I hate how pervasive porn has become.

Yianna_F · 2020-04-07T03:54:57+00:00

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It blows my mind how it seems like every guy I know watches it. Porn stars are romanticized, celebrated, and worshipped by men who will never even meet them, let alone get the chance to sleep with them. Men commiserate over their favorites stars like celebrities. Many do this right in front of girlfriends, wives, etc. and no one bats an eye. It's become so pervasive, so commonplace, so mainstream that it look at it with a critical eye feels prudish.

I know that, inherently, we are sexual beings. There's nothing wrong with liking sex, wanting to have sex, being horny, etc. What disturbs me is how watching porn and being porn-addicted is seen as so normal in my generation (Gen-Z). So many men FIERCELY defend it as being a healthy means of getting off, but it's not. It's been clinically shown to have a variety of harmful effects physically, mentally, and emotionally. It can also negatively impact relationships, both current and future. Many of my friends hate the idea that their boyfriend or husband is watching porn, likely behind their backs, but woefully accept it as the norm.

In my personal experience, several of my boyfriends have been porn addicts and it's really damaged my trust. My fiancé is a recovering porn addict and recently relapsed. Porn puts so many unnatural, painful, uncomfortable, and destructive ideas in men's heads. It sets a precedent for male entitlement and satisfaction as the sacrifice of a woman's pleasure. It sets expectations for women to look and act a certain way both in and out of the bedroom. It feels as though the standards are IMPOSSIBLE to achieve and maintain. I'm just so tired of it.

 MY COMMENT

Pretends to be socked by male depravity and Pornsickness...

As always, I'm reposting some resources on further information and books on porn both from a professional and personal/ lived experience perspective for those who might need them.

 RESOURCES FOR SEX/AROUSAL ADDICTION

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Gary Wilson, The Great Porn Experiment https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU
Maria Ahlin, Let's Talk Porn https://youtu.be/DBTb71UzPmY
https://fightthenewdrug.org/porn-objectifies-women-men/
https://sanon.org/newcomers/is-s-anon-for-you/ (if you have been affected by someone's porn addiction and need peer support)
https://www.healthline.com/health/pornography-addiction
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/process-addiction/porn-addiction/#gref
Gary Wilson - Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction (book)
Matt Fradd - The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography (book)
Barbara Steffens - Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (book for partners)
George Collins - Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame (book by therapist who is himself an ex addict)
Kristen A Jenson - Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids (book for young children)

There are tons of other resources but I'd start from there if I were you.

This excerpt is part of this post for those wanting more information:

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Edit: to structure and format my comment

sadcello · 2020-04-07T05:44:54+00:00

It's always been like that, they're just shameless about it now. Men have always been degenerates, just like their Y chromosome which has been denigrating and will keep doing so until it disappears completely.

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