I was inspired to post by another one about politeness toward men.

I am naturally loud. Like I don't know how I do it but I take a lot of space without having intention to do so. I talk a lot, loudly I move loudly, I sing and express myself how I want... but until now I hated it. For a very long time I felt ashamed of myself and dreamed to be a "softspoken and elegant lady". I felt like I was some kind of clumsy barbarian...

A lot of teachers and people around me have told me all my life that I should learn to be discreet, to let other have space, to "cut myself in smaller pieces", to be more lady-like. And yes, I agree that it is important to let everyone have space to expresse themselves but I have the right to be loud, to be heard and to be me.

When I was younger I thought that when I had to become this kind of delicate women to be admired and respected. But it will never happen, I will never be a frail and discreet background character. Because I can't change who I am and I don't want to anymore.

I will not be afraid to be loud, I will take space, I will say what I think and express my feelings and beliefs. My right to be respected and my feminity aren't tied to an ideal that is oppressive and misogynistic.