a fitness freak, and was completely physically fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:02 PM
13

Not only is he a scumbag for cheating, he is worse for dropping the bomb on her when she was vulnerable and in the last weeks of pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:00 PM
8

This is why I am starting to really hate hate hate sex scenes in most movies. I used to roll my eyes when I'd hear old people complain about "the lack of propriety in film" and "some things should be implied and now shown". Nowadays I agree-- people who watch these movies get bizarre notions in their heads about sex and how consent works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:51 PM
28

If you want to see this in real time, check out some of the posts on r/ just no so. Good god. These poor women! I also saw some posts on r/ domestic abuse that women's abusers are being let out of jail due to corona virus!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:48 PM
8

And Mr. My Wife Forgives Me Always will be cheating again in no time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:43 PM
3

I think there's a lot of crap that happens behind closed doors. I wouldn't assume marriages are "happy" based on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:42 PM
2

That sounds unusual. Wealth usually marries wealth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:41 PM
11

If you're a woman around age 20, it's way more problematic than if you're 30 and dating someone 10 years older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:41 PM
7

Naive, sheltered women who still think "not all men are bad!" and that "his wife must be really mean to him!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:39 PM
6

I hope that girl and her mother's family are documenting this. Maybe they could sue for primary custody of the girl. Just WAIT until new mommy has a baby. Then his daughter will be forced to be the au pair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:37 PM
7

That is my thought. Hopefully she realizes she made a big mistake in judgement and moves on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:36 PM
2

That poor poor girl. Her father is a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:35 PM
24

What's repugnant to me is that this girl probably sees him as a brother. I had much older siblings-in-law and I definitely saw them as siblings. My one BIL was 20+ years older than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:34 PM
26

THIS is why I find most forms of "spirituality" repugnant. There always seems to be a huge majority that believes women's value is derived from the functions of her vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:31 PM
39

Or this woman's child is posting on r/ raised by narcissists as we speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:29 PM
3

What the royal fuck? Hell no, even my scuzzy ex would probably give up the ventilator for his child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:28 PM
22

I work in a hospital, and I also exercise. It feels downright gross if I don't use hot water-- and my frizzy hair shows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:27 PM
23

Yes. The destruction that happens to a woman's life if she reports rape is ENOUGH to justify my belief that most of the accusations out there are not false.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:26 PM
2

Phew... Okay. Now I know I'm not "crazy" for thinking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:27 PM
3

Jesus. He sounds like a nut case. He won't even get his own vitamin C? Was he exposed to a positive case?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:19 PM
2

She could maybe contact the facility or doctor who helped treat her. They might be able to give her advice or connect her to a social worker who can help her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:13 PM
7

I keep asking out loud, how did these mega corporations somehow get their hands on large numbers of masks? Were they "tipped off" about the oncoming pandemic and hoarded tons of masks for use as PR stunts at a later date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:07 PM
9

Yes. Has anyone on here watched "All in the Family" with "Archie Bunker"? The situation Edith lived in was identical to that of many women in that era, let alone today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:59 PM
13

Yes. There needs to be an additional line, "He spends five hours after work and long bathroom breaks surfing porn online".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:55 PM
4

You’re welcome. It seems to go like clockwork with these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 07:55 PM
34

Yes. It makes it harder for them to abuse and exploit women when women are educated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:58 PM
2

I think it literally changes their faces...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:58 AM
5

Lol. Yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:57 AM
3

Wow. I know one of the mods at r/pornfreerelationships has been targeted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:46 AM
20

Again I wonder— why do these corporations suddenly have access to so many masks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:46 AM
11

Why is it that folks at Pornhub and Nintendo, etc, have access to tons of masks? Have big corporate entities been stockpiling these things? I don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:45 AM
3

Yikes. That’s what a doctor at work said: loss of taste and smell was #1. Thanks for sharing. I hope you get better soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:38 AM
5

Jesus. What if this baby was choking or fell out of his crib?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:12 AM
6

What were your first symptoms... curious because I'm in a hotspot for the virus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:05 AM
3

You know, I thought I was crazy for thinking the same thing. He might have WANTED to catch the virus so he could go in isolation from other inmates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:04 AM
2

Hmm, if you still have the box it came in with the serial number, you might be able to get a replacement if it was expensive. I did that with a hair dryer that suddenly stopped working after two years. Contacted the manufacturer, gave them the serial #, and they replaced it free of charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:02 AM
3

That's a great way to explain what this is like. Trying to argue sense into people like this is wasted effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:56 PM
3

I wouldn't even waste my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:53 PM
3

Yes. I caught that. He was totally infantilizing her and making it sound like he "raised" her or something. How revolting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:52 PM
3

Dogs will actually try to clean themselves, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:51 PM
3

It sounds like he's trying to live some shitty rom-drama movie plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:50 PM
4

Yes. He's like mr red pill poster child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:49 PM
7

No. Tigers don't change their stripes, and neither do skunks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:47 PM
1

Yep. Males in the animal kingdom will groom and place their beauty on display for the females of their species. I'm thinking about the beautiful feathers of a male peacock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:41 PM
-1

I cooked something topless last night. I got out of the shower, was alone, and was really hungry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:39 PM
5

Just No So has a TON of really hair-curling stories about women trapped with abusers right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:37 PM
9

Yes. These are the same ones who will NEVER forgive your mistakes, but expect forgiveness for every major blunder they make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:30 PM
8

Yet if you tell him porn is unhealthy, he'll demand dozens of peer-reviewed research from renown sexologists to prove your point, then he'll either dismiss your sources or report you to reddit admins and get your account banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:28 PM
22

Many of us weren't opposed to porn until we were emotionally abused, discarded, dismissed, sexually coerced, and degraded by a porn addict. I honestly didn't care until I realized my long term ex was a sick sick person who needed to spend eight hours a clip looking up nude women online...and had zero desire to reflect on the severity of his own addiction. In hindsight I realized he was extremely sexually coercive and manipulative, and it really messed me up when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:26 PM
14

Being alone feels less alone than being rejected by your partner because he prefers porn. this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:24 PM
15

"Social distance, please, Beezlebub".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:23 PM
23

ABSOLUTELY.. You are better off single than with a porn addict, hands down! Edit: Nice downvote, troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:22 PM
13

I hate hate hate these porn defenders. As if they would be "OK" with their girlfriends or wives leering and stalking semi-nude men on the internet all day-- and leaving all the household chores to for them to do as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:22 PM
19

Wonder how many wives are suddenly realizing the extent and depravity of their husbands' porn addictions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:18 PM
14

Too bad they're ban-happy. I was banned outright for posting on g e n d e r c r i t i c a l.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:17 PM
6

It's a PR stunt. It's all about their marketing "image".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:15 PM
7

That's sick. It also seems that some anti-porn reddit posters are getting doxxed, stalked and banned on reddit. Hardly a coincidence, I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:14 PM
15

It usually gets "really bad" once the woman is strapped with a baby, or legally tied to the man via marriage, or financially entangled via an apartment lease or mortgage payment. LVM wait for "perfect opportunities" to start acting like dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:13 PM
29

Sweet Jesus. WTH? He just wanted to watch his pecker go in and out? He must have zero concept of how a female orgasm works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:51 AM
8

This was great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:50 AM
4

Yeah. He’s pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:11 PM
4

I think kids kind of need to know the reasons behind rules before they fully understand them... Telling them stories about "a friend I once knew" might suffice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:18 PM
21

YES. I know many states have ridiculous requirements when it comes to obtaining abortions, and I'm SURE many states have even more restrictions and less access due to COVID shutdowns. Please be careful out there, everyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:16 PM
8

I notice a lot of older women seem baffled by #MeToo. They don't realize the depth of depravity the younger women around them deal with when it comes to men and their sexual behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:14 PM
4

Yes. While I use the term "porn addict", I have a lot of skepticism towards addiction theories. It seems as if a ton of people with self described addictions STILL feel compelled to blame everyone and anyone else for their problem, and bend over backwards to deny that they've harmed anyone with their addiction. I think a ton of male addicts of all stripes simply keep up with their "disease" because society at large keeps allowing them to get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:13 PM
10

Wow. Holy Crap. I DO feel concerned for nurses out there. I think a ton of LVM see them as instant caregivers/secure meal tickets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:11 PM
6

We want updates!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:09 PM
11

You'd think health class teachers would tell kids to do this. I know parents are supposed to, but plenty of kids will purposely NOT do what their parents tell them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:07 PM
1

If I had money for stocks, I'd buy stocks in gym equipment/rental companies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:06 PM
2

Is it just me, but don't all men who use steroids have this weird "look" about their faces? It somehow changes their facial features and/or influences their beard growth. I notice it on a lot of celebrities/political figures. I'll take natural muscle over roid muscle any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:05 PM
3

"Sorry, buddy, I don't do gymnastics."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:04 PM
3

I hate the gym lockdowns myself. I do a ton of cardio, no apologies, early-onset heart disease and fatal diabetes runs in my family. We're not an "athletic family" by any means-- lots of mild scoliosis, knee problems, lung problems, flat feet, you name it. Meanwhile, my knees are not the best for jogging and I have no safe place to run or walk. Even jogging in place/dancing in place does some funky sh*t to my joints/ligaments. My preference is to use an elliptical because it doesn't harm my knee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:02 PM
8

That's creepy. It's like he's fishing for ammunition to use against you at a later date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:55 PM
1

I can't stand it when I get recommendations for "mail order brides" just because I've watched some documentaries about Eastern Europe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:54 PM
2

4) Wash your own damn bedsheets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:53 PM
2

Gawd. Isn't her face just perfect? Off topic, I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:51 PM
1

Or this could be a backhanded attempt at blackmail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:50 PM
2

How many guys out there hoarded TP, the same ones who won't even wipe their own asses after #2, only so they could blackmail/cajole women into sexual favors in exchange?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:49 PM
2

Yikes. I had to call the cops three days ago because one woman who arrived at the apartment complex in her car was screaming at a group of other women. They seemed to be fighting over one man. The woman who drove here was kind of pushing the much larger man, attempting to drag her into his car. Then he finally pushed back, and I could tell he was capable of some real physical injury. I called the cops. Apparently, I wasn't the only one who called about the same incident. Seriously, though, I dou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:47 PM
2

Yes. Addiction and poverty-- why else would a woman risk her health/life/safety and engage in prostitution? Poverty is probably the biggest motivator, as wealthy women can just purchase their drug of choice and get inpatient treatment if it impacts their personal life too much. Plenty of women seem to wind up in sex work as an attempt to make a living after leaving abusive families/relationships. Our economy doesn't offer many "living wage" options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:44 PM
2

I just watched the RT and Vice documentaries on this woman. Wow. What's sad is that you KNOW she was abused by several men throughout her lifetime, and that she seems to either blame herself on some level. She should tell that one-leg-wonder to get his own damn firewood! Seriously, though, if I was more familiar with her religious upbringing, I'd go out and visit her if I had the money/means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:39 PM
7

Hell, many books related to marriage try to push this idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:35 PM
3

I would just--- take the car and drive around in circles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:31 PM
1

It's on a bumper sticker in the back, along with gadsden flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:29 PM
26

I have not been pursued by anyone since like 2011. I don't know what I am doing wrong Most guys have started using 24/7 internet porn via smartphones since around that time. I'm convinced a ton are obsessed with internet porn to the point where their dating preferences are no longer normal or healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:21 PM
2

This is the kind of guy that will resent his wife for getting raped by someone else. Excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:39 PM
0

I mean, technically it could have been MORE risky for you to drive with him than to take the train. I think it's more common for women to be assaulted by people they know than strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:38 PM
12

I think I'd be seriously bugged out by a man of any race somehow insisting that systemic racism ins't a problem in our country. Although his upbringing might have something to do with this---I'm wondering if he was really sheltered while growing up or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:36 PM
60

You know, I'll bet that most of the TP hoarders out there are men. So many of them barely use it, yet wanted to capitalize off the idea of reselling it at a higher cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:32 PM
3

That's interesting. Is this a part of some religious motivation for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:31 PM
3

I mean, that can happen to anyone who doesn't watch oatmeal in the microwave. Jesus. The money he must have spent on food!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:30 PM
4

WTF is with the bottom right? Ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:26 PM
50

Typical. Baldie just HAS to be specific about hair! It's like when a big fat guy insists on 36-24-36.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:25 PM
53

LOL. Don't even get me started! It was a while ago. Trust me in that if I could go back in time and reverse most of the decisions I made from age 19 onward, I'd be in a much better place right now. Yes, many people buy into that "having a baby will make him a better man" trope, particularly men and their families. However, once the relationship crumbles, it's always the woman who's blamed for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:59 PM
5

It never stops! Why are men so shitty? Trying to convince girls they barely know to send them nudes? They're shitty because they can be, and they get away with it. Unfortunately, my guess is that women who are afraid of being single are willing to acquiesce. "I won't have a man if I don't give them nudes!" "If I don't have a man, I'm nothing!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:29 PM
8

Girls are raised to go against our own interests. We don't exactly have society rooting in our favour. THIS. And grown women are pressured to ignore the abuse and disrespect they receive at the hands of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:23 PM
0

The last thing we need is yet another sub censoring women describing their bad experiences with men. We have so few places to commiserate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:17 PM
2

Some people need extensive illustrations of low-value behavior. Many women who see roasting threads never questioned men's behavior before, or are surrounded by women who always bend over backwards to defend men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:16 PM
4

Wow. I'm shocked he didn't take the bait. He might come crawling back to you in a week with some fake story about his phone being broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:14 PM
36

What drives me crazy is when I see all the "advice" handed to women in relationships with porn addicts that's all about "forgiiiiive him, he's addicted" and "stand by your man!" I just glanced at the sex addiction sub reddit and was revolted by seeing so many people supporting a 27 year old woman who's 35 year old husband spent hours on cam girl sites, and slept with a prostitute in Las Vegas. What the hell? This is considered support? Sounds like living hell to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:12 PM
96

Yes. My ex sweet talked me into keeping it. Big fucking mistake. Ok, I love my kid, but it destroyed my life, and he had zero intentions of doing more than bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:09 PM
17

It's a way to infantilize you and dismiss whatever issue it is that you're angry about. It's a way to re-assert their "dominance" and "superiority" over you in their minds. Men who pull that line on you don't respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:39 PM
5

Christian pastor would probably go out of his way to defend men's behavior in an effort to keep a relationship intact-- and at the expense of the woman's well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:12 AM
1

I hate that book, mainly because people will use it to justify crappy behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:10 AM
5

And something about it makes me think they're marketing this idea to teenaged girls and younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:07 AM
7

Honestly, I ask myself if that OP wasn't actually a man posing as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:37 PM
2

I’m still getting replies to that thread. It’s bizarre. All these MRA advocates claiming to be women, rallying behind the concept that “women’s work” somehow deserves less compensation than men’s. I’m not even going to broach the topic that men within the same fields as women get paid more, because it’s obvious they buy into the “men are superior — women inferior” and I’m not wasting my breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:30 PM
4

Well, friends and family might just want you to "settle with a man" regardless of what red flags might exist-- don't don't assume that it's OK as long as your family is OK with it, because they don't necessarily have your best interests at heart 24/7. My family, for example, always encouraged their daughters to date LVM who were much older than them and were obviously bad choices. In their view, "any man is better than no man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:14 PM
3

If some guys can tell you have an excellent bullshit radar, they are less likely to approach, I guess. I get it. I can't fake sugar sweet high-pitched voice and giggly smile no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:44 PM
3

Him trying to take off that condom-- WTF??? Huge huge red flag. Oh my god!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:36 PM
2

I think something is off if this guy is divulging their relationship problems with OP. If that's not the case, we don't know if her friend has a legitimate reason to suspect her BF is up to no good or not. It's impossible to fully know what happens behind closed doors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:31 PM
2

