I feel so bad for all the moms on reddit who didn't get presents from their shitty husbands. What a horrible feeling, to give birth and not get a sliver of appreciation from your SO for the awful fucking hardship.

I thought of something that I didnt see in the handbook or mentioned in the sub to watch out for

Watch for men who act like childbirth isnt a big deal. Tell your boyfriend you are reluctant about kids because of childbirth when the topic comes up. LVM will dismiss your concern and try to argue that it really isn't that bad. Don't expect him to take care of you with that attitude when/if the time comes. If he thinks childbirth is no big deal, hes not going to be respectful or grateful of anything you have to go through as a woman. I am childfree but every LVM I dated who wanted kids one day dismissed all the horrors I knew about childbirth. A HVM will acknowledge how much childbirth sucks.