Is it true? Im a pickmeisha

NotToBePicked · 2020-01-13T19:11:47+00:00

Girl, I have been there. Studying and working in a male dominated environment I was surrounded by male "friends". On top of not being true friends they immensely contributed to me turning into an pickmesha. Being surrounded by only men makes one automatically gauge ones own actions to theirs. What might be the right strategy for a man can be totally devastating for a woman.

Men and women can never be truly friends, aside from superficial friendship. We can be mates, colleagues, polite strangers, etc. But we cannot be friends. This is why you feel lonely.

People who don't reach out to spend time with you are not worth that you pay them attention. Whatever you thought it was, it is not true.

They enjoy hanging out with you as long as they feel they gain something for it, be it fun (this means that as a woman you have to allow to be sexualized, because otherwise for them it is no fun), or by helping them to be more attractive for other women, due to your presence, gain validation through your attention etc. and when this is no longer needed, you are simply dismissed.

So they don't reject you as the beautiful and amazing girl you are, they reject the woman that doesn't bring them any gain and it is not even rejection... "we" just disappear im their minds and get lost in disinterest as soon as it is clear that there is nothing to gain for them.

Trying to deliver that gain in order to make them like/call/invite you again, is essentially pickmesha behaviour.

As sad as it is... That is just the way they/we are built.

So yes, stop running after and pleasing people who do not seek your presence, this clearly is pickmesha behaviour as well as being surrounded and celebrated by guys and it will do nothing than signal the LVM that you are an easy prey because you have forgotten what it means to be a woman.

It's not worth it, it's superficial and will ruin your self esteem due to all the wrong and negative feedback. Pickmeshas are women, that try to compensate their lack of self esteem by pleasing. This to men looks like LV, because a HVW would never need to do anything than pleasing others with the gratitude of her presence.

HVW would never try to please someone for the sake of attention. For them attention is abundant. So seeking attention from a men, will make him feel that you are LV, even if you are not.

Title	Is it true? Im a pickmeisha
Author	popthetab
Upvotes	17
Comments	2
Date	January 13, 2020 2:13 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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