If he's telling you their relationship problems, he's up to no good. Why would he tell you she's insecure and controlling, etc, unless he wanted to isolate her from her friends? He's triangulating you and your friend. Manipulative people do things like that-- they character assassinate certain people so in the event of a breakup, they will look like "the nice guy" while the assassinated person is puzzled wondering why no one wants to support them. He might be hoping on some level, if you can't t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:28 PM
2

Don't date while you are working on our career if it requires frequent moving. Most men will undermine you if you move when it's inconvenient for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:26 PM
2

I think the pool of middle class men has shrank dramatically in the past few decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:24 PM
6

The daughter is 14. That could be potentially problematic as you are only twice her age. 30F and 44M is a huge age gap. Big age gaps are always a red flag. You might wind up playing mommy with the teenager since 14 is still really young. She might not respect you as you are the Hot Young Thing her dad is dating. You might be stuck between a rock and a hard place being expected to play mother by your SO while not being respected by your stepdaughter. I would avoid getting too tied to this man bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:14 PM
4

It seems that a lot of them purposely date so they can find a live in nanny-housekeeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:09 PM
3

You forgot the, "I'm so smart. I know about Greek Gods."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:07 PM
2

Word salad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:06 PM
15

He immediately used a reply for that one question in terms of a job that is predominantly filled with women and comparing it to a job that is predominantly filled with men, probably downplayed the role nurses do, and then claimed that doctors justifiably earn more. It was probably the wrong analogy to use when being interviewed by a woman, and I guarantee you he used gendered terminology for it. If a man had asked him what his spirit animal was, he probably would have replied without any push ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:05 PM
12

Yuck, why is she on there, and why isn't she divorcing him? He obviously wants to break her down into his submissive little doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:50 PM
11

Here's a copy/paste from the removeddit link https://www.removeddit.com/r/relationships/comments/fmjlba/i_27f_am_living_in_a_box_created_by_my_husband/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=usertext&utm_name=FemaleDatingStrategy&utm_content=t3_fmycjj I (27F) am living in a box created by my husband (29M). Our strife has escalated to him punishing me.[new](self.relationships) submitted 1 days ago by littlethumbelina to /r/relationships Settle in guys. My husband and I have been together since college, abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:45 PM
30

Yuck, his fixation with age-gaps and use of the word "naughty" indicates he's a porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:44 PM
17

"Entrepreneur" = unemployed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:43 PM
4

The only upside is hopefully some lurkers will check the sub out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:44 PM
17

Yes, it seems as if many of them are "anti-feminists" based on one of the threads where the OP asked if the other women on there were feminists or not. Granted, some of them seem to confuse feminism with "liberal feminism", but still.. I find it hard to believe they'd just say "I'm not a feminist" and still make no mention of supporting feminism in terms of having voting rights, property rights, etc.. Part of me wonders if some of the women have developed hardcore "pick me" attitudes in an attem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:19 PM
20

Sometimes "dads" who stick around are the worst role models of them all. I have some hardcore resentment towards the women on my family that normalized his abusive behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:08 PM
35

Yeah.. the numbers have surged really quickly! I was just getting roasted at the I N T J subreddit. One of the male posters called me out for being on FDS. Hopefully some of the women on there who boast about being "anti-feminist" from there will take a look over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:07 PM
12

I don't know. While I never get approached, I also know I have RBF and I rarely make eye contact with anyone or stare at anyone long enough to be noticed when I go out -- unless it's necessary, like I'm at the register.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:05 PM
59

Guys never approach me, NEVER. Don't feel bad. Most of them are gawping at their phones at porn girls while the world passes them by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:03 PM
87

Or.... "I you really LOOOOVED me, you'd have my SON despite the fact I'm unemployed, you earn minimum wage, there is a pandemic going on, and our country is collapsing under our feet! I promise you, honey, I'll take care of you and be faithful forerverrrrr! God Will Transform Me Into A Better Man if you have my SON!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:37 PM
2

Another good point! I remember my dad being disappointed if I didn’t have a boyfriend at Christmas time for the family Christmas 😂 LOL. He must watch too many Hallmark Christmas Movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:34 PM
9

I was taught that a women's only purpose is to marry, tend to the house, and have babies. Many people believe this even though it equates to misery. Many people, including those in major religions, fully believe women deserve eternal punishment and misery "due to the fall of Eve". This is how we can explain why extreme pro-life and anti birth control advocates also rally AGAINST providing assistance to poor and overburdened mothers. They WANT women to suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:19 PM
2

I don't know, I think plenty of married men partake in violence, sex trafficking, mass murder. It's a myth that somehow "single men are dangerous.. and women must be their morality police and keep men in check". That myth is often used to guilt women into accepting shitty sub-par men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:17 PM
5

Sounds like your barbie friend can probably "afford" to date shitty men-- in that she has enough income to just walk away, and she doesn't have to worry about financial entanglements like sharing apartment leases, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:14 PM
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I agree, I think they are in denial too - even though they’ve experienced so much, and have heard all the stories their friends go through with abuse, double standards and cheating, they think it won’t happen to them. Many girls are also groomed to think, "If a man treats you badly, it's always YOUR FAULT". Once they are adults, they are more likely to keep abuse and maltreatment quiet because they KNOW they will get blamed for what their husbands/boyfriends do to them. Families are often unsupp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:11 PM
20

As I've aged it is more and more clear to me how our popular culture grooms girls to think love exists and the right man for you is out there. It simply is not true. THIS. The older you get, the more you realize this is true. It's so easy to SEE it happen to much younger women as well once you have learned this reality, so watching young women get hooked into relationships is like watching a train wreck in progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:09 PM
5

... because many people in society think women aren't really people until they "have a man", and if they don't "have a man", they're garbage people/failed women. There's also an element that thinks women have this magical power and duty to "fix" immature, irresponsible men. Therefor, they think it's like having the morality police go on strike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:07 PM
3

What kind of music? Just curious, but don't divulge if you're afraid of being doxxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:05 PM
49

Isn't every major holiday somehow involved in celebrating one man or a group of men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:04 PM
4

Sounds like he has a pattern of toxic behavior. I also wonder if he was part of the reason she "went off the rails". It's not uncommon for older boyfriends to introduce their much younger girlfriends to drugs/alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:03 PM
9

I think women’s bodies are more likely to conserve heat for vital organs during a deep freeze, whereas men’s bodies don’t. Probably makes sense if you consider that it would protect a hypothetical pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:38 PM
3

Sounds like he groomed an underaged girl who trusted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:36 PM
3

He sounds like a pedophile as well based on the bizarre humble-brags he made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:10 AM
4

I would probably drop the social media... don't look at his feed. A lot of people who plaster stuff like that on social media are just trying to create an image. It's all smoke and mirrors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:08 AM
2

Ugh, I hope she wasn't trying to test the waters to see if you'd "volunteer"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:01 AM
1

THIS is one of the reasons women don't leave abusive men, folks reading this thread. Many of us do NOT have families that support us when we leave abusive men. I'm so sorry, OP. Seriously, I think a lot of us wind up in abusive relationships because our families are abusive in their own right, and they groom us to accept abusive men in our lives. When you do leave your husband, be prepared to limit contact with your family of origin as much as possible in order for you to become happy. Be prepar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:49 AM
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ORIGINAL POST COPIED My fiance (25M) wants me to quit my job (I'm 25F)(self.relationship_advice) submitted 1 days ago by SeaDragonsTail to /r/relationship_advice I'm asking for advice on if there is anything I can do. Brief summary: My SO (significant other) is feeling emasculated by the fact that I go to work and he stays home and looks after our 9-month-old baby son. He has admitted that he wants me to quit my job and look after the baby while he goes to work. Details: I have a good job. I wen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:34 AM
1

Idk, I expected a different response. I feel angry and a little disappointed. He was low value for digging into your past and pouting that he wasn't going to be the one to win a notch on his belt for "popping her cherry". That "nice guys" means he hangs out on the toxic manosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:28 AM
3

His low sex drive is a red flag that he will likely develop a more problematic porn induced ED issue over time. You're not overreacting at all, but fully expect him to attack you or insist that you're "crazy" if you bring his porn issue up. Personally, I wouldn't touch a porn addict with a ten foot pole and a hazmat suit. I wasted ten years of my life on one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:27 AM
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He probably expects her to rim him, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:39 PM
3

"I also loooove to vomit while I give a BJ! It's so normal and natural! It's a sign that I loooooove him soo much!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:23 PM
2

freakmeishas LOL. I like that phrase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:22 PM
2

That's odd. Most of the comments on justnoso seem to be people encouraging women to leave abusers. There ARE some weirdos on there, but they get down-voted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:21 PM
1

What about the one where the woman found out he put FECES in her food? That wasn't too long ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:19 PM
5

What a tool. Good god. She's talking about him as if he's a little boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:21 PM
2

YES. Just like that deadbedrooms post that was mentioned on this sub. This guy starts threatening his wife because she hadn't slept with him in a while. It's as if he waited for a crisis to start leaning in on her and throwing his weight around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:20 PM
3

Being hit playfully by a little boy can hurt like hell. I remember getting a nosebleed when my kid accidentally knocked me in the face with his forehead. He wasn't even in kindergarten yet. That testosterone "edge" starts early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:19 PM
12

Yes. Or she was desperately trying to escape from controlling/abusive parents, so she became involved with an abusive type, not recognizing the red flags, hoping he'd "rescue" her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:18 PM
6

Hell, even if the guy is NOT a belligerent drunk--- staying with a man like this might suck you into a vortex of legal debt because DUI/DWI charges are expensive, not to mention their habitual inability to maintain a steady job. Even "nice drunks" can royally screw up a woman's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:16 PM
12

"Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft-- should be required reading for girls everywhere. And this scenario is so textbook: big age gap, man becomes abusive when woman is "trapped" with him due to caring for a small child, the love-bomb cycle, substance abuse. Good god. She needs to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:13 PM
3

Yes. While there are some of us on here with life experience or there are those of us who've been here since the sub first started, there are a great deal MORE women out there who have never even considered questioning the behavior of the men around them. Seeing examples of low-value men's behavior illustrated and reading the posts of women who call LVM behavior out is extremely educational to women who are otherwise surrounded by patriarchal cultural ideals and pick-me role models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:08 PM
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That and food shortages... I think we withstand starvation better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:12 PM
10

I don’t think they’re a bad thing in that posters rip apart and analyze the behavior of the men in question. This helps more inexperienced/naive women learn how to identify LVM behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:26 PM
3

Homer in the Simpsons got worse as the seasons went on. I can't stand that series at all, and I have no idea why it's still on TV. At first, the Simpsons was hilarious in that it poked fun at the more traditional "perfect TV dad" stereotype that was more common on TV. Prior to that, most TV shows depicted the father figure as all-knowing, wise, perfect, smarter than the mother. Now, it's as if stupid Homer always gets the last laugh over Marge, and Bart gets it over Lisa. Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:23 AM
2

I think it is a cultural thing among white people, but it probably isn't as obvious if you don't grow up in a white family, and the vilification of textured hair isn't as pronounced. Tons of white women have curly/frizzy hair, but we're often told from the time we are little girls that it's "wrong" or "disobedient" or "messy" to keep our hair like that. Can't tell you how many of us had our hair pulled back into ponytails so tight that our eyes popped out of our heads, or had our hair brushed in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:15 AM
1

Did anybody read the very end of the article where they mention the woman from Bulgaria? Why on earth would they think the camgirl had anything directly to do with him slaughtering his family? If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:56 AM
1

My porn addicted long term ex would get so miffed if he "caught" me with a vibrator. What a hypocrite. It's like they all learn this crappy double-standard from the same playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:52 AM
2

I think back when more people had extra spending cash, it was normal (in my part of the US at least) for people to go to big bulk supply stores like Sams, Costco or BJs to stock up on items like TP, canned goods, etc., because it was cheaper to buy in bulk if you had the room to store it. This was back when I was a kid in the 90s and most people were doing better economically, and could afford extra supplies and food and could also afford houses large enough to store extra supplies and food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:50 AM
1

That's such an inappropriate thing for a parent to tell their kid, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:44 AM
1

Isn't it amazing how human beings were able to reproduce for YEARS without the convenience of electric lights so they could see everything at night? Maybe there is something MORE to sex than "visuals", people. Not that I'm saying looks aren't "important", but consider how many other factors play into the act of having sex- including the other person's hygiene, cardiovascular capacity, ability to read the other person's body language, rhythm, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:43 AM
1

Somebody better tell her, so she can get tested for STDs while she's inpatient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:39 AM
1

They are trying to cope with their abusive situations by making memes to be shared by other abused women - that whole feeling of, well if other women go through this, then it must be okay. They are trying to normalize their partner degrading them. Yes. You put it so well. I think this is the major motivation behind a lot of statements like the one OP pointed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:37 AM
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YES. I don't want to go jogging for safety concerns, and I also don't want dirty looks and judgements from neighbors because I'm "out in public". I work in a damn hospital. I am forced to work at this time, so it's not as if I'm enjoying staying at home watching netflix all day. I have to answer anxiety-riddled phone calls from people asking questions that are way beyond my pay grade or scope of knowledge. Desperately need some cardio-- and I mean not-destroy-my-knees and space-out-with-my-music…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:34 AM
1

That guy has some combination of extreme mental illness, has some serious anger issues, is probably an addict of some type, and is a an animal abuser to boot. I mean, even my kid as a toddler in the midst of a tantrum wouldn't go as far as leaving rolls of piss-soaked dirty toilet paper all over the bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:31 AM
2

You know, I think this woman has already stated that her husband cheated on her in the past. What a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:28 AM
4

Yuck. Any dude who's obsessed with "having sons" is automatically a LVM to me. I mean, unless you have some bona fide royal title at stake, I don't think there's any good reason for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:27 AM
10

That’s revolting, and the only possible excuse for having a piss pot would be if Armageddon hit and the plumbing stopped working for a long period of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:56 AM
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(Let me guess: he used a ton of porn, too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:52 AM
1

“Quick. Let’s look up “handwriting analysis” and compare his handwriting to that of famous serial killers...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:47 AM
6

Meanwhile, someone I know posted an "unpopular opinion" on how she felt porn addiction made men bad in bed, and her post was locked/blocked/banned within minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:00 PM
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Probably a "no" for working out. All the gyms are closed near me, which really really sucks. I know I am desperate for exercise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:49 PM
11

I think it's easier for people to get outraged when they themselves are allowed to stay home from work. Those of us who are forced to work at this time will probably cut you a little more slack. Many of us don't have any other option but to be "immoral" and out in public. Sorry, hit a nerve there. Many of us in healthcare, or in certain service jobs are forced to work right now. I'd still agree that it's probably not a good idea to date right now. God only knows some guys are desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:45 PM
6

LOL. Either you get down voted or banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:36 PM
14

I’m afraid for the women stuck in houses with men who might assault them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:44 PM
12

They get off on the idea of doing something to the woman that she would consider painful, degrading and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:02 AM
8

Men nowadays can’t do that if they’re looking at hundreds of naked women a week who are shoving summer sausages up their ass. Say it with me: PORN SICK, LIMP DICK. LOL. Hit the nail on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:00 AM
4

Yes. I'm convinced if nurses were mostly men, we'd have no problems securing the right kinds of masks, and would have zero qualms about paying sick nurses leave. There's definitely this old-school belief that nurses are supposed to be like the nuns of the olden days-- dedicated to lives of "poverty and chastity", martyring themselves for the sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:58 AM
5

porn addict. dump him. My. First. Thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:55 AM
2

They expect their GFs to be their therapists. Oh, and GF has to forgiiiiive him over and over again, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:53 AM
1

Yes. I agree. The objects of their addiction are their permanent mistresses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:51 AM
5

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:49 AM
5

Ugh, cringe. I hate the potty-porno-talk they all use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:48 AM
5

