Some lessons to learn from this:

  • Leave at the first sign of disrespect. I guarantee this is not the first time he has done something like this. It probably started with subtle negs in the beginning (“x is wrong with you, but you’re not like other girls because you’re loyal”🙄) and probably turned into triangulation with his friends, which is why he felt comfortable posting something like this publicly on social media.
  • If you didn’t leave at the first sign of disrespect, make sure this is the last sign. Public humiliation and degradation is a stepping stone to more toxic behavior. It does NOT get better from here. You have a window of support from people who are appalled by this behavior. But that window will close more and more the longer you stay and tolerate it.
  • Don’t give ugly men a chance. They will not be grateful to have you. They will not be grateful for your loyalty. Instead, they will resent you and mock you for it.
  • Don’t be afraid to end a relationship during the holidays. He’s not afraid to humiliate or degrade you during the holidays. Let him figure out his dinner plans on his own. Maybe he can go eat with his LV friends that he was showing out for on social media.