Other relationship subs or the like are wastelands.
We're all friends. I've known her since we were teenagers. Her boyfriend is a saint, and I'm friends with him too. We share the same circle of friends. Whenever any of us (me and her) meet new people through shared interests, we invite them with us to do things together. It ends up being me, her bf, her, a few other friends or any combination of it.
Anyways, all this to say that her boyfriend isn't just a separate entity that I have/or should have nothing to do with.
Now, to my moral dilemma. I'm careful about what I say when friends come to me with (long-term) relationship problems. I'm six years single with no plans of changing it any time soon. My go to is telling them what I love about them and to share how I think they deserve to be treated/to get in life.
But now I'm faced with an entirely different problem - my friend cheated on someone who's just so incredibly good at heart. My goto isn't good to go to.
What I've told her so far is to think about what she feels is the right thing to do, and that I wasn't going to tell her what to do aside from to please leave her vacation immediately and go back home. She kissed this man, whom she had some history with, at her annual mountain bike community week-long thing.
She chose to stay. She told me she never wants to leave her boyfriend, so it wasn't an "out". She also told me telling him would only do more harm than good.
It rubs me the wrong way to know she takes this so lightly when I know he'd never do this to her. She knows this.
I'm not sure what to do next. My plan is to not bring it up unless she does.
I wish she hadn't told me. I love her, but I don't approve of this. I'm pretty lackadaisical about relationships when it comes to myself, so it's easy for me to think 1. you need to tell him and 2. if you tell him and he doesn't want to be with you, then that's needs to be accepted, his choice. For others, maybe it isn't?