"The Women"-- an old 1939 black and white movie about a mistress and a wife trying to win the love over the same man. Norma Shearer was the actress who played the wife in The Women... although she also played the lead role in The Barretts of Wimpole Street. Wimpole Street was about a woman who was trapped with her emotionally incestuous father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:35 AM
6

I think the BBC/ITV versions of "old English period pieces" are much better than the US versions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:28 AM
12

Gone With the Wind. Scarlett O'Hara made me cringe while she non-stop stalked her "Ashley". She also kept trying to keep the attention of Rhett Butler, who often DGAF about her. Although maybe her miserable pickme ways was karma biting her back for supporting slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:25 AM
7

It's unfortunate that history books have been mostly written by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:12 AM
4

I mean... if he is capable of refinishing and building furniture, and picking out good used pieces, he's got skills. Your LVM cousin probably couldn't hit a nail with a hammer. He's probably jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:10 AM
5

Yeah, it's definitely a way to imply that the DV victim is somehow "emotionally immature" and "deserves to be hit". As if she didn't "communicate" in the first place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:07 AM
24

That book "Why Does He Do That?" By Lundy Bancroft should be required reading for girls everywhere starting at a very young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:04 AM
13

I'm glad you didn't get sucked back into his drama vortex. God knows he would have expected you to wait on him hospice nurse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:03 AM
23

What I find really disturbing is how some religious elements in the world are trying to push hard in their respective countries to bring back draconian marriage laws. It's not even confined to one major religious group. I remember reading a blog about Orthodox Christianity where a priest literally said that unmarried women should live with their married siblings and perform household tasks... as if unmarried women should live in longterm servitude as a domestic servant to their married relatives…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:00 AM
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I worked for a Greek guy at a diner. He flaunted his 20 something mistress (waitress) around his wife and her three children--- one was an infant daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 11:55 PM
1

I don’t know, just “enough to tell the father to pound sand if he turns out to be a loser”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:40 PM
3

N O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:27 PM
21

While we get brainwashed with this “you can love a man and fix him!” crap, many men are groomed early on to think women are responsible to keep them behaved and responsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:25 PM
9

That’s just deflecting the issue. He’s trying to make her sound like the one with “the problem”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:24 PM
11

Lesson: don’t martyr yourself for a man. Never ever martyr yourself for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:23 PM
20

I second this. Don’t have children until you earn at least six figures, have a stable job with a large savings account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:22 PM
14

I’m so glad women in here are going out of their way to warn younger women about all the dangers out there. The internet at large is TOXIC for inexperienced women who haven’t had good role models in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:20 PM
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Yes. I think over explaining gives them more opportunity to abuse you, emotionally manipulate you, or to extract more words from you to use against you at a later date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:20 PM
7

Anyone who uses “body count” spontaneously when discussing sexuality is automatically a LVM. These are exactly the kind of types who’d vilify a rape victim as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:16 PM
2

I wonder how many upvotes are made by men and bots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:36 PM
1

I swear some posts like that must be fake, or an attempt to sway “public opinion” on rape... kind of like how most reddit searches on rape, or even searches on g00gle will lead to tons of “false rape claim” articles and posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:35 PM
9

Absolutely. The frequency of this fixation with anal is enough to keep me celibate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:30 PM
2

Mainstream TV is turning into porn more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:56 PM
4

“Fairly stable”...: 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:51 PM
2

The fact so many hardcore misogynists work for entities like Go0gle really frightens me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:50 PM
2

Unabomber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:48 PM
1

Hmm, is this screenshot a fake social engineering post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:43 PM
1

I’m seriously wondering if this bitter dude was out smarted or rejected by a stripper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:39 PM
1

I’m seriously wondering if this bitter dude was out smarted or rejected by a stripper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:39 PM
2

The biggest obstacle, I fear, is financial—- and many many millennials and younger gen X are barely surviving despite consistent work histories or great work ethics. THAT factor alone will induce women to stick it out with losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:37 PM
1

INTJ. I think it sucks for me, personally. It never morphed onto high paying work or financial success for me... and it seems as if women are always “rewarded” for being bubbly extroverts who seem “shallow” and dislike intellectual things and discussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:34 PM
2

I believe it. It’s all a bunch of bullshit to make those of us who are insecure constantly strive to please them. It’s like moving the bar constantly to keep us on our toes. Meanwhile, many of the men from these countries will freely brutally rape women from other countries during combat and then discard them, murder them, leave them pregnant or riddled with STDs. It’s not as if they make an attempt to build any semblance of a humane relationship with women from other countries when they have th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:29 PM
3

That’s one crappy therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:28 PM
7

Patriarchal societies rely on women providing free services for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:27 PM
5

Yes. Plenty of MS patients are nearly fully functioning AND can get pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:26 PM
3

Christ. She needs to divorce ASAP! It’s sad women are even asking these questions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:26 PM
5

Skinheads and racists are automatic LVM, for every woman. I’m sorry you have to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:20 PM
8

Yes. I remember scrolling through the orthodox Christian sub in particular. TONS of self described western “converts” railing against “western feminist women” and asking for prayers to find virgin Russian brides. Why they assume eastern women would be down for playing doormat is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:55 AM
9

They think identifying themselves as “Christian” will help them get “obedient virgin brides”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:52 AM
8

BJ sandwich? Sounds like some porn genre my ex would enjoy. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:50 AM
4

I 💕you, Ms_Tilly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:37 AM
3

If they cared at all for their own young women, they wouldn’t want these kinds of “converts” in their flock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:11 PM
2

I can only imagine how he must drool and mouth breathe around his younger PhD classmates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:51 AM
5

I'm surprised he didn't name drop Jordan Peterson. I'll bet his "PhD" is from a for profit diploma mill. Like one of those mail-order Bible study colleges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:50 AM
2

"Children play.. and through this enjoyment they learn how to be caring and be careful" = Any relationship with me will involve secrecy and immature behavior "I like the idea of flirting with you" = I don't live in reality "My life is great. I also desire even more" = my wife serves me like a domestic slave and obeys my every wish, but I want to disrespect her by finding a new plaything to re-enact my porn fantasies with "I want an additional person to play and grow with... recreation is for ple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:48 AM
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Random thought. Men having bachelor parties that inevitably involve prostitution. To me, it's a collective cross-generational/multi family celebration of their inherent "superior position" over women and their "privilege and right to cheat on women" while "women must be faithful".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:38 AM
1

I think his name dropping wealth is supposed to be a code word for “I will be your sugar daddy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:32 AM
7

And, TBH, he’s kinda on the old side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:30 AM
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I guess this is yet another example of why you shouldn't over-indulge a man with details your sexual past. Not that I'm blaming the OP for doing something "wrong". It SHOULD be reasonable to expect one's husband to avoid emotionally blackmailing or coercing you into performing a sex act that harmed you in the past with someone else, but most men just seem to get angry, pouty and pissy if you don't perform that same painful sex act with them... at least that's the word I read on FDS over and over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:35 PM
20

Low level healthcare worker checking in. Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:31 PM
35

This kind of reminds me of how sexual assault victims are stigmatized. In the end, misogynists ALWAYS want to blame women for the pain others inflict on them, ALWAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:30 PM
7

Yes. What sucks is that the jobs that seem to pay the most are those that reward psychopathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:56 PM
11

Well, you know right off the bat that their lives revolve around other people's approval to an extreme degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:38 AM
6

Ah yeah totally thought I could change a dudes mind. He's obv fall in love with my pure heart. Those awful movie and TV tropes don't help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:33 AM
21

Republicans are vile. They've been trying to force women (and GIRLS) back into the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant, ever since I can remember. They're probably also hoping there will be a "baby boom" because porn sick men will be forcing themselves on their partners while they're off from work. They want to make sure we "increase the birth rate" to create more wage-slaves, soldiers, and tax-payers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:21 AM
15

I'm glad to hear that. My first time sucked, but my ex (it turned into a LTR) didn't actively desire to hurt me. I'm sure if I had cried or told him to stop, he would have... I also had intermittent vaginismus problems, and he stopped right away when he could tell I couldn't take it. That's why I kind of call BS that men "don't know" they're hurting their partners. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 07:19 AM
20

That's awful, and sounds like rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:47 AM
57

LOL! Who can guarantee that he washes his hands before he eats? Who would want to put their hands in THAT can of Cheeto puffs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:09 AM
9

I think the first time I checked out this sub was after it was mentioned on a post written by an "ex porn addict" male who thought it was outrageous for any woman to expect a man to date. I guess he was trying to argue "women can be toxic, too!" This same sub, incidentally, banned me because I dared support another woman who spoke up for women. At any rate-- I checked out this sub because I wondered if this poster was full of shit or exaggerating, and he was. I might have heard of it before then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:07 AM
14

You're not missing out, and don't ever feel bad or abnormal about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:01 AM
38

YES. I think we need to put an end to shaming women for remaining virgins/being inexperienced, and stop assuming that women who are inexperienced are "extremely religious" or "socially awkward". I KNOW many of us who reached our late teens/early 20s as virgins have made bad choices simply to rid ourselves of that "virgin stigma", but it's not as if the sex or other baggage was worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:00 AM
6

You know, it's funny... Back when I was in my early 20s, men would come up to me and say the most bizarre things. Reading people's stories about this kind of thing brings back memories. At that time, I thought I was the weird one because I was already socially anxious and self-conscious. In hindsight, they were mostly creepers who had no business getting in my space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:19 AM
11

Guy interested in “Philosophy” = possible Jordan Peterson fan. Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:02 AM
11

“Here’s a tip for delivering my General Tao’s Chicken!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:01 AM
26

“Ties the family together” = “traps the woman in perpetual servitude to husband and his offspring”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:57 AM
5

Damn! I think that was a chapter out of one of Elfriede Jelinek's novels! Some of her books are completely on point when it comes to describing depraved men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:55 PM
2

I wonder if he's looking for a woman who is desperate to immigrate to Spain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:47 PM
8

Somehow, you must be his personal trainer and jog with him while you are also extremely pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:46 PM
3

I’m a female that’s his exact height and weight (though I lift weights 5x a week). This guy doesn't seem to have the self-discipline to go to the gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:45 PM
24

Ohhh noo. He wants groupies. You’re just one in a dozen others he’s able to manipulate and he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:13 PM
20

That’s irrelevant. If he’s going after early 20s/late teens, he wants someone inexperienced and naive and easier to exploit and control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:05 PM
9

YES. He’s a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:04 PM
17

Dude. My silent generation father could build houses, fix appliances, do his own laundry, cook, and buy Cadillacs in cash and shit. His mother was widowed when he was a toddler. His childhood was hardly ideal— BUT His mother ripped into her sons that every man needs to take care of his family, no matter what, and they also had to do chores out of necessity. All three who lived to adulthood were excellent providers and capable of taking care of mundane household tasks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:59 PM
35

Any man who claims he doesn’t want daughters is an automatic LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:57 PM
43

It’s sometimes about their religion/culture that claims they must have a son in order to “be a man”. I think some are deluded into thinking fatherhood is like the idealized crap they see on TV. Others figure it’s a safe way to TRAP a woman with them indefinitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:51 PM
19

Which is more evidence that porn addicts are to be avoided at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:42 PM
11

He’s trying to hook up with you: I’d avoid being alone with him from now on, and document everything. I’m also guessing he still lives with his wife, and she has no idea what he’s doing at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:41 PM
3

Yep. That’s absolutely correct. It’s interesting how the whole “purity culture” and “wifely submission” in the US coincided with the advent of Viagra and internet porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:36 PM
2

Yes, and/or has tons of porn, texts other girls and has dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:09 AM
2

He’s got porn or dating apps on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:08 AM
2

You should read "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. He sounds like a textbook emotional abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:28 PM
2

Exactly. I know how ridiculous it is, and that’s how some of them are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:32 PM
12

This is real. I remember when newspapers used to have “lonely hearts” ads. I’d read them as a kid for laughs. Men would literally demand “5’6”-5’11” 36-24-36 under 110lbs, straight blond hair blue eyes must like housekeeping and go to church”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:56 PM
6

Blonds are safe! Hooray!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:54 PM
11

I’m 120 and I’m short. People often think I’m anorexic. These same men don’t really want thin women. They want really want are women with tiny wasp waists and oversized disproportionate chests/backsides with long legs and zero cellulite. They want digital porn girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:53 PM
2

The family thing is a big NO for me personally, although I know that’s often a great idea for struggling people if their families are healthy/supportive. Those of us with LV families will relate to how unsupportive and undermining family can be when a woman tries to become independent. Yes. I agree that school is just not the best option anymore unless money is no object and one has a great support network. I think going back to school might be a good idea if you’re passionate about something th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:38 PM
5

I remember reading one reddit poster who was Orthodox Christian saying she preferred dating Muslim men in her area because they didn’t drink. She said her region had a huge problem with alcoholic male violence. I can imagine if one comes from a family rife with violent alcoholics, dating someone who doesn’t drink might be appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:44 AM
3

Yes. The “sex therapy” suggestions piss me off. It’s all about appeasing and pleasing the man, making the woman suffer the indignities of being with a loser like this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:37 AM
3

Yes. On top of it all, the kids toys won’t be safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:35 AM
3

Yes, cheater. He’s testing to see how far he can push you in terms of getting away with infidelity, sleeping with prostitutes, porn, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:32 AM
1

Grandma to the rescue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:28 AM
14

What's even more sad is that this article is a year old. I wonder how high that percentage is NOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:57 AM
22

That's why I never really get the "give him a taste of his own medicine!" line women might advise when their SOs have wandering eyes. If you start downloading pictures of naked men, the man will just become MORE depraved with his sexual habits. He'll figure the bar is lowered and either act in a more disgusting way, OR he'll freak out ad become violent/physically abusive and accuse you of "cheating".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:51 AM
19

men will get caught with their dick in another woman and say "it's not that deep" LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:49 AM
3

No, I couldn't have a roommate because my child is sometimes with me. The risks of sharing space with someone who might bring strange men into the home is too high for me to consider. I have other reasons why a roommate situation wouldn't work for me, for example, I don't think I could remain psychologically healthy if the relationship turned toxic, and I wouldn't be able to afford to move out at the drop of a hat if I had to leave abruptly, but that's a whole other topic. There are no smaller o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:39 AM
3

I'm stuck as I share custody with someone who owns a house in a high COL area. Literally every state nearby is high COL, too. Unfortunately, no. I cut back on my IRA contributions because one paycheck a month plus goes to my rent. Cutting meals and starvation is my reality since I want to pay my basic bills like heat, electric, car insurance on time. My car is well over it's lifespan and will die any day. I really can't afford to "invest" a dime, and most investments require a large chunk of cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:55 AM
3

I'm glad you're doing well with your money. The wages I earn are far too low to ever invest with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:37 AM
6

It's often too late to back out easily once you're heavily pregnant and finally realize he's not the good person you thought he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:36 AM
6

Yes. I think a ton of them are taught via religion, cultural conditioning or media that "a man needs a son and a wife in order to be a man".... the FORMER being the most important... I swear some of them imagine their firstborn sons will become super successful mini-clones of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:34 AM
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I also find it ironic— because many of the women they are pressuring into baby making, at least in Easter Europe, grew up during a time of WAR. Many of us in the US won’t remember, but a huge chunk of Eastern Europe was in turmoil between the late 80s and early 90s. It was really horrific, to say the least, although I won’t go into details on here out of respect for other posters who might get upset. I’m sure many women who remember that time as children and the effect it had on their families a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:49 PM
13

It definitely feels like here in the US, this is the reality many men want to have imposed on women. I can’t really comprehend how bizarre and terrifying it is to be in some countries in Eastern Europe, especially considering that some of them were friendlier to women when they were under the influence of the iron curtain. It’s one thing to climb out of a pit of a misogynistic culture, it’s another to see yourself and the rest of womankind going BACKWARD in terms of political, economic, social r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:42 PM
1

