😬 sorry if this is blunt, but you're an idiot if you break up with a good man because you weren't "feeling it." What the heck is it? If 'everyone else loves him' that's a great indicator that he's a legit good guy (or a psycho who's able to trick everyone) and that he fits into your future.

"It" changes with the birth control you're on. With how many rom coms or k dramas you happen to be watching. With how dangerous or exciting your first date happened to be.

Let me tell you, if you're looking for some magic sign, or that classic 'falling in love' feeling to last forever, you are setting yourself up for failure. You can get 'it' as easy as rolling on some ecstacy. It is just a chemical in your brain.

Now if you're breaking up with him because he wants kids and you don't, or your career goals won't fit him in your life, or some other tangible thing like you want a higher standard of living and you're looking for a BBD (bigger better deal) rock on and dump him.

Trust that gut feeling about him cheating, or being in danger of your life. But "It" factor about him being the one or whatever is too easily manipulated in modern times to be of any use. Like I don't care about his immunity markers bitch, that's what I got vaccines for (a lot of "it" has to do with how different his immunity markers are. Ever smell a guy and just fall in love? MHC markers baby)

If you are interested in the science of love, I can find the links in the morning. Being in love forever is such bullshit. Go for partnership. If you wouldn't start a business with him don't be with him.

Anyway I just saw this sub from some r/nicegirls post and wanted to drop some knowledge. Glad y'all are making another female oriented community. Need more of those!