Please can people drop some resources about this? My boyfriend is incredibly pornsick - he is obsessed with anal and rimming, constantly makes overtly sexual references all day long as if they’re “in jokes”, has delayed ejaculation due to years of death grip. Like fuck. I just don’t know what to do with this guy. He had felt incredibly entitled to anal sex since we got together since his last two exes did that exclusively with him like every time, and I’ve heard him place value judgements on girls he’s been with based on them not doing it at all and me doing it. I’ve been finding it so bloody hard because when we got together he made assumptions that because I’ve done anal before, that it would become an every time activity in our sex life. We’ve spoken about it multiple times where I’ve said that I don’t trust that he’d stay with me if I didn’t do it, and that I don’t know if I want to be doing it. He has expressed that he isn’t sure if he could stay with someone and then has backpeddled to say he wouldn’t break up with me over it. Our vanilla sex is fucking awkward man... I don’t understand wtf this sexual connection even is. He’s so rewired to enjoy taboo and humiliation and subjugation that I don’t know how to fuck this man and still feel empowered. He’s a decent guy generally, he’s just pornsick af. What am I meant to do? I don’t want to have a dick in my ass and feel I have to.