“Sorry, I only date guys who play polka... Something about those fast accordion player fingers gives me the chills...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:31 AM
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Yes. I can see overlooking certain physical flaws more than blatant behavioral ones. I mean, I personally don’t care if a guy has a weak chin. If he’s got acne, I can relate as mine can flare up. If he does things like leave messes around for YOU to clean up— that’s a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:11 AM
23

So, he demands that you must always be “obedient” and “never complain” or he’ll deny you affection? How charming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:05 AM
1

Yes. I want to know what the original offensive comment was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:49 AM
3

I’m really terrified of the long term impact the misogyny in the tech sphere will have on womenkind worldwide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:46 AM
7

Yes. He’s all about how much more he earns than she does— and he probably berates her for it like an asshole. She’s better off if he leaves or if she leaves him, because he clearly thinks that the sex she provides is her only use for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:44 AM
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Yeah. I was almost ready to downvote until I read the post. I was amused and annoyed last night as I was looking up the birth rate issue in Central Europe (as an American). After watching a long documentary or two about the breakup of Yugoslavia, I was curious about that area of the world and the surrounding counties. I was curious about what their media outlets thought. It seems that while many of these same countries dump all domestic duties in women, the cost of living is so high and the wage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:22 AM
12

Nah, I disagree. Any “non abusive” man can turn on a dime. I don’t fault any woman for keeping a secret account, even if her husband seems like he could walk on water and divide the sea in half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:49 AM
3

Jesus Christ. He sounds like someone who would kill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:41 AM
28

“The Dapper Dandy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:35 AM
19

Giving girls the false illusion that they will experience no barriers in professional success as adult women, and that they’ll experience no sexism in relationships. I think we’re not fully prepared to deal with reality in a constructive way by the adults who raise us and teach us. Either parents raise girls in a bubble and they forbid everything thereby providing them no opportunity to experience the real world and gain practical knowledge, or they say and do nothing at all and those girls beco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:04 AM
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I like it. “Beauty Men”. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:58 PM
37

Yes. They probably would have been more blunt about staying with brothel-goers, but had to be tame enough to pass censorship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:57 PM
74

Having children is a financial wrecking ball to any woman’s life. Just putting that out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:54 PM
5

I guess that's not unusual. I mean, for me one of the reasons I'm attracted to men is that I enjoy the sense of protection I feel if I'm close to a man of whom I know is strong but is gentle with me... if that makes sense. As long as his strength isn't harming me, and I feel no fear that harm will happen to me, I'll find it appealing. I want to touch broad shoulders and popping veins. That's the magic place where I might feel sexually attracted to man. It's the thing that makes me more physicall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:06 AM
1

Many of them don't realize they have a right to say "no". r/pornfreerelationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:03 AM
14

And posting gushy lovey dovey praise for him on social media!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:45 AM
12

Yet they blame “feminism” for the “dropping birth rate”. Kind of hard to contemplate children when most of the men around you are limp dicked porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:50 PM
10

Yes. My old college had a LOT of professors sleeping with their students. I am sure he was also sleeping around on her, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:48 PM
11

Many of these same men have zero qualms with invading women’s privacy. My long perm porn addicted ex was exactly like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:47 PM
8

I’m so glad she’s sticking to her guns and isn’t bending over backwards to “forgive” him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:47 PM
22

He’s cheating on her, period. I’d bet money he’s sleeping with that student, and probably has slept with other students.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:42 PM
11

... So he’s admitting he can only get off to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:40 PM
2

Yes. I totally remember that area. I'm sure a lot of women on this sub don't realize that it became a big "thing" in the 80s-90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:51 AM
1

Quarantined, huh? I'm guessing some red pill poster has annihilated his family or committed something violent in public AGAIN. I already figured there was some targeted political propagandizing going on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:49 AM
2

They're just moving into a different website. Same shit, different address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:45 AM
4

It's infantilizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:36 AM
3

I seriously resent not being able to see my followers. I have a feeling someone from a sub I used to belong to has been following my posts from time to time, but I can't prove it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:32 AM
21

Good god. That sounds like some bad plot on a made-for-TV Christmas movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:28 AM
2

The last time I looked into it, the job prerequisites for a job program within my state involved getting three letters of recommendation. There's no way in hell I'd get a recommendation for going into THAT from anyone I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:54 AM
7

This whole "submissiveness obsession" seems to have really taken off during the 80s-90s in the US. It became a weird fetish right around the same time the religious right took off and gained control of many seats within the US government. In the light of modern day "porn culture", it's taken on even worse connotations than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:50 AM
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... and if they want to marry you because you're "exotic"-- watch out. Many men like this will marry someone and then make their lives miserable once they have the woman locked down in their country of origin. They are abusers who want a woman isolated from her home country because women in that situation are easier for them to abuse and exploit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:49 AM
3

Note they never seem to mention unfettered corporate greed or the corruption within the leadership of their respective countries-- which is often what is TRUELY behind their economic woes if they are responsible, semi-intelligent, hard working and still can't make ends meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:47 AM
3

Yes. He's negging you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:42 AM
3

What's sad is that I would personally love to try some of the typical physical labor jobs that are usually given to men, but I would NOT want to face the kind of discrimination I know I would have to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:41 AM
5

Many of these guys would never survive the typical low-paying service jobs most women are relegated to. They can't handle having an authority figure over them, or having to punch into a time clock on time, or smiling in the face of an angry customer or criticizing boss. We're expected to do these things and expose ourselves to constant ridicule for our pathetic paychecks. Many men can't handle being in that position. They'd rather go broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:39 AM
3

YES. I know a ton of women in their 50-60s who are supporting total deadbeats. These men often feel too "superior" to even bother applying for minimum wage jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:35 AM
12

What's the most frightening aspect of this for me? Men who support thinking like this will support genocide. I wish I wasn't kidding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:31 AM
3

Yeah, right. How would they find the time? It's not like they're going to give up their internet porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:30 AM
11

I notice if you go on some subs, like the ones for orthodox christianity, there are definitely dudes who are seeking to convert because they think they'll find the "perfect little wife". Different orthodox christian groups seem super vocal about hating feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:25 AM
8

Yes. Whenever men make bizarro statements accusing other ethnic groups of men of being rapists, I always do a double take. The bottom line for them is often a sense of ownership over women within their "race". White Christian men, for example, see white Christian women as property of whom only white men have the right to rape. Their anger at non-Christians and non-white men raping "their" women is because they feel their property has been taken. It has nothing to do with their sense of injustice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:22 AM
4

It's probably not that much different if you think of how people will often collude with their long term enemies during wartime if an even larger and more threatening enemy enters the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:17 AM
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Note the alt right women who complain about misogyny and being abused. What did you expect from hateful men? To be seen as some kind of exception? They thought their princes Aryan a$$es would be worshipped. Nope. These kinds of guys see zero problems in having mistresses or sleeping around, either. I think a lot of alt-right/ neo-nazis out there actually believe in polygamy, but they often don't speak about it out in the open. They also support marrying girls in their early teen years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:15 AM
19

I think nationalist/fascist men are automatic LVM. They inherently think women's only value in terms of baby breeding, sex, and generally servicing men for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:13 AM
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This is super old propaganda aimed at dehumanizing women who were fighting for women's voting rights at that time... It's not unlike how the alt-right likes to recycle Nazi propaganda to dehumanize ethnic groups they dislike. Seriously, look up "historical racist propaganda" or "anti-suffragette propaganda" online and you'll probably see what I'm talking about. The alt-right/MRAs/redpillers take old bull$hit posters and recycle them, sometimes making memes that are practically carbon copies. In …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:10 PM
21

Most ultra conservative religions also consider porn and "kinky sex" taboo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:03 PM
19

How about the old order Amish? They'll shun a man from the community for cheating on his wife or not contributing to his family financially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:51 PM
23

I'd be personally worried that she'd lose everything if a divorce occurred. It seems to be a super common tactic pulled by semi or underemployed men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:50 PM
19

So many women are indoctrinated by their families to believe that they are NOTHING unless they "have a man". Also, many women KNOW that they will be blackballed by their own families, let alone the families of their spouses, if they end these relationships. This kind of mentality seems to span across cultures and religions across the globe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:48 PM
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Yes. I think some of the respect for the elderly was a practical thing. If you were a woman with numerous children and tons of labor-intensive tasks to do, it was necessary to have responsible people around to help keep an eye on your children and lend a hand. The whole fetishization of the 1950s is grotesque to me. In my view, the economic boom of the 50s grew out of millions of dead bodies and leveled countries. Not something to put on a pedestal by any means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:45 PM
2

Yes. I had an off feeling about an apartment maintenance man. Looked up the local Megan's Law site. Turns out he was in the federal pen for rape in the 1990s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:37 PM
63

Stay away from porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:11 PM
10

Guarantee you this guy would leave a shit stain streak or clogged toilet behind for her to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:06 PM
38

Techie dude bros are EVIL, straight up. I truly fear for the future safety of women everywhere, because it seems that hardcore misogyny is rampant among men in tech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:55 PM
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No. She shouldn't give him ANY second chances. Anyone at r/pornfreerelationships will tell you the same thing. He'll only learn that he can have his cake and eat it, too, and will likely go back to sneaking around online in no time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:52 PM
3

I would like to challenge the idea that dressing suggestively and sexual expression are liberating and freeing for women. Why you ask? Because these things come with no benefit at all. I agree. I think it's unfortunate many people (at least where I live) associate conservative dress with extremist religion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:54 PM
14

Warnings for women regarding financial exploitation could be a sub of itself. I've heard of parents taking out student loans in their kids' names just to spend it on bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:51 PM
10

What is this crap? Why is it allowed on social media? Why does nobody censor this crap?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:35 PM
9

AITA for not paying for my girlfriend's dinner? My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We both pay for our own food and expenses unless it's for a gift or birthday. We have a large circle of friends, one of them (Emily) has been falling on hard times and doesn't have much money. I've often picked up the tab for Emily when we go out with friends, because I make a good amount and can afford it. My girlfriend started getting angry that I was paying for another woman and it seemed suspi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:31 PM
5

That rings true. I remember thinking I was abnormal because whenever I walked down the girl's toy aisle, all the girl dolls had blue eyes. Same for all the girl characters on cartoons-- all blue eyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:30 PM
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What you did was awesome! I wonder if other people complained, and/or if other members of the organization saw the same phenomenon but needed another person's complaint to "validate" them. Did you post something about this before? I vaguely remember a similar post written by someone who had a horrible experience in an addiction-related group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:23 PM
6

No offense taken. It's probably cultural-- and plenty of women are brainwashed to think they need to pay halves when they get paid a fraction of what men make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:20 PM
4

Lol. Maybe that's an American NY/NJ/PA thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:19 PM
13

That's a form of emotional/psychological abuse: to humiliate one's partner in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:16 PM
10

I can't stand it, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:14 PM
5

I was just enjoying the whole separate thread about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:13 PM
9

LOL. This guy is a tool. Why oh why would anyone think telling a girl he wants to hit her would constitute a great way to flirt? Oh, that's right. Porn. And the way that line is written makes me think he probably uses it on a lot of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:13 PM
3

Guess they never heard of bloody childbirth. Besides, isn't it commonplace for ALL people within a society to help towards any war effort? It's not as if soldiers were stuck with the tasks of sewing military uniforms, growing food, slaughtering cattle, taking care of the injured, even manufacturing weapons-- those were tasks given to women, children, the elderly, and men who couldn't engage in combat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:36 PM
2

The only thing he gets right is that corporate greed and power is out of control... but just like the rest of these turds, he has to throw the blame at those he deems as "inferior" to his sex and race--- women, minorities, non-whites. One freak posting his bizarro diatribe is one thing-- but having huge numbers of men who think like this collectively poses a huge risk. What if some person or persons in positions of power decide to place an effort into militarizing them? The potential consequence…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:30 PM
2

What’s also aggravating to me is that no one seems to be moderating comments left anywhere online anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:10 PM
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Yeah, I dated my long-term ex when I was 19 and he was pushing 25. In hindsight I realize that was a big mistake, but when it was happening I didn't recognize it as a problem. I didn't realize how naive I truly was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:57 AM
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I think porn and TV/movies is a big part of it... normalizing the kiss-to-sex progression in a ten minute span of time. I also think it doesn't help that opportunities for learning "socially acceptable public touching" like formal dancing are obsolete. I imagine that probably helps some men learn to exhibit self-control in the touch department. They obviously can't whip it out while they're doing the waltz on a dance floor, so maybe it helps them learn how to not associate touching with immediat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:55 AM
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Yeah, I don't think it's as obvious when you are a 17 or 18 year old, but in reality it's a big age gap. Those years of experience give the older man a huge predatory advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:49 AM
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What a blowhard! "Ooh, he learned all this from a sociologilogicist in New York Citeeee? Wooooww! He must be soooooo smart!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:38 AM
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This is just sad, really, because sometimes it's just nice to have a hug or have one's hand held... but with men today it's not "safe" to even consider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:35 AM
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I second this. I'd probably try to make as many moves under the radar if possible. Your very obvious age gap makes me think he wants to dominate/control/outsmart you and to subjugate you into total submission in the first place. He wants a little girl to push around. Don't give him the opportunity to blow up in your face and frighten you into compliance. Collect your important identification documents and hide them in a rented PO box or somewhere safe. Contact the landlord on the sly and see wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:32 AM
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They ALWAYS come back to the kid... ALWAYS. They come back to torture, ask for money (ESPECIALLY if the kid reaches a high level of success). They sabotage, destroy reputation, embarrass, steal, fake-love, you name it. THIS THIS THIS. Total truth right there. The man doesn't ride off and disappear into the sunset like they do in TV and movies. They always stick around to make the woman and child's life miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:28 AM
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Have you ever looked up "family scapegoat"? I have... and I don't speak to most of my family anymore because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:21 AM
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he’s thetype that would use my interest (everyone would say I’m too good for him) to get more interest from other women. Like, oh that attractive successful woman likes him, he MUST have something special I think this is why I don't quite understand it when some women lament that "all the HVM are married". In my opinion, many of those married men are LVM, and only a small percentage of them happen to be otherwise. It seems that a great deal of men start abusing, cheating, and become blatantly ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:18 AM
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I'm a cold skeptic. He's looking for social media likes. I'm thinking a HVM wouldn't feel the need to humble brag on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:06 AM
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Yes. That behavior is super common in rural parts of the US. I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 12:41 AM
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I’d listen to this person.. I’m not from that culture, but this sounds totally on point. This guy is being manipulative and is up to no good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:38 PM
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The fact he’s bringing up the topic of your culture is ringing alarm bells to me..: as if he knows that if he tried to do something to you against your will, he’d use those very cultural norms as a weapon to protect himself with.... “Well, if you were a good girl and listened to your parents, nothing like this would have happened!” EDIT: I love this sub. This thread alone is enough to prove how valuable it is. Imagine how all the other subs would have told OP to “give him a chance!” thus potenti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:36 PM
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The porno potty talk makes me want to 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:11 PM
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It’s kind of like how they cheat during bachelor parties right before they marry. It’s a way of showing their “superiority” or superior position over women to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:09 PM
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I suppose that’s better than nothing— particularly if the man himself gets into mood swings where he “hates” his partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:05 PM
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Yes. Social media makes certain types of people crave attention even MORE than they would in real life. I’ve severed relationships with close family permanently for related reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:00 PM
2

