forgive me i am new to reddit and this community in general. first time poster to this tread only recently stumbled upon it and so thankful i did. quick back round (f27) "dating" (m28) we've only been dating for a short time, and i'm seriously concerned i'm wasting my time on a LVM after reading a bunch of posts on here eye opening, please help. he's a nice guy BUT he has some qualities and habits i'm not to fond of and don't want in a partner. 1. he smokes Cigs ( which i rationalized to myself because at first i thought he was cute and had potential plus i smoke also just not Cigs ) 2. he plays cod with all his free time which he has gained a lot of due to this quarantine stuff going on he was also laid off from his job (which is hard to deal with/ listen to when you still have a job i am thankful for that and i also like to work out and i am a very active person with my free time. i have been trying to do a lot of soul searching and learning especially after my last Narc Abuse relationship 9 months ago i haven't been with or seen anyone till now. 3. i feel like he does nothing to take care of himself physically or better himself, he drinks energy drinks like they are water which grosses me out. i've tried to call it off once before butttt i emotional manipulated myself out of it hearing through the grape vine of how it affected him ie: he was distraught and crying about trying to break it off and this was only after a month of seeing each other. 4. he doesn't confront issues ( he seems like a sweep it under the rug kind of person) i've noticed and i also have this problem i have a hard time being assertive and i've been trying to work on this but being with someone who is also equally not assertive is NOT a turn on to me? and also makes it difficult to communicate when having issues 5. he expects me to feed him? for context i meal planned some food one week and gave him some of the extra food just trying to be nice and get it out of my fridge. now anytime he brings up food he'll make a comment like "whats for dinner?" or "what are you making me?" which i find off putting also the other day i was making food in the kitchen with my roommate he comes over, i made a comment about helping and he pulled the whole "naw i just like to watch" bs comment and expected me to just go up to my room and "hang out" 5. our conversation rarely ever flow, sometimes it even feels forced. 6. he got lowkey jealous over me saying i thought someone was hot in a TV show? he didn't seem mad or anything, he just proceeded to tell me he thought this another chick in another TV show was hot and i just laughed it off not thinking much of it at first. so please FDS community help me, what am i doing? i need some genuine outside unbiased advice and guidance? how do i become a boss ass bitch and learn to stop wasting my time with this kind of shit?