Legal property? Is that the way it is where you live? Genuinely curious. I’m glad you gave him the boot instead of forgiving him and blaming the child he groomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:58 PM
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Josef Fritzl. Although I didn’t go through what his daughter did, I KNOW my father would have gotten away with something very similar if he tried. The dynamics of so many families leave men open to do anything they please while their wives look the other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:53 PM
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She should try to avoid being alone with him if possible— that’s what I’d try to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:02 AM
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Exactly, f him. He gets what he deserves. His wife should know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:01 AM
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I was banned from there as soon as I subscribed to GC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:09 AM
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Same here. That was an excellent description of the bullshit I was indoctrinated with from a very early age-- "Nice, good, obedient girls get rewarded in life". In my family, it has been made pretty clear to me that "any woman without a man = social pariah". It's sickening, and this attitude is alive and well within families that appear "modern and progressive" on the surface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:42 AM
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Ooof. Don't put too much money into a house you don't OWN. Why should you drain your hard earned money into a property in HIS name? Might as well rent somewhere else and at least establish a good rental history and build your credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:38 AM
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Actively trying to discourage you from being independent.... That's scary. Yep. That's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:37 AM
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Just a matter of time until her rich right-wing husband leaves her for a younger version of herself. And she'll be extolling the virtues of "how wonderful it is for a wife to forgive a man who stumbles into the sin of infidelity!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:31 AM
1

Couldn't someone-- you know-- look up that license plate on that bike?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:23 AM
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Ugh, some guys would think "girls who have those I'm-dead-inside eyes are soooo hawwwwt!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:22 AM
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Unfortunately most women are invested by this point and stay for another X amount of years hoping it's going to come back. Then they'll post questions on women-unfriendly subreddits begging for advice like, "How can I fix my broken relationship!! What can I do to make him love me again!??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:50 AM
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Even if he is "addicted", don't bother wasting one ounce of pity on him. You need to put yourself and your happiness first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:35 AM
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r/pornfreerelationships I would tell you to get your ducks in a row and plan on moving out as soon as you possibly can. He's using you. He'll probably drop all pretense of being anti-porn as soon as he figures you're really trapped. If he makes a big fake show about being a "righteous family-oriented man", he will definitely try to trap you in order to keep his fake facade believable for his family---- definitely don't get engaged and double down on your birth control. Guarantee you he'd drop al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:32 AM
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... and he probably got off on telling her he cheated, and is enjoying the luxury of getting away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:29 AM
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And the fact that many online companies are headed by misogynist narcissistic psychopathic men does not help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:45 PM
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Wikipedia, like google and other online mainstays, have become controlled and overrun by MRAs and red pillers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:45 PM
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Honestly, having experienced a man grasp at straws to demonize you after a break up is enough reason to keep one’s sexual history a closed topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:43 PM
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What’s wrong with being sexually conservative? Men don’t like it, and wealthy corporations make bank off selling and objectifying women’s bodies for profit. It hurts their bottom line to promote intelligent sexual practices among women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:42 PM
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If you become super successful, you won’t fall victim to a LVM. You’ll always have resources to help you defend yourself and/or leave. Money=Happiness+Power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:39 PM
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That’s cool. That’s the kind of story I’d consider a “happy ending”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:29 PM
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My ex has a history of being Willy nilly weird about schedules for years— I honestly think even the “involved” fathers pull this shit. They don’t want their exes to have lives outside taking care of their offspring and working. Example: I haven’t scheduled a haircut in months because my ex will pull last minute “you need to take him this Saturday AM even though I’m supposed to have him” late on a Friday night and then I have to cancel my Sat AM haircut every single time. It’s like he has ESP for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:57 PM
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If his family is toxic and he cut ties with them, I’d probably not hold his family against him— particularly if the vague details of what occurred jibe with my experiences involving a toxic family (those who’ve experienced it will understand or “get” how the dynamics work). Just my opinion. I can understand why a woman who did NOT experience a toxic family of origin would call that a deal-breaker though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:51 PM
2

Let me guess. His daddy is an alumni, and that’s how he got into Harvard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:47 PM
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He’s using terms like “20%”? Dump him yesterday- and I guarantee you he’s a porn addict, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:46 PM
2

Knowing what I do about the history of women in Ireland and how the Irish Americans treated women in recent times (I have ancestors in that category), I’d take a hard pass on that country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:45 PM
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I can’t can’t can’t stand the racism and anti-immigrant ideologies many men in the US have. It doesn’t matter than I’m a US citizen and am a part of the ethnic majority in my country— I still see racism and ethnocentrism as a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:43 PM
1

Hell, I wish I could move out of the US, and the men aren’t even in the top five reasons why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:41 PM
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I’m glad the girlfriend took your word for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:38 PM
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A ton of sexual tropes, stereotypes and tired old plots on TV and in movies are completely out of touch with reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:35 PM
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Yikes. Just a random comment. I can't believe how much of a pickme I was. Although I didn't date a large number of men, I really pulled all the stupid pickme tricks out of the bag with my long term ex. Totally screwed up my life, big time, and was totally blindsided to realize how many cards are stacked against a single woman with a child-- all the familial, societal and economic cards are stacked against single women with children. I wish I was exaggerating. I'm not. Not only is it virtually im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:49 PM
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"I man you woman. I right you wrong"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:29 PM
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"ThAt's mIsAnDry!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:28 PM
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"bottom line is men are better than women" He should try to have sexual and romantic relationships with men, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:15 PM
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https://www.removeddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/fbjvsq/analwhy_is_this_suddenly_on_the_menu/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=usertext&utm_name=FemaleDatingStrategy&utm_content=t3_fbmoft text from post Anal...Why is this suddenly on the menu? Yep...Said it... Since when has this become a "thing"? Any females do it and actually enjoy it? Ever turned a guy down and never heard from him again because of it? Men...Why? Is just because "why not?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:12 PM
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It's always that one pickme woman who Loooooves anal that all the men will put on a pedestal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:11 PM
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NO. NO. NO. I'm sick of all these "how to do anal" manuals and articles aimed at women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:11 PM
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The grammar on this makes me wince.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:09 PM
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Good for you regarding kicking him out. I definitely think he was hoping to win the lotto when your parents pass away. There definitely ARE men out there who'll cling to any woman of whom they think might receive an inheritance. If anyone on here is reading and has parents who "appear" wealthy, be very vigilant about men who are leeches. Trust me on this one. They think you'll be their meal ticket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:07 PM
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Any man who insists that he must only have male offspring is an automatic LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:02 PM
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Women need to let go of Disney, the wedding industry, Cosmo magazine and liberal feminism if they want to have a chance. Drop the bullshit and arm yourself with knowledge instead Yes. We also need to let go of familial socialization that tells us constantly "a woman is nothing without a man!".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:00 PM
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Bros will always stick up for other bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:54 PM
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Yes. The word "cuddle" sounds innocuous, child-like, and non-threatening, and that's why they use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:41 PM
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To my porn addicted ex, "cuddle" meant "poke my finger at your asshole through your jeans", "tickle you until I piss you off", "twist your nipples until you wince with pain". No thanks. I'm also sure many of these dudes heard somewhere down the line "women just like to cuddle sometimes!", so they use the word "because to get her in bed, I need to tell her what she wants to hear!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:40 PM
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... and men who are suicidal are known to take others out with them on occasion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:38 PM
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It's about how extremist groups take advantage of people not getting the social support they need during times of crisis. I've totally noticed over the years how every time there is a major economic crisis in my country (the US), racist rhetoric goes through the roof. People always seek someone to blame, and rarely go after the more powerful/wealthy entities who are really responsible for the mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:34 PM
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"Shirley Valentine", an old 80s movie from the UK, was a good movie about getting rid of LVM. You might cringe while watching it, particularly because there are so many examples where the main character is treated like garbage, but it ends well for her. This one sounds interesting. I'll have to look it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:31 PM
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I used to think of "liberal feminist" as a feminist who was left of the political spectrum, but the definition seems to change over time and depends on what group you're speaking to. I kind of wish there was a different term for it, too... sort of like how the word "feminism" has grown to include more things that it originally meant. On this board the term "libfem" is more often used to describe women who claim to be feminists but seem think anything should be permissible in regards to sexuality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:27 PM
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LOL. I would love $18 an hour. I think I'm not the only woman who would be thrilled at the prospect, as pathetic as it seems, and I'm almost 2x your age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:31 AM
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I wanted to say that-- but was afraid I'd get backlash! These women are usually the ones who are extreme pickmes or they have some major biases against younger generations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:18 PM
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I didn't have to read very much to realize the dude probably had experience hooking up with foreign women he met at the bar he worked at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:14 PM
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Is confident = Won't get pissy and complain when I spend hours in front of my computer surfing porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:12 PM
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It's not just men who will sabotage you, but (unfortunately) other women as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:08 PM
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If he kept telling you he wanted to have sex, and you kept telling him you didn't-- and he did it anyway-- he's a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:06 PM
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I know. It totally baffles me. Although I remember my porn addicted ex telling me more than once "the drugs they have now practically cure AIDS". Sometimes I think there's this myth being spread that AIDS and HIV is curable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:21 PM
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This is excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:19 PM
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What turd wrote this? I'd be less apt to hate it if it wasn't directed at women who supposedly "need" men. And what's with the "same theory applies to men and animals" line? What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:09 PM
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I personally can never get past shows where young people are depicted as having super great living situations in high-cost-of-living cities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:04 PM
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I'm kind of thinking most women, particularly ones just starting out in the workforce, should be aware that there WILL be people out there who want to sabotage you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:49 PM
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In some ways, I agree. I think a lot of Democratic candidates are reaching out to well-monied fringes of left-wing culture and are ignoring their base. A great deal of my extended family in the mid to late 1900s voted Democratic because they were perceived to be supportive of what was considered the goals of Catholic charity at that time... supporting fair wages, helping the poor, increasing equal opportunities and justice for racial/ethnic minorities, that kind of thing. Some of them even ran f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:21 PM
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I think the term "liberal" is changing into something I don't recognize. In recent times, I've realized that many aspects of the left are problematic. That being said, I don't see "conservatives" as really consistently caring about women... if anything, they prove to be the exact opposite. While I'm glad some conservative states are willing to recognize that porn is a problem, I would NOT be shocked if they eventually enacted legislation that allowed all women depicted in porn to be criminally p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:06 PM
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I'm glad some states are recognizing that porn is toxic, but I disagree that conservative states care about women. If anything, porn is an affront to their religious sensitivities. While "liberal" states might not seem to recognize the bad side effects of pornography, they don't try to enforce legislation that allows employers to deny health insurance covered birth control access for their employees or legislation that forces rape victims to give birth to their rapist's babies (including rape vi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:03 PM
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We all know he plans on divorcing her and will try to scam her out of the house, retirement savings, and healthcare. She should lawyer up before he makes it official. He might be forced to pay her more than he thinks. He shouldn't expect her children to support her while he goes off and finds new playmates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:16 PM
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Yes. Many many women throughout history had their lives completely screwed when their husbands died young. There are tons of orphans in my own family tree. While most of them were already working, the SAHM were really screwed. They had to beg for charity from the church or family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:15 PM
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It sounds like he's hoping she'll agree to be a "cool girl-- like one of the bros and kick tires".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:26 AM
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TBH, if I work out, I pay zero attention to other people. I wouldn't accost a man out of fear that the "man" might actually be a woman with extreme facial hair, a manly face, which is not that uncommon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:45 PM
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Honestly, I feel that perpetual abstinence might be an excellent choice for most women, particularly the younger ones who have to deal with men who've been porn poisoned since they were practically in the cradle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:43 PM
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“Okay, then. I’ll still be better off single if that’s the case!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:53 PM
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Lol. I guessed without reading the article or clicking the link!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:10 PM
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I was lucky in that my primary care doctor knew I had a family history and believed me when I told him I was having symptoms when I was in my mid 20s. It was caught early. Granted, I probably feel side effects I’m not completely aware of...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:09 PM
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Yeah, good advice... although not everyone can afford world travel or things that cost money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:22 AM
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I’m not sure they don’t understand our safety conserves. It’s that they don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:28 AM
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Meh, I have hypothyroidism and it doesn’t seem to cause me any debilitating issues. If anything, more people are walking around with undiagnosed and untreated health conditions than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:59 PM
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Absolutely. It’s so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:56 PM
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The day they quarantine or close this sub, I’m off Reddit forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:56 PM
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Ugh, why would any woman in a misogynistic society want children? I know I never did. Got pregnant by accident. I was right all along, and I’m in the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:53 PM
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Let me guess— his health is failing and he wants her to play nursey nurse, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:52 PM
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My first thought. What an ogre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:51 PM
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I seriously can’t stand that. Hopefully subs like this one will wake more women up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:50 PM
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I wouldn’t. His family will probably become informants for him if she complains to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:45 PM
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Absolutely. I cringe when “marital counseling” suggestions are given out when clearly there is abuse going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:44 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:04 PM
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If you want to share your story, check out r/pornfreerelationships We love success stories like yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:36 PM
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👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:34 PM
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Most men are trash, so most posts will be about dodging trash men. Women don’t have many other “safe places” to vent or share experiences about trash men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:22 PM
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I agree, I smell some “NAMALT” here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:21 PM
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Most men are LVM, so most posts will be about LVM, not HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:20 PM
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I love the shut down posts, myself. Gives me hope for the future of women at large. It satisfies my need for justice in some way, even if I’m not the one who did the “delete and block”. My personal opinion, I find a lot of self improvement posts (regarding finances, employment, self help) out of touch with my reality, to be honest. Usually those kinds of posts are made by women with high paying (usually STEM) jobs who can afford therapy, yoga classes, hobbies, makeovers, investments, etc. I’m wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:19 PM
2

I was told I had to treat my older siblings as if they were my parents, and I was not allowed to “be a tattle tale” when they were abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:12 PM
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A couple days after he’s making the “I’m gonna nap for a few hrs” excuse and dodging convos w me. Ew. Dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:53 AM
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Exactly. They become the Block Kapos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:15 AM
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And then play free nurse maid when the parents are old and crippled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:07 AM
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It sucks to be “mothered” by resentful older siblings, too. It sucks for all the kids involved, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:06 AM
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I often think people abuse daughters so they DO try to seek a man to “rescue them” as soon as they are old enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:48 AM
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Yes. Our worth to some Christians is limited to/measured by the functions of our vaginas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:34 AM
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Makes me want to convert to... anything other than Christianity....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:32 AM
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Daddy issues also come from having abusive fathers who are always hovering and waiting to pounce. That can happen in a “rich family” or poor one. Men cause daddy issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:05 AM
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Maybe he’s telling her that profile of him is fake or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:01 AM
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While this might be true, one also has to consider that someone with higher education might prefer someone else with similar educational experiences, just for the conversational aspect alone. Plenty of blue collar guys, even if they make a good living, can’t or won’t engage in conversation regarding history, art, certain aspects of politics, etc. Plenty of men in that demographic are proud of their ignorance and will shut down any discussions that move beyond the latest episode of Family Guy, la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:57 AM
3

I am legit afraid to watch that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:52 AM
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Thanks. Yes, now that I’m “out” I remember more bizarre shit every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:51 AM
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Two long term teachers at my high school had married teen students at one time. This must have been in the 70s or early 80s. By the time I had them for teachers they were close to retirement. One music teacher was fired for hanging out in a hotel room and buying alcohol for one student when I was there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:50 AM
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This guy would be the one who's caught trying to sleep with a student. It totally happened when I was in high school years ago, multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:46 AM
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While good advice, those of us who struggle with paycheck-to-paycheck lives are too concerned with making rent than investing. It's not uncommon for most women, who are often relegated to low-paying service jobs (even WITH college degrees), to have zero spare change to invest in anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:44 AM
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Beware, though. Povertyfinance harbors a shit-ton of misogynists. If you dare to label yourself a single woman, particularly with children, you are likely to get down-votes and obnoxious replies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:43 AM
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This is the kind of guy who would abuse a child and not think twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:38 AM
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BFF's BF says he's leaving, she goes to say goodbye to him. Apparently she had to talk him off the ledge because he thought I was judgemental and didn't approve of him. What a big baby. How can she stand it? Guarantee you he will push her to drop you as a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:23 AM
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I have a bachelor's, my husband does not, yet he makes 5x what I make in a Fortune 500 company. Your husband is the minority. Most people with limited education do NOT end up with decent salaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:18 AM
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I kind of think it's not even worth posting something along those lines on social media. I have long since deleted my self-identified facebook. Why? Largely because certain members of my family used it as a platform to belittle, bully and degrade me. It's as if people LOOK for reasons to standard-shame women, it's bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:15 AM
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It's amazing how he thinks he has some kind of ESP where he knows exactly what a woman is thinking, what she has experienced, and how strong her desire for sex is. He's completely projecting attitudes/thoughts/feelings onto a woman that he can't possibly know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:12 AM
14

Yes. He sounds "rapey" to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:10 AM
46

This would be the guy who'd cajole you into anal after you've told him you were anally raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:08 AM
12

Many women, including myself, were raised to believe anger was "evil", and "something only bad girls do". I literally thought "no" was a bad word when I was 4. It's mind boggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:07 AM
3

Curious, what sect is this, if you don't mind telling us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:05 AM
13

My mother totally enabled my sadistically emotionally abusive father, who in turn encouraged my older siblings to bully me as well. Needless to say, this is hard to overcome. Sadly, the older I get, the more I realize many women live through a similar situation and only grow up ending in equally abusive circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:04 AM
12

I think in a lot of "family tribes", including my family, the youngest and female members are automatically deemed "inferior". We, as the young women in these "family clans" are pressured to submit and obey to the leaders of "the clan"-- part of that submission involves putting oneself in a servile role in a marriage and producing children. The well being of the youngest members, and the women/girls, is always LAST on the priority list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:01 AM
8

YES. I truly believe a lot of women remain in abusive relationships because not only are they economically disadvantaged, their family/social network refuses to support single women after they break up/divorce. Most of my family blackballed me after I left my ex, who had obvious "issues". Needless to say, I've cut contact with most of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:58 AM
12

Ironically, the ones who'll suck up to men and have the big blue eyes will be the ones who get promoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:54 AM
8

Ew, what an infantilizing douchebag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:52 AM
16

Sometimes it's necessary to prune your friend tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:50 AM
6

I think Rudy Giuliani did the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:48 AM
11

Worked in an office where many cancer patients were cared for. I would also confirm that men frequently divorce women who are ill, even if the cancer isn't actually terminal and is confirmed to have a positive prognosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:46 AM
21

They’re all about upholding their “Christian family” image. Having a single daughter of marriageable age who isn’t married “reflects poorly” on them. It’s a sign you’re “disobedient”, “willful” or (gasp!) some kind of feminist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:33 PM
1

Yeah, I’m aware of that— alright their data seems off, at least the last time I looked. For example, they overestimate they average salary for someone in my position, probably because older women in my type of job have been grandfathered into higher pay scales. They’re also the “woman factor” as in “if an almost 40 year old woman enters this male dominated field, how likely will she get a job let alone remain employed?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:58 PM
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Thanks, I’ll cross post. What makes me laugh is when they insist that it’s somehow their partners’ fault they are on internet porn all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:45 PM
66

I wasted ten years on a porn addict— trust me, I agree that this issue needs to addressed, and that women need to avoid men like this. Could you possibly also post this to r/pornfreerelationships? I want more women to be able to recognize the red flags before they get sucked into relationships with guys like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:30 PM
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Wow. He sounds like a total manipulative asshat. Naturally, instead of working on himself, he decides to try to pretend to be abstinent for lofty purposes in order to “trap a girl”. Blegh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:25 PM
2

I just feel like I wouldn’t make it past the basic qualification tests to even start. It’s been so long since I’ve had basic algebra, for example. I had mostly As/Bs in related subjects in high school and college, but it still doesn’t come easily to me. Weirdly, I did great in subjects like statistics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:19 PM
2

Yes. I was around when my father had lung cancer. Ugh, I still have nightmares about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:11 PM
1

The problem with this, for someone like me, is that I wouldn't know where to start-- what to focus on-- what to do--- what is considered "relevant" today. Without someone actually helping me/giving me advice/guiding me, I wouldn't be able to figure out what to do. It's not "stupidity" as much as not really knowing anyone who is knowledgable about those fields that would actually give me relevant advice. I don't want to waste my time learning computer skill X if X turns out to be useless/obsolete…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:44 PM
2

What did you major in? It seems that job opportunities that pay seem limited to fields that require degrees that demand excellent math skills in the first place. Anything related to "caring fields" like nursing would drain the hell out of me, and there's no way in hell I could be a salesperson and do something like real estate, or anything that requires being Miss Popular and charming people, if you catch my drift. Seriously, I wish I had a male body, and could do welding or something similar th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:41 PM
2

Yes. It's a real issue to be wary of if you've grown up in a toxic family environment... you don't want to wind up with a man who simply replicates the life you experienced as a child. Some of them hone in on introverted, abused, timid women like a dog chasing an injured rabbit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:35 PM
2

My situation wasn't entirely like this, but similar enough. Right now I am stuck in a dead end job, barely surviving, and I have this inability to figure out what I'd rather do, let alone try to figure out how to even afford to go back to school. I have a BS in something useless, so I might as well just have a HS diploma. My GPA was good, but there's no way in hell I'd do OK on a GRE test with my math skills being abysmal, I need a calculator for simple figures... but this might also be due to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:33 PM
3

Considering we are living in the day and age of the red pill and pick up artistry, a "conscience" is something that should be used sparingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:13 PM
11

Jesus Christ. The lengths to which a family will protect "The Son" and let the daughter rot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:11 PM
1

Great sub, although some of the posters admittedly "escape" via the boyfriend/girlfriend route, which can be problematic if the relationship dissolves. Some abusive types purposely seek people from abusive families because they figure these people are "easier to keep under my thumb".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:08 PM
1

I think the problem with narcissistic parents is that they will do ANYTHING in their power to undermine a young woman leaving the family home... literally... anything. Narc parents are great at pulling the rugs from under their children, or obstructing them from moving out completely. It doesn't take much nowadays-- car insurance alone is enough to eat up a ridiculous amount of a young person's paycheck. No credit = no apartment. Some parents guilt and cajole paychecks out of their young adult c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:04 PM
2

Raised by narcissists is good, although it DOES seem that a lot of people on there rely on their boyfriends or girlfriends to move out, which I always worry about. I did something similar, and it backfired on me HARD. It just frustrates me to no end that it's so difficult to become financially stable enough to move out when one is young. I really endured way more abuse than I would have had I graduated college in the 80s vs the 2000s. The resentment and regret is overwhelming-- I was truly trapp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:01 PM
4

Yes, I'd say being single is NOT the "worst thing that could happen" to any woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:45 PM
9

You kind of put into words why the premise of this show has always put me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:37 PM
5

I would refrain from sharing much personal information with family like this, and I would limit contact with them. Move away from them as soon as you possibly can, if you haven't already. You can't change their attitudes, in my experience. Their desire to assert familial dominance/ to reinforce their rank within the family hierarchy, reinforcing patriarchal norms that will push you into a relationship (that they approve of) quickly, etc, is more important to them than understanding how you feel.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:35 PM
6

I knew some of these posts were odd. Like why are you going into detail about your love for anal and rough sex? Gtfoutta here and onto another subreddit. We don’t care that you like stuffing shit in your ass. Please bugger off. I always think that the poster is either a male, someone with an agenda, or a woman with issues. Either way, it just screams, "Look at me! I'm so special!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:31 PM
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This is why I always recommend that women DO NOT stay with men who are perpetually underemployed, and that they DO NOT allow these guys to be "stay at home dads". I know some women who were forced to pay their loser exs alimony, or who are afraid to divorce their lazy husbands because they'd have to pay alimony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:30 PM
3

It was probably more than the jeans. Can I just say, yet again, that I really loathe this "beard trend"? 99% of men look terrible with all that facial hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:28 PM
14

Youtube comments are a cesspool. I would avoid reading them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:27 PM
2

Woot! I'm so glad you averted total disaster! He sounds like a dumpster fire! Every time I read a post like this, I feel a little more hope for women out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:26 PM
15

She works 2 jobs and does all the emotional labor at home, including tending to his mother when she was dying in hospice. This is another big issue people rarely address: women being stuck in free caregiver roles to their husband's/boyfriend's parents. I predict as the baby boomer generation ages more, THIS will become a new problem women will have to dodge more frequently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:24 PM
6

You made a HVW decision! I wish you the best for your future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:22 PM
4

A woman that forgives indiscriminately is not a "pure and loving soul", but someone who's been duped into thinking her martyrdom is a moral value. Yes. You put it perfectly. People DO hold up indiscriminate forgiveness as a "moral virtue women are supposed to have".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:18 PM
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This meme needs to be posted in the r/DeadBedrooms sub. It's sad how those women beg and cry for love and attention from men who are completely indifferent to them. LOL. You'd be censored and banned from that sub in no time. It sucks how often women post on subs like that, and you WANT to tell them "the real deal" and you KNOW your post will be deleted by the mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:17 PM
1

He had a good paycheck for a while, but nowhere near today’s levels for CEO salaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:55 PM
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Yes. I think we need to drop this pretense that having tons of casual sex is somehow a positive experience for women, because most of us don't experience anything positive from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:36 PM
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Strong women have a heart full of forgiveness. They have no time to hold grudges or plot revenge. These beautiful humans have pure and loving souls full of forgiveness. They never burden their minds with negativity. Instead, they choose to forgive. Because in the end, we all make mistakes. The only way to learn from them is by having a chance to try all over again. I find this one problematic. Some people will interpret this in such a way that makes the woman feel forced to accept abuse and malt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:48 PM
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Seriously— the relationship between toxic families grooming pickme behavior could be a subreddit if it’s own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:45 PM
1

Egh, my dad was involved with computerization of banking in a major NY bank in the 60s-80s. Total narcissist. He had a background in military intelligence, too, which kind of tells me the US government had an interest and helped fund or facilitate technology and banking, I remember finding a work binder of his from the early 80s in which they were discussing the wonders of “the internet” and forex exchange, etc.. He was always weirdly wishy washy about what he actually did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:43 PM
13

Yes, I know. They want to see how quickly they can manage to get a woman into bed with the least amount of cost or inconvenience to them as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:49 AM
11

Oh, god... The author illustrates "negging" perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:47 PM
3

Holy shit. Flashbacks. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:45 PM
4

Here's the original post from removeddit https://www.removeddit.com/r/relationships/comments/f7x1xw/my_26f_bf_25m_got_a_blowjob_from_his_cousin_30f/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf throwaway account for obvious reasons. I'm still trying to process the whole thing as I just found out yesterday and barely slept last night. The story: It was 2 years and an half before we met. He just had a breakup and wasn't feeling good. They've always been drinking together for fun but this on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:30 PM
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YES. He was fixated on the butt pretty fast, I'd say he's definitely porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:27 PM
8

YES. It seems super common here in the US. People expect women to smile 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:25 PM
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Some of us would need a ton of therapy to drop this habit, seriously. I think some of us develop a knee-jerk smiling reaction when people act offensive or we get upset. I know I definitely have this bad habit. It was like a defense mechanism while living in a toxic family environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:23 PM
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Yeah, I feel that I have the physical craving for touch, desire an orgasm, enjoy a strong body holding me-- BUT, it seems that most men are tainted with a bizarre desire to be violent, internet porn fantasies, or are just plain horrible and selfish in bed. That physical drive is there, but there's no way to satiate it in a way that will still ensure my physical and emotional safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:20 PM
6

I think the OP is just venting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:18 PM
5

I think I experienced all of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:15 PM
9

The first dude bro sounded like that guy in American Psycho. I seriously wonder what it was he "invented".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:13 PM
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I'd say the dude is porn sick, but I'd still consider taking it seriously and reporting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:11 PM
33

Yes. Actually... he is threatening you after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:10 PM
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Yes. Male-dominated industries push these narratives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:09 PM
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No, that's cool. I can see where the confusion comes from. I find it really hilarious that men who want to lessen their porn use refuse to consider how much their behavior harms women. They still demand that women care and lolly-coddle them no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:23 PM
12

I was banned from "porn free" not "porn free relationships". Porn free is for porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:11 PM
0

Sometimes trusting other women, let alone men, can be problematic if you're family/culture/region is extremely misogynistic and isolating. I suppose it helps to learn how to identify good role models. I think some of us have families that are downright toxic, and often the people we run to when we need help the most... our sisters/mothers... are the biggest reinforcers of patriarchal values in our personal lives... "Crabs in a bucket" mentality. For example, I was my father's favorite scapegoat …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:42 PM
7

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:28 PM
2

I hate most US movies, particularly more recent movies and series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:17 PM
4

I think my father smoked weed and drank heavily around the time I was conceived. He had a well-paying job so I'm not sure he did it enough to incapacitate him. However, I have at least three verified "genetic mutations" that could be fatal to any person who has two copies of these genes. I wouldn't be shocked if there was a connection. My one niece/nephew is profoundly deaf (I don't want to identify gender for privacy reasons). His/Her parent is my sibling, who married a man who was a long-term …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:13 PM
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Focus on your own educational/occupational development, first. I think money is the key to everything in life, unfortunately, so I would focus on trying to built wealth ASAP over dating. If I had to it all over again at age 20, that's what I would have done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:09 PM
5

It's as if they are going to forget our names, so they use nicknames to cover their asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:08 PM
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It's infantilizing. They want to put you in a position where they feel that they've established their "dominance" over you. (I also acknowledge that in some cultures, these phrases are routine in everyday conversation-- so it depends on the context. Some places in the US use those phrases frequently. Those of us who live in those regions know whether they mean something harmless or not.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:05 PM
4

What he said was infantilizing, degrading and negging all in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:04 PM
32

He seems "a little annoyed"? Yikes. Your body isn't his property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:03 PM
6

Well, maybe that's why he can't afford a razor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:01 PM
7

And this guy named "Patrick" knows what women want, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:00 PM
21

Absolutely. If I was working in an environment where a married man kept chatting me up inappropriately and tried to text me, I'd be on my guard. I think this woman probably likes to be chased by a train wreck man. He must enjoy being fought over. This woman needs to leave him, he's obviously cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:58 PM
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Men will throw their entire life and family away just to have sex with a new person once. "But in all the TV shows, the main actor runs off with his new mistress, lives happily ever after, and his naggy wife disappears from the series!" I swear, some people live in a non-reality alternate reality where they can just do whatever they please and experience no repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:55 PM
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TBH she shouldn't bother counseling with him. He sounds like an emotional abuser. She needs to get her ducks in a row and plan on walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:53 PM
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It's the latest version of "Why was she wearing THAT?" "Why didn't she have a chaperone?" "What was she doing out of the house without her father's permission?" "Why was she drinking?" "She must have false memories!" They'll always come up with a new excuse to justify men raping and killing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:51 PM
8

There were a lot of famous rape cases in the 80s-90s where the (wealthy) men got off without any punishment. I remember being a girl and really puzzled by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:50 PM
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Unfortunately I think some people who post questions like this on certain subreddits are really young and/or have grown up in unsupportive environments. Many people in "real life" will tell a young woman to love her man anyway, "boys will be boys", etc.. These young women literally don't know they are worthy of love and respect, because nobody ever told them so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:48 PM
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Ask Women Advice is a horrible subreddit. Most subreddits are horrible for women, and I cringe when I see really young ones posting questions in places that promote MRA propaganda. I just got banned from porn free (a site for porn addicts) because I told an OP to leave her porn addicted boyfriend. She must have posted on that subreddit thinking she'd get realistic advice, maybe not understanding that most of the readers were men with an agenda--- the people who replied to her were obviously male…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:47 PM
6

This attitude is the most common, unfortunately. I can't emphasize enough how many families are extremely inept at supporting women who experience domestic violence or bad relationships in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:43 PM
4

I've heard almost all of those lines from both of my parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:42 PM
6

LOL. Bottom line is you can never compete with the Virgin Mary, internet porn and bad media stereotypes of "the perfect woman".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:42 PM
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What is it with men and an aversion to eating? Is there some kind of eating disorder epidemic among men we aren't aware of? LOL You'd think they'd like the idea of eating out with a woman, if only to weed out women with severe eating disorders. I myself flirted with an ED in my youth, so I'm not trying to put people down with them, but I know it had a bad effect on my health including my libido. Hell, I don't know about women on here, but I HATE HATE HATE eating dinner with a guy who has no tabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:40 PM
5

I think this is a good idea, although the original concept of "promise rings" always bothered me. Promise rings are often marketed towards girls as a way to "save your virginity for your husband", which seems to make it all about serving men's desires, and not the well being of the women and girls in question. In this context, for the woman's own well-being, I like the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:35 PM
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I agree. I made that mistake, although to be honest I am glad I didn't marry the guy after the fact. If a woman becomes pregnant by accident, she's better off not marrying a LVM if she decides to keep the pregnancy. Sorry, I just typed this out and realized I went on a tangent-- I'm sure you know all this, but I figured I'd keep the post in case someone out there would benefit. Inside of me is this burning desire to tell younger women to avoid making my mistakes. Despite what movies and media tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:31 PM
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One thing I hate is when you move your body, and they move their hands/mouth like they're a honing pigeon-- as if THEY know where that "sweet spot" is. It's like "Stay in THAT SPOT, and do the SAME THING!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:13 PM
20

I wish I had the same mindset at 24!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:10 PM
4

I do, too, for the very same reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:20 AM
3

Yes. Report that your other co-workers were needling you. You don't want whatever you discussed with this spy of his to come back to haunt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:46 AM
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Doesn't matter if he kept insisting-- he WANTS to to talk yourself into your own grave, and THAT is why he kept "insisting". HE wanted you to feel pressured/guilted into chatting with him "because that's what nice girls do". He totally played you. Don't be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:45 AM
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I wouldn't even discuss what happened with his buds. They'll just use it as ammunition against you at a later date. Don't even discuss it with them. Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom... pick up the phone "to make an important call"... anything to avoid discussing it with his friends/spies/buddies/bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:44 AM
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No. I wouldn't go. I find that some people are just narcissistic assholes. They'll SEEK ways to hurt you and they WILL figure out how every single time. Some people are just toxic like that. He'll figure out some way to push your buttons, particularly if the hurt and cringe you feel is still fresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:39 AM
2

Hmm, I wonder who his weekend girlfriend was-- unless that was his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:29 AM
8

Don't forget the fathers who treat them like crown princes. Can't tell you how many trucks and cars my dad bought for His Favorite Son every time my brother got into another drunken stupor and wrapped yet another vehicle around yet another tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:26 AM
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Let me guess-- if it had been a stillborn DAUGHTER, the dude bros would all be high-fiving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:24 AM
7

Christ. My extremely misogynist oldest sister LOVED mad men, and seemed to constantly put down the main character's wife, as well as other people's wives. The mistresses, of course, were A-OK. She herself is a married school teacher, so god only knows what her attraction was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:12 AM
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Plenty of "comedies" seem to be among the worst offenders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:11 AM
10

Yes. It seems all the "cool series" people drone on about inevitably involve graphic rape scenes. Ever since the infamous "Dr. Melfi gets raped" scene in The Sopranos back in the early 2000s, everything has gotten 10000x worse. I'm so over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:10 AM
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Thank you. I've noticed the bad messages aimed at women in media for a long time, ever since I was in my early teens. I personally feel no qualms with turning off a show as soon as it shows themes that involve women being abused, accepting abuse/infidelity/sexual assault, large age gaps, anything that salaciously uses violent sexual crimes as a major plot aspect, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:09 AM
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My opinion: I think taking care if your health is one of the biggest issues. Be the prize for yourself, first and foremost. I never had issues with going to the gym and staying physically fit, but I’ve had bouts of treatment resistant acne that really drained my wallet. I stupidly tried to chase the next best beauty product and cure-all only to find out that I needed some hardcore medical treatment instead . How I wish I had simply sought a second opinion from a dermatologist and had gotten accu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:38 PM
3

I wouldn’t even engage with people like that. Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:13 PM
1

Let me guess— that person wasn’t a subscriber in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:25 PM
9

Let me guess— he was probably a porn addict who leered at other women right in front of your face...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:24 PM
14

I especially hate it when other women accuse us of being “bitter” when we tell it as it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:22 PM
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Seriously, I’m middle aged and a proponent of “just dump him”. Yes. By the time you’ve poured your aching heart out to strangers on Reddit because your relationship is going south, you probably needed to dump him a long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:22 PM
8

They’re all for the motto, “Bros before H—s”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:20 PM
8

My ex would have legit child like tantrums if I didn’t do things like fold his laundry for him or pack his lunches for work. TBH I think I would call that tantrum-making to be "domestic abuse".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:15 AM
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I think it was a fellow poster on a subreddit about porn addiction that we have probably both been banned from since then. (....part of the reason we created r/pornfreerelationships) I think this same person who named FDS was a frequent GC poster, too. The ban-happy sub had waves of pro-women posters who’d post good old-school advice to women about the state of modern men; and these women’s threads would be swiftly locked, and the OPs would be banned and deemed “misandrist”. This mysterious stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:06 AM
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He was being indoctrinated. There are a few posters on Reddit who talked about how they left their husbands after they became “red pilled” It’s as if we should make a list of their favorite sound bytes and talking points as a “red flag” database.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:51 AM
1

You did the right thing. You stuck up for yourself and Loved yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:48 AM
2

Yes: I think many mammals in the animal kingdom eat their young as soon as they’re born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:42 AM
15

He’s exploiting coworkers who rank beneath him. I’m sure this isn’t his first rodeo when it comes to luring new young employees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:41 AM
1

Half-past never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:40 AM
8

Notice, he made up some story about an STD riddled bath tub. In reality, those women and girls were raped by soldiers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:39 AM
8

I think OP trusted her gut instincts and she proved to be right in her suspicions. I’d pull back and seriously doubt contacting him in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:37 AM
8

Don’t trust him. He is either sleeping with her now, wants to sleep with her now, or slept with her in the past. Notice how he DIDN’T even tell you about his “friend” being local before he disappeared on you. If she was just a “platonic friend”, why didn’t he have you meet her? He knows you’d be justifiably upset by him sniffing her up. He’s hiding his intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:34 AM
1

Some UK stuff is great if you want to see women actresses playing great roles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:30 AM
5

Meh, on the other hand, people with histories of trauma might attract abusers and cheaters. If you have a history of emotional trauma, perhaps run it across a therapist or someone you feel is supportive of you are questioning yourself. I’d still err on the side of women’s intuition. Many men like to use the “you’re crazy!” excuse when women catch them cheating. Some of them seem to think mental illness in a woman gives them a green light to cheat and for him to expect to get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:27 AM
2

I’m feeling this exact way about my job today. This is an excellent post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:22 AM
13

Sometimes even wealthy parents are super stingy and downright obstructive when it comes to helping their children or guiding them into successful adulthoods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:56 PM
1

I tend to think the longer commute might interfere with you earning your degree... and “working up the ladder” as your dad implies is largely a thing of the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:48 PM
3

Nice editing: While the group seems to be centered on women, it regressive attitude despite a growing community doesn’t seem to be focused on improving women’s dating lives but at controlling and judging them. Lol. Low value article right there, although I guess any publicity is better than no publicity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:26 AM
20

They see their wives and children as possessions— they see them as objects and not as human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:16 AM
7

We have an entire thread about this on r/pornfreerelationships It’s amazing how similar they all become over time, and how consistent the red flags are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:15 AM
6

Lol, she “surrenders” and he “takes care of her”. What a pile of horse shit. She winds up taking care of everyone and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:17 PM
2

THIS She stopped being a novelty to him, so he needs a newer, shinier “fix” to get hard. r/pornfreerelationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:06 PM
3

I hope the idea of abstinence “strict sexual selectivity” in itself as a good idea grows— particularly in a no-nonsense way that has nothing to do with religious belief and is focused on the well being of the person involved. I think the general idea to limit ones sexual experiences to a chosen few is a good strategy for everyone. While I personally couldn’t marry a guy without test driving first, I respect other people’s decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:43 PM
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That sub is depressing, but I’m glad that sub generally supports women. People won’t keep playing devil’s advocate and always argue for the husband on there, whereas on other subs you have tons of MRAs and red pillers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:36 PM
3

This is a huge thing. If you are unmarried in most places yet serve as a SAHM/housewife for a man, you are putting your future in jeopardy. I totally understand that it’s probably ideal for a child to be with it’s mother in the first few years, the long term risks for the woman involved are astronomical. If you insist on being a SAHM (not that I would recommend it), do NOT have children before you are married. At least there are legal protections in place for women/SAHMs who divorce men in most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:34 PM
1

I agree with the message, but I know sometimes people like to use messages like this to shame single mothers. However, I don’t think the message was given to shame mothers, but to warn childless women, so I’d say I generally agree. Quite a few of us get pregnant on false promises. Do NOT get pregnant based on the emotional whims of a man, or keep an unplanned pregnancy because he promises the moon and stars. It’s all about their ego, their machismo, their desire for a SON of whom they think will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:30 PM
8

YES. He decided to put the money into a room and not the date itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:19 PM
5

Hmm, I might actually watch that now. I usually avoid documentaries on serial killers because they’ll almost always feature some “expert” who blames the mothers for how these guys turn out— as if human beings are raised in a bubble with their mommies until they’re adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:18 PM
4

That’s so weird... and a huge risk to take. It seems that women who leave their county of origin in order to chase after a man wind up getting burned badly. These guys know the immigration process and law will always be on their side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:51 AM
2

😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:40 AM
5

Oh god... they’ll regret it eventually. Where do they come from? I’ve heard of men going there to wife hunt, but I didn’t know many women did this as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 AM
2

Sounds like something one would need their doctorate in to really grasp (for those who are raised outside the region).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:26 AM
3

Yep. The thought of it gives me chills. I remembered hearing about it as a girl in my very early teens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:24 AM
7

He thinks he’s the Croatianistest Croatian. Yes, your lack of church going confounds his fetish for “good submissive anti-feminist obedient Eastern European women”. He probably expects your everyday wear to consist of a head scarf and full folk costume, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:24 AM
3

Yep, exactly. And... if they’re such “shithole countries” in their own right, why have people fought over them constantly? If I look at photographs, I can clearly see why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:17 AM
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Can’t stand most sitcoms for reasons like this. I can never get past the way they portray women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:20 AM
8

Yeah— I was just thinking that perhaps people in the US never learned much about what happened there during WW2 to civilians (aside from targeted ethnic cleansing) because discussing it in the media wouldn’t have helped with Cold War propaganda. My country (in my opinion) likes to have its “good guys vs bad guys”, and anything in between is considered too complicated, inconvenient, or unimportant to contemplate. I knew a woman who told me her grandmother literally gave birth in her neighbor’s ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:16 AM
2

He wants a woman who likes to “clean”, but he’s too lazy to shave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:54 AM
2

Yes. Porn addict = waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:53 AM
11

Toxic family dynamics put you in a bad situation right from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:51 AM
3

Wow. She totally avoided a train wreck there! Good for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:50 AM
12

YES. As morbid as it sounds, I think stories like that need to be repeated and shared. We hear about certain aspects of WW2 in media and documentaries at large, often relevant issues, but very real situations like THAT one you describe are glossed over and dismissed. We do NOT want men to be encouraged create spontaneous Einsatzgruppen of their own. It’s as if that’s exactly where this is heading. Nobody bothers to look at history that’s barely a century old. It’s maddening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:45 AM
8

As if simply being attractive till draw a porn addict out of his addiction... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:40 AM
5

One legit reason could be to avoid using one’s child as a therapist. For example, my mother was way too frank with me about my father; yet paradoxically allowed him to emotionally abuse me incessantly. She wanted someone to “vent” to, but I wasn’t allowed to seek comfort from her. I think it IS a good idea to be realistic in an age appropriate manner, however. Some people cross the line and expect their children to “protect” them from abusive spouses, which is obviously problematic. You have to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:35 AM
7

Getting “laid”? It’s as if they think having sex wasn’t a dangerous minefield for women to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:25 AM
5

Yes. Cut off most family for a situation exactly like this. I recommend to any childless woman to make sure she has plenty of “fu#k you” money in reserve and a high paying salary before she considers children. Many seemingly good men turn to absolute shit once they think “The little lady is trapped with my baby now! I can do whatever I want!” And society at large will stick up for them until the bitter end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:20 AM
8

Ew. You know they figure she’d be like one of those waitresses they see depicted in a porno.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:18 AM
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She was “traditional” in how she demanded to be treated with dignity and liked feminine clothes on occasion and didn’t want him to tear them up or get bodily fluids all over them... but she wasn’t “traditional enough” in that she didn’t let him boss her around. Okay. “Traditional” is another word they like to shapeshifting into whatever definition they feel serves them best at any given time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:16 AM
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I think the whole fascination with fascism in your part of the world is particularly disturbing— I mean, that’s kind of where WW1 and WW2 started. It’s kind of like the Middle East in that one spark sets off a whole chain reaction... and then my country nowadays (the US) likes to make profit off war, which is like dumping gasoline on fire. Scary. I can’t help but think fascist indoctrination online and increased misogyny are closely tied together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:12 AM
19

THIS kind of points out why I would never suggest “check out devout christian men!” to anyone. This phenomenon is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:08 AM
4

Lol. Exactly. WE always turn out to be the ones “at fault”. We weren’t “sexy enough”. We weren’t “submissive enough”. We weren’t “cool enough”. We didn’t “forgive enough”. We didn’t “martyr ourselves enough”. And before you know it, even your own family blackballs you for not “giving him another chance”. Often left destitute with what’s left of your life (which is supposedly over by the time you’re 30), you scramble to survive, and get judged for every claw you unleash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:04 AM
5

People act if we had the magical formula to force these men to behave like responsible adults, as if we had the power to make them “man up”, but we fail to cast those magic spells or use that magic power because... reasons...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:59 AM
8

I could second this. The cherry on the top of This shit cake is when you realize how often you, as a single mother, are used as one of society’s favorite scapegoats every time something turns to shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:54 AM
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Just no so gives some pretty sound advice to people with relationship problems compared to the majority of relationship subreddits. Most of the replies to her are pretty straight forward, but she clearly isn't getting the message. At one point she replied to me that she was going to finish her degree online and move wherever boyfriend wanted to go. Ugh! Young women please note: Do NOT push all your career and educational goals aside to please a man! How I wish I hadn't made decisions based on "h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:00 PM
1

I'm just curious-- can you provide an example of the "reposting ideas"? PM me a "removeddit" link if you have to. Not trying to be a smart ass, I just don't want to inadvertently post something that is against the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:49 PM
22

He fantasizes to thought of her huddled in a corner, crying softly that she lost "The opportunity of a lifetime! To serve HIM and be his *bride!" GAG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:41 PM
18

I think there's a shit ton of coordinated effort online to radicalize men even further than they already are--- it's terrifying. You're seeing just the tip of the iceberg. Some of their ideas are downright dangerous. If you look at the other comments these guys post, the subs they frequent would chill you to the bone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:38 PM
25

“Hey! Can you massage my ego and tell me how great I am? My wife is tired of me. Thx!” "PS: Can I show you pix of my pee pee?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:33 PM
32

I think this issue is a big reason why so many women find it impossible to stick to healthy diets. They tailor their eating habits to please the men in their lives-- they'll cook heavy meals with red meat, potatoes and macaroni and cheese "because that's what my honey wants to eat". Naturally, few women want to waste the time and money and effort on making separate meals for themselves, so they eat the unhealthy food their husband/boyfriend demands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:29 PM
8

Let me guess, he has been fixated on porn featuring emo girls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:09 PM
1

Notice she seems pretty "with it" despite being confined to a wheelchair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:06 PM
4

Yes, and that comment usually ignores the reality that more often than not, the woman in the relationship is stuck with the chore of arranging therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:22 PM
20

Yikes. Sounds like she's trying really hard to keep her sanity intact by gaslighting herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:50 PM
9

It's kind of astounding how many people, including myself, have taken down all of their non-anonymous social media for reasons like this and reasons related to toxic family members. People seem to have zero problems stomping all over the boundaries of women when it comes to social media, let alone real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:48 PM
8

Yes, and that awful phrase is often followed with "But... but.. but he's just a broken little boy inside! You need to heal him and LOVE his problems away!" GAG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:43 PM
32

Reminds me of my great uncle by marriage-- he lost his one finger because he was wearing a wedding band at his manual labor job and it somehow got injured and it needed to be amputated. He put it on his middle finger instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:28 PM
27

Jesus. Did she happily buy them a pack of condoms, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 PM
4

Ew, it's revolting, isn't it? I've read that it's a common "trick" for men to use pictures of themselves with their very young nieces, nephews, etc., to try to attract women on social media and dating site. I honestly think many men see children AS props-- which is also one of the reasons why they think they don't need to actually physically care for these same children on a daily basis once they are born. They see children as objects, or low-maintenance pets, and not as vulnerable humans that n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:26 PM
2

Whatever it was he was trying to do, it sounds really bizarre. Unless he was trying to imply, "I'm so great that women faked pregnancy to try to entrap me" or something ridiculous like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:09 PM
1

Yes. It would be hard to conceal I'd imagine, unless the relationship was long distance or a one night stand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:54 PM
4

Considering his behavior, there are a ton of different ways that can be interpreted. Maybe he got them pregnant, and they had abortions without his knowledge, claiming they were miscarriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:11 PM
10

Speaking of the 70s and John Travolta... the characters “Stephanie” and “Annette”— girlfriend and ex girlfriend of lead character “Tony” in “Saturday Night Fever”. I watched it not long ago. Annette stalks Tony like a lost puppy while he constantly humiliates her. Stephanie, while appearing to be moving up, decides to team up with Tony for a dance competition, and ultimately dates obviously LVM Tony. During the movie, it’s revealed that Stephanie got her current apartment and swank job with the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:27 AM
2

Yeah, sounds like he’s overcompensating for other.... shortcomings...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:39 AM
6

Meanwhile... Austrians everywhere are mortified..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:39 AM
2

Yes, my long term ex told me to use a “safe word”. I truly didn’t consider how warped that was until now! I kind of blocked it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 AM
5

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:19 AM
7

One of the reasons practicing Christianity in a church has always left a bad taste in my mouth— it always seems they expect women to martyr themselves in ways men are never expected to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:19 AM
12

My one sister is a teacher. I could see her doing this. She’s very much a pick me and has been teaching for 20+ years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:16 AM
10

Holy crap. I totally fell victim to this tactic, too. It sucked and did NOT help me academically at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:15 AM
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I believe this, I’ve seen it happen a lot on my extended family... women with college educations being dragged down financially from underemployed and under-educated men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:12 AM
8

He sounds downright criminal. I wonder if he’s successfully impregnated anyone else against their will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:08 AM
11

Depends on where she lives, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:06 AM
20

These guys are scary and dangerous as hell, and it isn't uncommon. They have this delusion that babies will somehow change them, or that it will make others perceive them as more masculine. Some of these guys also figure that once the woman has his child, she is "trapped" with him (which is often not far off from reality, as it's difficult to survive as a single mother unless you make some good income on your own). This is why domestic abuse often shows itself once the woman is pregnant or has t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:03 AM
10

What the hell is wrong with this dude? He should be exposed publicly for being such a douchebag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:54 AM
18

"Derp derp. Gotta show her I'm the alpha dom right away!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:51 AM
10

Absolutely, I agree. I wish I could ghost and block co-workers for that, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:46 AM
34

It seems more common than anyone cares to mention-- men who are not religious, are constantly seeking easy sex, yet are weirdly pro-life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:45 AM
24

Yes, particularly in our current political climate. Weed them out, and fast. Many of them can't control themselves when they get the opportunity to denigrate rape victims, say racist garbage, talk about how they love obnoxious political leaders if you give them the opportunity. There is a lot of radicalization of men happening online and in mass media in general. Looking into the common platforms among the fringes of political belief can be enlightening or help you identify men you should avoid.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:43 AM
12

Submissiveness, passivity, vanity, etc. I could go on. These are traits instilled and expected of us and then used to systematically set us up to fail. THIS THIS THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:14 AM
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Yes... and that poster, if my memory is correct, wasn't even married to the guy. He legally had no way of claiming any of that money. The OP's cousin-- I think her husband is definitely cheating if he is constantly accusing her of doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:12 AM
2

Off topic, I hate how people co-opted this flag for their own purposes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:44 PM
9

Weird fixations with the latest dude bro pop psychologists and social media stars, like Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan. They can't make up ideas and opinions on their own-- they have adopt the philosophies of others wholesale and use that as some kind of tool to fake how "intelligent" they are. Also-- comments that indicate they have adopted political ideologies such as conservative alt-right, US libertarianism, that kind of thing that is often focused on putting men on a pedestal and oppressing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:51 PM
4

Some of these people believe it's their mission to enforce "God's judgement on womenkind" on earth. They literally believe on some level that women must be "punished for the fall of mankind" via repetitive childbirth, misery, poverty, perpetual servitude to her "master" AKA husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:47 PM
4

Men do this a lot. An opportunity comes up for their partner, and suddenly they'll come up with some emotional blackmail bullshit, "If you were a good girlfriend, you would give up XYZ to stay with me".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:41 PM
8

I think this also applies to young women, such as women who are dating while they're in college, and lower-income women as well. Their boyfriends will discourage or stomp and pout if their girlfriends spend time doing thing that will further their careers and take time away from their boyfriends' "needs". Happens like clockwork. It's very subtle if you aren't aware of the possibility of it happening, and it happened to me. In hindsight, the ONLY kind of career my ex would have supported me in se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:40 PM
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Many men pull this trick. Once they feel like their partner is "trapped" in a marriage with them or with a baby, they will start to cheat, become abusive, engage openly in their addictions whether it be pot, porn, alcohol... and they WILL isolate their partners and BLAME their partners for their own bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:36 PM
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Your pregnant friend needs to see a live local child custody/divorce/family lawyer ASAP to make sure she’s not going to be trapped for the next 18 years in the new state to which the man recently tricked her into moving. THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS! Some lawyers will do free first consultations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:34 PM
1

I know this post is older, but there's a thread or two on r / enoughpetersonspam about women dating Peterson fans. If I wasn't worried about violating cross-posting rules, or bringing unwelcome male trolls into this sub, I'd cross post it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:30 PM
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I just stay away from most subs--- I know that most will attack me if I touch any topic related to basic issues women face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:09 PM
6

Exactly, and he will use everything you told him against you. They don't actually want to support you, they want to have more info about you that they can use against. THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:28 PM
13

Ugh, god. If she takes him back, he'll 110% cheat again-- because by "forgiving" him, she's giving him permission to treat her like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:23 PM
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My thought is they don't want us talking. I agree... and that's why I think they bombard certain subs that are supposed to be geared towards women and/or relationship issues and argue women to death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:21 PM
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It's total BS. I tend to think those of us who have abuse in our histories will definitely be wary of others, but we learn quickly that it's best not to advertise what we've gone through in real life. I think people like us develop a kind of shame around the experiences we've had, a reluctance to explain what it was like to others who can't relate, and don't talk about it with others unless it's relatively anonymous, like on reddit, or with a therapist. Guys who protest loudly and repeatedly tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:19 PM
11

Gross. So the guy you went on a date with expected sex right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:15 PM
4

Nooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:00 AM
9

Yes. I was reading posts on this vile sub that is definitely filled with male posters who happen to be anti-porn. They overwhelmingly argue that while men have become “degenerate”, and claim that it’s partly women’s fault because women need to “embrace Christian values” and “feminism has destroyed the family”. It’s a bunch of bullshit. Adhering to traditional norms WILL NOT somehow magically make men “behave better”. They’ll just act as entitled as they always have. It’s just a joke— “be a submi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:46 AM
46

“Incorrect. I have a Platinum Pussy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:12 AM
16

Oh my god. I did this with my porn addicted ex in 2009. I swear, I push these memories away and I read posts like this, and they come back to me. So embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:52 PM
9

What the hell is with this bizarre propaganda lately to brainwash women into thinking men having secret children on the side is OK? It's revolting on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:10 PM
4

Holy crap, yes, he was totally following "the playbook" of slimy tricks. You were young, so I totally get why you didn't recognize the red flags-- and I think a lot of these guys pick women in their early 20s because they know these women won't realize what they're getting into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:45 PM
3

Holy crap! Thank goodness he's an ex! You dodged a bullet there. That poor kid and his mother... It's easy for me to say at almost 40, but I would say "fuck no" to any dude who had a currently or recently pregnant ex in the picture. So many men drop kick their pregnant partners due to their own selfish desires-- I would instantly question the character of a man who did that as I've been through one pregnancy and know first hand what a vulnerable time it is for a new mother. The girlfriend hunt s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:14 PM
8

Makes it worse for the rest of us, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:08 PM
3

Yep. He is desperate for a free nanny. Same kinds of guys will drag new girlfriend with them to court to ask for more custodial time and for lowering child support payments to the ex wife/girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:04 PM
4

Most of the relationship related subs are crawling with MRAs, red pillers, fake posters claiming to be women, etc..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:02 PM
6

I'm confused-- who are "the boys"? His kids? His friends? His commuting was contingent off spending time with "the boys"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:01 PM
4

Five page long message? Where did he find the time for that with three kids to raise? Weird. Good riddance anyway, he probably wants a part-time nanny to watch his kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:57 PM
4

"She wasn't working hard enough to make him want to change." Say the red pill lurkers and pickme women to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:55 PM
7

"Even when I tested you and treated you like garbage, you didn't break into a million pieces like I expected you to!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:52 PM
17

His constant use of "girl" rubs me the wrong way. It's infantilizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:50 PM
5

SIRENS BLARING! Abuser love-bomb incoming! Duck and cover! Block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:49 PM
24

Then there is always always always that woman or two that gushes about how much they "love" it, and these abusive guys will put these women on pedestals and say to the rest of us "She enjoys it, so what's wrong with you!?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:44 PM
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I'm completely baffled that people don't realize having vaginal sex after anal is a BAD IDEA, let alone that anal is a bad idea in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:40 PM
26

That seriously IS rape. There's no other word for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:39 PM
33

When I'd ask my porn addicted ex why women are expected to "serve" despite pain and discomfort while men aren't during sex-- he'd have no reply. This was usually after he would try to shame me into doing what he wanted by saying, "It's not all about you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:38 PM
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*ps- I love some butt play but definitely not full on anal sex and I would never even consider possibly harming my anus just for some dude to get off. *more power to those who love anal, just like anything else- it should be something you love and want to do. Seriously-- people who have a problem with your original opinion should bug off. I would ALSO rather remain single than deal with another man who's obsessed with anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:37 PM
35

Christmas? Now it's just another Penis Day. Definitely. September is an extremely popular birthday month for this reason in the "Christian world". Women often get pregnant in December, while they're in the middle of burning themselves at both ends to create the illusion of that "Perfect Christmas".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:40 PM
25

Ugh, good fucking god. I can't stand this perception by men that sex is a chore women must engage in for their pleasure. Why would you WANT to have sex with someone who's guilt tripping you. TBH, he sounds like an emotionally abusive type of man discussed in "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. This guy was looking for something to complain about. It's not as if she did nothing for him for Valentine's Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:40 PM
7

Unless you share a kid with our ex. Yep. It'll be a few years until I can go no-contact. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:34 PM
8

Your friend is mistaken. You were right to walk. He was obviously "negging" you and testing your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:33 PM
10

So many articles like this-- I can't help but recognize that the women who write stuff like this (unlike you and I) are getting PAID to write this tripe. Someone, usually a man or men behind the scenes, are PAYING women to write stuff like this. Authors out there who would agree with our general beliefs are going to be silenced, of course, because the men who are deciding what content to publish will NOT publish what pro-FDS authors compose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:15 PM
7

I totally think the attractiveness has a lot to do with it. I've only ever slept with guys I'm seriously attracted to and wanted to rip their clothes off. I think this is probably the ideal situation for any woman to sleep with a man-- assuming the woman in question doesn't have any underlying issues that cause her to gravitate towards less-than-optimal men. I tend to think sexual attraction for women is extremely complex, maybe because we have so much more to "lose" in terms of mortality during…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:02 PM
12

I believe studies have shown that a huge percentage of a woman's ability to reach orgasm is their sense of safety during sex. My gut tells me this is a HUGE issue for women when it comes to orgasm. I personally can NOT feel sexual with someone I can't trust. The vulnerability of being naked with someone who is stronger/larger than me will always invoke some level of fear, and fear is a mood-killer for me. I MUST trust the person I'm with in order to enjoy intimacy... trust includes knowing the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:41 PM
11

No, some of them like it. I wouldn’t recommend reciprocating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:08 PM
27

The obsession with BDSM and anal was around before 50 Shades. However, men like to use its popularity to justify their grotesque desires and rape fetishes, “but but but women like 50 shades!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:07 PM
10

Yes. I’d rather stay single, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:05 PM
9

Wow. I hadn’t read all the comments before I posted the same “under the bus” opinion myself. She’s getting approval from male publishers/colleagues/supervisors by writing tripe like this and for a paycheck. She’s throwing other women under the bus for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:54 PM
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She gets approval from her make colleagues and makes money by throwing women under the bus via articles like this, so she likely doesn’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:52 PM
5

That’s gotta be fake, or the OP is seriously disturbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:06 PM
4

Yes. Plenty of hardcore Christian men in the US seem to think it’s Okay to demand any and all kinds of “sexual services” from their wives without asking consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:05 PM
7

Just keep yourself safe. Some men are great at faking piety and self-control and seek women through church groups of whom they believe they can control more than “unchurched women”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:04 PM
4

The fear of perpetual hellfire and the lure of heavenly virgins will sometimes “keep them in line”. I think the promise to men made by most religions that claim “men are superior to women” and that they are made in the image of God probably appeals to their need to “feel special” and “chosen”. This distracts them from the real oppression they face from those wealthier men who have more power than they do, keeps them complacent for the king/emperor/dictator/president. The wealthy push money back …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:01 PM
9

It’s a sob story he uses to get attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:56 PM
16

Most of these Redpill pick up books are manuals on how to BECOME domestic abusers. WDHDT is like the warning manual to help defend yourself agains men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:54 PM
7

Good call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:53 PM
11

I don’t care if you’re from the UK going to the US or via versa— or from any country other than the man involved— plenty of men use the citizenship card as a punishment/bargaining weapon with which to control women they lure to their home countries. Seen it happen way too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:52 PM
13

Yes. Having a wife for them is like having a household appliance, its a social status statement to make them appear to be “legit adults”— but they’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:51 PM
21

I’m under 130, and I consider that comment to be a big “red flag”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:45 PM
9

No. Too high risk of him cheating, divorcing and getting full custody and alimony. Most women are NOT in the financial situation to survive that situation. Being a SAHM as a woman is also risky— so I wouldn’t suggest that, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:54 PM
20

Nailed it. You can see this exact scenario at play in the experiences of women in r/pornfreerelationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:53 PM
33

Anyone who uses the term “femi n @ zi” is automatically a LVM. Rush Limbaugh, a notorious misogynist, coined the term in the 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:46 PM
1

Yeah. I feel so burnt out that I don’t even know what interests me anymore— hobbies are expensive, and there are a TON of online scams out there. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I feel terribly for disabled people, who often have difficulty getting work, and THEN have to contend with having unstable and inconsistent medical coverage to help treat their own medical issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:31 PM
3

What the good god. What kind of drugs is she on? She HAS to be on something to actually think like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:13 AM
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